Time heals what reason cannot. Seneca

First the truth. Then, maybe, reconciliation. Louise Penny

Timoxifen and side effects

I may have to start taking Timoxifen. Have goggled side effects and it is a long list. Have any members taken this drug and what was your experience? I appreciate any feedback.

17 comments posted: Friday, April 22nd, 2022

When other issue intrude

Has anyone else found that when non-infidelity issue arise - the way your wayward acts helps or hinders R?

My H has never been very good at emotional support - when I was diagnosed with cancer before his A and went hru 7 weeks of radiation he never once asked me how I was doing or offered to go to an appointment with me.

Since Dday he has been there for me emotionally - is more comfortable expressing his emotions and supporting mine.

Saying this last year has been hard - as you all know - is an understatement. I work in the medical field - so never had to worry about losing my job - which was a blessing - but also extremely stressful working during a pandemic when no one knew from day to day what was going to happen.

I have recently decided to retire - which is definitely a good thing - but brings on its on stresses - financial decisions - income considerations - health insurance.

We recently learned my sister - who is truly my best friend - may have non-Hodgkins lymphoma - she is currently at MD Anderson for tests. Before - my H would have just brushed off my concerns - not even asking about her unless I bought it up.

Yesterday was her first round of test - the first thing he asked when he got home from work was if I had talked to her and how did everything go. He then said he wished he could tell me everything was going to be ok - but of course he couldn't promise that - but he is here when I need to talk - a shoulder to cry on - or just a hug.

His support emotionally through all of this he made our R so much stronger - had he reverted to his old ways I think it would have been a huge step backwards.

7 comments posted: Saturday, May 22nd, 2021

Trust yourself

We are 7 years post Dday and R is going very well. Trust is back - not 100% - but definitely there. Today I had a slight trigger - and I realized I was handling triggers better - not just because I do trust him - but I trust myself.

We both know if he ever cheats again the marriage is over - and I know I will be okay. Hurt and disappointed - but okay.

True R can only happen with a truly remorseful W who is willing to do everything in their power to prove they are worthy of the gift of R. He has put his heart and soul into R - but I know if I didn't have the trust in myself it wouldn't be a very satisfactory R.

I have come to realize just how important it is to trust yourself - to know that you are strong and no matter what the outcome - R or D - you will be okay. It's a long journey - but there are so many here who have found that trust in themselves and their message is one of hope and strength for those who are still struggling.

I couldn't have found that trust if it wasn't for the great advice I have read so many times on SI. So many have said it better than I - just trust yourself - you are stronger than you probably believe - but that strength is there and you will survive and come out a stronger person.

"How was I to know I would be okay

thought I'd lose it all when you walked away.

How was I to know I would be this strong

I had what it takes all along."

Reba McEntire

0 comment posted: Tuesday, January 26th, 2021

g2g Southern Indiana

Never been to a g2g. Was wondering if there are any SI's in the southwest Indiana area that would be interested.

14 comments posted: Saturday, January 7th, 2017