You can't heal what you won't feel.
"There would be no grand absolution, only forgiveness meted out in these precious sips. It would well up from his heart in spoonfuls, and he would feed it to me. And it would be enough."
Helpful Books for WSes
At the request of someone who is struggling, I'm starting this thread to ask the WSes here to list some books that have helped you heal.
Infidelity and the Internet: Virtual Relationships, Real Betrayal (My A was mostly conducted online. This helped me to see I wasn't alone- and that the A wasn't special)
His Needs, Her Needs
Tempted Women (now out of print, written by Carol Botwin. Another book that made me realize that other people had been through what I was going through. Not necessarily helpful for R, but was good to see other women who were as confused and hurting as I was)
Facing Codependence- (Helped me understand why I acted like I did) (thanks for the title correction, EmptyCup)
Codependent No More
Five Languages of Love (A must read if you are in R)
Should I Stay or Go? (Made me realize I didn't want to go)
Making Peace With Your Parents
Boundaries: Where You End and I Begin - (LOVED this one.)
Unattended Sorrow (About grief and the loss of a loved one. This book taught me the concept of self mercy" It doesn't only apply to death- but to past pain as well. It taught me to let go of old pain)
The Four Agreements This book made me think about my choices and my reactions to other people.
Please add any books that helped you. A short explanation as to why would be helpful too. Thanks!
[This message edited by Fallen at 2:27 PM, April 9th (Saturday)]
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