Me: 48 BH Her: 44 WW Clues Discovered - EA - May/June 2013. D-Day - Confirmation of EA and discovery of PA - August 20, 2013. 4 to 8 month PA and EA. 12 yr and 9 yr old daughters.

Distance Parenting and Life Reboot/Mental Health

Right now, I’m at a critical juncture in my life, and staying around where my ex-wife and children are is not a healthy option. I’m depressed and need help. The chickens are coming home to roost. My career is in the toilet, I’ve gained 100 lbs in the last year and I’m constantly depressed and staying would make things worse. My life has slowly crashed and burned basically since I’ve was married.

I’ve tried to stay around and things have gotten worse. I'm severely depressed. I need help and I'm willing to get it. Fortunately for myself, I have some family and friends who through an intervention yesterda are willing to help me get help. I'm not addicted to drugs or alcohol. They are worried about my mental health and want me to be around for my children. I need to do something different in my life or I’m going to die.

I need to take care of myself before I’m able to take care of my kids. I have been offered a lifeline by caring family and friends to reboot my life and career. I’m going to do it.

How do you deal with being a long distance parent? I’m going to be about 3 and 1/2 hours away. When I get in a better place and my career is rebooted (I’m studying Cybersecurity) I'll be in a much better place and can more effectively parent. I want to be capable again and be around my kids again. Any suggestions on how to parent and deal with distance?

My WS is open. There are no custody or visitation limitations. The only good thing, is that this is in large part to her finally taking her share of responsibility for the downfall of our marriage.

4 comments posted: Sunday, September 5th, 2021