BH (me), WW (her), 2 boys "You will never be the same. You accept it. You will never have closure. There is no such a word as closure. Closure does not exist. Life is different. Now you get to choose what you're going to do with it."

Is there a statute of limitations?

My WW is upset because I told her she weighs too much, that she prioritizes me last (after kids, scouts, her family and work), and that her parenting model is poor. One of responses in our discussion struck a cord with me.

She responded that I shouldn’t bring up her weight, and that I should focus on the positive aspects of our lives. In essence, love her regardless of weight.

For context, her A’s with multiple OM happened after I had initiated a change in our eating and exercise routines. We both lost considerable weight. I took that opportunity to do triathlons, she decided to begin having A’s.

After it all unraveled, she was eventually remorseful (after 2 false DD). Overtime, she shifted more of her focus towards community service and the kids. And her weight increased.

I'm angry.

WW took insane risks and put so much effort to be with these OMs (pictures that the OM has, unprotected sex, sharing my private information, almost lost her job due to performance,..) but when I ask her to get back in shape, she tells me it’s off-limits to discuss.

It feels like reconciliation isn’t truly possible unless the BS chooses to completely forget and forgive. Forget being more important.

But I don’t think I can. The OMs got the excitement and the most aggressive and focused part of my WW. I’m left here paying for private school, remodeling the closet, running errands, cleaning the house, and...

WW didn’t love me for who I am when she was angry. It’s the irony of being a BS that I share with her my frustration and she critiques it. Unlike what she did.

57 comments posted: Friday, September 6th, 2024