Me: BH 62 her: fWW 53 Married 30 years 3 Beautiful Kids (26, 19, 17)D-Day: 1-26-11Status: Reconciled"From Happy to Separated to Divorcing to living together again in 16 Days."

Endeavor to Persevere

12 years later

I just spent an hour reading through my archived posts from January 2011. Kept getting teary eyed reliving some of the pain in my posts and finding myself surprised that I could still be so impacted almost 12 years later.

Most won't remember me here as I have not been a frequent poster and eventually chose to visit less to avoid pain shopping. My wife and I successfully reconciled through counseling, hard work and we built a better marriage.

I think of the affair almost daily still. Some through my own thoughts but mostly through references to infidelity on some form of media. Its painful but also gratifying as I can see my wife's pain too when infidelity comes up in conversation or on TV.

Not sure if there is much point to my post other than letting those who are mired in the pain infidelity causes and wondering like I did if reconciliation is possible that happiness can be your future and infidelity does not have to define who you are or how you live.

We are happier today than at any point in our 30 year relationship. We've raised 3 pretty amazing kids together.

I wouldn't want to re-live 2011 but at the end of the day it made a better Father and a better Husband.

I hope you all find your peace. whether it be reconciliation or divorce.

8 comments posted: Tuesday, January 10th, 2023