My divorce saved my life!
Divorce literally saved my life. I am not ashamed of my divorce. I am proud that I had the courage to walk away before things got even worse. And yes, I am convinced they could have gotten much worse.
Good luck to all of you.
5 comments posted: Sunday, August 20th, 2023
Infidelity is the best thing that could have happened to me.
It took me 14 years since D-Day and 5 years of divorce to come to the realization: Infidelity is the best thing that could have happened to me.
I was stuck in a verbally, physically, and emotionally abusive relationship. My ex-wife suffers from extreme and untreated (or perhaps untreatable) mental illness. I spent most of my time during the marriage trying to protect myself from her, my children from her, and her from herself.
I am incredibly tenacious when it comes to solving problems, and I literally NEVER GIVE UP. Even though 4 marriage counselors told me to get a divorce (as did some of her family members and her best friend), I still thought I could fix the situation. I have never encountered a situation that I couldn't fix.
It was the intense pain of infidelity combined with the sage advice of a friend dying from cancer that give me the motivation to finally pull the trigger and file for divorce.
Filing for divorce was literally the best decision of my life. I wake up incredibly happy every single day. I know I would be miserable if I were still married. The stress of the marriage was depleting me in every way imaginable; I am not even sure I would be alive today if I had stayed married.
It was the enormity of the pain of infidelity that gave me the courage to finally leave. If it weren't for infidelity, I would still probably be stuck in a toxic and a unrelentingly abusive relationship with no hope for the future.
So, as strange as it sounds, I came to this realization this morning: Infidelity is the best thing that could have happened to me.
[This message edited by betrayed1965 at 10:21 AM, July 18th (Sunday)]
15 comments posted: Sunday, July 18th, 2021
