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wifetoj77 ( member #10781) posted at 12:25 PM on Sunday, May 4th, 2008
That is me. I have 9 of the 13.
Due to alot of trauma growing up, I definately am one of those fragile people. My family still plays games with me and are NOT a safe bunch.
Am I the only one who bawled the whole time reading these???
Me- BS- 32
Him- WH- 35
M- 15 years
Dday Easter Morning April 16, 2006
6 kids
Back to square one
ham&eggs ( member #18312) posted at 12:39 PM on Sunday, May 4th, 2008
I agree with those who think this should go in the library...would permission from the author be required?..or since it's on the net, as long as it's acknowledged, is it OK? What do you think mods?
SunnySideUp ( member #3771) posted at 1:03 PM on Sunday, May 4th, 2008
Yup--that described what I went thru and how I felt exactly! I second (or third, or fourth) and entry into the Healing Library.
And to think that I thought I was crazy........
me 45 BS (a 23 year M-down the tubes!)
him WS 51
H had 3 week EA Aug 03 with an 'old GF from high school' D'd 6/07
Failed recovery maybe it was the drug addiction that came up Sept 05? Final straw was the condoms 8/06
ham&eggs ( member #18312) posted at 10:13 PM on Thursday, April 9th, 2009
h3chos3m3 ( member #20383) posted at 10:17 PM on Thursday, April 9th, 2009
Wow, thank you so much for the info. Printing it and taking it home to read and go over. Couldn't have come at a better time 
This time baby, I'll be bulletproof ;)
4 furrybabies and counting
millienotboo ( member #22415) posted at 10:39 PM on Thursday, April 9th, 2009
M-8 yrs together 11
Me-45 BW
Him-49-WH
D-Day 10-10-2008
In R
itspjw ( member #21268) posted at 2:16 AM on Friday, April 10th, 2009
bump
i am printing this to read later
thanks!
no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...
there's just too much that time cannot erase
dday 9/11/08
And the more I know, the less I understand
Because of you...I am afraid...
Iwant2Bbetter ( member #23467) posted at 3:49 PM on Friday, September 11th, 2009
Thank you for all of the great information. It has helped me to understand what I am going through and why I feel the way I do. Printing it out right now :):)
Me: BF, 30
Him: WF, 27
D-day: 9/08
Further D-Days, 9/08-10/08 kept breaking NC
6yrs together, engaged for 2yrs
3kids, ages 2, 3, and 4
redhairtemper ( member #24716) posted at 3:54 PM on Friday, September 11th, 2009
I go for my first EMDR treatment today to deal with this!
Thanks for the information.
Solitude stands in the doorway, and I'm struck once again by her black silhouette; By her long cool stare and her silence; I suddenly remember each time we've met; And she says I've come to set a twisted thing straight;
dana88 ( member #18634) posted at 4:35 PM on Friday, September 11th, 2009
Thank you - so much of this article hits home.
I thought I knew what love was, what did I know? Those days are gone forever - I should just let them go but-
Don Henley, Boys of Summer
deathbybetrayal ( member #22478) posted at 2:33 AM on Monday, November 16th, 2009
Bump.
(Thanks Ham&Eggs 
)
Married 10 years at DDay
Me: 53 Him: 52 - Desperately trying to unfuck the donkey.
DDay: July 16, 2008
FWH Epiphany: Aug.23, 2008 NC: Aug. 28, 2008
blackwingcherub ( new member #26384) posted at 6:28 AM on Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009
I am this "Debbie" It has been two months, yet yesterday. I do not sleep and don't eat like I should. I am separated from my wife and I feel like I am asleep in some nightmare. I can't read the other threads very much yet. Even if I do sleep all I dream about is 'it'. I relive it over and over while asleep. I am not well, physically. Diabetes, High and difficult to treat Blood Pressure, Bipolar, Kidney disease among other things. I don't know what mental issues she has that would allow her to forget her family. I don't know what to do. I am just trying to stay alive and not hurt the man she messed around with. My kids keep me from doing anything stupid. Tonight I just feel really bad because they are not here and I am alone...and scared. I know 'men' aren't supposed to admit that. But I am terrified. Please keep me in your thoughts. Thank you for having such a forum for this.
What is in us that makes us feel too weak, shameful, and too much of a burden to ask for help. Even if doing so means preventing us from dying...
shyguy ( member #18281) posted at 2:04 PM on Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009
Love stinks yeah yeah(J. Geils)
shockdbyndbelief ( member #21286) posted at 2:15 AM on Thursday, December 3rd, 2009
I just posted in the book forum...Ortman's book is SO HELPFUL. Everyone should get it out from the library or buy a copy!!
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 2:21 AM on Thursday, December 3rd, 2009
Post Infidelity Stress Disorder
I'd say I fall into the category of being PISD. 
4 d-days over 2 1/2 years will do it to you. Actually, the first one did it, the subsequent ones just made it worse.
dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 5:03 AM on Thursday, December 3rd, 2009
AAAAAARRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHH
me! 
~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~
"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)
kstuff ( member #25310) posted at 6:51 AM on Thursday, December 3rd, 2009
add me to the list of the pissed, I'm mean PISD.
Married 2005
Together 9 years
No specific dates, it's all a blur right now...
JoyH (original poster member #5973) posted at 5:52 PM on Sunday, January 3rd, 2010
Initial dday 11/00.
Me: BS
H: WS,
Difficult road, but Reconciling.
"Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past and instead inviting hope for a better future."
"The Truth Hurts, But It's Best That You Know."
bbee ( member #17840) posted at 6:10 PM on Sunday, January 3rd, 2010
Thanks for bumping, Joy. And for posting in the first place.
This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1
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