I hung out with a friend a few nights ago, where we talked about a lot of things. He's one of the guys who helped me through discovering the affair. So, we did get closer, and it did help that he was going through a betrayal situation (Not an affair, but major lies) with his now ex. He started dating someone new, someone who's a little older and I guess the topic of kids came up. On whether they wanted kids and if they did, obviously timing is important. And also, it's something you have to discuss with potential long-term partners. Which led to the conversation to whether I wanted kids.
Long story short, before the affair. My wife and I always were 50/50 on having kids. Both of us work in jobs that see the worst of humanity, some of it directly deals with abuse towards kids. So, it was always up in the air if we ever did want kids. That and the ever cost of raising one in this economy. Obviously, after an affair a lot of things change and how see things.
I know some of you had kids when affairs did happen and I do believe reading someone's post about having a kid after. And kids are a big responsibility, where a lot of communication and trust has to exist between the parents. I was wondering how the conversations regarding kids after everything went.
Did you guys change anything regarding the topic? Stay the same? And so on.
Obviously, reconciliation is treating this phase as a new relationship. So, having this discussion again is obviously going to happen again and has to.
