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luvedmypbear (original poster member #25690) posted at 8:28 AM on Sunday, July 14th, 2024
My life changed forever. Instantly.
WH called me and asked me to login to his email and pay his credit card. He was away for work and wanted some help.
I followed his directions and after I paid the bill, I noticed an email from a mutual friend but with a provocative title.
I clicked on it and everything shattered.
She was a prolific writer and detailed every stolen moment, every kiss, every intimate position, location, circumstance.
She shared in his joy at the birth of our son followed by the birth of our daughter a year later. She ridiculed my changing body during and after those pregnancies. She made fun of my oblivious trust when they were gleefully and successfully lying to me.
I was shattered. With a one year old and newborn, in the double stroller, I took our dog for a walk. It was a hot summer day. I didn’t realize until I returned home I had forgotten to put shorts on and was walking in my underwear (very conservative ones at that but still undies).
I found SI, started implementing the 180 and began healing.
Many cycles over these years and Great Depression. We are still married, 19 years later but it has never been reconciled.
luvedmypbear didn’t care what you thought. She knew she was a badass.
Brittn ( member #84766) posted at 2:49 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2024
Wow, an abrupt and harsh way to learn of his infidelity. I admit, hearing that she body shamed you to your husband is particularly vile. Wonder if planned to come to your defense about that.. I’m guessing not. Clearly, you are years out from this now, and I hope he has changed for you. My wife’s infidelity was years ago as well. I’m still angry about it. I fear that anger stays with us.
crazycatlady ( member #12849) posted at 3:21 PM on Sunday, July 14th, 2024
Bless you and those sweet babies. I’m so sorry.
Love all, trust a few. Do wrong to none.William Shakespeare "All's Well That Ends Well"D-Day: Nov 30, 2006"For I have sworn thee fair, and thought thee bright, who art as black as hell, as dark as night." William Shakespeare
annb ( member #22386) posted at 2:45 PM on Monday, July 15th, 2024
Wow. How cruel! 
I am 19 years out and my life hasn't been the same. Many positives but a few lasting effects of the trauma.
You say you are still married but not reconciled? Can you explain further?
Grieving ( member #79540) posted at 3:00 PM on Monday, July 15th, 2024
How awful. My heart breaks for you.
Husband had six month affair with co-worker. Found out 7/2020. Married 20 years at that point; two teenaged kids. Reconciling.
Topic is Sleeping.
