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5 years ago WH moved 5 hours away from home for a job. I hesitated coming, but decided to give it a go. I have always suffered from depression and anxiety, but have been working very hard to rise above it with therapy and meds. He is an alcoholic who won't get help. Just found out yesterday that He has been with someone for the past two months and oh yeah he wants to pursue it. I did not see this coming and feel like a F'n idiot for moving here. Now what? Nowhere to go, my job pays barely a liveable wage and I am lost. My dogs don't even love me now cause I can't stop crying.

Wow I’m really sorry you find yourself in this situation. There is so much to try to figure out.

A couple things first-

Take care of your basic needs. Eat something. Drink water. Get a little sleep if you can. Take a couple walks. I was surprised at at much better a 20 minute walk made me feel when I first got into this craziness. Take care of your body.

Look at and figure out what you CAN control. (Really it’s only you) - look for the things you CAN do , even little things help. (Talk to a friend in the phone, go to work each day, put on foot in front of the other and one step, no matter how small at a time.)

Make sure you’re doing what you can to help your mental health. Take your meds. See your therapist. Talk to your health care providers about what’s going on. Trauma affects you physically and mentally and they have resources to help you.

I’m so sorry you are having to find yourself here. You’re not alone.

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Others will be along shortly to help, too.

We are with you.

Start boarding $. It’s your first step in getting out.