BraveSirRobin posted 4/30/2020 15:31 PM

Just wanted to put in a reminder for anyone who is able to participate in the "BS Questions for WS" thread in I Can Relate. This is the only place on the site that betrayed spouses can solicit input from us on what makes the wayward mind tick. Despite the commonalities of the "cheater's handbook," we have really varied experiences here, so the more perspectives we can give them, the better. No pressure if that's not your personal jam, but I wanted to make sure we collectively keep it on our radar.

[This message edited by BraveSirRobin at 5:40 PM, April 30th (Thursday)]

Okokok posted 5/9/2020 12:09 PM

I just want to second this. I often direct people to that thread, especially from Just Found Out.

There are some amazing people with great perspective in your camp, and your responses there can be really helpful!

Chili posted 5/9/2020 18:34 PM

And I'll throw in a 3rd for that motion.

When I first came here, I was flailing around saying things like "why" and "how could he do this" and all sorts of things that he just couldn't answer. Not only did that thread help me understand the "wayward mindset", but it really helped open my eyes to what real remorse looks like.

Plus, I wasn't really ready to read in the Wayward forum so it was kind of a less triggery place to be.

Zugzwang posted 5/10/2020 11:35 AM

It might be easier if it was set up like these if it was possible. Truth though. I usually focus more on helping WS R themselves.