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Morris45 (original poster new member #70940) posted at 6:45 PM on Sunday, March 1st, 2020
My wife and I are moving forward after 9 months of my trickle truths and gaslighting.
My lies have made it very difficult (understandably) for her.
Especially after waiting 38 years to tell her.
My question for others who have been here is this.
How many of you have had a ONS while you were separated from your spouse and thought about your spouse during the act?
In my situation my wife and I knew the AP. She was friends with my wife.
Looking back I believe she had issues with my wife. She told me my wife had said things I found afterwards to be lies and should have known it from the beginning.
I’m not trying to make excuses. Being separated gave me no right to cheat on my wife!
Looking forward to your comments.
[This message edited by Morris45 at 12:47 PM, March 1st (Sunday)]
DaddyDom ( member #56960) posted at 9:16 PM on Sunday, March 1st, 2020
Welcome to SI!
How many of you have had a ONS while you were separated from your spouse and thought about your spouse during the act?
This is an interesting question... I'm curious what it is you are trying to discern however? If others did or did not think of their spouses during intimacy with the AP, what meaning does that hold for you? It seems like there is a deeper question here and I'm just not sure what it is?
Me: WS
BS: ISurvivedSoFar
D-Day Nov '16
Status: Reconciling
"I am floored by the amount of grace and love she has shown me in choosing to stay and fight for our marriage. I took everything from her, and yet she chose to forgive me."
Morris45 (original poster new member #70940) posted at 11:09 PM on Monday, March 2nd, 2020
Thanks DaddyDom for the reply.
The reason I was asking is my wife was curious as to how common it is to think about your spouse while having a ONS.
In my case I was separated and did not want to be. I was distraught and the explains why.
Morris45 (original poster new member #70940) posted at 11:14 PM on Monday, March 2nd, 2020
Thanks DaddyDom for the reply.
The reason I was asking is my wife was curious as to how common it is to think about your spouse while having a ONS.
In my case I was separated and did not want to be. I was distraught and the explains why.
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