Marie23 posted 2/20/2020 12:48 PM

What should I be doing to work on myself? I screwed up big time and I know that but all I can think about is fixing things with my husband..

hikingout posted 2/20/2020 16:08 PM

1. Read "how to help your spouse heal from infidelity".
2. Work on your whys. They must be internal things to you. Not about the marriage, not about your husband, but you. Get a good list together. This will probably take some time and evolve, but this is the list you will know what it is you need to work on.
3. Get in IC if you have the resources to do so.
4. Realize that you can only control you and what you do. You can't control others reactions, behaviors, or the outcome of your relationship.
5. Be completely honest.

I would recommend thinking about those whys and if you have questions about it bring them here and we can help you.