So, I met this girl about two months ago. We met in a social media group online and found out we were within a 90 min drive of each other. We met for dinner within 24 hours of chatting online and things have been great ever since. She's a single mother of a 9 yr old boy, with whom I've been able to connect with.
We take turns staying the night at each other's place, spend family time together, etc. Things just seem so great. This new girl and I are completely head-over-heels for each other. We've talked about future plans, wanting to get married and possibly have kids one day. Everything just seems to flow naturally, like we were meant for each other.
When we first met, we were open and honest with each other about our past relationships and who some of our friends are, etc. Turns out, she mas a male friend, whom she met about 4 years ago. They met once for a date, and she claims there's absolutely nothing between them. They live very different lifestyles. I met this dude at a ComicCon he got us tickets to, as he's one of the organizers.
Anyway, I observed their interactions and didn't see or sense anything malicious. Yet, I still feel threatened by this guy. They text, or call, or message each other on social media and it bothers me. Most likely because my XW used to do this quite a bit with her ex-lovers and ex-bfs.
As stated, I still feel threatened by this other dude, despite what my new girl has told me. My gut instinct doesn't tell me to run or anything, yet my thoughts suggest she may have a thing for this ComicCon dude. I already know I have trust issues, yet she hasn't necessarily done anything to make me suspect she's going behind my back to talk to or sleep with other dudes like my XW did. Am I justified in feeling threatened or is this just me trust issues acting up, because of all the BS I experienced with the XW?
I guess I'm just having a hard time believing I met a girl who wants to get married and have kids with me, asking myself the question: "Is this for real?"
[This message edited by stark1984 at 9:41 PM, October 1st (Monday)]
Me: BS Younger 30s
Her: XWW Younger 30s, NPD, kept contact with ex-bfs, ex-lovers, etc
XWW's AP: Married, 3 kids, younger 40s
Married Nov 30, 2013
DDay Jan 24, 2016
Divorced Nov 30, 2016