Topic: Your are on a first date, when your date says....
Member # 12475
| Posted: 8:38 PM, June 29th (Saturday), 2013|
stretch marks are "evidence" that a man was there?
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Posts: 8233 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: midwest
Member # 28622
| Posted: 12:30 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013|
I actually cringed. What a horrible thing to say to a woman.
Given the further context, it sounds like anecdotal story telling. Which, if you are meeting someone from online dating... sharing online dating "horror stories" seems pretty natural??
You were there. You get to decide.
I have posted and gotten feedback and then a day later felt completely different than what I originally posted.
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Posts: 5864 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
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Member # 12354
| Posted: 12:35 PM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013|
Yeah, I don't think it was number count that he was critical of--more the style in which he KNEW she went about the eight of them.
I think it is common to share stories of dating, and he just let you know that he doesn't find that behavior attractive.
I wouldn't want to date a man who had sex on the first date with eight different women.
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Him, WS 50
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Posts: 735 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: thankful for truth
Member # 19946
| Posted: 3:02 PM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013|
On a first date one guy was sharing the experience of online dating w me in terms of sexually transmitted diseases and how surprised he was to find so many people had herpes.. Apparently some people discuss all this over coffee on the first date to see if they might want to have sex with eachother in the future.
This topic was a huge turn off for me! I think he was expecting me to say I'm disease free and when I didn't engage he assumed I had herpes which I don't. Neither of us contacted the other after this date. I feel nauseous just remembering him bringing up the topic within the first 10 minutes of meeting!
BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.
Posts: 5872 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Member # 6832
| Posted: 11:56 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013|
Mia, I hope that guy's name wasn't Dr. Lector! Whatta Weirdo!
Posts: 14112 | Registered: Apr 2005
Member # 3438
| Posted: 4:04 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013|
I'm engaged to my guy, and I don't know how many women he was with before me and he doesn't know my number. What's the point? We both know we are disease free. I don't think it serves a purpose to know at this point? Past is past as long as it's not affecting me.
Me: FORMER BW
Posts: 756 | Registered: Feb 2004
Member # 14940
| Posted: 5:37 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013|
Sometimes you just can't win. Or predict someone's thoughts. I knew a man who said it made him sick and disgusted to think I was married for so many years to one person so I probably had a lot of sex without a condom. Which made him ill. He said with a penis, you can "wash" it off but a woman probably has "residue" inside of her forever. Those were his exact words.
He also said he could never have sex with a woman with stretch marks because if he saw them, it was "evidence" a man was there. Because a baby had grown there.
Honestly, I probably had less sex in the 25 years I was with my XH than a single person. He thought that was gross too but at least in his mind a single woman would have used a condom. I think he wanted a middle-age virgin, really.
He's grossed out by a woman having sex with her own husband?
Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Posts: 4483 | Registered: Jun 2007
Member # 17210
| Posted: 4:05 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013|
I remember learning somewhere that for cockroaches, after insemination, the residue seals the female shut so that sex is never possible again.
At least you know what to compare this guys attitude to.
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Posts: 14924 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Winnipeg
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