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tkd1 (original poster member #6661) posted at 2:16 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Right before my "time", like a couple of days before, I get INSANELY angry over stupid things, I can hardly stand to go in public without wanting to do bodily harm to innocent bystanders, I feel like STEAM is shooting out of my ears and my eyes are firin' lazors.
Then, then NEXT day, I am calm, benevolent, looking at the world with new eyes, and love everyone.
Does anyone else have this??? And what do you recommend? It's EVERY month.
I already have kind of an anger issue, but the hormones exacerbate it.
I wish there was a pill that I could take that made me feel like that first half of a margarita does...
"I Just need a compass and a willing accomplice." P!nk, Crystal Ball
kdny ( member #760) posted at 2:20 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Yes, I had years of this type of PMS.
I used to call it "my dangerous mood".My poor husband was so happy to see menopause finally hit.
I've had several friends with the same type of day before/day after mood change.
Whether we remain ash or become phoenix is up to us.
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Sometimes the fine line between a nervous breakdown and knowing things will be okay is a pair of furry pants~unfound
knutz ( member #28877) posted at 2:32 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Me too.
They seem to be worse since D-day. I know it's coming, I warn everyone, I get ready for it -- say to myself "you know it's coming. Don't kill anyone. Keep it together. Then BAM!!! My inner Sybil is let out.
Oh God, I hope someone can give us a clue!!!!!!
Together 23 years
Married 20 Years
BW (me) 48
FWH: 49 (rSA)
2 children, 9 & 12
DDay: December 27, 2009
"Life is not what it is supposed to be. It is what it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference". Virginia Satir
tkd1 (original poster member #6661) posted at 2:37 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
My poor dd always knows...She says,"You are having PMS, aren't you."
I guess the solution is to plan for it, and make sure I just STAY HOME those couple of days. It would lessen the risk of me going to jail for assault!
"I Just need a compass and a willing accomplice." P!nk, Crystal Ball
afraidshesgone ( member #28625) posted at 2:56 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
well, not me, I;m the exact opposite... I get hypersensitve (cry at the drop of a hat) BUT my WW was ANGRY ... Pamprin Pamprin Pamprin...I found them a bit hard to find in every store, but if you can, try them... we always called them 'mood menders'
Me, BW, old enough
D-Day dates.. tired of 'em Let's just say it happened, I'm over it and have moved on.....very happy
Despite my screen name, I am very much a woman and hell yeah I wish I could change that name to gladshesgone
tkd1 (original poster member #6661) posted at 2:58 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
hmmm...worth looking into! Because I can't very well drink wine all day the day before...although that surely helps.
"I Just need a compass and a willing accomplice." P!nk, Crystal Ball
strivn4peace ( member #29311) posted at 3:04 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I have a sign on my dresser. Read it one way and it says, "hormonally balanced." Flip it over and it says, "you'd better take cover."
Perhaps you just need something to WARN those around you.
"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option” ~Author unknown
I have one foot in, one foot out...but if he continues to progress the way he seems to be lately, I'll bring my foot in and close the door.
tkd1 (original poster member #6661) posted at 3:19 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I would think my glowering stare is a pretty good warning...especially when I am wearing my tee from my TKD school, lol, and all my tattoos are showing...
I HATE being this way, I have seen in other people how they look when they are angry vs when they are smiling, and wow, what a difference.
"I Just need a compass and a willing accomplice." P!nk, Crystal Ball
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 4:22 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Totally with you on this bandwagon.
My ex was subjected to two days of tearful ranting/venting last month while I gripped about my current FWSO.
I mean it's BAD!!! I cry, scream, rage, throw things... and I know logically what it is, but can't stop it.
I HATE it!
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
imokay ( member #3522) posted at 12:42 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I was like this for years. H and the kids would hide from me a couple of days a month.
H is lovin' the new menopausal me!!!!!!
Me: BS - 58 now
Him: WS - 60 now
Married 21 years at time of A
EA/PA that lasted 10 months.
DD: 2/10/02
Fully reconciled.
What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us.
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 12:52 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I can relate; I was positively homicidal at that time of the month. I no longer have to worry about this, and I found out too late that this is more than PMS; I believe it's called PMDD, and there is now medication for it.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
mpf00 ( member #24724) posted at 2:10 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Yes, it is called PMDD- - believe it stands for premenstual dysphoric disorder and there are meds- I take 50mg of sertraline and it really works for me. I was a raving lunatic a couple days before my cycle each month (airborne coffee mugs) and now I am very even keeled.
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 2:22 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I suggest going to someone who practices Traditional Chinese Medicine like an acupuncturist or a TCM trained herbalist. They have specific protocols that are really effective for handling this pattern. There is no reason to suffer through this. They would call it Liver Qi Stagnation. Seriously the TCM people have the cure for this one down.
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
Defiance ( member #8265) posted at 2:30 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
tkd,
If I am ever down your way and want to stop in to say hi, please warn me ahead of time.
Bad enough that you're raging. The fact that you could utterly kick my ass is yet another.
-D
Success is not measured by what you accomplish but by the opposition you have encountered, and the courage with which you have maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds.
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 3:26 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Evening primrose oil always worked for me. I don't have any problems these days--thank you, menopause.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
tkd1 (original poster member #6661) posted at 4:16 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Well, I am glad I'm not alone in this thing, and that there is a name for it! Next time I see my gyno, I will ask her about it.
And D, no worries!! You surely will be forewarned, lol!
"I Just need a compass and a willing accomplice." P!nk, Crystal Ball
willowiris ( member #5372) posted at 4:36 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
Actually PMS helps me quite a bit because I could be pissed off about something for quite a while, and when I am PMSing, I will actually SAY what is on my mind, maybe not tactfully, but PMS is the perfect time for a Wal-Mart clerk to smart off to me. It's like hormones push the words right outta my mouth.
There is also the other kind of PMS which I don't value nearly as much. I am definitely a female, but not the type who cries easily or watches the lifetime channel etc. i find if I am not pissed off angry during PMS, I will totally "Chicken Little" things to death. "The sky is falling! The sky is falling! Oh woah is me, the sky is falling!" And things that are upsetting because totally crazy upsetting, and I will cry fucking buckets.
I have found both of these to become WAY, WAY less symptomatic though, since going off birth control. I simply do not need to be mixing hormones with my hormones.
Channel that PMS productivity into martial arts or something. you could scare the hell outta some men.
D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006
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ladyvorkosigan ( member #8283) posted at 5:04 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
I actually...kind of enjoy being on my period.
It makes me really creative and able to put things into words that I can't quite catch at other times.
*ducks and runs for cover*
It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls he’d known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.
hopelessromantic ( member #25415) posted at 5:23 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
chiming in, cuz I get this way too, and I've started back taking an OTC called Estroven. It takes a couple of months to have any affect, but I started it back up a couple of months ago and I can start to see a difference already. I get it at Wal-mart in their pharmacy/healthcare section. It's not hormones, like you'd get from the DR, it's natural and enhanced with vitamins.
I used to take it several years ago, but when I got kidney stones, I took myself off them thinking I was getting to much of something, only to find out my stones were because I didn't drink enough...
The bitchiness has become so noticable again that I decided to start taking it again and it does seem to be working...I don't bite everyone's head off
BS-Me FWS-him (bigdog)
D-Day 5/3/09 TT til 6/22/09
Behind every woman scorned is a man who made her that way.
wishingitwasnt ( member #20380) posted at 9:17 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010
OMG! An "INSANELY angry", PMSing, TKD blackbelt, with EMT training?
You should have your own comic book, or something. "TKD", you do NOT want her taking YOUR name.
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