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Court hearing today...could use some support

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Shehawk posted 2/12/2021 13:05 PM

Thanks to everyone for the support. This group helped me face the man I now consider my mortal enemy who used to be my one flesh yesterday. That is no easy task.

It has been about two years since the man I used to call my husband chose infidelity over his marriage. I did not know it at the time but the minute he chose to betray me he became the opponent who would not stop even to the point of seeing me destitute or even dead.

Not recognizing that immediately for what it was has cost me dearly financially, emotionally and spiritually.

Yesterday cost me probably a thousand dollars...maybe more... to get more of nowhere.

We don't have a complicated situation. It would not be difficult to divide the assets fairly with decency and dignity and not give the lawyers tens of thousands of dollars. So far he has declined to divide one single thing. Nothing. Zero.

Take when I gave him the opportunity yes. Give no.

While fair minded people might be about give and take, each thing I conceded early on believing that he was telling the truth and would divorce amicably reset the zero point.

He still wanted more than half going forward.

The lesson I will take with me and share is that my failure to immediately consider my history rewriting unrepentant in the fog WS as a serious threat to my health and life is a costly mistake I will forever regret on so many fronts not the least of which is this financial front.

Honestly I should have known better. The clues were there all along in the small things he said and did in front of me and the big things he did behind my back.

Shehawk posted 2/12/2021 13:43 PM

Yep, the parable of the scorpion and the frog is one that comes to mind.

Take care of yourself. This is not easy


That is so true Barcher

We know and then we sometimes forget. And it can kill us.

josiep posted 2/12/2021 18:21 PM

I'm so sorry that he's doing all this. It defies anything my brain can understand because first they betray us and then when we don't go straight for the jugular, they betray us financially as well. And then we look back and are upset with ourselves for falling for it. But please understand that when someone who looks like your loving faithful partner stands in front of you and who has the same voice as your loving faithful partner makes promises, there is no reason at all for our brains to doubt them because we've believed and trusted them for so long, it's the only response our brain knows how to have when they speak to us.

I just hope that things begin to turn around for you soon and that you can move forward with your life.

The1stWife posted 2/12/2021 19:31 PM

Iím sorry he continues to torture you. I hope it ends soon.

Shehawk posted 2/15/2021 09:36 AM

Thanks josiep and firstwife.

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