Please dont take this as a debate, it isnt and I respect your opinion...you are farther in DD, than I am....I am just rambling hypothetically again, it really isnt pinpointed toward anyone... I just wanted to acknowledge that I read your post. I also agree with you, I would have ran like hell, with my son!
The thing is that we only know based on what they tell us, which is usually lies. When you read the psychology behind their patterns, they troll for a more dangerous high.... how would we ever know where that end is? Is there one? Pedophilia is about power and control, sex addicts are about power, money and control, which is comorbid of their narcissism.
Then there's the subject of what is considered pedophilia, aside from legal. In New Hampshire it is legal for a 13-years-old to marry, with parental consent! That is beyond insane. In saying that, I wonder how long before this country lowers that age back down (I am in cali- this is a possiblity) I haven't any doubt a lot of men would take advantage of that, especially an SA.
I also realize that there is a probable chance he screwed a girl that was under aged, it comes with the territory of trolling prostitutes. The girls I saw were questionably young, with one in particular. They arent asking for IDs, but ironically, some prostitues ask for theirs.
I guess my point is-where do these SAs draw their line? We are talking about people that claim to have no impulse control, have no respect for boundaries or the law. They were always aware of trafficking, but didnt care. That is telling, right there, in terms of how they feel about children.
The trafficing expands into their porn. A lot of porn (porn hub etc) has porn pirated and uploaded from other counties, where trafficking young girls (my husband loved his Asian "spinners"), is the norm, especially the shit coming out of Asia....and there is a HUGE market of very extremely young-looking girls, on there.
Then there is the pathology behind how creepy they are. A lot of them are acting out abuse done to them by adults, as the route of their anger, in terms of "acting out". This abuse trickles down through families, these SAs are their parents, etc...
As far as our young children are concerned; I realize there is a probable chance he was watching porn, in my sons presence, when my son was old enough to realize. I asked him and he thought he caught him...How much could he be repressing? My husband hadnt the opportunity to bring hookers home, but had he, I would be naive to believe he wouldn't. If hes fucking prostitutes, he hasnt any respect for me or his family. Do I believe he would of "acted out", with our son? No, but how many women said the same things, before they found out about their children's abuse? These are very valid reasons to award custody, but I am sure it is over-looked.
Teenage porn is considered pedophilia, while marriage at 13 (16 in a lot of other states), in New Hampshire, is still okay? Where are these lines drawn and why is a 13-year-old allowed to marry?
Then I question how we, as wives are expected to digest this....is it because the SA doesnt have any real idea how old these girls are (and not care), that we are expected to give them a free-pass and just assume they arent under age, because they dont appear to be toddlers.
He is attracted to extremely young-looking girls... predators see young girls are naive, can be easily manipulated and controlled. That is part of the psychology that plays into their trolling young prostitutes, they mirror this ideal for them.
In terms of wives, they see us as motherly, in that we arent as naive and easily manipulated into believing they are wonderful...it is sooo very sick. Please, someone save me from my brain...if I ever get out, I am starting a YT channel/podcast on this crap. "The bullshit ramblings of Dashboard Madonna".