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I think I may have ruined my life

ruinedmylife2 posted 9/2/2019 10:33 AM

I woke up from a work boozy brunch on Friday having no recollection of the last few hours, only to be informed by a friend that I kissed another coworker. I immediately told my BS, and we're currently talking things through but BS seems to be leaning towards splitting up. BS's main questions is why, but I can't give them that answer because I have no idea. I had no previous attraction to AP, was not unhappy in my relationship, and really don't know why I would do something like that. We are in an LDR and of course I miss them, but not enough to step out on our relationship.

Now here's the kicker.... AP has now accused me of SA. I just got word. I haven't told BS yet because I don't know how to. I don't think I assaulted AP, but having no recollection I can't confirm. I don't know what to do. My relationship and my career are over.

S0leil posted 9/2/2019 10:40 AM

You need to take a polygraph immediately. I suggested it to my BH after DDay 2 and he selected one and he chose all the questions. The polygraph validated that I had no intentions of sex with the AP, that I did not consent, that I was answering truthfully about everything I told my BH after DDay 2. You and your BS need answers now. A polygraph can help.

Lucky77 posted 9/2/2019 11:55 AM

Your relationship and career aren't over yet. It's just an atrocious day.

As to your drinking. Let's talk about it shall we?

Is this bottom for you? All power drinkers need to hit bottom before there's meaningful change. As for me a night in jail was what I needed to sober me right up (I am so grateful that the kind officer mothered me that night...I owe her a lot).

Being a blackout drunk is a recipe for further disasters.

The good news is that tomorrow is a new day.

Stay around for a while. Post more. We're here to help.

AFL1000 posted 9/3/2019 00:00 AM

WS Only

[This message edited by SI Staff at 7:56 AM, September 3rd (Tuesday)]

ruinedmylife2 posted 9/3/2019 11:50 AM

Yeah I have decided to stop drinking. That was my very first promise to BS. Now I'm trying to juggle the legal issues with saving my relationship, which seems to be on the outs. This problem has led BS to re-examine all of the issues we've been having leading up to this, thinking that they must be the root cause. I am trying my best to assure them that they're not, that it was caused by my own issues and may not have even been consensual on my part, but I don't know if they're buying it. I feel like I am losing everything

Lucky77 posted 9/3/2019 18:49 PM

Keep fighting RML2. Thereís no other choice.

I canít begin to count the number of times Iíve done just crazy ridiculous shit. itís staggering.

Hang in there. It gets better. Right now youíre a mess and hanging on by a thread. We all have power to be incredible and strong. Stay with us.

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