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Betrayal hurts, it destroys and kills !

Dorothy123 posted 7/10/2019 18:03 PM

Unfortunately there are many misconceptions that betrayal is no big deal.

There are many comedies where betrayal is the punch line.

There are many movies, songs and sitcoms that glamorize betrayal.

So, many non BS's were trained to think that betrayal is no big deal are absolutely shocked at how painful betrayal really is when they become BS's themselves.

So, if you are a BS who thinks that you are going crazy because of your overreaction to an A, I will prove to you that you are not going crazy.

Also, if you have a WS who thinks that you(the BS) are overreacting beyond and above human imagination, I will prove that betrayal does hurt, destroy and kills.

"What physical symptoms of the A did/do you have ?"

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=636067

"How many have you thought about committing suicide ?"

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=613834

"Would you be surprised if a BS kills WS or AP? "

https://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=594591

[This message edited by Dorothy123 at 6:07 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)]

Beachwalker posted 7/10/2019 20:21 PM

Betrayal Hurts: When I learned my wife was cheating on me, the pain was enormous. I never knew I could hurt so deeply and so completely. I have never known pain like that before. It is its own kind of pain you cannot compare to anything else. It’s the type of pain that comes from within, beyond reach. It cannot be stopped and no medication will help. It comes from the same place you keep your most beloved spouse – deeper than your heart. As I began to deal with the pain, I learned of a couple more of my WW’s AP’s, and the hurt started all over again. Each time I learned of a new name on her list of suitors, or found another text or email between the “lovers”, the pain started over, each and every time.

Betrayal Destroys: My trust in my wife is gone. The fond memories of “us” are all tainted with burned edges and some are so destroyed I cannot recall what they were. Everything from today backward is all gone – just gone! Yes, we can build a relationship again, but not here, not where we’ve been for 30 years. Unless we bulldoze everything and lose it all to the past and infidelity, we cannot build here. Yes, we have our children and more years to come, but we will have to start all over, and everything we once had is all lost.

Betrayal Kills: The man I once was is gone. I am no longer the same. I no longer look at my wife in the same way for she no longer looks the same to me. She is someone else. The woman I loved is dead and this new person has shown up to take her place. I don’t know who she is. I will have to determine in a brief period of time if she can make me feel safe, wanted, loved, and can be my friend. But this new woman who took the place of my now dead wife comes attached to my children and is in all the family pictures. Who is she? And what happened to my wife?

WhoTheBleep posted 7/10/2019 20:28 PM

. She is someone else. The woman I loved is dead and this new person has shown up to take her place. I don’t know who she is

Who the bleep did I marry???? Who the bleep did I....

Indeed...

Emotionalhell posted 7/11/2019 05:24 AM

Beachwallker well said. The pain is so deep it destroys your peace and affects every part of my life.

cf2018 posted 7/11/2019 10:48 AM

Wow Beachwalker! That is incredibly spot on!

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