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Voice recordings

Notriangle posted 7/3/2019 23:32 PM

I have seen many people here advocate the use of voice activated recorders. I guess this would be a good way to gather information about your wayward spouse's affair. However, is it legal to secretly record conversations? Would secret recordings be permissible evidence in a court of law?

Meers posted 7/3/2019 23:46 PM

A quick google search yielded the following:

"U.S. federal law allows the recording of phone calls with the consent of at least one party. This means that if you are initiating a recording on a call that you are participating in, the other party does not need to be notified that the call is being recorded.

"Currently, 12 states require the consent of all parties involved in a particular conversation: California, Connecticut, Florida, Illinois, Maryland, Massachusetts, Michigan, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania and Washington."

Meers

RidingHealingRd posted 7/4/2019 00:38 AM

I secretly taped many conversations that I had with my WH. I wanted to get him on tape admitting to the A and giving details of the A, which I was able to do. I contacted an attorney to see if the tapes would be admissible in court. He informed me that:
1) In the state of TX it was legal to tape a conversation that I was party to without the knowledge or consent of the other person. I could not however tape a conversation between 2 or more people that I was not participating in.
2) My tapes were admissible in a TX court of law.
He then asked me if I really had tapes of my WH admitting to his infidelity with all that detail. I told him I did. He was very surprised and then said to me, “Wow, you have him by the balls” 😁
I never used the tapes because we R but I have held on to the recordings for 9 years. I will never destroy them. My WH knows they exist.

Marie2792 posted 7/4/2019 04:41 AM

I recorded my entire two hour meeting with the OW. I didn’t advise her but I had a friend along who knew about it as well.

OrdinaryDude posted 7/4/2019 08:15 AM

You can also have security video surveillance in and around your home or properties, audio rules differ from state to state.

Wool94 posted 7/4/2019 08:25 AM

Many times a recording may or may not be legal in whatever state you are in.

One of the main reasons we advocate recording is so that you'll have the evidence you need to make an informed decision.

Why would you admit to recording someone?

If they did find out you recorded them, what would they do?

Is it worth going after you legally?

Just curious.

rugswept posted 7/4/2019 09:05 AM

the main reason for recordings is not for a court of law. it's for the court of public opinion. and in this case, you're the public and no one else matters.

it's a great way to find out if you have a cheatin' lyin' POS as a partner. it's for you to finally know the truth.

oh, it's a plus if admissable. but just knowing, for certain, clears up a lot.

[This message edited by rugswept at 9:05 AM, July 4th (Thursday)]

beenthereinco posted 7/4/2019 12:46 PM

In most states in the US adultery doesn't matter as to the terms of the divorce so having a recording of them admitting infidelity isn't for a court any way. Mostly people advocate for using a VAR to uncover the truth. You will also hear that having a VAR on you to prove that you did not abuse your spouse is sometimes warranted. You have no idea how many times you will hear that someone on here has been accused of DV by the Wayward spouse. In that case there would seem to me to be nothing wrong with stating right away when you start talking to the Wayward spouse that you are recording the conversation. I think that notification would make the recording legal in all states.

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