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Boundaries and Consequences 101 for all new BS

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Foolfernobody posted 12/14/2017 08:01 AM

Quite an insightful post. I'll tag this one for future reference and come back to read it from time to time, maybe even comment more later.

sisoon posted 12/17/2017 10:39 AM

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sisoon posted 1/2/2018 12:41 PM

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sisoon posted 1/14/2018 16:57 PM

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sisoon posted 1/31/2018 10:31 AM

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HeatherM posted 2/5/2018 07:33 AM

Mine won't go "no contact". He has been "thinking" for two months about whether he wants to stay or go but that has involved being nasty and dismissive and defensive to and lying to me while constantly messaging her loving messages about how they will be together. He has made zero progresses He has said I haven't given him space to think. That I ask questions repeat myself and am bullying him. I've said the only way we can have a proper chance is if he ends things with her. He says he can't. I just don't know where to go from here :( he keeps saying he's going to move out and I keep asking him not to. He told her he would be living on his own by January so I feel it means it is the end. Not for him to have space. Please help me I just don't know what to do. I love this man so much. He is infatuated with her and they just won't work - she is really cheap and he is going to be a laughingstock in his job and with people who know "us". He has a hugely stressful job working about an 80 hour week with little timemoff and we get almost no time together although he's "made" time for her by staying up even later to "work". She is 14 years younger, married! I just don't know what to do I feel so helpless. He is really volatile, I'm sure he is in mid life crisis which he absolutely denies. He is really angry that I have been cunning and, he says, manipulative in snooping on him and being one step ahead. I have him Janice after chance to be honest - while I had live access to his messages - and he just kept lying. He says he will never trust ME again! It's so ridiculous :(

lordhasaplan? posted 2/5/2018 07:45 AM

All sounds like the Wayward handbook chapter and verse. you need to make a strong declaration and follow through. Cut him off from all you provide until he demonstrates he can commit and becomes completely and totally transparent. Hope you stay strong. Keep posting more here in JFO. There is a lot of help for you.

Skan posted 2/9/2018 18:18 PM

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Skan posted 2/16/2018 11:06 AM

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Jewel44 posted 2/20/2018 00:30 AM

Amazing article! Thanks so so much for this! Life changing!

minusone posted 2/26/2018 19:09 PM

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sisoon posted 3/3/2018 12:47 PM

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sassylee posted 3/12/2018 12:40 PM

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KnowOneSpecial posted 3/13/2018 01:30 AM

[This message edited by KnowOneSpecial at 7:12 PM, March 23rd (Friday)]

sisoon posted 3/21/2018 12:37 PM

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sassylee posted 4/2/2018 15:13 PM

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