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Lucky2HaveMe
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Wink  Posted: 10:03 AM, July 31st (Thursday)

Just heard this great suggestion for anyone still going on vacation with Tweens or teenagers in the backseat. When they start to haggle, fuse, and fight, calmly pull the car to the side of the road. Then mom and dad vigorously begin to make out.
I hear it will stop even the worst of back seat fighting.

Wish I had thought of this back in the day!


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

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IrishGirlVA
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, July 31st (Thursday)

If my parents did this, they would have a new problem on their hands as my sister and I would immediately bolt out of the car, running and screaming down the highway!

But interesting solution. LOL


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aLadypilot
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Funny  Posted: 11:02 AM, July 31st (Thursday)


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, July 31st (Thursday)

Dang as a single dad this will not work.


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Harriet
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, July 31st (Thursday)

Moo, you and I will have to do that fake make out session where you wrap your hands all the way around yourself and make smoochie noises.

I find that if I just start talking about sex, it does the job. Gives them an education, too. Start telling them the definitions of body parts and sex acts, talk about all the STDs and how not to get them...I never get very far. They're learning in bits and pieces.


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RyeBread
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, July 31st (Thursday)

If my parents did this, they would have a new problem on their hands as my sister and I would immediately bolt out of the car, running and screaming down the highway!

I have to politely disagree... Now mom and dad can have a nice quiet vacation alone while the kids find their own way home


Let him that would move the world first move himself. - Socrates

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IrishGirlVA
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, July 31st (Thursday)

I have to politely disagree... Now mom and dad can have a nice quiet vacation alone while the kids find their own way home

Touché, RyeBread. Touché.


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, July 31st (Thursday)

[This message edited by TrulyReconciled at 1:46 PM, July 31st (Thursday)]


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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, July 31st (Thursday)

Ok. This thread is all sorts of awesome!

I like TR's suggestion. Duct tape fixes everything.


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TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, July 31st (Thursday)

As the old saying goes: "Silence is golden. Duct tape is silver."


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MissesJai
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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, July 31st (Thursday)

duct tape


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wifehad5
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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, July 31st (Thursday)

Might I submit to you my solution


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, July 31st (Thursday)



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Jeaniegirl
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Default  Posted: 1:28 AM, August 1st (Friday)

*dup post* sorry

[This message edited by Jeaniegirl at 3:23 AM, August 1st (Friday)]


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Jeaniegirl
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Default  Posted: 1:28 AM, August 1st (Friday)

My sister and I are 21 months apart. As kids we used to fight like crazy until our mom came up with the ultimate solution. First she would talk about how we'd feel if something happened to the other one, trying to guilt us and make us sad. IF that didn't work she'd make us KISS! UGH! And she'd say ... "no, really kiss like you love each other." ONE time was ALL it took and we never let her catch us fighting again. We still fought, just not in front of her!

[This message edited by Jeaniegirl at 1:31 AM, August 1st (Friday)]


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 10:52 AM, August 1st (Friday)

When my kids (16 months apart) would fight on long trips, I would institute The Quiet Game--whoever speaks soonest loses. My kids were so good at it, I would forget we were playing and start to speak. Then it was immediate fighting again!


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, August 1st (Friday)

Might I submit to you my solution?


Fixed it for you:


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BrokenRoad
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Default  Posted: 6:44 AM, August 13th (Wednesday)

I'm up for solution #1, just sayin.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, August 14th (Thursday)

I have been known to pull over, stop the car, and get out. Kids are inside wondering WTF is going on, I'm outside enjoying a few moments of fresh air & peace.


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, August 14th (Thursday)

OMG.

I am so doing this. If only to see the horror on their faces. They make gagging noises if we even give each other a peck on the cheek.



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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, August 14th (Thursday)

I used to pull over and turn off the car. Wouldn't speak to them or move until they stopped fighting and sat quietly. It worked really well when we were headed somewhere fun and they couldn't wait to get there. Not so effective when you're heading somewhere like the dentist.


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, August 15th (Friday)

Music has always been the solution for my boys. When it would get especially bad, I would shout, "Headphones! On! Now!"

Then they''d sit there and listen happily to their iPods for a while. Of course, The Princess could never handle the quiet ("Shouldn''t someone be paying attention to me?" ), so she would end up talking to them, and the headphones would come off again. Argh!

Now the boys and I ride Greyhounds when we''re on trips. I take Gravol to stave off the motion sickness, so I''m asleep most of the time. They live in fear of us missing our stop, so they pay close attention, and wake me up when it''s time. No more fighting - and if there is any, I''m sleeping through it!

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