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tesla
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Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, May 16th (Friday)

Go ahead, WTF along with me as he tries to sell me this bill of goods:

ex-shat:

I have a proposal for you. There is a job in XXX [2.5 hours away] working 7 12s plus per diem. 4 to 6 weeks of it would be enough to get current and to pay you what you're owed.
However, I want my visitation with Teslet to be quality time. If we could juggle our summer visitation schedule so I don't lose any time, I could get back to even. And we can all get what we need?

Oh, how much would I love to copy, paste, and send him EVERY text where he has promised me that he is *about* to pay me. He's 0-12.
And he had his chance to select his summer visitation...but didn't.
And he's had opportunities to pay me every penny he's owed me...but didn't.
And he's had opportunities to spend quality time with Teslet...but didn't.

He must be reeeeeeeeeeally hard pressed if he floated that out to me.

Ex-shat, I'd like to introduce you to your consequences. They suck, I know, but so do you-- so ya'll should get along just fucking fine.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, May 16th (Friday)


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
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redrock
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Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, May 16th (Friday)

And we can all get what we need?

I do not post on your threads often but OMG, WT delusional Fuck?

He wants to address 'everyone's' needs now, right before he gets his ass handed to him for the second time? I really, really hope that the legal system works here and he gets thrown in jail.

It might renew my belief in fair play, but -if not- please light a flame near this bullshit so his dumb ass will spontaneously combust. It's a freaking public service.

[This message edited by redrock at 4:57 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


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Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, May 16th (Friday)

I wonder if the sound track from The Twilight Zone plays non-stop in his head ...


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, May 16th (Friday)

You mean that quality time where Stripper Whore spends time with teslet while ex-shat sleeps?


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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, May 16th (Friday)


Edited to correct stupid typos.

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 5:39 PM, May 16th (Friday)

I frikken hate ex-shat. that was absurd and funny I spit soda through my nose, onto my keyboard. Yuck!! and it hurts!

dumbass


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osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, May 16th (Friday)

Hmmm... here's a thought....

Instead of asking your permission and (as we all know) never following through with something,

WHY NOT JUST FRICKIN DO IT ALREADY?!?!?!?!

Sigh.

You know - actually go do the work, get the money, and give it to you. If it means he'll miss time with Teslet, give you dates that he is requesting you keep Teslet, give dates he would like for "make up" dates, actually work with you on those, actually follow through, and actually pay you as he earns the money.

But, of course, we know that it's not about ACTUALLY doing anything.... just trying to convince everyone his fairy tale world is great -the one where he thinks of all these wondrous ways to take care of things, and that's good enough, without him actually having to follow through on anything.

Is it possible for someone to LITERALLY have sh!t for brains? If so, ding, ding, ding, I think we have a winner!

[This message edited by osxgirl at 5:47 PM, May 16th (Friday)]


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, May 16th (Friday)

Just FOLLOW the f'n SCHEDULE, you DUMBASS!!!!!
O!M!G!

Do you just automatically register *annoyance* when you see that he's sent you a text or email because you just KNOW it is gonna be some type of bullshit?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, May 16th (Friday)

So his next excuse for not seeing Teslet will be because he was working and it's all your fault for not caving into his demands. Or he won't take the job because you won't cave into his demands. So it will also be your fault when he doesn't pay what he owes you. So then he ends up in jail. Either way it's going to be your fault.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, May 16th (Friday)


You have sooo much restraint to not go off on him.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 6:59 PM, May 16th (Friday)

What disturbs me is that his proposal will totally fly in family court. The judge will see this and, because they never seem to f-ing take into consideration proven past behavior, will only see a hard-working family man who just wants to pay his ex-wife the support she deserves, and who wants only to spend as much time as possible to be with his beloved son.

So all effort will be made to accommodate this moron who sluffs off his son to his stripper ho-bag while he sleeps off his latest bender.

Tesla, I think your ex-shat is made of Teflon. Nothing's going to stick. No consequences at all, ever.


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Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, May 16th (Friday)

And we can all get what we need?

This isn't even a question.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, May 16th (Friday)

NG - I just refuse to believe that. There has to be justice somewhere. The system cannot force me to *not* follow the rules *they* set up.
The guidelines say he can elect his summer visitation by 1 April. If he does not, then I elect it and inform him verbally and in writing. I did both and then proceeded to plan my summer and the time I have Teslet.

It is completely unreasonable, 20 days before Teslet is to go over for his summer visitation to expect me to 'juggle' visitation on the bullshit promise that he is going to make good on the $11,000 he owes me. Fuck that.

He knows what he is looking at. He's looking at the loss of control. Maybe he doesn't end up in jail but he does end up with garnishments, having to produce tax returns and/or W2s yearly. He doesn't want it to come out that he lost that job because he was drunk on the job. His L has talked to him, asked him about that and ex-shat does NOT want that out. So he tries to 'make me a deal.' Fuck him. He either produces his financials like I did AND he drops the idea that he gets to claim unemployment to reduce CS, he agrees to a garnishment that appropriately pays me back+his regularly ordered support amount, and whatever else needs to be done to ensure that this fucker meets his financial obligations to his child.

I have not withheld visitation. I have not alienated Teslet from him. I have not been underhanded or shitty in any way. I have gone to pick up my child EVERY time from visitation and never acted as a coward, sending another in my place.

Fuck him and his 'hard working family man bullshit.' That is where he will hang. Some family man that gets drunk on the job...in a job where he could have easily killed innocents. Some family man that sits on his ass for months collecting his pay while suspended. That marries his stripper whore because he needs the tax write off. That tests positive for whatever and gets kicked out of the company rehab program and is subsequently fired. Some fucking family man that loses his wife's and children's health insurance. AND DOES NOTHING.

And then from the end of January to the middle of April DOES NOTHING to seek a new job. He doesn't sign the union books to be eligible for contracting jobs until the middle of April. He had a job working 6 12s near the house but he quit it last week because he was going to take a job that worked 4 10s. He was going to do that so he could maximize his time with Teslet this summer. But now it's something else because he's realized that he's fucked.

No, there is too much here that must show a court that he is a piece of shit. For god's sake, he's in contempt already. AND HE's DONE NOTHING BUT SEND ME PRETTY TEXTS. Fuck. That. Guy.

My pound of flesh is coming and I will fry it in that Teflon pan and feed it to my dog.
Fuck him.
And that, gonna, is how I feel every time I see his name pop up on my phone.


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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, May 16th (Friday)

To be honest, I'm pretty surprised. I figured Stripper Whore would be the one who had to take a job in XXX.

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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, May 16th (Friday)

I want you to be right.


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3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, May 16th (Friday)

I want you to be right too Tesla.

The way I see this is he may get away with it again and maybe again another time but not with your permission. He'll do it for as long as he can. Then he won't be able to and they'll throw the book at him. Fuck I hope that's how it happens.

Are you going to respond or crickets? I would be tempted to copy and paste all of the other times he promised the same thing and end it with 0 from 12.

Do you think he was sacked for booze or was he high?

How much has it cost you to pursue this? Can you get costs?

Fucking arse cheese motherfucker.


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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, May 16th (Friday)

Un. be. fucking. lievable. Can you figure out how he is still walking upright and breathing on his own? Nothing like going for the Hail Mary when you're down 120 to 0. Just get off the field and go do the locker room interview dude. You've been traded to the Detroit Lions and you'll never get a chance at the Super Bowl of life again. Accept this!


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, May 16th (Friday)

Um...IrishLass, I'm a Detroit Lions fan.

He already owes my L costs from the first go round. He will owe again for this.

If I make it to morning, he'll get crickets. But I'm pretty close to losing it on him. I have sooooooooooo many responses.

I think crickets are going to win out. Honestly, if he wants to offer a proposal...he can do it through his lawyer. He doesn't even really offer anything. I'm not interested in his crazy ass ideas. (God, that reminds me...he had all these crazy, weird ideas when we were married. He was convinced they were brilliant and I was always like, "What the hell? Am I just that obtuse that I don't see the brilliance of this?") I'm interested in the nitty gritty details and actions...I like actions.

If he's stupid enough to text me another proposal or to ask if I've thought about this one, I will almost certainly respond, "Oh, you're being serious. I thought you were drunk when you sent that."


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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, May 16th (Friday)

I apologize to all the Detroit Lions fans but hey lets face it. I figured it was a good analogy


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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, May 16th (Friday)

IrishLass, I'm just glad you didn't reference the Cubs. And, Tesla, what the ever-livin' fuck? Maybe if he does go to jail, Stripper Whore will give you Mosely back.


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And it must follow, as the night the day,
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, May 17th (Saturday)

 
I will almost certainly respond, "Oh, you're being serious. I thought you were drunk when you sent that."

Glad I wasn't drinking anything when I read that. I hate when it comes out my nose!

You're right, this "proposal" should go through the L since you both are represented now. Nothing like a last minute grandstand.

If Bbee is right, I just wonder if Mosely would need months of retraining coming back after all this time with them..... but maybe he's too smart for them and is just biding his time and taking in all their stupidity, just shaking his head. Poor Mosely.


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Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, May 17th (Saturday)

There is a job in XXX [2.5 hours away] working 7 12s plus per diem. 4 to 6 weeks of it would be enough to get current and to pay you what you're owed.
Am I reading this right? He says he is going to work 7 days a week, 12 hour shifts, for 4-6 weeks. Plus per diem on top of that? This kind of work schedule just doesn't seem possible.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, May 17th (Saturday)

Sparky, this is possible in his trade...but, it's subject to rainouts. This was the type of work he was doing when we were first married. It's blood money...and now he's 10 years older. Even back when he was working those shifts, he couldn't handle three weeks of it before he needed time off and was looking for the next gig.

It's wishful thinking on his part. He can't pay me back the full amount and support his other family. Not. Possible.

He can't do contracting jobs and see Teslet without me being flexible on arranging visitation time. If he wants flexibility in visitation, then he has to mediate a new visitation agreement.

Yet once again, he tries to maintain control and dictate the terms. BTDT. And so over it.


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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, May 17th (Saturday)

*****He can't pay me back the full amount and support his other family. Not. Possible.*****

I was wondering about ^^this also. Seems that he's forgotten to take his own daily/necessary expenses into account.

I don't really understand what type of *flexibility* he's looking for here -- it doesn't sound like he'll be able to see Teslet for 4-6 weeks (while he's on this job)........so is he looking for some big block of *make-up* time when he's finished?
He is way too much of a flake for you to agree to that type of arrangement. He'll end up getting exactly what *he* wants, and you'll get screwed.

Btw....have you sent him a response?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, May 17th (Saturday)

Teslet is supposed to spend the month of June with his dad....so yeah, not sure what he thinks is supposed to happen, he wants July instead? He wants to break up his four weeks and take them as he pleases throughout the rest of the summer...rest of the year? None of it makes sense.

So, in the absence of this being an actual proposal that one could respond to...he got crickets.

He's not in a position to negotiate with me. I don't *need* CS to make it. (But it sure as shit will be nice when that money comes in.) And I know that eventually I'll get the money. He can take me to mediation to change the visitation arrangement but he doesn't want to do that because he'll have to follow another person's judgment and rules. He hates that shit so I know he won't do that either.

Crickets is going to drive him fucking crazy because he needs to make a decision about this supposed job...my guess is that he would start on Monday. He could get 2-3 weeks in before his summer visitation starts...so he has an opportunity to show some action. I'm not holding my breath.


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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, May 17th (Saturday)

t/j

That first pic was HI-LARIOUS NG. Actually laughed my ass off.

And yeah, don't diss my Cubbies! My folks are on vacation and at a game at Wrigley today

end t/j

I'll tell ya Tesla, NG scared the shit out of me with her advice about the legal system. I felt SOOOOO lucky with the judge I got. It meant everything to me that he understood and that FTFred was FINALLY getting some consequences.

Being f'd over by the legal system makes it all suck so much harder..

FTFred is behind over $12,000 in child support, having never paid me as he was supposed to be doing voluntarily, even after I TOLD that motherfucker in DECEMBER 2012 what it was going to be by using the online calculator. I guess he didn't believe me that the retroactive was gonna bite him in the ass.

And I was exactly right on the amount, and now he's being garnished with an extra $100 every month for the next million years to pay off his debt.

It's not ideal, but at least it's some justice. I think if they win the lottery they pay us before him. A girl can dream...

Don't give up the fight, and don't let him dick you around. The judge saw that I was "reasonble" and "understanding" with schedule changes, but not at the cost of him being a flake. The judge actually chewed out my ex for trying to mess around with it so much and prevent a consistent schedule for them..

I don't answer scheduling requests from FTFred unless he gives me the exact day, pickup time and return time. Not sure why that's so hard for an NPD..

If he's not specific, state guidelines.

[This message edited by ButterflyGirl at 2:39 PM, May 17th (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, May 17th (Saturday)

I might respond with

"working 2.5 hours away 7 days a week during the scheduled month of June, I understand that you are forfeiting your parenting time. There is no "juggling" the schedule as my plans are set."

Quality time??? OH....my. what a jackass. Does he even know what that is????

I might also be tempted to copy and paste the definition of SCHEDULE from Websters Dictionary for him. And RESPONSIBILITY. sheesh. And QUALITY. ah, hell, just send him a damn dictionary.


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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, May 17th (Saturday)

t/j
To be honest, I'm pretty surprised. I figured Stripper Whore would be the one who had to take a job in XXX.
h0peless - you made me do a spit take.

end t/j


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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, May 17th (Saturday)

I might also be tempted to copy and paste the definition of SCHEDULE from Websters Dictionary for him. And RESPONSIBILITY. sheesh. And QUALITY. ah, hell, just send him a damn dictionary.


Great idea, except NPD's seem to have their own dictionary


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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, May 17th (Saturday)

t/j. Even after almost 3 years since the divorce I sometimes fantasize about how wonderful his life is without me until I read some bs like this.

His life sucks!!! He is so fucked up that he can't control himself enough to go to work sober. He has two children that he is having a hard time supporting. He is trying to dodge a jail sentence at every turn. Stripperwhore has to do ALL of the heavy lifting in the relationship, because he's asleep all the time. Then when he wakes up she has to service him.

I wonder if they use little Teslet as a makeshift "step-mom" little helper with the oc because I refuse to believe that there is "quality" time being had.

I agree with Crickets.


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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, May 17th (Saturday)

Tesla, do you make a bowl of popcorn when you see an email from nasty azzclown?


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

Holy Fuck. He sent this text overnight:


Unless we change our summer visitation schedule Teslet will be camping with me in XXX beginning memorial day week for approximately 2 maybe 3 weeks. I would like my second week scheduled visit to be the first week of September.
Next year, I will take Teslet in July.

What in the ever loving fuck is wrong with this piece of shit? Teslet is still in school for the 2 weeks after memorial day! He's in school the first week of September...how is the first week of September the second week of visitation??? Why do I keep trying to make sense the ravings of a madman?

Ex-shat??...yoo-hoo?!...Anybody with a functioning brain over there??? You don't get to decide!!! You had your chance. Work your life around it, you piece of shit. Stop trying to shove Teslet into your bullshit. This fucker can expect a couple of responses, one from me and one from my lawyer.
Fuck. That. Guy.


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Default  Posted: 6:19 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

Next year, I will take Teslet in July.

Hey, at least he finally gave some notice for something.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:37 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

^^I know, right.


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Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

^^are you taking bets about if he'll lock down dates before the deadline?

Breathe mamma. Just breathe. Whether he is being obtuse on purpose or is just dumber than a bag of rocks he'll just have to learn to play ball.

I know it is maddening but you need to try to give it another ought. Let him pay his L to interpret the guidelines for him.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

I sent this, because I am not chasing down my kid in a town 2.5 hours away because this moron can't figure shit out.

As clarification, the Memorial Day weekend visitation begins Friday, 23 May at 6:00 pm and ends Monday, 26 May at 7:00 pm. I will plan on picking Teslet up at 7:00 pm on the 26th at your residence in YYY.
Pertaining to the summer visitation schedule: it was delivered to you according to the guideline's stipulations and this is what we will follow this summer. Should you have any further questions regarding this schedule, please refer them to your lawyer.
In the future (unless it is an emergency), please do not text me during the hours of 10:00 pm - 6:00 am.

His texts are on silent, but he doesn't know that and I'm tired of him sending me these crazy ass texts during hours that I am sleeping. (Every crazy ass text comes overnight.)

Shit. I can't believe I have 14 more years of this.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 8:47 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

His texts are on silent, but he doesn''t know that and I''m tired of him sending me these crazy ass texts during hours that I am sleeping. (Every crazy ass text comes overnight.)

Probably when stripperwhore is asleep and he''s drunk, watching porn & feeling frustrated...so it''s time to text Tesla, of course


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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

Hmmm, I think he may need some remedial math classes. Oh and a calendar class, definitely a calendar class. He may also need to have his ass handed to him. Cresus jist, just stop before you lose what few brain cells you have left.


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"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1801 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

I just have no words for this level of idiocy.

Does he not comprehend a school calendar?? Oh, wait- that's right... He lives in his own world where schedules are made on the fly.

Tesla, do you really think he is going to go camping out for 2 (or possibly 3) weeks with a baby and Teslet? I'd be really pissed about him arbitrarily making visitation demands too. That's not how this works!

I know this kind of contact is crazy making. I always remind myself that the rantings don't really mean shit, so then I relax and stop worrying.

Don't give this lunatic the head space.


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even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

Dayum.
Epic mantrum in
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Okay then. As you are determined to never grow up, we will stick to the guidelines. From now on, don't ask my wife anything as you are not entitled to know. If she picks up Teslet it is at my behest and that's all you need to know. It doesn't upset you that I'm not picking him up, it upsets you that Teslet loves stripper whore so much. So stop taking your shit out on everyone else.

Wow. This guy is losing it. But hey, whatever you have to tell stripper whore to keep her doing your bidding is just fine by me. Now, I actually have zero problem with her picking Teslet up. What bothers me is that I tell Teslet one thing and something else happens. My son does not like uncertainty. He acts out when shit starts not happening as he expects it. But I get it, I'll just have to start telling Teslet that I don't know who is picking him up.
But here is the really important thing...what if he is out of town and she's picking him up for afternoon visits/future weekend visits and he never even sees his dad? That's an issue. It seems from the last two pick-ups that he may be setting this very situation up.

Ex-shat will take his travel trailer out to these jobs. It sounds like his plan is to have stripper whore, baby, and Teslet in travel trailer while he works these 12 hour shifts. Again, I don't have a problem with this...it's life/his parenting time...he has to work. But why does it have to be the weeks he specifies and not in June...I don't see the difference. Would this be considered a change of residence? Or is Teslet on 'vacation' with ex-shat? The waters get muddied and ex-shat starts pulling shit in muddy waters.
Meh.
ANyway, crickets to him and I need to get some clarification on these things from my lawyer.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4745 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 10:28 AM, May 18th (Sunday)

Where's Biff when you need him?

Hello? Hello? Anyone home, huh? Think, EX-SHAT! Think!

But I think I found how ex-shat and StripperWhore met...

[Ex-Shat comes to StripperWhore at the local diner]
Ex-Shat: StripperWhore. My density has brought me to you.
StripperWhore: [non-plussed] What?
Ex-Shat: [trying to utter line written on notebook without being caught] Oh. What I meant to say was...
StripperWhore: Wait a minute. Don't I know you from somewhere?
Ex-Shat: Yes. Yes. I'm Ex-Shat. Ex-Shat McFuckTard. I'm your density. I mean, your destiny.

But seriously girl, he just tried to bait you, and you thought about defending yourself FOR NO FUCKING REASON. Yes, sit on it for a while.

You were perfectly unemotionally talking about the schedule, and he wants to throw in some ridiculous jabs to get you upset. Like you still give a fuck what he's doing. Unless, like you said, whatever it is is NOT with Teslet. What an egotistical ass..


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, May 18th (Sunday)

(((tesla)))

If we are keeping score, Ex-shat is now in need of a dictionary, a remedial math class and a calendar. And a filter because what comes out of his mouth is full of shit.

I can't believe how fucking stupid he is, except that I can.

In my opinion, the travel trailer in a new location for the duration he describes is a change in residence. It may be a temporary residence, but in no way is it a vacation.

I hope your L has some solution? Is there a solution that is legal, because of course, the removal of ex-shat from the planet would be a solution, but I doubt NASA would accept him for the Mars trip.


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, May 18th (Sunday)

These guys are so ridiculously immature and stupid that it is really too much to fathom.
Stbx pulls this type of *drama* shit too. It looks like this (and is also how I've read ex-shat's messages to you):

Stbx *wants* something. Sends a communication in a fairly 'reasonable' tone and paints it as a *good* thing for both of us.
I point out all of the holes in his *solution*.
He throws a mantrum.
Comms are then 'shut down' and L's are called.
(then stbx bitches about our legal bills )

I always end up thinking: "*he* is the one who 'wants' <something>, then prefers to have an argument instead of a discussion (because I don't just automatically say 'yes, dear, whatever you say)....and then becomes insulting and offensive towards me. GREAT PLAN!! Way to ensure that you do NOT get me to agree to whatever 'favor' you're asking me for, stbx......


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, May 18th (Sunday)

Is unicornrainbowfartland full of LSD skittles? I have to say I am so impressed with your ability to stay reasonably calm and not shoot with both barrels. I am so sorry that he is so far offside he can't even see the playing field.


Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1801 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
dmari
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, May 18th (Sunday)

Shit. I can't believe I have 14 more years of this.

Oh tesla ~ I can not even imagine dealing with this type of drama for that long. I am so grateful my kids were much older when stbx left.

As far as his mantrum, that was epic pathetic. LOL! What a idiot.

Hang in there, tesla!! You know you can handle it but it must get tiring after a while. (((((tesla)))))


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, May 18th (Sunday)

He's scraping the bottom of the barrel.

Grow up??

Priceless!!

He's looking for some arse cheese to go with his whine. Dude needs to learn not to drunk dial.

Camping means something different to me. If he's working the whole time then that's just slumming it, not camping.

I hate him for making me feel grateful for the sad clown. At least he can read most of the time.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, May 18th (Sunday)

IRL I'm so pragmatic and laid back. Somewhere in an alternate universe, altex-shat and altTesla are great co-parents and when altTesla sends altex-shat a text saying his son is disappointed when he doesn't personally pick his son up, he would make that about his son. Not about how altTesla is vindictive and hateful and childish and probably wants him back so she's trashing altstripper-whore.

Sigh.
Maybe in another year I'll get used to this. Maybe in another year, he'll figure out that life is easier when he just plays by the rules.

Good news, I'm not personally insulted by his bullshit anymore. I guess that's progress.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4745 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, May 18th (Sunday)

Maybe in another year, he'll figure out that life is easier when he just plays by the rules


Good freakin' luck with that.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8188 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
peridot
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Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, May 19th (Monday)

Good freakin' luck with that.....

Yeah


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It is what it is.


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, May 19th (Monday)

Ok so it really isn't 14 years, it's more like 12 cause when Teslet is big enough to drive, and have a job, he will want to do anything but deal with this idiot. You will have done such an awesome job raising him to be pragmatic and a realist, and he will start seeing through his dads and Stripperwhores alternate reality probably by the time he is 10.

My FIL is a weirdo, and he does all kids of crazy shit that falls into the wtf category, and my kids with a very limited amount of exposure to him, holidays, and birthdays only, picked up on it before they were 8. Asking the questions of How come Gpa does X, Y and Z? And me being a realist, and my H being a realist who is no nonsense would tell them that Grandpa is just different, and makes unusual choices.

So Yah, they spent the night with them one time. That's it. Why? Because they prefer to just not be around him. Now my MIL? They would freaking move in with her if I let them. LOL.

My point being that Exshat will ruin this for himself, and it will be well before Tesla is 18.

Deep breaths, and know that you are doing the right things.

(((and strength))))


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