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nowiknow23
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Cool  Posted: 12:06 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I'm in a rut, people. An honest to goodness chin-deep rut. Feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, blue, and sluggish. The weather isn't helping, but this goes deeper than a seasonal thing. I've gotten my self stuck in a place where I'm doing the bare minimum and not caring for myself OR any of my business as I should be. And this weekend I realized that I'm sick of it. Time to kick my own ass!

Spring cleaning is underway!

So I polished up three cornerstones of self-care over the weekend:
- Back to daily exercising
- Back to being mindful of what I'm eating
- Back to a regular sleep schedule

And then I made a list of all the obligatory crap I've been avoiding - housekeeping tasks, scheduling doctor's appointments, nagging work-related stuff, tax and financial paperwork, recycling, etc. I'm forcing myself to check at least one item off the "albatross" list each day. It's such a relief when I do even one small thing and see the list shrink a bit.

Anyone want to join me? We can cheer each other on.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Oh, I so need this, Empress... I've been in the same rut. (Obviously, if I'm contemplating an out-of-state move. )

We can kick each other!


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I'm in!

- Tidy up/Keep up my e-mails
- Daily exercise
- Catch up/Organize finances
- Quit diet soda!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Good for you Nik! You are an inspiration!
Let's see:

Eat healthy even if it means giving up spaghetti for breakfast

Clean up piles of paperwork

Clean out closet


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Go Everyone!!!!!


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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, February 24th (Monday)

NIK I am sooo with you in that chin-deep rut.
H was unemployed for a year and a half and I was basically in survival mode.
Thankfully he's working now, but I'm still stuck in the same mental spot and a never-ending fear cycle of what if scenarios.

I have seriously let go of a lot of things I enjoy and I need to take myself to task and get a handle on things before I end up on meds.

So....for my personal spring cleaning:
-Back to eating healthy
-Back to exercising regularly (5-6x each week)
-Get my house in order (literally...I need to do household spring cleaning)
-Let go of H's issues. He's an adult and needs to handle his own challenges. I am not his mother, nor do I wish to be his keeper.


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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, February 24th (Monday)

You just inspired me to call my doc and make an appt for a long overdue physical. Thank you.

I moved a year ago and had not found a new dentist or eye doctor, and I finally buckle down and do those two things in February, but the regular doc was the last holdout. Thanks for the nudge!!!


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I need to do this too. Thanks, NIK!

I could be doing so much more with my time and get lots of things accomplished. I have many goals, but I'm not on track to complete any of my goals. I'll need some time to formulate a plan, but seeing others taking charge of their own lives definitely motivates me to take more charge of my life!!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, February 24th (Monday)

You guys! You have no idea how much comfort I draw from the fact that I'm not alone. NOT that I'm happy you're all in the same place.

Yay us!!!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, February 24th (Monday)

May I join?
I have been in such a rut, it is not funny.

I started the list in January, did great for a week...
Now I feel too guilty to look at the list again. Shameful


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, February 24th (Monday)

No. Shame. Allowed. We get a fresh slate each and every day and we celebrate every victory, regardless of size.

Today I cleaned out my fridge. Woot!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Oh my goodness empress, how is it that you always put these support threads together when I need it? You helped me get my house ready to sell two years ago, and now I've been in a rut too - doing the bare minimum for the most part, outside of work.

I just got started this weekend so could not be better timing! I've been to the gym 3x since Friday, not hard workouts yet but it's a start.

Next is a list of what I need to take care of...

GREAT thread!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, February 24th (Monday)

persevere - we do seem to be in lockstep frequently. Thanks for the company.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, February 24th (Monday)

This is a great thread! I was inspired to clean out my closet!

Good luck! You can do it!


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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, February 24th (Monday)

I need to clean the fridge. Thanks for the inspiration.


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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Thank you Nik! Have dug out my list, am peeking at it I did do yoga this morning and am setting my alarm to get up before work and do it again.

Thanks for this thread!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Look at you guys go! Awesome.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Okay I'm not in bed yet - not quite on the wagon yet....but it's a goal. I did go to the gym tonight and did a few productive things at home.

List will be made tomorrow...promise!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, February 24th (Monday)

Must be something in the air....dare I say 'Spring'? I cleaned out some stuff from the fridge AND the pantry! I also took a stab at reconciling the joint account checkbook, it's a mess. MINE I'm happy to say is just fine!

Definitely good timing Nik!


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Default  Posted: 4:18 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I am so with you on this one. Realised a couple of weeks ago I was in survival mode just trying to make it to the next day. Still in overhaul mode though it's going to take a lot to get through this extremely busy time in my life right now.


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Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I would love to join in but I can't just yet. Not until June. Lots on my list to be done..........looks like a busy summer for me!

ETA: I have started exercising. Just walking, but going just about every day for an hour or more!

[This message edited by thebighurt at 6:34 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)]


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I have started exercising. Just walking, but going just about every day for an hour or more!
See? You already started!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I don't feel like I can make changes all at once, so I am going to work on the hardest one for me: exercise. Something every day, even if it's just walking,

And I will try to cut back on the amount of sugar I've been ingesting, but once the girl scout cookie season is over that shouldn't be too hard. I hope.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Yay, Harriet!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

This is a great thread and feels really motivating.

I would like to join. I have a lot things that I keep putting off. I haven't even done a list yet, which might be a good first step.

Here is the start of my list:

- Clean out boxes in closets (stuff from the house when I moved that triggers me)
- Clean closets of old clothes
- Organize closets
- Organize kitchen cabinets and drawers
- Follow-up on the non-D legal cases against the ex
- Call my HMO to switch groups
- Do online traffic school (got a ticket for using wearing both earbuds on my "hands free" device while driving)
- Open a PO Box (per the judge, I have to give the court an address and don't want the ex to know where I work or live)

I'm sure there's a lot more, but that's all I can think of for now. I think I'm being passive aggressive about some of it.

Thanks for starting this thread. It will be nice to get a handle on these pesky life details.


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I recommend arranging a clothing swap with friends for the clean out closets task...there are two giant bags of stuff I'm having my friends dig through this weekend!


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

I walked for 3 days in a row!

Not a long time but it is a start.

Now the budget!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:55 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

nora - A clothing swap is a great idea. It doesn't work for me and my friends (we're all so differently built) but it does work for our kids' clothes, sports equipment, etc.

WTG fireproof!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Thank you again for the inspiration and this thread!

I knocked out most of my list after I typed it (except for going through those boxes in the closet, which may never happen).

I had no idea how much that stuff was weighing me down. Thanks!


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Holy crap, Rainbows - that's one heck of a productive day!

Yay you!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)

Yeah, NIK, I've started walking, but can't do anything to be productive from here. I started a bit before leaving; enough to feel good about having done it and also enough to make me ask myself why it took so long and so much effort to get it going.

Thanks for the nudge. I need to stay motivated until June, though. I could use a reminder then.

p.s. I've lost 7 or 8 lbs since walking and eating better.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)

That's fantastic, tbh! Now where are my walking shoes?!

[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 7:18 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)]


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Rainbows
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)

Thanks, NIK!

I was surprised when I came back here and looked at my list. As I finished one thing, I told myself to do just one more thing. It kind of developed it's own momentum.

How is your list coming along?


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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)

I spent an hour cleaning out my primary e-mail box yesterday. I put things in properly titled folders and deleted tons of useless e-mails. I'm about 2/3 of the way done with that one.

Yoga yesterday. Swimming this morning. Tea instead of soda. I love this thread!


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, February 26th (Wednesday)

How is your list coming along?
I'm knocking a couple of things off of it each day. And adding to it, too.

So far today I've killed a couple of work-related items. Yay!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)

I'm in:

--Less sugar intake: I've been at it for two days and already feel better!
--Back into yoga/relaxation and strengthening exercises: I have the DVD and minor workout equipment needed, and now I just need to get to it!
--Finish a project: The easiest one I have is an unfinished scarf, so I want to start there.


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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)

That's fantastic, tbh! Now where are my walking shoes?!

I have quite a bit better walking conditions than you have at the moment! (Also working on my tan.) You may need to wait a while for better - and safer - walking conditions there!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:45 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)

True enough. I almost wiped out on the ice while walking to the mail box today.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, February 26th (Wednesday)

Glad it was only *almost*. Be safe!


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:11 AM, February 28th (Friday)

Ok, fellow cleaners - the weekend is upon us. What's on your list for the next couple of days?

Here's mine -
1. Deal with the recycling.
2. Bag up clothing for consignment shop and Goodwill.
3. Clear out sewing closet and donate what I don't use.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, February 28th (Friday)

Playing too, please. Since my return from vacation last Monday:

- 2 full carloads of donations gathered from 2 rooms and garage and dropped off at Goodwill
- 180-Got Junk scheduled for end of month when renter is finally moving out
- paints and supplies picked up to renovate DD16's room
- furniture ordered at IKEA for delivery next weekend
- furniture picked out and ordered for delivery in April when renter's room has been renovated
- carpet ordered and installation scheduled for renter's former room (she managed to ruin a perfect carpet in just 18 months..)
- repairs scheduled for the deck

A heck of a week :-) Taking a break today and back into the game of sorting, tossing and donating tomorrow.


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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, February 28th (Friday)

I'm making March 1 my hard-line start date for some serious changes.
I've got a written plan of things I'd like to accomplish this weekend. It includes:

1. Yoga - 30 minutes
2. Strength training - 30 minutes
3. Sewing projects for little Sis's Baby-Due-Any-Day
4. Reply to various emails/correspondence
5. Prep my healthy foods for the week to come so I have no excuses as to why I had to hit the vending machine...


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Default  Posted: 5:36 AM, March 5th (Wednesday)

Saw this on a friend's fb and thought of you guys:
http://www.whitehouseblackshutters.com/40-bags-in-40-days-2014/


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, March 5th (Wednesday)

Thanks, Ama! I added that to my facebook. I'm gonna try this 40 bags, 40 days thing.

I paid my bills online today. Does that count for cleaning? I tossed the envelopes and filed the papers in the drawer...

I'm at the stage where I'm overwhelmed with things that I want to do. I need to write down some specific ideas and start crossing things off. I'm not ready to commit to what my plan will be.

Some general ideas:
-clear off my desk & stack of papers next to the TV
-shred the papers sitting on the shredder
-move the cd stand from my bedroom to the living room and re-organize the dvds
-get a better laundry system
-be more productive with work stuff (need to come up with specific ideas for this!)
-exercise (need to commit to a plan!!)
-go through clothes that are taking up space in my closet/drawers
-wedding planning
-save more money

I try to use the Keep, Sell/Donate, Toss/Recycle method whenever I'm going through things. It's just that the things are never-ending. I'm constantly creating piles of papers to go through again later. Mostly kids' school papers and mail. I've got bags/boxes of boy clothes that are too small in the basement. I started going through them, but after I sorted some, I never did anything with the toss/donate boxes. It's all still in the basement.


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 1:05 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)

How's everyone doing with their spring cleaning?

I've made some progress in my checklist, but still working to eliminate it! I moved the TV series dvds from the bedroom to the living room, but I didn't do further organizing that I want to do in the bedroom. I've been going through paper piles, but they never go away!!!


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Default  Posted: 7:07 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)

I'm working my way thru boxes from the storage unit, finding places for everything.

I'm 1/3 of my way thru a 10x10 storage unit.

Maybe accountability here will help.

K


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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)

Yay! Thank you for bringing this back up to page 1, little turtle.

Since I was laid off last week, I've been on a TEAR! Today I took four big boxes of clothes and housewares to Goodwill, and gathered two bags of clothes to take to the consignment shop. I cleaned out my kitchen porch and took a massive amount of cardboard boxes to the recycling center.

I dusted off the patio set and set it up on the back patio, swept the front porch, and loaded the van with a bunch of junk for a landfill run.

Whew!

On the agenda tomorrow - cleaning out the garage and making at least one trip to the landfill. Woo hoo!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)

NIK, you are exhausting me just reading all that you've done!

I have been supremely lazy and need to get my act together. My first order of business is probably getting my closets in good working order. They are essentially just open rooms -- they don't even have bars in them where I can hang clothes!


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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, April 21st (Monday)

Bumping for updates from everyone.

I worked on the garage more this weekend. Ended up with another van load for the landfill, which I dropped off this morning.

It's too rainy to work outside today, so I tackled my closets and kitchen instead. Now I've got a load of stuff ready for the household goods consignment shop - lots of decor items, dishes, pots and pans, a couple of small appliances I never use, a set of bar stools, as well as a metric ton of fabrics, trims, and notions from my brief (and not terribly successful) attempts at apparel sewing and window blind making.

When the weather improves, I'll finish up the garage with another landfill run, and then we should be back to parking both vehicles in the garage.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, April 21st (Monday)

Paperwork and household accounts is my personal nemesis. I now pay everything on-line automatically, e-bills, no paper statements. So much less clutter. SO and I have a white board on the fridge that we re-write every Sunday. These are have to do things like, oil changes, dentists, whatever little nagging personal and household maintenance task that I find so easy to let slip. Seeing it every time I open the fridge sure helps remind me to stay focused on some of this stuff.


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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday)

I really need to clean out my closet. And garage. And attic.


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Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, April 22nd (Tuesday)

Acknowledgment is the first step, inconnu.

Tomorrow I'm spring cleaning my resume. There's a new job posting that is right up my alley, but my resume was last updated in 1996 (the last time I applied for a job). I'm sure nothing much has changed since then though, right?


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, April 27th (Sunday)

My closet is cleaned out, mostly. It still needs some organization (I need to figure out the best way to store shoes and purses) and there's a couple of containers I need to find new homes for.

But I have pulled out all the clutter, gone through most of that, threw away a couple of big bags of crap, sorted papers into shred or recycle boxes, and even ended up with a small pile of clothing to donate.

I can walk to the end of the closet now. Better yet, I could get the vacuum in there to suck up the dust bunnies. Luggage is put away on the shelf where it belongs. All the not put away properly Christmas stuff is in the living room, waiting for me to go into the attic for the plastic bins it really goes in.

All in all, I think I've had a rather productive morning.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

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Like you're less than, less than perfect


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Default  Posted: 12:39 PM, April 27th (Sunday)

Yay!


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, May 5th (Monday)

Post-weekend bump for updates.

I was out of town for much of the weekend, but I did squeeze in a drop off at the clothing consignment store. Almost $200 in my pocket now for clothes and shoes I had hanging around just taking up space.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 6:54 PM, May 5th (Monday)

I managed to make it up into the attic, and tossed down a bunch of stuff to trash. Most of it went out to the curb for pickup today, so it's gone already. I'll get the rest of it out for the next trash pickup day.

Still have a lot of work to do on the garage, but I've made a small dent already there, too.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, May 5th (Monday)

This is a great thread!

For those who need a little extra structure, one of my friends swears by FlyLady:

http://www.flylady.net

FlyLady.net: Your personal online coach to help you gain control of your house and home.
Your free online coach, cheerleader, and fairy-godmother for decluttering and organizing your home and life! Find out how daily reminders can help you clean your house, keep the clutter away, and best of all, bring peace to your home and family!


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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, June 16th (Monday)

Not really making any progress with the cleaning lately. I've been trying to maintain what I have so far. We did manage to clear off the table in the basement. Only to put gifts that I received at my bridal shower on it. It never ends!! At least not as long as I'm living here. I need more organizing tips!!


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Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, June 16th (Monday)

I'm making March 1 my hard-line start date for some serious changes.
I've got a written plan of things I'd like to accomplish this weekend. It includes:
1. Yoga - 30 minutes
2. Strength training - 30 minutes
3. Sewing projects for little Sis's Baby-Due-Any-Day
4. Reply to various emails/correspondence
5. Prep my healthy foods for the week to come so I have no excuses as to why I had to hit the vending machine...

I'm chugging along on my personal spring cleaning.
I'm doing elliptical instead of yoga (my left foot is in a boot again).
The strength training is still hit and miss, but a work in progress.
I finished the sewing projects for my new nephew and baby sis.
Emails are caught up and I do weekly food prep on Sundays for the upcoming week.

Next steps:
1. Strength train CONSISTENTLY.
2. Clear out the clutter in my house. I am a container freak, so if it looks cool or I think I "might be able to use that at some point", I will save it. And of course it never gets used... (ahem)
3. Start playing guitar again.
4. Dust off our kayaks and get back on the rivers/lakes this summer!


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Status - Stick a fork in me...

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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, June 16th (Monday)

an update from me - I got the garage clean enough so there was enough room for SO's stuff when he moved in. We still have most of his boxes out there, though. But SO has been helping me with smaller projects around the house. Piles of "stuff" are being gone through, sorted, trashed, etc.

My Christmas stuff that moved from my closet to my living room has been packed up and put up in the attic.

It's baby steps, but it's continuous baby steps, and some of the stuff I haven't been able to get to due to lack of time and energy is being done now that there's two of us to tackle it. I can see the progress.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, June 16th (Monday)

Yay - it surfaced again! And just in time, I've made real progress.

I am proud to report that we now can park two vehicles in our two-car garage. WOOT!!! This is HUGE. I've been living here almost 2 years, and this is the first time we've been able to do that. Thank you, Goodwill and landfill.

Cleaned out every inch of my bedroom and its two (yes, two) walk-in closets. Purged every drawer and every nook and cranny. All the "fat" clothes and "skinny" clothes are gone. Now it's just clothes that fit. Rearranged the furniture so I can use my dressers as night stands and sold the night stands on Craigslist. More floor space! Less dusting! Woo hoo!

Cleaned and rearranged the dining room to make space for an elliptical that I found at a second-hand sporting goods store for dirt cheap. It's a gorgeous full-featured inclining fancy doodad that was delivered today. The delivery guys (same guys who sold it to me on Saturday) were hilarious. One asked me if I clean as a living. I gave him a WTF look, and he said, "Your house is just immaculate! I love it. And is that rhubarb I smell?" I was amused, so I let him pull some from the side of the garage after they set up the machine. They were so pleased. The elliptical is a key part of my cleaner living goal, and I'm super stoked that it's here.

Next up - DD's closets. If you don't hear from me by tomorrow night, send help.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, June 17th (Tuesday)

Sounds amazing!!

I move soon (ish?), and am looking forward to doing another clothing swap and purging a lot of clothes so that the small closets at my new place don't start out over-burdened. In the meantime I am living in squalor of course


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, June 17th (Tuesday)

Next up - DD's closets. If you don't hear from me by tomorrow night, send help.

May the force be with you. If you get lost follow the light. Or the bubbles? I can't remember which.

I live in a small 2 bedroom apartment with 2 little girls and 2 cats. I've had funks when I've let it all turn to hell and it really impacts my mood.

Nothing feels better than having the visible and hidden spaces neat, tidy, easy to clean and easy to play with.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 1:11 PM, August 24th (Sunday)

Time for fall cleaning?

I went into my garage this morning to find bulbs for my flood lights, and I realized just how out of control it had gotten over the summer thanks to my DS and his friends using it as a hang out and to work on their cars/trucks/motor bikes/etc..

And then I started thinking about how fall is coming, soon to be followed by winter, and how the heck was I going to fit my car inside once it gets cold?!!

Operation Garage is being planned now for execution over Labor Day weekend (because it's too darn hot right now).

How's everyone else doing?


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, August 24th (Sunday)

I worked on my garage a couple of weeks ago and made substantial progress! Still can't quite fit my car in, well I could if I stacked boxes, but I refuse to until I go THROUGH those boxes.

So, next up finish the garage, then tackle the office, then start painting my two extra bedrooms, then replace carpet.

Thanks nik!!!


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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, August 24th (Sunday)

I'm exhausted from reading this.

You have inspired me to run the vacuum today. Will book the carpet cleaners for mid-September, and that will entail a tidy-up to get everything off the floor.


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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, August 24th (Sunday)

I wish I had a garage to put stuff in!!! We've been making progress with the basement though. We took back all of the pop cans and I've decided that I'm going to purchase a metal rack shelf the next time I see one on sale and that's going to go where the cans where. It will be great for storage!

I'm hoping to go through all of our food storage containers and get rid of some/most. We got new ones recently, but I'm not opening up that box until we have room in the cupboards!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, August 25th (Monday)

I am ready to take some books and clothes to be re-sold soon post-move...and made muffins, pasta, a blt and cold-brewed iced coffee yesterday! Feeling optimistic about keeping the new place ship-shape (pretty much totally unpacked). Still have to find where to store some odds and ends but having roommates soon will light the fire on that one :)


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Default  Posted: 4:28 PM, August 26th (Tuesday)

Well done, nora!

Got word that my landlord is coming for a walk-through on Friday to check some plaster repair work in my DS' closet. Time to light a fire under the boy to clean out the closet.


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"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, August 31st (Sunday)

Check out Crescita's thread in Off Topic... 30 day de-clutter challenge!!

http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=540062

Today, I went through more papers in my stack of kids' school papers. It's nearly gone! I plan to have it finished within a week or so.

I also went through 2 boxes that the kids filled with toys to donate. I pulled a few things out that I'd like to keep for future kids... but then I added more toys from another box. As well as some broken toys that went into the trash.

Earlier today, I purchased a metal 4 shelf rack with caster wheels off ebay. Once that comes, we will set it up in the basement and fill it with boxes/storage bins. Hopefully, that will give more space in the basement.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, September 1st (Monday)

Got the house in primo shape, top to bottom and in every nook and closet, just in time for the landlord's walk through on Friday. She noted that I had not only fixed a faulty screen door, but had also done several routine maintenance tasks that had been on her list. She was impressed enough that she decided not to charge me the overage (several hundred dollars) that we ran up on the annual propane budget over last winter.

Biggest pay off? My house is spotless and organized. At least for the moment.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, September 1st (Monday)

Nik, you are my hero!
My idol!
Please send some of that energy out to your SI friends.


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, September 1st (Monday)

One thing that helps me is that every time I consider buying something, I think about having to move it every time I move, which has historically been every 1-2 years...


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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, September 2nd (Tuesday)

I am starting this process. I just want to walk out nad leave it all behind. I have stated packing up the few thing I think I want to keep but know when I actually move I will more than likely get rid of more stuff. 28 years worth of crap is a lot to go through and parts of it is depressing and then it just sits.

thanks for the motivation!!


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