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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

I must remind everyone that karma has kicked xpoopsmears ass. He was court ordered a few months ago to pay me thousands of dollars he owes me and the other woman/wife has now up and left him for another man.

Fast forward to today. DD15 is at her dads until tomorrow morning. I had to text text xpoopsmear today to let him know about a dental bill for DS17. He texted me back something benign and lets me know he will be bringing back DD15 tomorrow.

Then I get a picture text about an hour ago. The message says that he and DD15 have been making cookies and cupcakes and one of them is special for me and can I guess which one?

The picture is a pan with about a dozen cupcakes on it with various decorations and one is decorated with our anniversary month and date. (Like this: 5/15)What the fuck? What the actual fuck? What am I supposed to say to this?

What I have done is crickets. What I feel like to send is this "dear X💩smear, it's obvious that your wife has left you and now you are lonely and counting on me to be your soft place to land after nine years. Nine years. Nine freaking years?! Sorry dude... I do not live in unicorn skittle fart land. I have not remained single because I'm waiting on your sorry ass to come back. Go fuck yourself.

[This message edited by debbysbaby at 2:33 PM, December 23rd (Monday)]


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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PhoenixRisen
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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

W.
T.
F.

?
?


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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

and. wait...

What an idiot!!!


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 2:44 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Genuinely bughouse nuts!

However, that was cruel to do to DD. It is almost every child of divorces dream that Mom and Dad can get back together. What an asshole.


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Twitchy
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

That reply sounds good. Send it.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Tis the season (to suffer a blow to the head, apparently).


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momentintime
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

My answering text would be.....Which one is for me????


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painfulpast
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Default  Posted: 2:57 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Jesus. WTF?

I'd pick a different cupcake and say "Ooooh, I hope it's the one with (pick one) on it! That one looks great!"

And be done with it and his idiotic games.


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Thefly559
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Crickets are best!!!! then throw yourself a big party with your favorite music and wine because after 9 long hard years that karma bus hit. For some it takes longer , for some never. yours hit so rejoice and gloat and feel good,because f--k him and his stupid cupcake. what I would do right now is to give the attention he wants from you to another. just my opinion , all the best


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KatyaCA
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Default  Posted: 3:19 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Wait until he brings it to you and then ask your DD to get something in another room. Take the cupcake and throw it in the trash before asking him to leave.

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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

I'm sorry but 9 years is long enough to hand him the cupcake back and say exactly what you typed.

I have not remained single because I'm waiting on your sorry ass to come back. Go fuck yourself.

But crickets probably is best.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Better yet, wait until DD leaves the room, throw it in his face and tell him to leave. I would be saying something to him about not sending messages like that to your DD with stupid stunts like that.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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prowoman
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

W T F !
dude, pathetic!
I have not remained single because I'm waiting on your sorry ass to come back. Go fuck yourself.

I personally loved your would have been response!
My answering text would be.....Which one is for me????

momentintime had me chuckling too


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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 4:50 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

You guys are awesome! Makes me feel better already. I hate that he is doing this to DD too though. She is 15 years old so I can be more frank with her but on some level if he tries to make it sound like he's trying to be available to me and I don't want him therefore I'm the bad guy then I will absolutely freak out on him.

I would also like to say to him, "dude, don't take a day that should have been special and turn it into a tool to manipulate me and my emotions so that you can score a booty call. You spoiled that day for me so don't you dare try to use it for your purposes now."

It's also creepy that he is even acting like this towards me when I have shown him how I feel about him lately. The way I dealt out the facts in court and used information I had to make him pay should have made him really want to avoid me. I'm beginning to think that only now does he respect me in his own fucked up way.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

I think you should text back a "special order" with the date of Dday, or better yet, your divorce date. :)

Unfortunately for me, my wedding day and divorce day are the same... But hoping yours are different! What a Dooosh.

[This message edited by PurpleRose at 6:01 PM, December 23rd (Monday)]


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careerlady
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

OMG. WTF. LOL. ROFLMAO. Seriously? Way too much eggnog or something!

I think the best response is "which one is for me?" And maybe reference a different one. Because that date doesn''''t even REGISTER for you anymore. What a dooshbag. What is wrong with these people? Sheesh!!!

[This message edited by careerlady at 8:21 PM, December 23rd, 2013 (Monday)]


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 6:44 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Holy wackadoo insanity, Batman!

Could he be more ridiculous?


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IrishLass518
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Really? He really did that? So here's what I am thinking, OW just left him and he has a huge judgment against him to pay you. So, if he "romances" you, then he not only gets a soft place to land, he doesn't have to pay you. Yeah, that's gonna happen


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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, December 23rd (Monday)

Really? He really did that? So here's what I am thinking, OW just left him and he has a huge judgment against him to pay you. So, if he "romances" you, then he not only gets a soft place to land, he doesn't have to pay you. Yeah, that's gonna happen

Irishlass, I think you might have nailed it. It certainly has probably crossed his mind.


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:21 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Nine years. NINE?

Kill me now. Seriously. Yuck.

I have not remained single because I'm waiting on your sorry ass to come back. Go fuck yourself.


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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 12:39 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

What a fucking fucktard. Wow.


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OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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I think I can
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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Text him a pic of a cookie with numbers of the amount he owes you on it. (A big cookie, obviously.)


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Threnody
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Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

I Think I Can just won at SI.


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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 7:59 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Text him a pic of a cookie with numbers of the amount he owes you on it. (A big cookie, obviously.)


Oh my God I so wish I had the nerve to actually do this.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 8:01 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Text him a pic of a cookie with numbers of the amount he owes you on it. (A big cookie, obviously.)


Oh my God I so wish I had the nerve to actually do this.


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

^^^^


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Text him a pic of a cookie with numbers of the amount he owes you on it. (A big cookie, obviously.)

Love.It!!!!!


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sparkysable
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Text him a pic of a cookie with numbers of the amount he owes you on it. (A big cookie, obviously.)

Oh can you imagine?

5 cupcakes, lined up like this $ X X X X

(the X's represent the dollar amount he owes you).

OMG I would so do that!


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trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, December 24th (Tuesday)

Oh PLEASE do this-and post the pic here


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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)

5 cupcakes, lined up like this $ X X X X

(the X's represent the dollar amount he owes you).

OMG I would so do that!


If one cupcake is for the $ sign then I'd need 6!

[This message edited by debbysbaby at 6:39 PM, December 24th (Tuesday)]


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-divorced since 2004

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:07 AM, December 25th (Wednesday)

Most of us here could use something to smile at. Where's the pic already? LOL


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Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
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