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Ms_Strong
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Member # 30883
Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, November 4th (Monday)

Couldn't sleep all night, I feel alone and sad. My BF and I may be breaking up, just feel so sad about it. My first relationship since D.
It's bringing back memories of the end of the M, and that feeling of its going to happen, those words that lead to breaking up.
I think I may have talked my BF into realizing the love of his life isn't me but another girl he dated 2years ago.
Feel so sad.


Me: 40, happily divorced Dec11
D-Day #1 - 9th Jan 11, D-Day #2 - 13th Jan 11
Kids - 4, 8 yrs

Posts: 263 | Registered: Jan 2011
timeforchange
Member
Member # 27454
Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, November 4th (Monday)

Hello MsStrong.

Sorry to read you are suffering and sad.

Maybe you need to breach the subject with him? Maybe having a talk about why you are feeling this way may give you some clear answers.

Worst case scenario is he does what to end things... But at least then you will known and can start working on your healing.

I see our originals D Days were the same week!!! You have come so far... You can Survive this too.

Take care


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 725 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
timeforchange
Member
Member # 27454
Default  Posted: 7:19 AM, November 4th (Monday)

Sorry forgot the hugs

(((((((((((MsStrong)))))))))))


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 725 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
nowiknow23
Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 7:27 AM, November 4th (Monday)

((((Ms_Strong))))


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22579 | Registered: Aug 2011
jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, November 4th (Monday)

(((Ms_Strong)))




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ninebark
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Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, November 4th (Monday)

I have no amazing words of advice here. Dating is hard.

So I send you great big hugs from Canada and hope you feel better soon.


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
fraeuken
Member
Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, November 4th (Monday)

Sending you big hugs from California. I went through a breakup recently too and while it was the right thing to do it was more difficult than any other breakup aside from my marriage.

Hang in there, maybe things will turn out for you and BF after all!


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1159 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
better4me
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Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, November 4th (Monday)

(((Ms_Strong)))

Life can be so hard some times.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 2825 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
thebighurt
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Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, November 4th (Monday)

(((Ms_Strong)))

Sad as it makes you feel, I think it's better for you than being with someone who isn't into the relationship the same way. Better to find out the truth now. You deserve so much more!!

tbh


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 1963 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Chrysalis123
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Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, November 4th (Monday)

(((Ms. Strong)))


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2363 | Registered: Jan 2010
gardenparty
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Member # 12050
Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, November 4th (Monday)

((hugs))


divorced!

Posts: 2605 | Registered: Sep 2006 | From: newfoundland
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, November 4th (Monday)

(((((Ms_Strong)))))))

Better to find out now then later.

Still hurts,

More hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4002 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Jrazz
Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, November 4th (Monday)

(((Ms_Strong)))


For last year's words belong to last year's language
And next year's words await another voice.
And to make an end is to make a beginning. - T.S. Eliot

Posts: 14617 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
NaiveAgain
Member
Member # 20849
Default  Posted: 2:08 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

(((Ms Strong)))


Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

Posts: 14904 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Ohio
nowiknow23
Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

How are you doing today, Ms_Strong?


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


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