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FogHater
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

On Facebook
I really want to know what she has to say.
Call me crazy but I want to know if he is telling me the truth.
I know she could be lying but...
What would u do?
Please no 2x4...well maybe a soft one?


I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Illinois
ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

Ignore.

Re-do your nails instead.

Ignore.

Vacuum the cat instead.

Ignore.

Organize the garage instead.

Ignore.

Don't poke the crazy.


AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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DS - 31 - Yikes!


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confused615
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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

Block that bitch.

There is NOTHING she will say to you that matters.

No matter what she says,you won't know if it's true.

Your WH has decided he wants R..correct? If so,then she is pissed that he doesn't want her..everything she says will be designed to cause you pain,confusion,and anger.

NO.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7276 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
sad34
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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

I will probably b 2x4'd but my wh lied to me and the ow told me the truth this verified by evidence she had then by wh finally confessing. I know many woman received the real info from the ow.


Bs: me 32 WH: 36
Dday: July 2012
LTA: 4years (ea, pa)
Dd-4. Ds-2
My life is shattered unsure about R

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OldCow18
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Default  Posted: 10:40 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

You didn't read it? I'd have to read it. I wouldn't be able to ignore it.


Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 10:42 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

@sad34...I usually agree...I got the truth from the AP..when WH wouldn't give it to me.

But..in this case? Foghater,this OW has been his OW for a long time..and has been a bitch to you..she won't tell you the truth..and even if she does..it's HER version of the truth..it doesn't mean it IS the truth.

Nonononono.


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7276 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
FogHater
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

I did read it...couldn't help myself
Felt like I got kicked in the gut...again.
I know she is probably lying but what if she isn't.
She told me I don't know the whole truth...how would she know what he told me?
Unless she is just trying to stir up trouble...but maybe I should ask more questions?
Any advice would help
Please no 2x4s
Just advice...and some who have experience dealing with the OW.


I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Illinois
EvenKeel
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Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

No 2x4....I would of read it too!

I think you are viewing it correctly; that it is probably lies but there could be a truth in there somewhere that you can store away to help you weed through what you have been told from him.

You are right, she has no way of knowing what he told you unless they had a discussion about it.

No not engage with her though!!!! Block her so she can't get to you again.


Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

I would have read it, too.

Maybe you can have a friend correspond with this woman, instead of you?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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FogHater
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Default  Posted: 11:04 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

Confused...this is the first time she has contacted me.
WH just says she has threatened me.
Never heard from her till now.
Maybe she feels she has lost him to me and now is reaching out to me trying to stir up trouble.
I won't believe anything she says


I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

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TheClimb
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

I know that around here we believe NC is often the best policy for "no new hurts". While I believe that is a good rule of thumb, I understand what you are saying.

I would only suggest that if you feel the need, simply ask her to supply "proof". OW told me after the affair had been over that she heard she wasn't the "only one". I told her send me proof, or at least give me a name... crickets from her.

Perhaps she has copies of e-mails or text messages or even photos that you know nothing about.


"That which can be destroyed by the truth should be" P.C. Hodgell

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fooledbyapilot
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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

I had phone calls with OW after D-Day. She lied about contact with my WH, matched his story.

Later I found out the truth, on my own.

Some of what she said was truth though, about their relationship. I knew this to be true as I know my WH quite well. I actually told her what he would do if she pushed him in a conflict situation, she couldn't believe that I knew exactly how he reacted.

It's a crap shoot. Hard to sort the truth from the lies.


ME(BS):47 HIM (WS):50
WS Married 21 yrs together 33
dd#1- nov 16, 2009
DD#2-went out NYE 2009-found out Feb 2012
DD#2-Feb 5, 2010-date they had(found out Feb 2012)
dd#3 - June 16, 2010-broke NC
dd#4-Dec 31, 2010-broke contact
DD#5-Feb 21, 201

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broken81
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

In my case some of what OW said was true and a lot was lies.
I needed to hear her version to get a better picture, up until that point WH had not given much info.
I took what she said and compared it to the info i gathered on my own to know what she was truley lying about.
Verifying what she was lying about (by phone records) helped me to even entertain the idea that things WH said she was lying about could be true.
Whats true and whats not can be such a grey area but seeing how much she lied and how wildly helped me to see what kind of person she was. That really got me over wondering if she had something i didnt.
For me I needed to see Side A and side B.
I would assume OW is lying unless she can provide proof or you know that yourself to be true. I bet she is hurting that she didnt win.


Me BS
him fWS
M 8yrs 2 kids
DD 2/12 lies until 4/12
2.5 yr A with an OLD married whore
working on R

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Lovedyoumore
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

IC compared sociopath OW to a vampire. They move on eventually but in a time of crisis they come back for blood from their familiar. How often they bounce back depends on you. You give them blood(any contact at all) and they will keep coming back forever as long as you or H give them blood. Do not do it. I would bet something has blown in her life and it needs a fix.


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WH 52
Married 30+ years
Together trying to R

I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.


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TrustGone
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

(((EvenKeel)))

OW outed the LTA to me. WH#2 didn't have the guts to do it and she was tired of being lied to herself. I found out alot of things from her that he would have never of told me otherwise. He was also playing her and had even gave her an engagement ring. He was living in his little fantasy world and playing two women at the same time.

However she knew he was married when she started the A with him. It's just like I told her..If he will cheat WITH you, he will cheat ON you and is that what kind of man you really want?? She only saw the loving sexual part, she wasn't seeing the everyday married part of WH#2. It's like it never occured to her why he stopped seeing her and started dating me and married me. If he had truely loved her, he would have never married me.

I had two seperate conversations on the phone with her about the A. They were old fuck buddies from before we started dating and got married. She of course blamed him and he blamed her for how it started again. I will never know which one initiated it and it really doesn't matter.

The only part I regret in speaking to her was that I felt so hurt by what she said and it has caused me pain ever since. Sometimes I wished there were things I never knew happened. She tried her best to make me D him and still attempts to break NC in a way that I will find out. On DDay#2, she left me a note in my jewlery box. These OW will do their best to try and break up your marriage so they can have the prized WH. All they are really getting is a mixed up, broken person who they helped bring down. That is why so few of the relationships with WS's marrying the AP work.

I would suggest that you break all contact with the skank. She is only trying to hurt you and distroy your marriage. Some of the things she says may be true, some of it may not. You need to now concentrate on your own healing and continued contact with the skank will not promote that. (((HUGS)))


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

Sorry, Foghater..I must've gotten you confused with someone else.

And..yeah...I say NC...but I would have read that message... .


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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alphakitte
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

Okay, first, this by AJsmom, caused me to split my side:

Vacuum the cat instead.

FogHater, you posted,

Maybe she feels she has lost him to me and now is reaching out to me trying to stir up trouble.

Who knows what she feels. If she was secure and happy, she probably wouldn't be bothered contacting you, right? Assume she isn't happy. Maybe she wants revenge. Regardless, it is most probable that contactingyou is self-serving, for her! There is probably not even a sliver of a chance that she is contacting you for your own good. (Many OW know that our WSs had other affairs and consider themselves enlightening us that they weren't the only affair.)

I doubt any BS gets the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Were we the ones to have cheated we probably wouldn't tell the whole truth either. It's just human nature not to, I think.

If your spouse is remorseful and commited to reconciliation, and fidelity, then that is what matters the most, I think.


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

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Sal1995
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

WH just says she has threatened me.

Sounds like Skank could use a visit from a police officer, or a process server serving her with a restraining order and a court date. Maybe both. She sounds like a person in serious need of a wake-up call.


Me-45
WW-42
DDay 2/17/13, 9-10 month PA/EA
Final NC late Feb. '13
M - 18 years, together 19+
4 children

Reconciling


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FogHater
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, September 26th (Thursday)

She also asked if I wanted the naked pics of him he sent to her....
She could be lying but if I said yes don't know if I could see them knowing they were to her....
What do I ask her?
Don't want to give her to much
Don't want to encourage her.
I guess crickets would be appropriate.


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but I know what I'm not doing

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heartache101
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

i would have to see those pics. That is just me.


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

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Getting to Happy
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

i would have to see those pics. That is just me.

Me too.

I need to know the full scope of the betrayal.

How can I forgive if I don't know what I am forgiving??


WS him
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

Speaking only for myself, I would be open to any information she wanted to send to me. I say this because I have already seen dozens of naked pictures of my husband, my husband's dick in various women's mouths, plus other sex act pictures. I have already seen the kind of porn he likes, I've already seen what he wants to do, likes to do, has done. So for ME, there's just not much of a cherry left, shall we say.

I believe knowledge is power. Even in misinformation or omission, there is something to be learned.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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alphakitte
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

She also asked if I wanted the naked pics of him he sent to her....

To which I would HAVE to respond, "No, I don't need his naked pictures as I get to enjoy his naked body personally. Thanks, anyway." Then I'd block her and give crickets.

She could be lying but if I said yes don't know if I could see them knowing they were to her....

What earthly good would seeing those photos do you?

What do I ask her? [/quote

Ask her nothing. If you have to ask her something then you are going on the defensive, and that is her intent - to have you second guessing.

Don't want to give her to much

Giving her anything is too much!

Don't want to encourage her.
I guess crickets would be appropriate.

Yep!


------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt

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TrulySad
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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

If your WH claims he never sent pics, then yes, tell her you want the proof. If he's admitted to it, trust me, you don't want to see them. It won't give you anything but a picture you'll want to forget but cant.

If you have doubts about your WH's story, then I'd probably ask your husband to make sure he's come COMPLETELY clean with you...because it's his last chance. I realize OW will lie, but sometimes there is truth to what they are saying. And if you feel you don't have it all, then maybe this is a way to get WH to confess to the rest.


Me: Sad, but I will survive

True Love: What I have for my beautiful children.


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Painfuljourney
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Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

Honestly, I'd hear her out. Because to me even if it's lies I'd like to know what she has to say. You can't deny naked pictures if she has them he sent them to her.

I asked OW for her side of the story. I got crickets. To me knowledge is power, let me decide the truth in it all.


BS (me) - 44
WH - 46
DD - July 1, 2013
2 daughters, 14 and 10

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Alex CR
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Default  Posted: 12:54 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

To which I would HAVE to respond, "No, I don't need his naked pictures as I get to enjoy his naked body personally. Thanks, anyway."

This is 'priceless'....and even better it's so true...

The skank is scrambling and any response will only feed her. But you have to decide what you want....is R going well? Are the two of you a team again? Is there anything good that can come out of you conversing with a skank? Is there some information you absolutely must have to R that only she can provide? Could this be a way the skank gets some sick satisfaction as she tosses bombs at your marriage?

Only you know what you need to be happy with your marriage and whether or not questionable testimonials from a skank can help or harm all the work you've been doing.


BS Me 61
WS Him 62
Married 33
Together 40
DD 11/16/09
The future looks good....

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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

I don't think you need to respond. She wants a response and you did respond at first but now you're holding off. Be patient and she'll grasp for more straws trying to elicit another response and give you whatever she's got to do so.

I relish in the fact that I never responded to WBF's psycho married cousin who blew up my phone demanding I apologize to her husband for telling him and then later emailing me asking why I'm trying to destroy her family. Hairy Twatter is a bit of a drama queen and responding to her would only fuel her, not responding showed her how insignificant she is to me.


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Default  Posted: 1:14 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

I would screen shot her message and send it to her BS (if she has one)...it's a confession on her part, and if there's more to the story she thinks you should know, then that means there's more that he ought to know as well.

OW FB msg'd me in the beginning as well. I responded with a brief line...something like "good luck to you" or "best wishes" or something like that.

I think it drove her crazy that she couldn't get more of a reaction out of me.


BW - 42 (Me)
WH - 39 (2 ONS, 6m EA)
Married 13 years, 3 children
DD: 7/13/13
Status: Rugsweeping, I guess.

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UndecidedinMA
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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

Don't engage her. I am assuming you both are NC. She is being the beligerent child, if I can't get good attention I'll take any I can get.

Unless she is just trying to stir up trouble

Of course she is. Mine did the exact - I mean exact same thing - 8 mos after she sent a "really I am sorry" FB message, followed by a "what horrid people we were" Yeah I am the horrid person. She is hoping to drive a wedge, any crack of light and she will be like a cockroach skittering in the door.

As far as pics, why? Have you not seen him naked? You know what it looks like, would it look any differnt in a picture?

Just let her sit & stew & wonder - it will drive he BANANAS!!!


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

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FogHater
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

Alex Great response
Maybe u can keep the pics as I get to enjoy his naked body personally...
I don't want to create a monster.
She has been relatively quiet so don't want to rock the boat.
I'm not sure what to do...


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but I know what I'm not doing

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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

Ah yes I love the response of you see his naked body.

Crickets after. Don't give her what she wants. And that is your time and attention. She wants to hurt you.


ME: 30
WH: 35

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.


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Want2help
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

Don't respond AT ALL. Any response you give her will make her feel powerful and important.

Silence is the BEST message. It says:

Bitch, you don't matter. Go away.


BS- me.
FWS- him.
DDay 6/07 (immediately separated)
RDay 8/07
Surprise OC born 3/08 (NC)
7 years into successful R.
"That which can be destroyed by truth should be." -P. C. Hodgell

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Broken1Again
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

Ok I know I might be in the minority here but if you were going to respond the only response I would give her is "I know he told me." So if she wants to send you pics the only response worth saying is "no that's ok he all ready showed me." Why? Because it is soooooo obvious she is trying to get under your skin. She feels used by your WS and now he's got to pay through you. You are innocent in this but yet you have to deal with both of them????? HELL NO!

My strong advice is do not reply. Crickets. There really is a reason they say "silence is golden" I know you want to respond but the reality is you can't trust anything she says. Picture that yes they have done the nasty and yes he has sent her naked pics of himself. But that is now between you and him. Anything she has to offer is just to set you up to hurt. If I honestly thought she was doing this because she didn't want to see you hurt anymore by the man you married then id say contact her, but her throwing naked photos of your WS in your face = self absorbed bitch.

Write out your best response to her; post it here for a sense of closing that door but to her only crickets!


BS: 40
WS: 42
Two boys 13/11
Married 15 years
Dday: too Many to remember. 3 significant OW and many "less"'significant OW. Believe WS has bad boundaries and craves the attention.
In R.

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integritymatters
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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, September 27th (Friday)

She has been relatively quiet so don't want to rock the boat.
I'm not sure what to do...

Some invaluable words of wisdom I learned from IC. If you don't know what to do, do nothing.

Pattern interruption.

Action + Reaction = Outcome.

AP has sent an Action based upon an expected/known Reaction for the purpose of achieving a desired Outcome. You actually are in control of the outcome not in the sense that you can "make" it something but rather in the sense that you can make it "unintended" by chosing an unexpected Reaction. In otherwords, not what the "Action" person intended.

Do the opposite that she would normally expect to receive, and my instinct is, given her "baiting"...Crickets are what is unexpected.

I'm also guessing she won't be happy with crickets and may actually get worse. No matter, as long as she receives no response and continues to dig a deeper hole of harrassment she will either hang herself of give up from fear of that.

There is no setting her straight. Not a psycho skank who is still contacting you this long after the end of their infidelity.

Leave her to grab her own rope if that's what she wants.


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Edie
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Default  Posted: 2:43 AM, September 27th (Friday)

"You don't know the whole truth"

Personally, I would reply with a shrug, a smile and a 'such is the human lot'.


Maybe a long walk in the Hindu Kush would do it?
BW (me) 52
FWS 55
Together 29 years; 2 DDs 15 & 12
Dday Dec 08 (confessed) Feb 09 16 other OW confessed. OW17 tried her unedifying hardest until Aug 09. R'd.

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Hope2B
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Default  Posted: 3:05 AM, September 27th (Friday)

I would have read it, taken a screen shot of it for posterity or proof if things go to the point of my needing an attorney's advice, and I would have looked at the photos too (download or screen shot), but that's just me.

THEN I would have ignored her...just because it would make her cra-cra!

Think of it...she's expecting a reaction, and when she doesn't get one from you, it will frustrate her all the more!

[This message edited by Hope2B at 3:05 AM, September 27th (Friday)]


Me: early 60s
Him: 65 yrs old, LTA w/a pro$titute
Married since 1980, no children
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013
Trickle Truth Days: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
His affair--says it was only 8 times 1x/mo, then found out it was 7 YEARS 2-3x/mo

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Default  Posted: 6:29 AM, September 27th (Friday)

Ignore her. Even if she gave you emails who's to say she didn't cut and paste the email address and type in what she wanted you to believe. I am not going to lie when i was still in the fog doing that crossed my mind. I didn't do it simply because i wanted it all to be over, him to be outta my life and his wife to heal as well as my own husband. I am not a good lier anyhow. Just thought i would throw that idea out. Unless you saw the email in his box don't believe it because it could of been "fixed" to her benifit if she prints it and gives it to you or emails it to you.


Me: fww 39
Him: bh 50
together 19 years
married 17 years
dday 8/2003
two beautiful kiddos

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ShedSomeLight
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Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, September 27th (Friday)

Please be careful. I have been stalked by the woman he had an affair with and it is scarey. I still have a pending court case. I received hundreds of blocked calls, emails, and even a package of sexual email correspondence that they had during the affair. We are trying to save our relationship and she started stalking me because he was pulling away. I know that you probably want to know what she has to say, but if she wants him back...,most of it will be lies and she probably wants to hurt you. I was silenced by the Police and asked to turn over all emails...etc to them so they could continue to build there case. I would block her. My stalking started on Facebook and then just got worse. Just be safe.

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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, September 27th (Friday)

I think it's crickets or what's the truth you had an affair with a married man, he had an affair with skank whose ass he filled with smoke. Move on I have! Any further contact an it will be considered harassment and we will contact the authorities.


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vivere
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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, September 27th (Friday)

I would find it difficult to do but I would recommend ignoring her.

Whatever she has to say is always going to be questionable in your mind. What motivation does she have for telling you the truth?


You are responsible for your own happiness :)

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prowoman
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Default  Posted: 10:25 AM, September 27th (Friday)

Back around Dday my husbands whore facebook msg'd me a couple times with the same premise. Fuck that immature bitch. She felt him slipping away so if he wasn't gonna leave me for her she was gonna try to make me leave him so he could run back to her.


me: BS 39 | stbxWH: 46
DD14, DS2
DDAY: Aug12... A continued "underground"
Separated Nov13 and Divorcing
OC Born May 14

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LadyLove
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, September 27th (Friday)

prowoman: Fuck that immature bitch. She felt him slipping away so if he wasn't gonna leave me for her she was gonna try to make me leave him so he could run back to her.

This.

Bunny boiler FB'ed me 4 times. The first time to reveal the A (my WH beat her to it, lucky for him). She thought I should know that my husband was in love with someone else. My response? Crickets. In the last message she wanted me to let my WH know that her husband killed himself (he never knew about the A to my knowledge). This was 2 days after he killed himself! This crazy bitch wants to get a message to my husband that her husband is now dead?! She hadn't even buried him yet! Who does that?? Does she actually think my husband is going run to her now? There had been NC for almost 8 months at that point. Crickets.. that's all she ever got from me. Haven't heard from her since, that was 4 months ago. Crickets.. that's all they deserve, they are not worth acknowledging.

[This message edited by LadyLove at 5:40 PM, September 27th (Friday)]


BW - 46 (me)
WH - 48 Ladyslove
Don't know if I can live with it.

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tryin2havefaith
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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, September 27th (Friday)

It is difficult, but crickets is the BEST answer. These whackos like to light the fire and watch it burn. It beats boredom or knowing they were nothing more to our WHs than an opportune hole.

If you two are now a team, share this with him and have a united front. The OW in my situation tried to give many a story. We read and answered with crickets. She eventually moved on to her next victim as there was zero entertainment value here. Yes it hurt like hell at that time, but now about two years since last peep from her.


ME- BS
HIM- WS
DDay 1/2011
4 - 6 months of TT'ing
Fully R'd
"Just as ripples spread out when a single pebble is dropped into water, the actions of individuals can have far-reaching effects. " -Dalai Lama

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Dreamland
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, September 27th (Friday)

I agree that you want to gather info for the attorney to prove his involvement and if she continues to contact you then you can a file harassment complaint against her.

I like you telling her she can send you the fotos but it's not necessary since you have his naked body every day. 😆


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

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