Here are the two links to my story:
She left on Sunday and texted me tonight that she is moving back home and there is nothing I can do about it. I can leave if I want to, but she will never leave. This after a text 24 hours previous saying we need to sit down to work out 50/50 split and what that looks like.
I am sure she has a lawyer already as her parents hate my guts with a passion (always have) and they are going to try to do anything to make me suffer.
We had a phone conversation tonight (25 minutes) where she completely a cold hearted bitch that I always knew she was. Again, did not apologize for her affair. She said this made her look at her life and reevaluate everything and never once said she was sorry, asked how I was doing, kept interrupting me everytime I talked (always been that way), etc. etc.
So I post here needing advice on moving to the next stage. If you read my story, you know that I have separation papers (presented and she refused to sign), custody papers and divorce decree. I have seen a lawyer, but I have a co-worker and another lawyer who will be helping me with no charge to represent myself pro se.
Is this a wise idea? I have two kids (9 and 5) and papers include:
I take 100% of house
Split marital assets 50/50 including our retirement funds
Joint Legal Custody
Primary Physical Custody (60/40) split
Going for Spousal and Child support as she makes more than me.
I can't really afford the 3000 retianer that both lawyers want to charge me, but at the same time I don't want to get screwed. I don't want this to get to court. I want to settle or at very harshest get a mediator.
She has turned into the type that might go for the jugular even though she had the affair.