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beingmiranda
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Hey guys,

Well .. I know I have been MIA a bit.
I started a new job back in March to which my internet usage was monitored so I didn't want to be misbehaving.

It has been trigger city since. The boss was leaving his wife for the mistress. I was trying not to be as professional as possible all the while secretly telling the guy to go jump a bridge. The mistress is married leaving the husband for this guy. There's a bunch of children in the mix. The wife (BS) of the boss was on heavy medication for panic attacks, etc. The insensitive jerk of course tried to use her "failing mental state" as proof that she's an unfit mother therefore he should get custody of the kids. ai ai ai
I have been seriously meaning to come on here and post all this just couldn't find the time.
So... this is going on all summer and it was getting to me. Especially in August I was starting to dread going to work a bit. At the same time, the company was slow and I did not have much work to do. So last week, they let me go. The guy apologizes saying he thought there was a role for me, etc. Just didn't work out. I have to say my first reaction was all out relief. I am glad not to be going there and being in the middle of this drama. I never let on nor did I ever tell them any of my personal details. As far as everyone knew, I was a divorce single mom with a little boy. Never even talked about my boyfriend to anyone. I was just too knew and didn't want to get into details with anyone. ugh! Glad to be out of there for sure.

And secondly, thought I would share with everyone, that the wonderful man I've been dating has proposed. He proposed the last week in August. I am in heaven. He gave me this absolutely beautiful ring. I'm so in love with him. I told him that I have never experienced this level of happiness with a man. He treats me so well. And just loves my little boy.

I heard through the grapevine that ex husband is really upset. I didn't tell him anything. He found out through mutual acquaintances. That status remains the same. He's still living with the OW of the affair. She's absolutely livid. Just turned 37 with no marriage or babies (she was desperate for a baby) in sight. Doesn't look like the ex husband is moving too fast on that. I inadvertenly stirred that pot. Oh well! I'm happy as a clam right now.

Back to the job hunting I go though. It's been a bit of a rollercoaster.

I will be on more now. I have miss you all dearly!


Me: now 38
Him: up and left for OW
OW: old maid mid thirties with biological clock ticking, desparate for a man.
Divorced the cheater - 8/2011
Married the most AMAZING man - 10/2013

Posts: 783 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: NJ
Crescita
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Member # 32616
Default  Posted: 5:42 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Welcome back

Sounds like a good thing that you are no longer in the toxic work environment and congrats on the engagement!


Posts: 3256 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Congrats on the engagement!!!

I'm glad you are out of the toxic work environment and I hope you find a great new job soon.


Posts: 33855 | Registered: Mar 2011
SisterMilkshake
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Member # 30024
Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, September 11th (Wednesday)

<waving wildly> Hey, beingmiranda, I have often wondered how you were doing. Sorry the job sitch sucked, but glad your love life is blooming. Congratulations! So very happy for you.

Just have to ask, though. Does XWH still live with Mommy and Daddy, along with OW? How's that going? I know the parents were pretty old school and not happy with XWH's choices.

Sending new and better job mojo to you. Thanks for the update.


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9404 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
beingmiranda
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Member # 32519
Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

SM,

Funny that you remember! Well, about two months of that nonsense, the parents went back to the mother country. I suppose they figure if they can't live in their own house at peace in the US, they can do it over there. That was the beginning of 2012. They have not been back to the US. They still keep in touch on occasion with people here who tell me they just don't want to be in the same house as OW. It's awkward. They are really old school and really religious. My son talks to grandma quite a bit over the phone. He tells me grandma always asks how mommy is doing. It's a sad situation all around. Exhusband does come and get DS for his parenting time, but there is no relationship there. Many times, DS refuses to go. Exhusband spent two years away from DS and when he came back, just did not successfully renew that bond. DS tolerates him at best. He can't stand going there if dad doesn't spend one on one time with him. OW is constantly in the picture. She tags along everywhere and DS gets annoyed. He enjoys the Wednesday night dinners because on those days, OW is working late so it is just the two of them.

C'est la vie...


Me: now 38
Him: up and left for OW
OW: old maid mid thirties with biological clock ticking, desparate for a man.
Divorced the cheater - 8/2011
Married the most AMAZING man - 10/2013

Posts: 783 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: NJ
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Congratulations on your engagement!!!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51500 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

Very happy for you!

Wow that work situation was like a big test of your equanimity! That you worked there and remained professional shows how far in your healing you have come.

Congrats on the engagement!!!!


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5729 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, September 12th (Thursday)

my internet usage was monitored so I didn't want to be misbehaving.

Oh the irony. Boss is misbehaving his ass off, destroying his family and another marriage and your internet usage is monitored.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. dating again, living in the sticks with a cat. It's taking a long time to create new dreams and a new life but it is slowly coming together.

Posts: 5729 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
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