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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

If you pray, please pray for my daughter and my family.

She is 16 and overdosed in the bathroom at school yesterday. She is in a inpatient facility now.

I'm dying inside.

That's.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 6:14 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Oh no! Im so sorry. SO sorry.

((((((((nerkorb)))))))


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,10
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7428 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Hi sweetie, I am so sorry. I'm right there with you. My son has attempted twice, so I know the horrible pain you are in right now.

We are here for you when you need to talk.

Is she on a 72 hr hold? Does she have a psychiatrist already? If not start searching for the best one you can find in your area.

Contact your local NAMI organization for referrals if you don't know where to start.

Stay strong.

PPGA


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Sending prayers


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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truthsetmefree
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Default  Posted: 7:34 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Big huge hugs, nekorb.

Praying hard for your daughter's total healing. And praying that God gives you and your family comfort and strength and that you can literally feel His presence.


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Prayers

Strength


BH 51, WW 42
DS 23(Mine),SD 21,SS 20(Hers),DS 9 Ours, DGS 3, DGD 1 mo
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 10yrs
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone

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Holly-Isis
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Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

My prayers are with you all.


"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Sending (((HUGS))), prayers and positive thoughts your way.

Please keep us posted.


Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

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incredulous
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Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

((((nekorb and DD))))

I am so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine anything harder than the loss of a child by suicide. At least you can hope that she's now hit rock-bottom and she can begin to get the help she needs.

Praying for peace for your family, and strong support to get the help you all need.


me: BW, now 52;
DD now 16 (adopted by me as single mom, so XWH was "Dad")
married: June, 2005, together since July, 2002
d-day: 10/21/07;
Divorced July, 2008 and he never looked back...

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Will be covering you all in prayer.

(((nekorb & Family)))

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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Tred
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Sending positive thoughts for your family.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:35 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

nekorb - I am so very sorry. It sounds like she is exactly where she needs to be right now to get help. Holding you, your DD, and your family in my thoughts. ((((((nekorb family)))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

(((nerkorb)))

I'm so sorry. Sending prayers.


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Kalleigh
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Default  Posted: 9:03 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

sending my prayers


I love my husband and kids, but there is something missing, LIKE MAYBE A LIFE!!!!!!!

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JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I am so sorry. ((HUGS))


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

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LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Sending thoughts your way. I hope she gets the treatment and the help that she needs. Take care.

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madsadalone
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Prayers sent.


Me: BS 47
Him:WH 55
M: 27 yrs
DD 4/29/13
3 kids (25,23,22

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LoveActually
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Default  Posted: 9:34 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry--my heart goes out to you and your daughter--praying for you guys.


BS (Me)
WS (Him)
D-Day 5/29/09
Married 11 yrs, together 16 yrs

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stupidstupidme
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry


Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing. Use the pain as fuel, as a reminder of your strength
August Wilson

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sinsof thefather
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Sending thoughts and prayers your way (((nekorb and family)))


...second star to the right and straight on till morning.

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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 10:03 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry.
{{{hugs}}} and prayers....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Jennifer99
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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Thinking of you and your daughter

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sunandmoon
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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

(((nerkorb)))
(((nerkorn DD)))

Prayers for her recovery and your family's healing.

sunandmoon


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Will keep you in my prayers.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, September 4th (Wednesday)

((((((((nerkorb & family)))))))

You are in my prayers! Please know that there are many that are praying for you here on this site. Stay strong and know that God is watching over you and your daughter!


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sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

((Nerkorb and family)). Sending prayers


People tell you exactly who they are...why expect them to be what they are not ....will be divorcing the selfish creep.

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circe
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Oh no, I am so sorry and know you must be out of your mind with worry. You and your daughter are in my prayers.

((((hugs))))


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jjsr
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I am sorry.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1632 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
woundedby2
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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry.

Sending hugs and prayers.


Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson


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JanetS
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

How sad this is? It is lovely that she was unsuccessful, and is here to receive the helps that she needs.

Teen years are tough. Bullying, self-esteem issues, eating disorders, it's tough.

Just love her like crazy and avail her to every available service you can find for her.

You are in my prayers.


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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I'm so sorry, nekorb. I'm so glad she was found. I hope she gets the help she so desperately needs now.

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weeping willow
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

nekorb, from deep within my heart, I am praying for your daughter, you and your family. My heart is breaking for all of you.

I realize that you probably feel like there is nothing fortunate about this. I understand that, really, I do. However, your daughter is in an inpatient facility now. She has the opportunity to get the help she needs and deserves. She has the opportunity to go on with her life and thrive, with your love and the proper counseling.

25 years ago, my son was 15 years old when he took his own life. There were no signs...nothing. I came home from work to find him. It was too late. I wish I would have had the opportunity to get him the help he needed. I just didn't know he needed help. Had I known, maybe today he would be a 41 year old man with a wife and children.

Your daugher is alive, thank God. I wish all of you the best.

(((((nekorb, nekorb's daughter & family)))))

[This message edited by weeping willow at 2:33 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)]


BW - me FWH - him
D Day - July 26, 2007
Married 36 years


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

25 years ago, my son was 15 years old when he took his own life.
I'm so sorry weepingwillow. I didn't know. ((((Weeping willow))))


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

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meaniemouse
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

nekorb--So very sorry for your pain and prayers for your daughter and the rest of your family.

(((weeping willow)))


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

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sad12008
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Default  Posted: 5:28 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

(((nekorb, DD, & family)))

There aren't good words when something so huge, scary, and traumatic happens. It's worse when it's your child. Just know you're not alone, that others are pulling for you and your daughter.

I hope she's in a good facility with a good therapist able to connect with her and help her out. When darkness calls, it can sing a siren's song. Just know it's not because of you, or that you've somehow failed this child. I don't know the background story but I do know depression only too well. Very scary times for you and yours. I'm holding you all in my heart and am hoping for brighter days ahead.


You can't fill a cup with no bottom.

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cayc
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Default  Posted: 6:33 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

(((nekorb)))

I'm so sorry.


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

(((nekrob)))

I'm so sorry. I am glad she is ok and will be getting some help. My heart goes out to you, I can imagine how horrified and scared you must feel.


Me: 42
Two boys: 17 and 14
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

I was 17 when I made my first of 3 suicide attempts. I also lost my younger brother to suicide in 2009. So I know this very special pain from both angles.

Feel free to PM me if you want to talk.


Keep calm and carry on.

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hurting2much
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

(((nekrob))); so very sorry.


Divorced

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nekorb
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Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Thank you everyone.

It helps to know you all are out there somewhere thinking of us and sending thoughts and prayers.

Trying to adjust to the new reality of things right now.


Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 aka CAT- colossal asshat; Married 22 years
D-day: July 17, 2013, with TT to follow
D filed July 16, 2014, 363 days later than I should have
Psalms 27:14
Wait for The Lord; be strong and take heart. Wait for the Lord.

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 11:01 PM, September 4th (Wednesday)

Sending prayers for your daughter and those that love her.

Hugs,
K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

(((To you and your daughter)))

Please know that kids often lack the ability to understand the finality of it. This makes it even more dangerous. Hopefully she remembers enough the awful parts to wake her up. In addition make sure she gets all the supports in place before she leaves the hospital. Meaning therapists, psychiatrists, group therapies etc. Make sure school knows, and she gets an IEP for this. You want all the resources opened up to you.

((((and strength)))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8523 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

(((To you and your daughter)))

Please know that kids often lack the ability to understand the finality of it. This makes it even more dangerous. Hopefully she remembers enough the awful parts to wake her up. In addition make sure she gets all the supports in place before she leaves the hospital. Meaning therapists, psychiatrists, group therapies etc. Make sure school knows, and she gets an IEP for this. You want all the resources opened up to you.

((((and strength)))))


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

Thinking of you and your family. Sending you all strength and light. ((((nekorb family))))


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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damncutekitty
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

Visit as often as you can. If she's allowed to have some of her own things (clothes, toiletries, etc) make sure she has them.

When I was inpatient the staff at the hospital just assumed the I and my family knew the drill. On everything. Nobody told me I could have my own clothes (except a bra). Nobody told me my family could bring me shampoo and deodorant, and not only that none of the staff told me where the hospitals stash of toiletries was kept. I didn't even get brush my teeth for 2 days! It was very frustrating.


Keep calm and carry on.

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joeboo
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

I wish you and your family much needed peace.


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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

((((Nekorb,DD,family)))) I'm so sorry. Praying for your DD and family.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

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harrypotter
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, September 5th (Thursday)

My thoughts and prays with your daughter and family.


WS-Me
BS-Her (Lostinthismess)


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Amber13
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Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, September 6th (Friday)

I'm so sorry. I hope you will all be okay.
I put my mother through this when I was very young. Being a mother now I cant comprehend the pain I must have put her through. Im trying to ease my guilt by being a better daughter now.
Best wishes xxx

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Dreamland
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, September 6th (Friday)

Sending love and peace ..
So sorry I have a 17 yr old DD.. Be there just be there and let her know no matter what she is a blessing. I feel for you all ...


Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore

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uncertainone
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

Wishing you strength and peace.


Me: 37

'til the roof comes off. 'til the lights go out. 'til my legs give out, can't shut my mouth


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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 1:16 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

sending you my thoughts and best wishes for a speedy recovery for your daughter.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

Oh sweetie! I keep waiting to get that call about my aspie son.

I am holding you and your family (and PPGA and WW too!) in my thoughts and prayers.

I am so very sorry.


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, September 7th (Saturday)

nekorb

(((hugs)))

Please do everything you can now for your daughter. Don't let anyone tell you to wait for anything.

When they turn 18, you lose control over what you can and can't do for them.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, September 8th (Sunday)

(((nekorb, dd, family)))

I'm so glad your daughter was found in time to give her another chance.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 1:08 AM, September 9th (Monday)

(((Nekorb, dd and family)))


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:12 AM, September 9th (Monday)

((nekorb and family))


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


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