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Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, August 5th (Monday)

WTH? We are strictly NC other than kids/finances but lately when he sends an email he leaves out pronouns and punctuation. It reads like caveman speak. What the eff is this? What? Now we don't deserve a period or capitalization? Don't we have names? Do we not exist???

I know this is a silly minor thing. I'll let it go now. Just wanted to share.


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LadyQ
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Too funny. Maybe he pays for his email based on number of characters?


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

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Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, August 5th (Monday)

It's so stupid! I wish I could just do it back to him.

Bad person Send $$ no come back


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suckstobeme
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Why can't you do it back? I do.

After almost three years of trying to communicate and "coparent", I see that I honestly don't exist in his world. Any real communication about the kids is started by me. If I never contacted him, he probably wouldn't notice.

The mother of his kids doesn't really have a place in his mind for much of any respect so, guess what? He gets it right back. I'm not nasty, but I could care less about the appearance of my messages.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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Take2
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Or... you could go acronymic on him

FT U Puk 5:00

Which either read Fucktard You Puck.

or Friday, This, You - pick up kids.

Depends on whose reading it I guess.

or you could write back AUFKM?
or FUUM and then when he writes back just say sorry - sent it to the wrong person!

[This message edited by Take2 at 3:53 PM, August 5th (Monday)]


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

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Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Thanks for the laugh.

I think I will start responding in Haiku only...

You are such a jerk
Go Kiss my big fat buttocks
Stop e-mailing me


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, August 5th (Monday)

WTH? We are strictly NC other than kids/finances but lately when he sends an email he leaves out pronouns and punctuation. It reads like caveman speak.

This is how I know it's the OW texting or emailing me instead of my XH. Except he doesn't use any caps, uses run on sentences, no punctuation, no periods and doesn't spell very well.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, August 5th (Monday)

STBX does the same thing. As few words used as possible, and only when absolutely & legally necessary. Otherwise it's complete radio silence. He used to give me the silent treatment when we were together. Now he does it the only way left available.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, August 5th (Monday)

My stbh does this. He doesn't punctuate unless it's work related. His excuse? "You know what I am talking about."

*rolls eyes*

Whatever, exs are so dumb.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


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Sparkles
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, August 5th (Monday)

My guess is that the x's who do this are most likely passive-aggressive types.

I'll show you - no period!! ha!
Take that! it's a run-on sentence! ha! ha!

I know my stbxh doesn't want any actual confrontation. I might hurt his feelings with the truth.


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, August 5th (Monday)

I once received a text from Sultan that said:

Your mailbox

That was the whole message.

[This message edited by gonnabe2016 at 8:14 PM, August 5th (Monday)]


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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dmari
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Sparkles ... you are killing me!!

Bad person Send $$ no come back

I'll show you - no period!! ha!
Take that! it's a run-on sentence! ha! ha!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 4:03 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Sparkles your retorts made me laugh out loud and almost spit tea on my laptop screen.

Friggen hilarious


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 5:02 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Bad person Send $$ no come back

Oh lady - you made me snort with that one.

I'm still giggling.


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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curiouswiz
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)

WTH? HA! You're all really on a roll today...

Snorting my tea while offering extra periods...


God bless us, everyone.

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Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)

@ the comebacks here!

If he is like mine he will try to be a button pusher by whatever is just barely inside the legal lines.
Immaturity at its finest. As if he wants a dramatic reaction to "prove" to people how unstable you are - a common tactic.
Come here and vent instead and we will all laugh at his stupidity. That's what I do.

[This message edited by will get by at 8:41 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)]


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