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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Well I have to say I am getting real ego-kibbles from the attention I get shown when I'm out and about.

I've always classed myself on the light side of Mr Average and most defiantly not a hottie in the slightest...

Thing is, these days I always seem to get hit on when I go out.

Granted its not every week I go out and I've never slept with any of them, despite the opportunity being there once or twice.

Last night took me completely by surprise. An über hot girl, 27, good job, own flat in the bay and own car....

May be going out on a walk my puppy around the bay date tomorrow. Will be cool if it happens but ultimately I'm not overly worried if it doesn't as I was looking forward to an extended period of singleness.....

This girl is scorcio on the hotness scale so maybe she'll be worth the risk of me dipping my toe in, so to speak! She's even got a six pack!

Spent a significant amount of time enjoying the company of each others lips early hours of this morning before we both parted for home! Enjoyed immensely!

I sent her a text today saying hi and asking if she still wanted to meet up tomorrow as we discussed, she replied "at the moment it sounds lovely but I'll text you tomorrow for sure xx" she is staying over at a wedding tonight so I'm guessing she's wanting to see how she's feeling in the morning and how the morning goes with the wedding party

My reply was "sounds like a plan, have fun tonight xx"

Anyway, ball is in her court for tomorrow now I guess.


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 623 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

Oh well, it's 1pm and no text about meeting up. She was still up and about at 3am at the wedding posting pictures, I couldnt sleep cause of the heat over here, I wasn't stalking her!

Think I may head out with my puppy down the bay anyway just to see what she's like on the train.

If this girl texts, happy days, if she doesn't then I guess it's tough luck on me. Anyone recon I should send he a text this afternoon asking how she's feeling after the wedding party and if she still fancies meeting?

Thing is I'm sure she was interested. She initiated contact where we were drinking, she asked for my number then rang me for hers and was happy to share contact on Facebook...... And she was the one who initially suggested we could meet up Sunday.

Do girls really go through that much effort if they arn't really interested of hoping to meet up again?

[This message edited by foreverempty at 8:03 AM, July 14th (Sunday)]


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 623 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:42 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

She clearly was interested. Big consistent signs of that. I don't see the harm in sending her the text. And if she doesn't respond, it's tough luck ON HER, not you.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

Oh well..... Ended up being a nodate...!

Text to say I was down there if she wanted to join us.

She replied "sorry, it's Sunday and I've gotta be up early to go to London in the morning. Have a fab night xx"

She has an appartment that's about a 3 minute walk away from where we were and it was only 5:40pm.....!

Oh well. Just have to chalk it up as a fab snog. It was pretty good

I have to realise that what attracted me to here were similar traits to xWW I'm ashamed to say.

She was a lot of fun to be around and fairly instantly quite full on in her behavior towards me which I found very attractive. It is very unhealthy I think but it's what I'm attracted to I'm ashamed to say.

Puts me in a difficult position as after 18 months since separation, over 12 months of counseling and I'm still attracted to trampy women (maybe a little judgmental in this situation). Shame on me!

Maybe she was just angling for a one night stand and pulled out all the stops to try and make it happen? I've never done that before though but everyone else is saying I'm a bit of an ass for not taking her home on Friday. I was just hoping for a more sober date to get to know her a bit first.....!

[This message edited by foreverempty at 2:22 PM, July 14th (Sunday)]


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 623 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

Ok, so she's gotta be up at 4am and is trying to get some work done before bed.

Shame on me!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 623 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, July 15th (Monday)

I need to focus on my dog and job again and cut out women all together, even contact with them I think as I can't be trusted to make well balanced choices! I am turning into a habitual flirt as the attention I'm finding very flattering to the point that I'm pushing my own personal boundaries and that's making me feel a little too uncomfortable.


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

Posts: 623 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: United Kingdom
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, July 15th (Monday)

I've always had a shallow tendency to be attracted to the hot guys as well....so as of late....I've been "trying" to look for other traits that are of more substance....but I slip occasionally.... but quickly recover before too much damage has been done!

We are only human afterall... and everyone likes a six pack..


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2724 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, July 15th (Monday)

Nothing wrong with flirting, forever. If you are pushing beyond your comfort level, however, then slow down a bit.

But don't beat yourself up! You are doing just fine.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 25726 | Registered: Aug 2011
persevere
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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, July 15th (Monday)

I've started OLD right in the middle of a crazy time at work and while I'm taking a summer continuing Ed series that is incredibly aggressive...in hindsight I have little time for dating right now. It becomes easy to overcommit yourself for dating without realizing it.

My point is, enjoy the flirtation and move on...if she's interested she will come back around. ;-)


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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