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nowiknow23
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Shutup  Posted: 1:58 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

In the car with DD14 today, and she started "encouraging" me -

DD: Mom, you can't keep worrying about me and DS. You're always working and worrying, working and worrying. You need a life. I know you're old and stuff, but you need to get your own life.

Me: Honey - I do have a life. I hang out with my friends, go out to dinner, go to movies, and have a great time. I like my life.

DD: "I don't mean hanging out with other old women. Why aren't you dating? I don't want you to be a shriveled up boring old lady. Go have some fun already! No one will even notice the wrinkles and gray hair if you're smiling and having fun. But wear something cuter than that outfit. You look like you're going to a funeral. No offense."

Um... thanks honey?


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Wow, that just makes you perk up and feel good about yourself! Kids!


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, July 13th (Saturday)


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

It's a good thing you love her, right?


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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cmego
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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

My kids were playing Just Dance (whatever number) and my 8 year old son said, "Mommy...will you play with me?"

I said, "No, honey mommy has to..."

And my 10 year old dd said, "Mommy is too old."

I responded, "No, Mommy has to cook dinner!"

I played later and whooped his little arse.

My kids want me to find a boyfriend too.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Nik, Your DD is a crack up.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Nik, Your DD is a crack up.
Indeed. She is also responsible for the accumulation of AT LEAST half of those wrinkles and gray hairs. Turkey.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

That was very funny indeed

Especially liked the bit about the funeral outfit!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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Jpapageorge
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

t/j for Cmego:


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Oh wow! What an uplifting choice of words!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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Griefstricken25
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Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

I know you're old and stuff,

She's awesome.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, July 13th (Saturday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

I think your DD is channeling my DD or mine is channeling yours. Sheesh...

I keep telling her I am NOT ready... she keeps telling me time is running out and I will never be ready.

Some days the only thing saving her is the fact that I love her.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 4:33 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

At least they are sometimes good for a laugh!


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

I'm pretty sure this is how she sees me...


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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foreverempty
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Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

LOL

We've seen the real you and know that's not the case though!


Me BS: 35
Her WW: 34
D Day 5th December 2011
Current status: Filled for divorce 23rd Jan 2012. Response from WW was not to beg for forgiveness, but deleting me from Facebook.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:27 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Aww. Thanks, forever.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

"I don't mean hanging out with other old women."

lmao

And now you know how she sees your friends...


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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persevere
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Default  Posted: 8:32 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Nothing like your kids to boost your self-esteem....lol.

Mine are 19 and 21 and I hear somewhat similar conversations at times. Though they are not really aware that I do date...lol.

Enjoy nik - you are doing great. ((Hugs))


Me: BW-43
Him: XWH-43
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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