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ninebark
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Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Well I had to bite the bullet and do it. DS is 12 and so far has shown no indication that he doesn't believe in Santa, tooth fairy, easter bunny..you name it .

I was so paranoid that he was going to go to grade 7 next year and still believe in all of this and get teased, but at the same time I didn't want to ruin it for him.

I was literally paniced over how to deal to deal with it. Anyway opportunity presented itself yesterday when his tooth came out. He said..."so how much do i get for this tooth" Ah ha I think, Perfect! So I asked if him he knew that there really isn't a tooth fairy.. and he says "yeah I know, I kinda suspected when you asked what other kids get." (okay sometimes I am less than subtle..lol).
The I ask if there are any other things he wanted to know about or no longer thought was real. He replied all of them.

So there we go, I no longer have to sneak around hiding money or eggs, or presents.......which is kinda of sad...end of an era, my baby is growing up.

But it also means that my DS is an excellent liar because I was sure he still believed. I guess now I should worry, here come the teenage years.


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

My DD14 is a true believer. Her brother, countless classmates, and other friends and family have tried to tell her for years that there's no Santa. She always replies that she feels sorry for them that they don't believe. She's hardcore.


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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ninebark
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

you gotta admire her resolve!


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WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I had to kill Santa when the kids both were in first and second grades. They were literally getting into fights at school over it. Now mind you we did an awesome job making it very real. But I didn't want them to end up in the prinicpals office over it, or to be made fun of. My kids go to school with some rather poor kids, and I am sure many of them don't get much of anything during the holidays.
We always told them that Santa lives in each of us, and that they too can be Santa. It's actually kinda cute around the hoidays they hide gifts for family members, and label them from Santa. They get it. I know now that they will do the same for their kids someday FAAAARRRRRR down the road.


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Threnody
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Birdie Sue found out when she was 9. Her BFF was a boy in our neighborhood and he was over one day, talking about his three younger sisters and how he was having fun with his parents devising a Santa scenario for the holiday season. Birdie Sue's face froze. She turned slowly to look at me and said, "Mom?" BFF clapped his hands over his face and said, "Oh, no. Oh, no. Birdie, I'm so sorry. Mama T (me), I'm SO SORRY!" I busted out laughing and he went to hug her. It was the absolute sweetest thing I've ever seen.

I thought that took care of things, until the next spring. Birdie Sue and I were in the car, on our way to pick her siblings up from school. I was giving her a rundown of what was happening that weekend, and ended it with, "... and then you can come help me shop for Easter baskets for everybody."

I glanced in the rearview mirror and she had the same shocked look on her face. "Are any of them real?" she asked.

Ugh. Not my finest moment. I busted out laughing again.

She's either a hell of a good actress or she made it to 9 before losing Santa and 10 before losing the rest of them.

p.s. At 12, she's now the best SantaBunnyFairy you've ever seen, much more creative than I ever was. Her BFF moved from the neighborhood and has a NEW sibling on the way. Now and again I intercept an email from one of the two, and there'll be a mention of "the time BFF ripped Santa's mask off" and "how Mom killed the Easter Bunny," etc. She's really into YA horror books (Daryn Shane? I think that's the author's name) and I'm so tempted to create a series of creepy letters from the SantaBunnyFairy crew to her saying things like, "We're back. And we're pissed."

[This message edited by Threnody at 8:09 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)]


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:37 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I had to break it to DS when he was 10. He was Mr. Christmas pretty much from the time he was born. I,too, didn't want him to be teased, and we were sending him to Space Camp for his Christmas present. He had to fly out on Christmas morning, so we were opening presents on Christmas Eve instead of the usual Christmas morning.

He was ready; everything was OK


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asurvivor
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Damn...are you telling me that there isn't a Santa?


I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.



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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

My kids (now almost 35 and 36)refer to Santa/Easter bunny/ tooth fairy as "the times Mom lied to us."


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)


You can call me NIK

Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.
- Plato


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Seeing my brothers told me Santa was killed in a helicopter crash on his way to Gimbel's, I tried to be gentle with our kids.

Turns out they knew anyway and were all just waiting for us to spill the beans. They all still got a healthy pack of Santa presents anyway, (AJ still does) so it all worked out.

AJ's MOM


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

nowiknow, that is DD10 in my house. She feels sorry for all non-believers and cannot be swayed by well-meaning friends (and some mean ones too). She also adopted St Nikolaus, a German tradition of filling a boot with candy for good kids or coal for bad kids.

Ever since she saw an older man dressed up as Santa Claus with a huge white beard in a fire-red pick up truck turning at an intersection in our town, waving at her, she just 'knows' he is real


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broken2
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

told me Santa was killed in a helicopter crash on his way to Gimbel's

[This message edited by broken2 at 11:14 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)]


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:17 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

^^^^^ scarred for life! ^^^^^^^

Horrible brothers!


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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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peridot
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

I think my 12 yr old son hasn't believed in any of it for several years. My 8 yr old daughter still believes.

I think my son might be afraid he'll stop getting stuff if he admits to not believing.


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 11:31 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

^ ^ ^ It explains a lot about me, doesn't it? ^ ^ ^


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Yes it does...


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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Wait!!! There's no Santa?? Who the hell is that fat man with a beard sneaking into my house every year???

I wondered where all the booze went!!!

DS knew there wasn't a Santa, but played along for years...


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Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Threnody
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Who the hell is that fat man with a beard sneaking into my house every year???

Look, I can't keep Mr. T on a leash all the time.

I wondered where all the booze went!!!

Oh. That'd be me. I got kind of bored on the ridealong.


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Oh. That'd be me. I got kind of bored on the ridealong.

Well... I hope you enjoyed it.


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Him: FWSO - 68
DS - 12
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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Default  Posted: 2:52 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

Santa lives in each of us

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EAHhaYDMBKw

I did go through a dark period in my life where I tried not to believe but he was always there inside me waiting for me to understand the truth. I, for one, still know that that bell makes the most beautiful noise.


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kernel
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)

My youngest DD was PISSED (yes, capital letter PISSED) when she found out Santa wasn't real. She found the "from Santa" wrapping paper in my closet and immediately knew what it meant. She thought we were pulling the wool over her eyes and laughing about it behind her back, like it was a big practical joke. I think she felt this way because her two older siblings are 8 and 11 years older and she was always trying to catch up/keep up with them. We had to do a lot of explaining that it was all about the joy and surprise. I still feel guilty about it.


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confused girl
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Default  Posted: 6:33 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)

My kids are 30 and 25 and Santa still comes to our house. We don't put out presents until Christmas Eve so there is so a "Wow" factor on Christmas morning. The Easter Bunny still comes, too.

I don't remember when they each realized the truth but it didn't change what I did at all.


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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 8:27 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)

Jpapa, One of my favorite's.

My kids were around 10 when they found out...then it was a big secret to keep from the 'littler ones' who were 8 and 6. We still hide presents until Christmas eve. I will put the presents out and go to bed... and when I get up the dang things multiplied like rabbits during the night.

Word around here for the longest time... "If you don't believe, you don't receive." - translation - keep your mouth shut and go along.

[This message edited by Kajem at 8:28 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)]


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allusions
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

I don't remember ever thinking Santa was real.

When I was 5 I thought an Easter Bunny was a breed or species of rabbit that laid eggs. (a platypus lays eggs, why not a rabbit?)

I wanted to believe in the tooth fairy, although I did wonder why a magical fairy lady would pay money for billions and billions of teeth. Today they would surely be considered bio-medical waste. Does she use universal precautions and wear gloves when she collects them?


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

Threnody, we had the same "Are any of them real?" experience with our youngest.

One night, he asked, "Is Santa real?"

I did the, "What do you think?"

Very seriously and sternly (this is a first-grader we're talking about ), he said, "Level with me."

So I did. I told him about Santa. That Santa was the spirit of Christmas, blah, blah, good-parenting-blah.

And he accepted it with equanimity.

Then, about 20 minutes later, he said, "HEY! WAIT A MINUTE! That means you've been the Easter Bunny and Tooth Fairy, too!"

HEY! WAIT A MINUTE!


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osxgirl
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

I don't even remember when I first found out they weren't real. For us, Santa was fun, but he wasn't Christmas.

That's because my parents limited Santa. Santa filled our stockings (with fruit, a little candy, and a few small, inexpensive gifts). And we each got one present from Santa. And it was never our "big" present - usually a game we had really wanted, or something like that.

The kid-friendly explanation - Santa had to provide gifts for all the kids across the whole world, so he couldn't afford to bring everything we wanted. So he just gave us one present, and left it up to mom and dad to give us anything else.

The explanation from mom years later: Dad worked way too hard for the money to buy those presents to let some fat man get all the credit.

And I don't think any of us kids ever REALLY believed in the Easter bunny. A man who could travel to every kid's house everywhere in the world in a single day and leave presents for all of them was stretching it, but at least somewhat believable.

A giant rabbit that went around filling up baskets with goodies for kids was just too much to believe - even when I was 4! I always kind of knew that was mom.

I was especially suspicious given the fact that the Easter Bunny always left three Fanny May Easter eggs in each of our baskets; two were the flavors we kids liked the best, but the third was always a fruit & nut egg. None of us kids liked the fruit & nut eggs. Mom did, though.

Mom always explained that the Easter bunny must have gotten mixed up again about the flavors we liked - and not to worry, she would take care of the fruit & nut eggs for us. Yeah, nothing suspicious about that!


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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)

I never believed either. My parents had promised themselves when I asked they would tell me the truth. They just did not expect me to ask at age three.

They gently told me the truth and asked me how I knew. I had a globe of the earth and realized there was no land at the North Pole.. Just another ocean. Obviously I didn't understand the concept of ice!!!

[This message edited by purplejacket4 at 10:52 PM, July 10th (Wednesday)]


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Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
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