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User Topic: Weird or is it just me?
rumorhasit
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Member # 38943
Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, June 25th (Tuesday)

X, Mrs. Robinson, and I are part of an online community, and have alternate FB profiles for that purpose. Everything I'm saying is occuring on the alternate profiles not personal (real name) ones.

Less than a week after Dday, those two change their relationship status to "engaged". People far enough removed from the situation congratulate them, she says they've set a date for June of next year. Later (before NC) X tells me "we did that to be funny"

Yesterday they update again as "married". I only know because people told me. I guess she's telling those congratulating them that they had a Wiccan handfasting.

To me, a funny relationship status is one that is obviously fake and absurd. She plays this all off as totally serious and real when it isn't. To be "funny". That seems off to me, not right... like a sign of a sick, disordered person. Am I off base here because of a bias, or does that strike anyone else as twisted?


BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin


Posts: 205 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 12:19 PM, June 25th (Tuesday)

It's bizarre. However, it also sounds like you're too involved in their lives. For your own mental & emotional health are you open to considering moving on & not being in a position to see their FB status or know of their activities?


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9856 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
rumorhasit
Member
Member # 38943
Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, June 25th (Tuesday)

I would probably need to just ask people not to tell me things. I never look myself, or ask people what they're doing, its just friends telling me things. And its not a part of my life I am willing to give up, it overlaps with real world activites (the homeless outreach group I work with) and they are not worth quitting over. I wasn't upset at the status change, its a dumb, creepy ploy for attention.


BGF- 30 (me)
WXBF- 30 (him)
Last Dday- 4-8-13, he left for OW#2
Us- 1 DS 3yo, Him- 1 DD 7yo

Mrs. Robinson- 41, S but still M

"You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." - Christopher Robin


Posts: 205 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Southern California
Topic Posts: 3