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traicionada
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DOH!  Posted: 11:15 AM, May 13th (Monday)

I just finished reading and I can help to feel super disappointmented Most of the characters were plain broken people so I'm inclined to think I never connected with any of them.


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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, May 13th (Monday)

I liked it in that it was a good, psychological thriller/story and I was always racing ahead to find out what happened next but yeah... I have to say I didn't like any of the main characters much at all. It was hard to root for any of them.


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Default  Posted: 11:54 PM, May 13th (Monday)

Count me in. I raced through and felt really angry at all of the characters in the end.


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Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, May 15th (Wednesday)

It was, at least, unique.


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Default  Posted: 5:39 AM, May 21st (Tuesday)

I hated both of the characters too, but OMG - I could NOT put that book down.


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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 4:00 PM, May 21st (Tuesday)

It was right after reading this my WH signed up for his secret life on AFF. I can't help but feel like the book factored in his intrigue with a secret life.


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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

I remember reading it and wondering what all the hype was. Figured it was the overdone story of some guy who offs his wife to clear his path for other women. Whatever.

I couldn't put it down because I was waiting for him to get caught. And I was happily surprised by the ending in that I thought the characters deserved each other.


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nolight
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, June 3rd (Monday)

I liked Amy allot until mid way through then ended up disliking both of them but I found a fair bit of what she said to be true too..

I don't think you always have to identity with a character, these were two very broken and utterly dislikable people. I've just finished the book and its the first time in awhile that a book has made me really think about my feelings about the characters I was reading about. I'm excited to read her other novels!

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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

I have just finished reading Gone Girl and had to come here to read what others thought.

Some parts of it triggered me, and my Dday was 7 years ago.

I did wonder several time sif the author has been a member here, it seemed to me that she may have experienced infidelity at some point.

As for the book, I think the author started out with a good storyline which she spoiled by making Amy psychopath.


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Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

Unique, to be sure. That was the best part about it... totally unlikeable characters.


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circe
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

I actually loved that the two main characters were so awful and unlikeable. I thought it was a unique way to handle the book. The husband! Omg, how icky he was! And the wife! Once I gave up trying to relate to either of them and just sat back and watched the trainwreck unfold it was a great story.

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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, November 26th (Tuesday)

I agree- it's rare that I hate both main characters in a book! I loved that they got what they deserved in the end- each other!


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Skye
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)

I hated it, but I'm now reading "The Silent Wife," which is very similar but, imho, a much better book--maybe because both husband and wife are very "normal" to me, compared to the "Gone Girl" characters.

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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)

Agree with so many. Loved the story, hated the characters, and ended up liking the fact that the characters were so unlikeable. The analogy of watching a train wreck unfold... spot on.

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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, December 20th (Friday)

The movie Gone Girl is to come out next year.


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circe
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Default  Posted: 6:04 AM, December 26th (Thursday)

I recently listened to this as an audiobook on a long drive, and I have to say that one of the things I liked about it was that I hated the husband so much (he reminds me very much of my xH) that I was almost glad that Amy was who she was, as she could do this almost fantasy version of revenge that "normal" people could never do.

I don't know if you guys have seen the series Luther on Netflix, but there's a female character who is a psychopath that the main character nearly comes to rely on, as she does things a moral person would never do, but that on some inner level a moral person might secretly wish would happen.

Though I may just have felt this way because during the holidays I've had to interact more with my xH, who seems fairly normal these days but in the past was very much like Nick - helpless, lazy, self centered, addicted to unearned praise, shallow, always saw himself as the victim, even when he was doing something terrible. When I listened to the book in audio form I ended up picturing my ex as Nick and so in my mind I was glad he ended up with Amy as his wife.

I checked out the cast list for the movie - Ben Affleck and Rosamund Pike. ?? I don't know if I would have pictured Ben Affleck, but ok.


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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, September 4th (Thursday)

I'm ready for the movie!!


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Default  Posted: 5:55 PM, September 4th (Thursday)

Me too! I loved the book!


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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, September 6th (Saturday)

I was intrigued but HATED the ending! Awful

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Default  Posted: 12:45 PM, September 9th (Tuesday)

Good read - but the first 30% of the book reads very different from the ending.


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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, September 13th (Saturday)

The book pissed me off. The author likes writing unlikeable characters--and succeeded in spades.

But the ending just pissed me off. When I devote time to a book, especially one with so much conflict, I want some sort of... Payoff. Didn't get it.

I wish Affleck weren't in the movie. I think it might be better on screen. But I suspect that I will leave a theater pissed off, too. (Don't go, right? I won't. But I'll watch it On Demand--and it will still piss me off! Clearly I am a glutton for punishment--a lifetime with personality disordered people draws me to stories like this--I keep trying to figure out the un-figure-out able. Silly me.)

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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, October 12th (Sunday)

Just finished this book last night...tore through the whole thing in about a day. Really hard to put down. I liked it, I really did.

It's going to sound awful, but in some ways I could relate to both main characters, unlikeable or no, at least as far as their internal monologues are concerned.


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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, October 12th (Sunday)

Haven't read the book, but thinking of going to the movie with MisterSister this week. However, if it has infidelity in it, I don't want to go. Yay or nay?


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Default  Posted: 6:47 PM, October 12th (Sunday)

SMS, it's pretty much a central part of the story.

I was forewarned reading the book so it wasn't too triggery. But you may want to forgo this movie.


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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, October 12th (Sunday)

Thanks, HFSCC. I figured it was but wanted to verify that. I mean, in most murders/missing spouse cases there is almost always infidelity lurking somewhere.


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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, October 13th (Monday)

I didn't care for the book. I wouldn't waste my money to see the movie. And as far as the infidelity being a trigger, these characters were so unlikeable that the infidelity was minor compared to all their character deficiencies.

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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, October 13th (Monday)

The thing is - I found the book to be immensely readable, despite all the Infidelity bullshit in it.
The Amy character was so wonderfully drawn as complicated and twisted. Nick just seemed like a classic douche.
I wanted to put it down. It triggered me. But damn it was a good book.

It was either this movie or the Judge this past weekend. Well guess what - the Judge has cheating in it too...


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, October 13th (Monday)

Aww, shit, rachel, we are debating between "Gone Girl" and "The Judge", too, for this week's movie date. Gahhhh! Does the fucking "Guardians of the Galaxy" have infidelity in it, too?


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Default  Posted: 7:51 AM, October 14th (Tuesday)

Wasn't too deep in the Judge...


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Default  Posted: 5:16 PM, October 14th (Tuesday)

I didn't read the book but saw the movie - went on my own the other night. At the end I was like, Really? This is how you are ending it? So, I guess I would have been even more ticked off had I spent the time reading the book!

The Judge - cannot go wrong with RDJr. Looking forward to that one!


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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, November 3rd (Monday)

Triggered me too. Almost didn't.finish, but glad I pushed ahead. Ot did twist. Not sure I liked the ending.

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