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MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Exclaimation  Posted: 4:44 PM, September 21st (Friday)

First, I want to emphasize that SI will remain a free website and existing members will continue to have access to all existing features moving into the future. When DS and I founded SI we did so to offer support for those that could not afford to pay premium fees to receive the support they desired to survive infidelity.

Second, I want to express how difficult it is for DS or myself to bring ourselves to ask for donations to help keep this a free site for all who enjoy it. We truly appreciate when members do this on behalf of SI, or to even go to the effort of staging fundraisers like many of you have done in the past. These fundraisers generally produce enough funding to keep SI operating for several months at a time.

DS and I, along with feedback and suggestions from the staff, have developed some additional features that we feel may be of interest to you. Along with these new features we are also going to make a change to how we handle access to the Investigative Tips forum for any new members that activate their memberships from this point forward. If you have already activated your membership then this new access restriction does not apply to you.

These changes are an effort to capitalize on SI and make it a self-sustaining non-profit organization. We have put together a series of packages that members may find appealing enough to donate to gain access to.

Effective immediately, the following changes have been implemented:


  • Members registering from this point forward will no longer gain access to Investigative Tips on their 51st post.

  • Donations of $20 or more per year will gain access to Investigative Tips and have access to SImplicity, a new mobile-friendly version of SI. For security reasons Investigative Tips will still require 51 legitimate posts to gain access.

  • Donations of $35 or more per year will receive the above benefits and also gain access to double storage space for their private message feature.

  • Donations of $50 or more per year will receive the above benefits and also gain access to their posts/threads in the SI archives dating back to 2008.

These upgrades are available now for members donating via credit card on our new secured upgrade form here. This link is also now available in your profile and you can also choose to sponsor another member by using the link located in their profile.

We are hoping this upgrade will generate enough interest to pay overhead and possibly allow us to start an advertising budget to make the public more aware of our community.

Upgrade Your Profile and enjoy access to these new features.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
enduring
Member
Member # 9337
Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Great idea! But I usually use paypal and didn't see a link for that. Is that available?


Me: BS 57
Him: WH 57
married 38 years
3 DD 10 grandchildren
Reconciling

Posts: 792 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: PA
Mama_of_3_Kids
Member
Member # 26651
Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Cool...really, if someone wants "full access" $50/year isn't that much. It's just over $4.50/month...I think I can give up a "splurge" once a month that equals that $4.50


Me: FBW/30 Him: FWH/33 The kidlets: DS13, DS10, and DD8 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's
Finally, completely R'd
Clothed in strength and dignity, with nothing to fear, she smiles when she thinks about the future.~Proverbs 31:25

Posts: 11557 | Registered: Dec 2009
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, September 21st (Friday)

The system I built requires a credit card in order to automate the upgrade. PayPal doesn't offer the same advantages and would be a hassle to maintain.

We will discuss this further and let you know if we come up with a solution.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
downfall
Member
Member # 7430
Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, September 21st (Friday)

MH,

Are these changes why I cannot view posts unless I am logged in? I'm sure your working on it. Any thoughts into going further back into the archives then 2008?


Appears to be the same in Firefox (14.0.1) and IE (8).

Many positive thoughts.

Downfall

[This message edited by downfall at 5:27 PM, September 21st (Friday)]

[This message edited by MangledHeart at 5:29 PM, September 21st (Friday)]


Dday June 16 2005: Separated 2/06 Divorced 3/09

Ah, but she can't take you any way
You don't already know how to go ~ Eagles


Posts: 3048 | Registered: Jun 2005
Jrazz
Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, September 21st (Friday)


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17352 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
gahurts
Member
Member # 33699
Content  Posted: 5:27 PM, September 21st (Friday)

I agree with JRazz.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3416 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
JandAandE
Member
Member # 34988
Default  Posted: 5:29 PM, September 21st (Friday)

I've been having the same issues as Downfall all day today.


Me: Madhatter
Him: Madhatter
My affair: 2007 for 3 months; confessed in 2010
His affairs: 2009 (ONS) and 2010 (3 months); I caught him.
Us: Married since '05; 3 kids ages 9, 6, and 18 months & another on the way.


Posts: 635 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: Midwest
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Are these changes why I cannot view posts unless I am logged in?

Thank you for reporting this. It should be corrected now.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
StillGoing
Member
Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, September 21st (Friday)

"Transaction Failed

This transaction cannot be accepted."

I turned noscript off but got the same error.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7448 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, September 21st (Friday)

"Transaction Failed
This transaction cannot be accepted."

I'm looking into this.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
broken <3
Member
Member # 35098
Default  Posted: 5:40 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Hi there! Great idea and honestly the cost is minimal. Quick question - if I upgrade now will I have all my old post back or will it be effective after I upgrade?
I really want to keep my old posts to see my progress and healing from day one


Me - BS mother of 15 month old identical twin girls (conceived during HB)
Him - serial cheater
R? Still not sure if this is a deal breaker...

Posts: 459 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: West coast Canada
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Still Going, please try again. I believe the failure message you received has been corrected.

Broken <3, you will be able to view your posts that have already been archived once you upgrade.

For those who have already upgraded to Platinum. You can view your archived posts by going into your profile in the SImplicity versions of SI.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
SilverRose13
Member
Member # 33982
Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, September 21st (Friday)

is this per account? WH and i both have an account, and would both like these features, but we could not afford $100+ per year.


Together 16 years, Married 13
BS (me; 32)
fWS (wtsmm; 32) 2 1/2 yr LTA
2 children, 11 and 5
DD #1 9/27/2011 (EA/Sexting)
DD #2 10/3/2011 (Some PA)
DD #3 11/28/2011 (Full Disclosure)

Posts: 223 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Northern Illinois
StillGoing
Member
Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Yep, that did it. Thank you sir.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7448 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
stilllovingher
Member
Member # 29959
Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, September 21st (Friday)

this is great!
Im so glad you guys are doing this.
and to be able to see my first posts...priceless!


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

Posts: 2407 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
Mrs Panda
Member
Member # 27303
Default  Posted: 6:10 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Any way that mail in donations can be accepted for upgrade? My BH doesn't approve of my ongoing "need" for SI, kwim?


Me-41 FWW Him-45BH
M 13years. Reconciled.
DDay#1 Nov 2008 (OM2)
DDay#2 Aug 2009 (Confessed to OM 2001)
"Those who believe in telekinetics, raise my hand." -Kurt Vonnegut

Posts: 1985 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: The SouthEast
Aubrie
Member
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 6:14 PM, September 21st (Friday)

and to be able to see my first posts...priceless!

Fa sho! I copy/paste alot of my stuff but had already lost most everything from my first month here.

Thank you DS and MH.

Very cool stuff.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6234 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, September 21st (Friday)

is this per account?

This is per account so both profiles would have to be upgraded. However if you choose to only upgrade one profile to Platinum, the other profile's posts will be visible in the archives for any threads you have both posted to.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
BaxtersBFF
Member
Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, September 21st (Friday)

I read my first post from almost 3 years ago. Holy Crap!!!

I think I have many thank yous to give for those who helped me out so long ago...


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
cayc
Member
Member # 21964
Default  Posted: 6:27 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Awesome!

My upgrade worked, but the subscription ID line is blank (i.e. no number). Does that come later in the email receipt?

OMG, the text version on my iPhone, double awesome!

[This message edited by cayc at 6:31 PM, September 21st (Friday)]


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3091 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
agreensleeve
Member
Member # 26210
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, September 21st (Friday)

I got a transaction failed, but I realized I didn't click the agree box. Take 2 worked.

I'm not sure I want to read my fist post. I can still recall some of what I wrote and how I was so naive in thinking my FWH had changed.

MH and DS, THANK YOU for being here when we need you. Not only can I get great advice and support, you're tax deductible also


BS:53/FWS:59(LCFBastard)/M:33 Years
DDay: 25Sep09:Online Porn;2Oct09:Emails/PA w/Escorts 6 times from Apr 03-Sep 09.In IC/MC/R.
This is my quest,No matter how hopeless, no matter how far.To be willing to march into HELL for a HEAVENLY cause.

Posts: 281 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: CO
lovedmesomehim
Member
Member # 25743
Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Hi to All!

I am so thankful for this site. This community has supported me tremendously.

In the beginning, I was here for as many as 22 hours at a time.

I will make a donation, as I would like to view my progress.

Um. What name for the site shows up on the credit card statement?


Posts: 465 | Registered: Oct 2009
kchip
Member
Member # 36365
Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, September 21st (Friday)

How about premium dating for BSs?


Me: BH (42)
2 boys, age 10/7
D Day: July 15, 2012
Status: DIVORCING
You know that movie, Sleeping With the Enemy? Well I am Julia Roberts in that one......sighhhh
"When we hit our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change"

Posts: 471 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: FL
Sad in AZ
Member
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, September 21st (Friday)

What a great idea! I wish I had seen this at work; I don't have a secure connection at home yet. (Waiting impatiently for Monday... )


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

Posts: 20178 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
hurtinky
Member
Member # 26152
Default  Posted: 7:11 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Can I pay so that I CAN'T see my old posts?


Me --> BS
D-Day 10-1988
D-Day 9-12-2005
S 9-13-2005
D 3-6-12



Posts: 1500 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Kentucky
Tred
Member
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, September 21st (Friday)

I upgraded but can't figure out how to see my old posts. And yes, I rebooted the computer.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3937 | Registered: Dec 2011
Lucky2HaveMe
Member
Member # 13333
Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, September 21st (Friday)

The old archived posts... will we see the entire thread or just our own post?


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6405 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
Aubrie
Member
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 7:21 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Tred, on the main page, click on Simplicity. Then go to your profile. Top left says 'view oldest posts' etc.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6234 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Tred
Member
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Thanks Aubrie.


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3937 | Registered: Dec 2011
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, September 21st (Friday)

cayc, we will locate your subscription ID for you.

agreensleeve, I will look into that. The system should have prevented you from proceeding until you check the I agree box.

Lucky2HaveMe, platinum profiles will gain access to entire threads that you participated in. Not just your own posts but others that responded as well.

The charge on your card will appear as SI Online.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
webmistress
Member
Member # 29816
Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Whatever you charge is a deal for SI! Donation coming your way next payday


Me: BW-42
Ex-WH: 34
Married: 6 years
DDay #1: 10/5/10, one week before our daughters 4th birthday
D official 2/23/11
DDay#2: 10/20/12, after 8 months of false R
OW: Delusional, stupid whore; OC officially XH's
In R

Posts: 1355 | Registered: Oct 2010
stilllovingher
Member
Member # 29959
Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, September 21st (Friday)

GAH!
tried to squeeze it in...gotta pay the last ginormous power bill of the year first.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

Posts: 2407 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
JanaGreen
Member
Member # 29341
Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Very cool; I'll be upgrading whenever D is final.


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 4-year-old daughter.

Posts: 6740 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
wincing_at_light
Member
Member # 14393
Default  Posted: 8:28 PM, September 21st (Friday)

The donation page fails attempting to validate my username.

If I had to guess, I'd say it's freaking out on the underscores and not escaping them correctly. It's not an ASP failure...something in the javascript validator -- looks like the confirmUser function.

For troubleshooting purposes, the error message reads "That username is not recognized", and then it hangs on the "Loading Upgrade Information" gif.

I'm running Firefox 12.0 with AdBlock and (obviously) javascript on. I get the same results in IE and Chrome.

When I try usernames without underscores, everything works fine...but underscores fail in all cases. I tried inserting spaces and ASCII variants, but that's also a fail.

Anyway, I'm going to try it from a logged out state and see what happens. I'll let you know.


Machiavellian idiot savant

Posts: 6744 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Indiana
WarpSpeed
Member
Member # 32051
Default  Posted: 8:29 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Happy to upgrade/contribute. Thanks for a great site.


Me: BS (51)
Her: fWW (50)
Married 27 years
Two sons in college
Empty closet and note on bed Jan 2010, She filed for D Mar 2010, D final May 2010, Actually had D-Day and found out why it all happened July 2010. Remarried on 23rd Anniv Aug 2010

Posts: 1491 | Registered: May 2011 | From: Dallas
jrc1963
Member
Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Dang... next Friday (payday) can't get here soon enough!!!


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24514 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
TrustedHer
Member
Member # 23328
Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, September 21st (Friday)

You use the word "donation". Is it safe to assume that these donations still qualify for the tax deduction?

Thanks.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5156 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
IslandWahine
Member
Member # 29536
Default  Posted: 9:16 PM, September 21st (Friday)

If I sign up for the $20 package...then change my mind in a month and want the greater package (because I do this with EVERYTHING!)...would I pay the difference or pay the whole thing again? Not that y'all don't deserve it! Just wanted to know...got more court coming soon so have to conserve funds.


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought you’d never lose it.-B.Scott

Posts: 960 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Somewhere out there....
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:23 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Is it safe to assume that these donations still qualify for the tax deduction?

Absolutely

If I sign up for the $20 package...then change my mind in a month and want the greater package (because I do this with EVERYTHING!)...would I pay the difference or pay the whole thing again?

It's currently programmed that each package works independently. I'm not sure when MH will have time to program it differently.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
StillGoing
Member
Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, September 21st (Friday)

I can't figure it out either, Tred.

Honestly I was happy to be able to donate without standing up and shouting at my monitor after fucking with paypal for 10 minutes and giving up again. If I need to embarrass myself with old posts I'll look at my journal.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7448 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:51 PM, September 21st (Friday)

StillGoing...

You were upgraded. Look at the top of each forum page and click on the Click Here link


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, September 21st (Friday)

A couple of questions, and I'm sorry to be so nitpicky; it's the side of me that still thinks going to law school in a few years is a good idea.

1. Does the payment need to be made all at once, or can it be made in installations? Will regular donations count, or only specified transactions for this purpose? This may have already been answered in the question about separate transactions, but I really want to know of I can dedicate my $50 towards Moo's pedi fund

2. Is SI fully PCI Compliant? Who sees my credit card info? Is it retained in any way, either electronically or in paper form? Also, is SI a registered 501(c) 3?

3. Since the donations are intended to be made annually, will there be some sort of reminder sent out when payments are due, or will accounts just revert to their original format until the next payment is made?

4. Does the system operate on a calendar year, or will it extend out 12months from the date of donation?

I came up with more.
5. Does this mean anything for the fate of the auction block?

6. How big of a donation do we need to make to get a pool pass?

[This message edited by Amazonia at 10:24 PM, September 21st (Friday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13748 | Registered: Jul 2011
IslandWahine
Member
Member # 29536
Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Thanks! Will wait until next payday; waiting to find out how much my brakes are going to cost me tomorrow!


Me: BS, 2 COM, M-14 years
FWH-finally hit rock bottom
11/09 D-day. R'ing
cOW: EVIL
OC: NC for our safety.
People say you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone. Truth is, you knew what you had, you just thought you’d never lose it.-B.Scott

Posts: 960 | Registered: Sep 2010 | From: Somewhere out there....
MsSunshine
Member
Member # 32907
Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Will the platinum membership give us access to old private messages as well?

There's a lot of history in my old private messages that I would love to access again. Also, I had so much wise support from more experienced SI members I'd love to have those old letters back.

I scanned the earlier posts and didn't see anything on pm's. Sorry if I missed it.


Posts: 270 | Registered: Jul 2011
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Will the platinum membership give us access to old private messages as well?

No...once PM's are gone...they're gone for good. So sorry!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, September 21st (Friday)

The donation page fails attempting to validate my username.

Thank you for reporting this. Your username will now be recognized.

1. Does the payment need to be made all at once, or can it be made in installations? Will regular donations count, or only specified transactions for this purpose? This may have already been answered in the question about separate transactions, but I really want to know of I can dedicate my $50 towards Moo's pedi fund

The first year of the upgrade is charged all at once. Subsequent years are part of the subscription and billed monthly starting one year from your upgrade. You may cancel your upgrade before the monthly payments kick in. Although canceling prior to the end of your first term will prematurely end your access to the new features.

2. Is SI fully PCI Compliant? Who sees my credit card info? Is it retained in any way, either electronically or in paper form? Also, is SI a registered 501(c) 3?

We are fully PCI compliant. We do not store your credit card information in any form. Once it has been processed it is disposed of regardless if the transaction is successful. SI is a registered 501(c)(3) non-profit organization. Any contributions are tax-deductible.

3. Since the donations are intended to be made annually, will there be some sort of reminder sent out when payments are due, or will accounts just revert to their original format until the next payment is made?

After your first year anniversary your monthly subscription will begin and the monthly payment will be charged automatically unless you cancel prior to your payment date. Upgrades made today will begin being charged the monthly fee on 9/21/2013.

4. Does the system operate on a calendar year, or will it extend out 12months from the date of donation?

It is based on the date your initial upgrade was initiated.

I came up with another one.
5. Does this mean anything for the fate of the auction block?

You will now be able to pay for your auction items via credit card.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
leapyearbaby
Member
Member # 24902
Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, September 21st (Friday)

So I take it I will have to convert the monthly payment I have been sending to a yearly credit card payment?


me BS the Big 6-0!!
him WS 56
married 28 years
together 31
DD 6/10/08
ow #1,2 lta on and off since 1995
ow 3 ons summer 2005
2 D, mine from prior marriage, but he raised them
R'ing...probably not....but then again, maybe....


Posts: 1375 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Colorado
gonnabe2016
Member
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, September 21st (Friday)

If I *happen* to get banned, do I get a pro-rated refund?


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8007 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
timeforchange
Member
Member # 27454
Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Will be signing up in a few days time.

I can't wait to read my first posts and seek out those who replied to say thank you.

I tend not to post in JFO as I am afraid of not giving the same quality of advice I received.

Now with access to those posts... They will almost be a tutorial in how to help the newbies. Can't wait to pay some of that forward.

Great initiative. And I sincerely hope you are now able to
Cover your monthly operating costs.


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
Aubrie
Member
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, September 21st (Friday)

Gonna!

All jokes and questions aside, I'm a little star struck that MH came out from behind the curtain. The wizard is real!

Thank you soooo much MH and DS for all you do. Y'all are awesome.

[This message edited by Aubrie84 at 12:00 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)]


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6234 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
MsSunshine
Member
Member # 32907
Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

No worries Deeply Scared. Thank you so much for your response.

I'm so grateful to you and MH. I know your halo and harp are waiting for you two. How incredible that out of your own challenges in life you have made such a difference to the lives of so many.

Many, many thanks, MsS.


Posts: 270 | Registered: Jul 2011
Alex CR
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Member # 27968
Default  Posted: 3:59 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Am glad you guys have come up with a way to keep this site going. It's a lifesaver!

About three weeks ago, I made a donation that would cover a platinum membership. Is there any plan to allow those who contributed within the last month to upgrade or are we required to make another donation?

Thanks......


BS Me 61
WS Him 62
Married 33
Together 40
DD 11/16/09
The future looks good....

Posts: 1697 | Registered: Mar 2010
Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Thanks MH!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13748 | Registered: Jul 2011
Hope24
Member
Member # 9344
Default  Posted: 6:36 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Just signed up but I''m skeered to read my old posts.

[This message edited by Hope24 at 6:51 AM, September 22nd, 2012 (Saturday)]


She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.

Posts: 7605 | Registered: Jan 2006 | From: Poolside
painpaingoaway
Member
Member # 27196
Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Does anyone know if the 'mobile' version works on iPad?


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
MovingUpward
Guide
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

The mobile version works on the iPad too.


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Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52207 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Gonna...

If I *happen* to get banned, do I get a pro-rated refund?

No...there is a strict No Refund agreement that you(general term) must click off on before continuing with the upgrade.

Alex...

I'm not sure what MH's plans were for recent past donations...I'll ask him and he'll either post in here (when he gets up...lol!) or I will


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Lucky2HaveMe
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Member # 13333
Default  Posted: 8:00 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Gonna you made me spew my coffee!


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Posts: 6405 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
mitz66
Member
Member # 17888
Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

I just signed up for the premium access. Wow, I have been a member since 2008. I just read all of my old posts. Thanks for all creating and maintaining this site. I only have a couple friends irl who know the true story. SI has been my safe place to go, I don't post often but I read nearly every day.

Just wanted to say I appreciate all of your work and support to the members.


Me:44 BS Him:43 WH
M May 07 Adult kids
DDay #1 Pics on cell jly 07
Jan08 DDay #2 "Just Friends" admits EA DDay #3 July 2010 - he insisted on platonic contact ..False R - until Dec 2010 admits PA in April 07
Dec 2012 NC succeeded

Posts: 543 | Registered: Jan 2008
Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 8:02 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

If a member gets banned while in the autorenewal phase, will their auto renew be stopped, or can they still log in to cancel payment going forward?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13748 | Registered: Jul 2011
StillGoing
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Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Thanks DS, I found it. I blame the Oktoberfest.

Is there a way to see posts in the time range between oldest & newest, or will oldest be locked to where it is now?

Also, if billing in the future is monthly automated will there be a way to donate additional money or is that reserved for initial signup? If that was detailed somewhere I missed it, sorry.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7448 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
Aubrie
Member
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Umm, I have a dumb question...

When I click "Older Posts" I'm seeing everything from my start date thru March.

"Recent posts" show from mid-July to present.

I'm not seeing a scrolly thing or page (2) icon for the posts between March and July.

Am I missing something? (Which is possible. I haven't had my coffee yet.)

Also, reading old stuff...Oh Em Gee. Don't know how some of y'all didn't chase me outta here.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6234 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 8:46 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

If a member gets banned while in the autorenewal phase, will their auto renew be stopped, or can they still log in to cancel payment going forward?

Good question. I will make sure that if a member is banned their subscription will be cancelled before any additional charges appear.

Is there a way to see posts in the time range between oldest & newest, or will oldest be locked to where it is now?

The archives are still a work in progress. I plan on expanding on what has already been done. I would like to add pagination similar to what you see on the forum pages in SImplicity.

Also, if billing in the future is monthly automated will there be a way to donate additional money or is that reserved for initial signup?

Additional donations can always be made using the link on the left.

When I click "Older Posts" I'm seeing everything from my start date thru March.

Your older posts are currently limited to the first 500 that exist in the archives. Once pagination has been added you should be able to navigate through all of your posts. I have not yet begun that programming so I do not have a timetable for when that will be completed.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
Aubrie
Member
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

No worries. Just seeing the first 500 is pretty flipping awesome.

Again, y'all are great.
Thank you.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6234 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
UKgirl
Member
Member # 17062
Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Can I just pay annually? The upgrade now and then however much it is in 12mths time on or before the anniversary?

Can we still make other one-off donations? (I'm thinking if the day should come when I graduate, send a last gift and say bye-bye....)


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3455 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Additional donations can always be made using the link on the left.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 37615 | Registered: Sep 2007
gonnabe2016
Member
Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

@DS--I was just kidding.....you may not realize from the unladylike language that I spew around here, but even *I* know that it is classless to request a refund from a 501c

The upgrades sound awesome, thanks MH for putting in the time and effort to *make it happen*!


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8007 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
cryingdaily
Member
Member # 7276
Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Ugh, ugh, ugh! Just as I hit "submit" I realized I may have made a typo in my name on the billing info.

It seems to have gone through anyway, but if my payment bounces back, because I'm a dumbass, will I be banned?


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14400 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
UKgirl
Member
Member # 17062
Content  Posted: 12:04 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Additional donations can always be made using the link on the left.
Oh yeh! And still paypal.

So what about:

Can I just pay annually? The upgrade now and then however much it is in 12mths time on or before the anniversary?
Cos that’s what I’d prefer – and you’d get the money upfront.


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3455 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
StillGoing
Member
Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Sorry, I should have been more specific. Will I be able to donate with CC again or is it limited to paypal and check/money order?

Thanks for everything.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7448 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
cdnmommy
Member
Member # 30182
Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Great idea! It's been awhile since I made a donation. :)


Me: BW
DDay: Oct 2010 + 6 weeks false R
2.5 (+?) year A with married coworker/my "friend"
1 great kid.
Reconciling and healing

Posts: 1732 | Registered: Nov 2010
heartstabber
Member
Member # 34079
Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

How do we access the mobile app?

Thanks


Me: WW
Married: 15 years
DD: November 2011

Let's eat Grandma. Let's eat, Grandma. Commas save lives.


Posts: 164 | Registered: Dec 2011
Lucky2HaveMe
Member
Member # 13333
Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Do the old posts ever go away? Is there a max # of posts that can be saved to our profile?


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6405 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
heartstabber
Member
Member # 34079
Default  Posted: 6:16 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Never mind, there is no mobile app.


Me: WW
Married: 15 years
DD: November 2011

Let's eat Grandma. Let's eat, Grandma. Commas save lives.


Posts: 164 | Registered: Dec 2011
Tred
Member
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Sorry, inside joke that was misinterpreted. I should have known better.

[This message edited by Tred at 6:47 AM, September 23rd (Sunday)]


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 3937 | Registered: Dec 2011
gotmylifeback
Member
Member # 32693
Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

I know that for some people even $20.00 can be a lot on a limited budget. If I was to pay, lets say $40.00, can I gift $20.00 of it to another SI member who is financially sruggling so they can benefit from premium access?


Her-Unremorseful, Wayward ex wife
Me-No longer a betrayed husband

Happily remarried.

"You are what you do. A man is defined by his actions, not his memory." - Kuato in Total Recall


Posts: 597 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: between Oz and Wonderland
OnceInALifetime
Member
Member # 26023
Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Got a weird question for you. I changed my user name due to privacy concerns (the mods were kind enough to let me do that). If I pay for premium access, will I be able to see archived posts of other users as well (i.e. my original user name)?

[This message edited by OnceInALifetime at 9:58 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)]


BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009
jo2love
Moderator
Member # 31528
Red  Posted: 9:00 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

Tred -

GENERAL STATEMENTS: Please refrain from making statements that generalize gender, WS/OP/BS, race, religion or political alignment. Also do not presume to speak on behalf of other people.


Posts: 35232 | Registered: Mar 2011
Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 6:43 AM, September 23rd (Sunday)

Thank you Jo!!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13748 | Registered: Jul 2011
Dagny07
Member
Member # 16928
Default  Posted: 1:19 PM, September 23rd (Sunday)

I have the same issues as cayc:

My upgrade worked, but the subscription ID line is blank (i.e. no number).

Tho I rarely post, I'm on this site almost everyday. We're in R and I owe a debt of gratitude to this site and the extraordinary people who run it and contribute to it.

We wouldn't have made it without you.


Me:BW Him: FWH E/A
M: 29 years, together 36 : both guilty of PAs 20+ years ago
CDay#1 Oct 06 (false); DDay#2 Oct 07 (truth from OW's BH)
R: Tenaciously optimistic

Posts: 831 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Midwest
dreamlife
Member
Member # 8142
Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, September 23rd (Sunday)

I am in D right now & super broke.
Can I sent in my payment along with my Christmas card as I do send in a yearly *gratitude contribution* every Xmas.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

Posts: 25429 | Registered: Sep 2005
lifeblowntobits
Member
Member # 33687
Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, September 23rd (Sunday)

Bonus from work coming this week so I will definitely be upgrading! This is awesome!


Me-BS-44, Him-WH-45-very remorseful
OW-Married, opportunistic co-worker whore
DD#1 7-30-2011: everything else lies until 2-12-12
Married 11years, DS19y, DS15y
2.5 years out: in a good place, light at the end of the tunnel


Posts: 1646 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Illinois
cryingdaily
Member
Member # 7276
Default  Posted: 8:17 AM, September 24th (Monday)

So, it's probably right in front of my face but.....how do I see older posts?


Me: BS 48
Him: Doesn't matter any more.
The Royal Court, formerly known as the Princess Posse:
DD31 - Belle
DD23 - Xena
GD10 - Jasmine
GD8 - Ariel
GD Born 9/4/12 - Tink
GS Born 6/23/2014 - Little Prince

Posts: 14400 | Registered: Jun 2005 | From: Massachusetts
nowiknow23
Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:20 AM, September 24th (Monday)

CD - From the Forums page, click on "CLICK HERE" for SImplicity. Then click on "Profile." There's a link for "View Oldest Posts"

Be sure to set aside a bit of time. It's engrossing...


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25382 | Registered: Aug 2011
Chria
Member
Member # 14090
Default  Posted: 8:49 AM, September 25th (Tuesday)

I didn't scroll through the entire 5 pages of this topic (call me lazy). Sorry if these have already been answered....

I always send a check at the beginning of each year. Should I stop doing that and go to credit card from now on?

Since there is now a 'benefit' for paying, is it still tax-deductible?

[This message edited by Chria at 8:49 AM, September 25th (Tuesday)]


There is never a single right solution. But there are always multiple wrong ones.

Posts: 4666 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Lurch's Lunatic Asylum
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, September 25th (Tuesday)

Chria...

I always send a check at the beginning of each year. Should I stop doing that and go to credit card from now on?

And we greatly appreciate that you do that every year!! If it were me, I would use the CC method that way you get access to all your old posts along with the other benefits.

Since there is now a 'benefit' for paying, is it still tax-deductible?

Absolutely I'll be revising the 'receipt' for everyone that has upgraded to the SImplicity and will send them out most likely in the next two weeks. Plenty of time before end of year taxes


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Chria
Member
Member # 14090
Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, September 25th (Tuesday)

I would use the CC method that way you get access to all your old posts along with the other benefits.

Can I wait until January? (I guess this means no benefits until then ?)

[This message edited by Chria at 9:33 AM, September 25th (Tuesday)]


There is never a single right solution. But there are always multiple wrong ones.

Posts: 4666 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Lurch's Lunatic Asylum
joe blow
Member
Member # 17349
Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, September 25th (Tuesday)

I've heard about the auction block a few times now, but never seen it as a forum. What exactly is it, and how can I access it?


Posts: 62 | Registered: Dec 2007
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:27 PM, September 25th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry Chria

Joe...we will be holding an auction with goods that have been donated by some very generous members. If all goes right, it should be open to the public this week


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
BaxtersBFF
Member
Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, September 25th (Tuesday)

Okay...Ummm...when did the Auction Block forum disappear? It was up there for a couple years...as was noticeable by the some mods accidentally moving threads there on a layover to the proper forum destination...

Am I the only one who didn't notice it disappeared?


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Jrazz
Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, September 25th (Tuesday)

No Baxter, you're just a little late to the party.


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Posts: 17352 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
BaxtersBFF
Member
Member # 26859
Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, September 25th (Tuesday)

Just point me to the booze and it all be fine...


WH - 44
BW - gerrygirl

Posts: 6099 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Boise
Jrazz
Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, September 25th (Tuesday)

There appears to be some tainted Kool Aid in General.


Also, can the Guides please stop jacking this thread? Geez.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17352 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
nowiknow23
Guide
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, September 25th (Tuesday)

Did I miss a Guide thread jack? Dang.

DS - VERY excited for the Auction forum to make a comeback!!!


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25382 | Registered: Aug 2011
Angelstar5
Member
Member # 35276
Default  Posted: 3:06 AM, September 26th (Wednesday)

I know you said using paypal would be a pain, but i'm confused because you accept paypal for donations.

I can't use a credit card, i HAVE to use paypal. THere are reasons, one being that I do not want WH to know i spent money for this, and he never goes thru the checking account but does the credit cards. I can't use my debit card because we get text messeges related to that (my doing, keeps me posted if he uses it for weird stuff)

So, what if i donate to paypal, can someone upgrade it for me then? I'll pay whatever fee paypal is charging. thanks


Me 47,WH 46 alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs

Posts: 753 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Fort Worth TX
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, September 26th (Wednesday)

Dreamlife...

Can I sent in my payment along with my Christmas card as I do send in a yearly *gratitude contribution* every Xmas.

Angelstar...

So, what if i donate to paypal, can someone upgrade it for me then? I'll pay whatever fee paypal is charging. thanks

The Premium access currently is programmed to handle CC payments only. I'm sorry!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, September 26th (Wednesday)

I changed my user name due to privacy concerns (the mods were kind enough to let me do that). If I pay for premium access, will I be able to see archived posts of other users as well (i.e. my original user name)?

Onceinalifetime...

You would have to pick which account you want the premium access to be applied to, unless you upgrade both your accounts. But with your old account, you would not be able to post under...it would be strictly 'read only' If that's the route you want to go, please let me know privately that you want your old account re-opened for reading your previous posts


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
mitz66
Member
Member # 17888
Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, September 26th (Wednesday)

Hi! I just checked my visa bill and unfortunately it says www.survivinginfidelit springs TX. I thought you should know how it is showing up on the bill. I am okay as my wh does not have online access. But others may have an issue. Don't know if that can be fixed.


Me:44 BS Him:43 WH
M May 07 Adult kids
DDay #1 Pics on cell jly 07
Jan08 DDay #2 "Just Friends" admits EA DDay #3 July 2010 - he insisted on platonic contact ..False R - until Dec 2010 admits PA in April 07
Dec 2012 NC succeeded

Posts: 543 | Registered: Jan 2008
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, September 26th (Wednesday)

mitz...thanks so much...I'll call our cc processor first thing in the morning.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
UKgirl
Member
Member # 17062
Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, September 27th (Thursday)

Is there any way I can pay for my membership annually? I normally send a donation through a CC and paypal, but I don’t want a direct debit on the account or to pay monthly. Would this option mess things up for you?


D-Day: 30 July 2006 LTA: 5yrs
Me, BS, 57 y/o Him, WS, 58 y/o
MOW, pathetic ex-fiancee.
3 grown boys and one 19 y/o
I don't consider myself married anymore.
There are some words once spoken split the world in two. Before you say them and after.

Posts: 3455 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: UK
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, September 27th (Thursday)

UKgirl...

Currently to upgrade your account its through using your CC by the means it's set up on the site


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Lost and Betraye
Member
Member # 33988
Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, September 27th (Thursday)

When I click on the Platinum drop down, it says it does not recognize my user name, which was prefilled when I followed the link??


Me=BS 50; Him=WS 46; Dday 11/10/11
Married 13 years; together 20
Kids: DD11;(2) grown boys/men from my previous marriage to a WS
Status: Divorcing

"The past is a guidepost, not a hitching post" L Thomas Holdcroft


Posts: 317 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: CA
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, September 27th (Thursday)

When I click on the Platinum drop down, it says it does not recognize my user name

Please try it again. It should work now.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
Angelstar5
Member
Member # 35276
Default  Posted: 9:37 PM, September 27th (Thursday)

i cant sift thru all the posts here lol but i need help. I paid for the membership but how do i search archives? please help! thanks


Me 47,WH 46 alcoholic/Married 25y
2 kids age 16 and 28
DDay #1-7/3/94 hooker, DDAY #2,2/10/12 found 100's of calls to a hooker gaslighting begins. DDay#3 3/26/12 proof/TT DDay#4 3/28/12 weekly sex with 2 hookers Dec-Feb. Several EAs

Posts: 753 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Fort Worth TX
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, September 27th (Thursday)

Angelstar5...

Your account was upgraded so all you need to do is go out to the main forum page and click on the link in the red banner.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 11:53 AM, October 1st (Monday)

Just an update...

Our CC processor has updated our account so all transactions will appear as SI Online on your cc bill.

I just tested it and checked my pending cc charge on line and it does show up at SI Online.

WHew!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
averysadindian
Member
Member # 29352
Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, October 2nd (Tuesday)

Hi,

I just became a Platinum member..thank you for offering this opportunity...

How can I access the previous records of my entries on the forums.

AVSI


Me BS 35
She WS 35
Married 8 years, together 13 years
No children
DDay#1- 17 Aug 2010 D Day #2 17 March 2011
Status : Separated (Aug 2011) and ready for D. Trying to make it happen amicably.

Posts: 80 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: India
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, October 2nd (Tuesday)

How can I access the previous records of my entries on the forums.

Click on the red banner link on the main forum page, go into your Profile and then click on View Older Posts


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
FrozenTear
Member
Member # 32680
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, October 9th (Tuesday)

Not a bad idea at all. I will have to wait until the new year due to several expenses coming up. Heck even an extra dollar being spent is not really accessible right now.

Nice upgrades offers though! :)


BS (me/wife)
WS (husband)
Last DD (12/14/2010)
Together since Dec, 19th 2006

"Chaos begins to multiply, exponential memories overide my sympathies."


Posts: 163 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: USA
spincycle
Member
Member # 5853
Default  Posted: 10:33 AM, October 14th (Sunday)

DS and MH,

I'm happy to contribute, this place is worth a years worth of counselor co-pays =)

So I can go back to 04? That's wild. Part of me is curious, the open part doesn't want to be back there. Looking forward to going platinum.

EDIT: I see now it says posts from 08. No problem.

[This message edited by spincycle at 10:38 AM, October 14th (Sunday)]


Me, 37 BH
WS, 32, and 6 (now 10) (now 12)separate affairs
DS 5, and DD 2.
D-DAY 11-18-04
Divorced 2-2012, if only I had listen to you all in 04, if only I had run away.

Posts: 1510 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Houston
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 10:39 AM, October 14th (Sunday)

spincycle...

Holy hell...it's so good to see you!!!

The posts go back to 2008, you may see some from further back under your Premium upgrade...but it's no guaranteed


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
spincycle
Member
Member # 5853
Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, October 14th (Sunday)

Hey DS, long time! Hope you both are well. Mine are not showing, but that''s ok. 1500 posts would be way to much for me to sift through. I like the changes to the site, Glad to see some healing on some people from back in the day, some are even mods now!

Edit again: my bad, I didn''t know what simplicity was. I see the old ones, man, these go WAY back.

[This message edited by spincycle at 10:46 AM, October 14th, 2012 (Sunday)]


Me, 37 BH
WS, 32, and 6 (now 10) (now 12)separate affairs
DS 5, and DD 2.
D-DAY 11-18-04
Divorced 2-2012, if only I had listen to you all in 04, if only I had run away.

Posts: 1510 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Houston
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, October 14th (Sunday)

MH and I are doing well...thank you

I'm glad you like the changes...it's always nice when our old members come back and see some of the upgrades we've done

Really good to see you!!

Today's a big day in Houston...hopefully 6-0 for the Texans!!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
spincycle
Member
Member # 5853
Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, October 14th (Sunday)

Girl, I'm crossing every limb!
I've become a fanatical Texans fan. Never paid attention to football until a few years ago, it's become a nice hobby and distraction. Great to hear you both are doing well, really great to hear!
I will say these next two games have me nervous, GB was 15-1 last year.


Me, 37 BH
WS, 32, and 6 (now 10) (now 12)separate affairs
DS 5, and DD 2.
D-DAY 11-18-04
Divorced 2-2012, if only I had listen to you all in 04, if only I had run away.

Posts: 1510 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Houston
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, October 14th (Sunday)

When I went to Kroger this morning...EVERYONE was wearing Texan jersey's, hats, t-shirts...lol!! I love it!!

If you're ever up here in The Woodlands...let me know and MH and I will treat you to a beer


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
spincycle
Member
Member # 5853
Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, October 17th (Wednesday)

Ds,

thanks for the invite, I'm up in the woodlands quite often. My parents and brother live there.

Yeah, jerseys are sold out all over. But wow, was that a painful game to watch. The Falcons have me really nervous.


Me, 37 BH
WS, 32, and 6 (now 10) (now 12)separate affairs
DS 5, and DD 2.
D-DAY 11-18-04
Divorced 2-2012, if only I had listen to you all in 04, if only I had run away.

Posts: 1510 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Houston
Sissi12
New Member
Member # 37163
Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, October 17th (Wednesday)

This is a great idea. Thank you for the work.

Posts: 24 | Registered: Oct 2012
momto7
New Member
Member # 37294
Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, October 28th (Sunday)

Sounds good..but i'm kind of on the broke side right now. Soon though

Posts: 5 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: Southern Ontario
Newchapter
Member
Member # 36525
Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, November 12th (Monday)

MangledHeart or DeeplyScared, can you please PM me I have no way of PMing you and can not discuss here my question about premium access. Thanks!


Me: BS - 52
Him: WS - 51 NPD, 5-year LTA
Filed for D 7/2011

Posts: 84 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: North Carolina
mom of 2
Member
Member # 11214
Default  Posted: 7:16 PM, November 15th (Thursday)

What if I want to pay/sponsor other members a premium access but don't know who needs it? I would like to dedicate a certain amount of money (in honor of unicornsearcher ) to sponsor a few other's memberships. But I have no idea who needs it.

And I don't know how to find the "link in their profile". Sorry, I'm a dumbass.


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13319 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
Deeply Scared
Administrator
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Default  Posted: 6:39 AM, November 16th (Friday)

(((mom of 2)))

Thats really sweet of you

I'll bring this to the Moderators and I bet we can come up with a few names that would benefit from a sponsorship. I'll PM you later today and give you the opportunity to pick the one you want to sponsor

[This message edited by Deeply Scared at 6:40 AM, November 16th (Friday)]


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
mom of 2
Member
Member # 11214
Default  Posted: 5:18 PM, November 16th (Friday)

That would be great. Thank you! And I figured out how to sponsor someone (through their profile) so that's good. Just awaiting a pm when you have a chance.

edited for clarity

[This message edited by mom of 2 at 5:22 PM, November 16th (Friday)]


Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.

Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)


Posts: 13319 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: The suburbs of hell
SoyLatte
Member
Member # 37634
Default  Posted: 4:15 AM, November 29th (Thursday)

So I have to have 51 posts, then make a contribution?

I wish I could have access after a contribution but before 51 posts. It's in the beginning we need the investigation info.


Me: BS, 50
Him: WH, 49, serial cheater and compulsive liar, possible SA and NPD
Married 17 years, together 26
3 kids: 10, 13, and 15
Was afraid to confront while overseas, now home safely and can decide next step

Posts: 250 | Registered: Nov 2012
TarnishedSilver
Member
Member # 37166
Default  Posted: 5:38 AM, December 17th (Monday)

I made a donation the first week I became a member of SI. I have 75 post now and was interested in gaining Premium Access but it says I must upgrade now and donate again?


Me-BS (47)
Him-WH (48)
Married 26 years together 31
2 teenagers
Dday #1- 2/20/2011
Dday #2- 1/08/2012

Healing myself is now my top priority.


Posts: 156 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: USA
heartathome
Member
Member # 30098
Default  Posted: 5:57 AM, December 17th (Monday)

I just posted after a 4 month absence from SI. Now it says I only have made 1 topic post. Will that increase after I upgrade (which I will do anyway) by taking account of my posting history since joining? (Never mind; I see the "86 posts" now!)

I DO have a legitimate question? Will anything be sent to the address I use when I complete the upgrade form? I use a US address for credit card transactions, but I don't live there and don't want any mail going there. Thanks!

Also, has cccc20 upgraded yet, as I'd like to sponsor him?

[This message edited by heartathome at 6:28 AM, December 17th (Monday)]


Me WW, 48; Him BH, 48 (cccc20)
M-19; tog. 26
Me: 2-mo EA/PA '91. 3 ONS '91, '92, '99. 1-yr LTA '09-10.
DDays: 6 Sept '10; TT; all out 5 Nov '10.
Him: 1-mo PA '96; revealed 5 Nov '10.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Nov 2010
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, December 17th (Monday)

TarnishedSilver...

While we certainly appreciate your original donation, this is a seperate process that requires a credit card to upgrade your profile to which ever level you prefer


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, December 17th (Monday)

heartathome...

Will anything be sent to the address I use when I complete the upgrade form?

Nothing from us is mailed to anyone that upgrades. The only thing you would see is your credit card statement with a line item of "SI Online"


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
justdontno
New Member
Member # 35963
Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, December 17th (Monday)

I Have a question I realize should probably be asked in the investigate forum. I'm not sure if I'm reading this correct our not, I was registered before the premium access changed but dint have 51 posts so do I just need the post numbers or do I need to party also? The way I'm reading it it sounds like if I was registered before I don't have to pay? Just curious i don't want to post my question that can't be answered here. Funds are really tight for me thus month so I need to know what I'm looking at here.

Posts: 29 | Registered: Jun 2012
justdontno
New Member
Member # 35963
Default  Posted: 4:29 PM, December 17th (Monday)

I Have a question I realize should probably be asked in the investigate forum. I'm not sure if I'm reading this correct our not, I was registered before the premium access changed but dint have 51 posts so do I just need the post numbers or do I need to party also? The way I'm reading it it sounds like if I was registered before I don't have to pay? Just curious i don't want to post my question that can't be answered here. Funds are really tight for me thus month so I need to know what I'm looking at here.

Posts: 29 | Registered: Jun 2012
heartathome
Member
Member # 30098
Default  Posted: 4:38 AM, December 18th (Tuesday)

DS - thank you.
I'll also wait for your reply on if I can upgrade cccc20, or if he's done it already.
Thanks, again.


Me WW, 48; Him BH, 48 (cccc20)
M-19; tog. 26
Me: 2-mo EA/PA '91. 3 ONS '91, '92, '99. 1-yr LTA '09-10.
DDays: 6 Sept '10; TT; all out 5 Nov '10.
Him: 1-mo PA '96; revealed 5 Nov '10.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Nov 2010
UndecidedinMA
Member
Member # 33732
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, December 19th (Wednesday)

i tried to use cc and it keeps saying - error in processing. Is it my comp or is the system down?


ME - BSO
Him - FWSO
OW - DBC Xwife
DDAY 09/14/11 ONS w/DBCxWOW with 4 mos EA
Solidly in R

Posts: 1005 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: MA
heartathome
Member
Member # 30098
Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, December 20th (Thursday)

Undecided - I had that same problem, twice. Then, I logged out and it worked. Maybe see if that works for you.


Me WW, 48; Him BH, 48 (cccc20)
M-19; tog. 26
Me: 2-mo EA/PA '91. 3 ONS '91, '92, '99. 1-yr LTA '09-10.
DDays: 6 Sept '10; TT; all out 5 Nov '10.
Him: 1-mo PA '96; revealed 5 Nov '10.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Nov 2010
heartathome
Member
Member # 30098
Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, December 20th (Thursday)

DS - is my Profile page suppose to look different now or have new links? Also, when I linked to the form to upgrade, it had $49.20 pre-filled. I assumed that, with tax, the total would come to over $50 and I would have the full Platinum benefits, so I left it at that amount. How long does it take to activate?

Thanks.


Me WW, 48; Him BH, 48 (cccc20)
M-19; tog. 26
Me: 2-mo EA/PA '91. 3 ONS '91, '92, '99. 1-yr LTA '09-10.
DDays: 6 Sept '10; TT; all out 5 Nov '10.
Him: 1-mo PA '96; revealed 5 Nov '10.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Nov 2010
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, December 20th (Thursday)

heartathome...

We don't show that your account was upgraded and we didn't receive a payment coming from your profile.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
devastatedNtx
Member
Member # 37819
Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, December 23rd (Sunday)

I have the same question as another... I upgraded and I'm curious why there needs to be 51 posts before gaining access to investigate forum. As a new BS, this would be so helpful to have access to. Can you clarify reason why?

Posts: 74 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Grapevine, TX
Jrazz
Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 10:33 PM, December 23rd (Sunday)

**Responding as a member.

I wanted to reach out in regards to the last question because I had the same one when I first joined, and it makes more sense to me now.

Deeply Scared will have a MUCH better answer for this than I do, but it's my understanding that waiting until 51 posts kinda helps preserve the nature of the website.

I wanted IT help right away as well, but in retrospect it made sense to me that you need to establish your legitimacy in the community for a bit before trading information that could be considered sensitive on some level. The whole point of SI is to heal, and while that may very well mean getting help to uncover how far your betrayal goes, we wouldn't want you getting information from someone else who recently registered and may not be here for all the right reasons.

It's my understanding that the wait period is put in place to protect YOU and everyone who honestly needs help.

Like I said, DS will likely have a more complete and detailed explanation. I just wanted to lend my observation from the almost 2 years I've been here.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

Posts: 17352 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
devastatedNtx
Member
Member # 37819
Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, December 23rd (Sunday)

Jrazz... Thank you for responding... I understand what you are saying and it makes sense to me. I was also thinking it is probably better that I try to heal more before I obsess about investigating. I am trying..

Posts: 74 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Grapevine, TX
PanicAttack53
Member
Member # 34195
Default  Posted: 5:07 AM, January 6th (Sunday)

To MH,

Not a biggie but just wanted to let you know that there is a typo on the upgrade page. It's at the bottom of the initial explanation text above the form. It currently reads:

However refunds are non-refundable and non-transferable after processing.

I think it should read:

However upgrades are non-refundable and non-transferable after processing.

Again, not a biggie but just wanted to let you know.

P.s. my 6th grade English teacher would be so proud of me right now.


Me-BH Her-XWW | B/ 60 | D final on 10/1/13 I'm Lovin' life again!
Rest of the story really doesn't matter any more.
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

Posts: 868 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: Midwest
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, January 6th (Sunday)

Thanks PanicAttack!!!

MH just corrected it...we sure do appreciate you pointing that out


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Belle29
Member
Member # 35501
Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, January 8th (Tuesday)

I made a donation through PayPal as I did not see that it had to be made through the form that was mentioned. Is there a way that I can be upgraded? Thank you.


Me: BS
Her: WS
DDay: 4/27/2012

It's a rollercoaster ride for sure......and I never did like rollercoasters. That's why I got off.


Posts: 154 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Dallas
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 8:48 AM, January 8th (Tuesday)

I sent you a PM Belle


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Lucky2HaveMe
Member
Member # 13333
Default  Posted: 8:24 AM, February 22nd (Friday)

When I am in the premium access mode I don't have access to my journal? Can we get that.... pretty please?


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6405 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, February 25th (Monday)

Lucky2...

MH said that was an excellent suggestion and he will certainly look into implementing it


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Lucky2HaveMe
Member
Member # 13333
Default  Posted: 6:16 AM, February 28th (Thursday)

Was it the sugar on top that swayed him or the cute kitty pic?


Indian wisdom says our lives are rivers. We are born somewhere small and quiet and we move toward a place we cannot see, but only imagine. From Tending Roses

Posts: 6405 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: WNY
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, February 28th (Thursday)

Both


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
need_hope
Member
Member # 23989
Default  Posted: 2:27 PM, March 6th (Wednesday)

First, I love premium access and have been reading through some interesting old threads. Thank you!

Second - I was wondering where things stood on the pagination mentioned earlier in the thread.

When I click "Older Posts" I'm seeing everything from my start date thru March.

Your older posts are currently limited to the first 500 that exist in the archives. Once pagination has been added you should be able to navigate through all of your posts. I have not yet begun that programming so I do not have a timetable for when that will be completed.

Thanks Again!


Me - happily single
Him - no longer matters
Married 28 yrs
Filed for D 1/10
DIVORCED 12/12

Tact is for people who aren't witty enough to be sarcastic.


Posts: 1732 | Registered: May 2009 | From: East Coast
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, March 7th (Thursday)

need_hope...

That hasn't been completed yet, however, MH just walked through the kitchen and said "Please put that and the journal on my To Do list"


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
heartbrokennlost
Member
Member # 37500
Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, March 11th (Monday)

I've been trying to get premium access. I put in all my info and it fails every time.


Me-44
FWS-41
Son-18mnths
Son-18yrs
Son-22yrs
Son-18
Son-22
Son-17
Son-21

Posts: 87 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: heartbrokennlost
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 8:52 AM, March 11th (Monday)

I've replied to your email and asked that you send what the error message is that you're getting.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, March 12th (Tuesday)


Daylight savings time came earlier than my application expected.

Transactions should process normally now.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
heartbrokennlost
Member
Member # 37500
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, March 18th (Monday)

Is Simplicity an App? How do you find it?


Me-44
FWS-41
Son-18mnths
Son-18yrs
Son-22yrs
Son-18
Son-22
Son-17
Son-21

Posts: 87 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: heartbrokennlost
Cornpop30
Member
Member # 35248
Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

I joined a year ago, but just reached enough posts (I think).

Do I still need to upgrade to reach that section?


Posts: 58 | Registered: Apr 2012
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday)

You should have access


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, June 3rd (Monday)

SImplicity is not an app that you have to download. It is a web-based interface that you can access in your browser. It is a more simple interface than the public forum.

The journal feature has been added. And now there is a new feature that allows you to receive a text notification when someone sends you a PM.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, June 5th (Wednesday)

Older posts pagination has been completed.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, July 1st (Monday)

A new feature "Follow or Forget" has been added for platinum users.

You can follow or forget a user by clicking the links in their profile. This is visible on the regular site as well as SImplicity.

If you follow a user, a link to their profile will appear in your profile and their threads and posts will be highlighted on the forums.

If you forget a user their threads and posts will appear in gray and the username and text will be removed. Forgotten users will also lose the ability to respond to your threads and any existing PMs with a forgotten user will be locked. If you have an outbound PM to a user you will not be able to forget them.

Both the follow and the forget lists are limited to 10 users each.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
Aubrie
Member
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, July 1st (Monday)

That's a pretty cool feature, but can I ask a dumb question? This site is highly moderated and it's safe here, so why in the world would anyone choose to "forget" anyone else here? The awesomest thing about SI is all the different perspectives that everyone as a whole brings to the table.

Also, does a person have the ability to know if they are being followed/forgotten by whoever?

[This message edited by Aubrie84 at 10:13 AM, July 1st (Monday)]


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6234 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, July 1st (Monday)

...so why in the world would anyone choose to "forget" anyone else here?

On many occasions staff has had to ask members to stay off another member's threads. We have also had requests from users to ask other members to stay off of their threads.

Also, does a person have the ability to know if they are being followed/forgotten by whoever?

There is no way to know if someone is following you. But you will know if you have been forgotten if you try to PM or post on someone's thread who has forgotten you.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
Aubrie
Member
Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 10:43 AM, July 1st (Monday)

On many occasions staff has had to ask members to stay off another member's threads. We have also had requests from users to ask other members to stay off of their threads.
Understood. Been in situations where I needed a Mod to say, "Hello? WTF?"

Guess the follow/forget makes the Mod's jobs a smidge easier.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6234 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, July 1st (Monday)

I went to "follow" a friend, and saw that the link for "forget" was grayed out on her profile. She also has platinum.

I'm not interested in forgetting her, just curious why the link would be grayed out.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13748 | Registered: Jul 2011
Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, July 1st (Monday)

okay, this is kind of stupid ... but I wish I could "follow" myself so my own threads were highlighted automatically.

ETA: Awww, can't follow guides, mods or admin?

[This message edited by Amazonia at 11:54 AM, July 1st (Monday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, July 1st (Monday)

just curious why the link would be grayed out.

If you have an outbound PM to a user you will not be able to forget them.

Awww, can't follow guides, mods or admin?
And staff can't follow or forget anyone.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, July 1st (Monday)

Just re-read (I'm such a skimmer!) and saw what you posted NIK. Thanks.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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stilllovingher
Member
Member # 29959
Default  Posted: 1:30 PM, July 1st (Monday)

some of my early posts are still not showing, like my first post (my story).
is this not guaranteed, dependent upon which forum, or some astrological anomaly?

its not a big deal, but if there is a way to get them, that would be awesome.

thanks.

p.s. I wonder how many peeps will "forget" me. And who.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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Tred
Member
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, July 1st (Monday)

Odd, there is a grey unreadable post right after Ama's. Wonder what that could be?


Married: 17 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

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nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, July 1st (Monday)


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Aubrie
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Member # 33886
Default  Posted: 1:32 PM, July 1st (Monday)


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


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Jrazz
Guide
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, July 1st (Monday)

ETA: Awww, can't follow guides, mods or admin?

Now what kind of ninjas would we be if we let you do that?

Odd, there is a grey unreadable post right after Ama's. Wonder what that could be?

I'm so sure, Tred. You know that if MH implements a "Stalk" feature, slher is going to be the first person you click on.


I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown

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stilllovingher
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Member # 29959
Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, July 1st (Monday)

jackace


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

Posts: 2407 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
stilllovingher
Member
Member # 29959
Default  Posted: 11:21 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)

a glitch in the following system:

i just got a PM from someone I "follow", the PM was locked, had to unfollow to reply.


ooooh! unless that member "forgot" me after sending it!

[This message edited by stilllovingher at 11:23 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)

stilllovingher - I've alerted your question so MH can help you.

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stilllovingher
Member
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Default  Posted: 11:32 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)

tanky tanky
not really a problem for me, just reporting a glitch.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)


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MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 12:28 PM, July 4th (Thursday)

i just got a PM from someone I "follow", the PM was locked, had to unfollow to reply.

This should be fixed. Please check this again and let me know.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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stilllovingher
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Member # 29959
Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, July 4th (Thursday)

seems fine now.
I have a pm outbound to the "followed" person and have the option to send a reply.


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, July 11th (Thursday)

How far back do the archives go? I seem to have a gap: if I view my "oldest" posts, I have 20 pages that ends on 8/20/2012, viewing "recent" posts it only goes back to 4/30/2013. I can't see anything between those dates - there is a gap in the archive I can't seem to access.


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D-Day: 11/09/11
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MangledHeart
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Member # 1
Default  Posted: 9:43 AM, July 12th (Friday)

We started the archiving process in 2008. The archives contain all posts dating back to that year. The archives may contain more recent posts that you are not seeing yet. Periodically I run a script to harvest platinum members' posts from the archives so you will see them under "oldest" posts in SImplicity.

Your list of "recent" posts is limited to a total of 500 posts in SImplicity or 50 posts on standard SI.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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Tred
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Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, July 12th (Friday)

Thanks MH. Just to be clear, eventually I'll see all my posts? Right now under Simplicity I see 500 posts from 12/3/11-8/20/12 if I select "Oldest Posts", and the last 50 if I select "Recent Posts", but I can't see any of the posts in between that gap.


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D-Day: 11/09/11
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MangledHeart
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Member # 1
Default  Posted: 2:07 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

Your archived posts will eventually all be visible in SImplicity. But as long as you are still posting there will always be a gap between oldest and recent posts.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

MH, I just had SImplicity open and tried to access the profile of someone I am following by clicking their username under the "Following" list. I got a "this page cannot be found" 404 type error. The same happened for everyone on my follow/forget list.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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MangledHeart
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Member # 1
Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

The 404 error has been corrected. Thank you for reporting this.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

You''re welcome


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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stilllovingher
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Member # 29959
Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

so for those posts that are missing, they will show up whenever the script happens to catch them?
Not trying to sound attitudy or pushy here.
I'm talking Oct 2010 here, pretty sure it was in "general".
.
.
.
.
...titled "my story"


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

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MangledHeart
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Member # 1
Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, September 2nd (Monday)

The ones that were missing should now be displayed. I processed the archives over the weekend.

Platinum users can now follow topics on the forums. Click the checkbox at the top of a topic you want to follow. A list of topics you are following will appear in your profile. There is a limit of 25 topics per profile. If you exceed the limit it will automatically delete the least active ones when you add new ones.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:21 PM, September 2nd (Monday)

Platinum users can now follow topics on the forums. Click the checkbox at the top of a topic you want to follow. A list of topics you are following will appear in your profile. There is a limit of 25 topics per profile. If you exceed the limit it will automatically delete the least active ones when you add new ones.
This is SO COOL! Thanks, MH.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Amazonia
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Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, September 8th (Sunday)

Are the follow topics listed (and deleted) in order that I add them, or most recently updated?

Ps - I'm now following this thread.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 12:53 PM, September 8th (Sunday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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stilllovingher
Member
Member # 29959
Default  Posted: 10:28 PM, September 10th (Tuesday)

just saw this... thank you kindly


The only difference between a butt kisser and a brown noser is depth perception.
I'm sure WAL would agree.

Posts: 2407 | Registered: Oct 2010 | From: still BFE, but now BFE, CA
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, September 11th (Wednesday)

Are the follow topics listed (and deleted) in order that I add them, or most recently updated?

They are listed in the order of most recent activity.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
h0peless
Member
Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, October 2nd (Wednesday)

I upgraded to Platinum a few weeks ago and tried to read my archived posts tonight and got the following message:

h0peless currently has no archived messages. If you have just recently upgraded your archived posts should be available within a few days of your upgrade.

Any chance I could get access to them?


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MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 8:43 AM, October 3rd (Thursday)

Any chance I could get access to them?

I just checked. Your posts have not yet been archived. I will implement a solution to allow you to get to your early posts ASAP.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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h0peless
Member
Member # 36697
Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, October 3rd (Thursday)

Cool. Thank you!

Posts: 1683 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Baja Arizona
MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

New Platinum Feature: Permanent Name Change

Platinum members now have the ability to permanently change your SI username once. This action will only affect your username. Your username will change everywhere including the archives and any other posting history. Your profile will display your old username along with your new one. (e.g., Username (previously oldUsername))

If you go to your profile you will now see a "Change" link next to your username. Once you change your name the link will disappear.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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MangledHeart
Webmaster
Member # 1
Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

You can now see all of your posts that have not been archived in your SImplicity profile. Click "RECENT POSTS" and a paginated listing of all of your messages will appear. Clicking the topic title will expand and show you each message and display a link to the topic.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
Amazonia
Member
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 4:36 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Will the username change stay in effect if someone later cancels their upgrade?

I'm not going to change because I love my name, just curious.

Ps - cool new feature!

[This message edited by Amazonia at 4:37 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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mysticpenguin
Member
Member # 38839
Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

How many PMs or PM threads can Silver, Gold, and Platinum users store? :)


Betrayed

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Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 6:50 AM, October 10th (Thursday)

Amazonia...

I don't know the answer to your question, but I'll direct MH in here today for you


mysticpenguin ...

If I'm not mistaken, Gold and Platinum levels increase your PM box to 80. But to verify, you can click on the red banner at the top of the main forum page and then on the Upgrade This Profile button. In there a drop down box will appear and you can read through what each upgrade level offers

[This message edited by SI Staff at 6:51 AM, October 10th (Thursday)]


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My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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philly172
Member
Member # 19024
Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

I have a question.. you said access goes back to 2008.. how far back into 2008.. beginning of the year? end?

Thanks so much.. finally have some breathing room $$ wise & want to gain premium access


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LoveEndures
Member
Member # 32686
Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, October 11th (Friday)

MH or DS can you pm me. I have a question I cannot post. Thank you!

[This message edited by LoveEndures at 7:16 PM, October 11th (Friday)]


Me--BS
WS--Not the person I married:(
DDay--a few years ago

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little turtle
Member
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, October 14th (Monday)

philly - I found this note on my oldest posts page:

The SurvivingInfidelity.com® Archives date back to May of 2008. While there may be some threads that are older than 2008, there is no guarantee that something you are looking for prior to that date will be in the archives.

I have access to posts of mine from December 2007.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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MangledHeart
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Member # 1
Default  Posted: 11:00 AM, October 17th (Thursday)

A new feature has been added to SImplicity. Threads that you have started will now be highlighted in your profile/recent posts.

Philly, Your threads date back to 4/8/2008 in the archives.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

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little turtle
Member
Member # 15584
Exclaimation  Posted: 9:02 PM, October 18th (Friday)

I just checked out the latest feature...my very first post that is archived is highlighted. However, that is the only one that is highlighted. Idk if it is just me, or what.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 9:47 AM, October 21st (Monday)

Oh, never mind. I see that it's only highlighted for the recent posts. Not for the older posts.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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angerisme
Member
Member # 37672
Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, October 21st (Monday)

I attempted twice to sign up for Silver Package. It declined my transaction each time. My credit card is in good condition so it seems you may be having continuing trouble. I will try again next week :)

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Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, October 21st (Monday)

angerisme...

There are no reported problems with our cc processing, transactions are going through fine.

Thank you.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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silverhopes
Member
Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 2:40 PM, October 25th (Friday)

Just wondering, is there a way that a user might suddenly be un-followed without you doing it?

A few follows dropped from my list suddenly, and one now has an inaccessible profile (redirects me to the main SI page when I attempt to click on the profile link). Just wondering what it meant. Thank you.

[This message edited by silverhopes at 2:40 PM, October 25th (Friday)]


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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Ascendant
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Member # 38303
Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, October 25th (Friday)

Same problem here, SilverHopes. I thought maybe someone blocked me, but I couldn't figure out why.


I refuse to let a wound ruin me.
**Guts over fear.**

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jo2love
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Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 4:16 PM, October 25th (Friday)

A few follows dropped from my list suddenly


It means they are no longer a member.


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silverhopes
Member
Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, October 25th (Friday)

Thank you for letting me know.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3905 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
143ANF
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Member # 22730
Default  Posted: 9:33 AM, November 20th (Wednesday)

FYI...
My charge showed up this month as TMS*WWW SURVIVINGINFID
It isn''t a problem for me but it may be for other members.

Also, is there any way to move renewals to a single yearly payment instead of monthly payments? I use a CC that I don''t use regularly and I''ll have a hard time remembering to make the CC payment.

Thanks!


I've gotten off the crazy train and I'm loving living life.

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Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, November 26th (Tuesday)

143ANF...

I'm so sorry I didn't see this earlier!!

I got another report about this last night and just got off the phone with our cc processor. For some reason that they can't explain the 'retail description' (what shows on your statement) was changed from SIonline to what you reported.

I just ran a test transaction on myself to verify that it will show back up as SIonline and will post back here once it shows up.

Thank you for letting me know about this


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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mitz66
Member
Member # 17888
Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, November 29th (Friday)

Hi, I made a donation last year and was happy to support this site. I did not know that I signed up for ongoing transactions. It is now on my cc statement as survivinginfidelity, now twice. This site is not known to my spouse, however with online shared banking it will now be known. I would like to stop the re-occurring transactions. How do I do that? I thank all of you for the support over the years. Having re-occurring transactions is a hardship. I could not find a spot to private message webmaster.


Me:44 BS Him:43 WH
M May 07 Adult kids
DDay #1 Pics on cell jly 07
Jan08 DDay #2 "Just Friends" admits EA DDay #3 July 2010 - he insisted on platonic contact ..False R - until Dec 2010 admits PA in April 07
Dec 2012 NC succeeded

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little turtle
Member
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, November 29th (Friday)

Did anyone get upgraded to platinum access from the latest chess match fundraiser? I donated $50, but I still have $4.10 coming out of my account. Just wondering.

mitz, you can PM DeeplyScared. She's married to the webmaster.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4169 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, November 30th (Saturday)

Little Turtle...

We upgraded you on 11/6/2013 for the Chess Match donation, but I'll ask MH why it would show as a recurring. I'll PM you later today

Mitz...I sent you a PM


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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Lostandpregnant
Member
Member # 41433
Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, November 30th (Saturday)

I just wanted to say thank you to the ones you started and maintain this forum..I just upgraded to show my gratitude.I didn't change my username because I feel like this is still who I am.


He left me 18 weeks pregnant with twins for another.I am a Licensed Private Investigator..it even happens to us.

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Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 1:51 PM, November 30th (Saturday)

Lost...

You are so very welcome!! We're happy that you found us and are getting as much support as needed


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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little turtle
Member
Member # 15584
Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, December 29th (Sunday)

Just wanted to update that I'm still getting a monthly withdrawal from my account even though MH upgraded my account for another year of Premium from the Chess Match donation.

Good news though -- the billing shows as SI ONLINE.


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4169 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, December 29th (Sunday)

LT...

I'll take care of that tomorrow morning for you


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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silverhopes
Member
Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 10:57 PM, February 13th (Thursday)

Hi there,

I'm sorry if I missed this - if my credit card information has changed recently, how do I change that on SImplicity? Thank you in advance.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3905 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, February 16th (Sunday)

Silverhopes...

The easiest and most secure way (because we don't store cc information) would be to just let your current subscription expire and then renew with your new cc information

[This message edited by SI Staff at 10:30 AM, February 16th (Sunday)]


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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silverhopes
Member
Member # 32753
Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, February 21st (Friday)

Thank you DS, that's what I'll do.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

Posts: 3905 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: California
IDeserveMore
Member
Member # 40460
Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, March 26th (Wednesday)

QUESTION: if I sign up for one of the premium accounts, what does the charge show up as on my credit card?

I don't want to lead my WH to this site. He knows I am on a site like this, but not which one. And I want to retain my privacy.


Me BS 45, him 48, 15yo DD and 13yo DS
DD#1 1998, DD#2 2004
6 years of TT yields chronicity.
I may never get over it.

Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2013
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, March 28th (Friday)

IDeserveMore...

It shows up as SI Online


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
strengthandhope
Member
Member # 37907
Default  Posted: 2:49 PM, April 3rd (Thursday)

I upgraded to silver access and the charge on my credit card was for $39.84...I thought it was only $19.95?


Me: BS 30s
Him: SAWH, 30s sexting, pic sharing & phone sex with men & women
2 kids, M 8 yrs
DD#1 3/08, DD#2 7/11, DD#3 10/12 DD#4 2/14
OW #1 PA from 6/13-8/13 CL Troll
OW #2 EA from 11/13-2/14 online/phone sex A
Taking R 90 days at a time.

Posts: 176 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Mid west
strengthandhope
Member
Member # 37907
Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, April 8th (Tuesday)

Any help for me? I thought silver access was less than $20, but the charge on my card was for $39.84


Me: BS 30s
Him: SAWH, 30s sexting, pic sharing & phone sex with men & women
2 kids, M 8 yrs
DD#1 3/08, DD#2 7/11, DD#3 10/12 DD#4 2/14
OW #1 PA from 6/13-8/13 CL Troll
OW #2 EA from 11/13-2/14 online/phone sex A
Taking R 90 days at a time.

Posts: 176 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Mid west
Deeply Scared
Administrator
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 10:37 AM, April 8th (Tuesday)

I'm sorry, I thought I replied to you earlier.

I do show the charge of $39.84, the Silver upgrade is $19.92 and those amounts are hardcoded into the system, so you may have hit the Enter key twice by accident.

I can certainly do a refund for the additional $19.92 for you.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
strengthandhope
Member
Member # 37907
Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, April 8th (Tuesday)

Thank you I appreciate it!


Me: BS 30s
Him: SAWH, 30s sexting, pic sharing & phone sex with men & women
2 kids, M 8 yrs
DD#1 3/08, DD#2 7/11, DD#3 10/12 DD#4 2/14
OW #1 PA from 6/13-8/13 CL Troll
OW #2 EA from 11/13-2/14 online/phone sex A
Taking R 90 days at a time.

Posts: 176 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Mid west
Nothanks
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, April 29th (Tuesday)

Do we have to donate after 51 posts?

Posts: 59 | Registered: Apr 2014
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, April 29th (Tuesday)

Nothanks...

No one is required to donate anything, so I'm a little unclear with your question.

If you could clarify I'll be happy to help


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, May 31st (Saturday)

YaY! I am now a platinum member (along with my platinum va jay jay)

There is a feature that I didn't think I would ever use, but since someone else saw fit to use it on me, I want to use it back so I am not reminded everytime that this person is a "mean girl" who doesn't like moi .

I can't find the way to "block" someone, can I get a PM or explain how to do that here?

Thanks so much!

eta: The term I was looking for was "unfollow" or "forget" and I figured it out on my own.

[This message edited by SisterMilkshake at 11:46 AM, May 31st (Saturday)]


BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson


Posts: 9662 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: The Great White North USA
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, May 31st (Saturday)

Sent you a PM SMS.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

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"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


Posts: 6234 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: South, Y'all!
MissMovingOn
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Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, June 9th (Monday)

Feature request - not sure if this has already been commented on/asked.

When I''m using Simplicity and my "session" expires (after the two weeks or whatever the default is) I get kicked to an error page that says my upgrade level doesn''t allow me to use that feature (or whatever the exact message is - not sure). Would it be possible, instead of just that error message, to either be redirected to the login page or have a link to the login page on the error page? It''s not so bad on a computer to have to backtrack to the login page but on my phone it''s a bit of a pain going back to the main page and then loading up the "non-simplicity" page to log in.

No biggie if this would be a pain in the ass.


Me: BS, 34
Him: (SA/NPD)WH, 31
Multiple ddays since 2010 (Latest January 15th 2013) - not counting anymore!
FINAL FINAL DDay - August 8, 2014. I AM DONE!

Posts: 412 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: West Coast Canada
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, June 10th (Tuesday)

MissMovingOn...

MH will look into this for you and we'll let you know


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:02 PM, June 15th (Sunday)

Is there a way to un forget someone who has been blocked from the site?


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13748 | Registered: Jul 2011
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:03 PM, June 15th (Sunday)

Miss moving on, I have two bookmarks on my phone for that reason - the simplicity one I use, and the main log in page just for when it expires.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13748 | Registered: Jul 2011
MangledHeart
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, June 16th (Monday)

When your session expires in SImplicity you will now be directed to the SImplicity login page instead of the feature unavailable page.

You can now delete follow and forget links from within your profile using the regular interface. This programming has not yet been extended to the SImplicity interface.


Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength. ~Corrie Ten Boom

Posts: 5033 | Registered: May 2002 | From: Texas
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, June 18th (Wednesday)

When your session expires in SImplicity you will now be directed to the SImplicity login page instead of the feature unavailable page.

Great!!! This will make it so much easier to log in on my phone and tablet. I've rarely use SImplicity because I always have to log in!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4169 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 3:48 AM, June 21st (Saturday)

Thanks MH!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13748 | Registered: Jul 2011
MissMovingOn
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, June 21st (Saturday)

Thank you thank you thank you!


Me: BS, 34
Him: (SA/NPD)WH, 31
Multiple ddays since 2010 (Latest January 15th 2013) - not counting anymore!
FINAL FINAL DDay - August 8, 2014. I AM DONE!

Posts: 412 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: West Coast Canada
deceivedguy
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Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, July 11th (Friday)

Two questions;
1) There is a link to donations via PayPal, when following the heart link above the navigation menu.
Can I use that donation to upgrade my profile? On the profile update page, there is only the option to use credit cards.

2) If I upgrade my profile to silver, can i pay the difference at a later date to upgrade to a higher level (for the remainder of my upgrade period)?

Thanks!


Me (49), WW (44), 2 Awesome DDs
DDay 6/2/2014 - 16 years married
Possibly new or continuing A, currently.
Worst experience of my life. Still having a tough time dealing with this. I appreciate your support, more than I can express.

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: illinois
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, July 11th (Friday)

deceivedguy...

PayPal is really for donations only...the upgrades usually come from cc's.

The system that is currently in place is for the various upgrades that are paid in full at that time. You would need to upgrade for the level you would like and at anytime you can cancel that upgrade and opt for a different one.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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deceivedguy
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Default  Posted: 2:58 AM, July 12th (Saturday)

thanks


Me (49), WW (44), 2 Awesome DDs
DDay 6/2/2014 - 16 years married
Possibly new or continuing A, currently.
Worst experience of my life. Still having a tough time dealing with this. I appreciate your support, more than I can express.

Posts: 175 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: illinois
hopeful325
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Default  Posted: 5:50 AM, July 16th (Wednesday)

I plan to donate or upgrade regardless because this site is needed by so many. If I upgrade will I get access to the investigative tips or do I still need 50 posts? I love this site and it has helped me so much but I'm not a frequent poster unless I feel like I have something vital to contribute. It could take a year to get to 50 and I feel like the investigation tips are needed in the early stages lol

Posts: 31 | Registered: May 2014
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, July 16th (Wednesday)

hopeful325...

If you upgrade you would still need the 51 legitimate posts to gain access into I-tips. Getting to 51 isn't that hard when you're offering support to others


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197792 | Registered: May 2002
LumpyLola
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Can I pay for Premium Access with one of those store-bought CC's?

My lawyer advised me not to use our joint CC's until further notice, since they are in my H's name. He advised that any CC purchase I make should go through a generic card, so as not to leave a paper trail.

This makes sense, since my H just up and left in July, and I don't know anything about his financial doings, so the lawyer suggests that I should do the same.

Is this possible? I'm ready to roll with the payment right now!


Posts: 78 | Registered: Aug 2014 | From: Chicago
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, September 8th (Monday)

LumpyLola,

I chatted with Mangled Heart about this and he is unsure if a generic card would work due to verification steps. He said that you could try it and see. I'm sorry that the answer isn't a clear yes or no.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52207 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
LumpyLola
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Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Oh dear... I sure hope it will work. I love this site, and all the warm support I've gotten here...and I'd especially love to upgrade to Premium!

Is there some other way, then? Perhaps by money order?

I'm surprised to find that no one else has asked about this yet, considering that lots of BS's here mention that they are trying to keep their post-A financial transactions a secret from their WS's.

If you can find out anything else about this, please let me know.

Thanks!


Posts: 78 | Registered: Aug 2014 | From: Chicago
Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, September 8th (Monday)

LumpyLola...

I'm sending you a PM.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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