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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

I read an article at work today talking about happiness, and they said that happy people are thankful for what they have, rather than moaning about what they don't have. One action step was to list 3 good things that happened to you today.

Please add your own good things!

1. When I got to work, three people complimented me on my outfit and said that I looked great.

2. At work, one of the senior managers stopped by my desk to offer his condolences about my divorce (my name changed, so he found out.) He told me that he was divorced, and then about how much better his life has been since. Gave me tons of compliments (not in a creepy EA sort of way!) and offered his ear if I ever needed to talk about it.

3. Ran with a friend after work. We've become closer since I moved neighborhoods. He's one of the most interesting people I have met, and I'm so glad to have him in my life. The run just flew by with him at my side.

You?


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

1. The big management review that I was supposed to lead this afternoon was rescheduled to Friday, giving me time to "pretty up" some of the less exciting stats.

2. Today's lunch vendor sold mashed potatoes and gravy a la carte so I didn't have to buy a full meal.

3. I got positive feedback from one of the buyers who walked through my house this past weekend.

Thanks, phmh! This is a great idea.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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tabitha95
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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

1. I woke up next to my SO after a good night sleep and he made me tea while I got ready.

2. I completed several steps to some projects at work that I always dread doing. Plus, I'm getting it done weeks early, since it's EOY stuff (June 30th is our physical year-end).

3. I realized it wasn't too late to get DS9 a yearbook. I put it off in October because I was moving and money was tight. They are selling them tomorrow morning and he will be able to do the yearbook signing party after all. No harm, no foul


BW (me) - 45
DS 14, DS 11
D-Day#1: Oct 30, 2008
D-Day#2: June 3, 2011 (same MOW) Separation: June 3, 2011
Divorce finalized: Feb 2012 (due to 6 month waiting period).

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:06 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

1. My bff got accepted in her first choice grad program and is staying in DC for at least 3 more years!

2. G sent me a long, sweet email that made me cry when I woke up missing him this morning. I so needed it.

3. My snickerdoodles came out perfect.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

1. Made brownies with my Teslet

2. I'm going to be an auntie again! (Just found out today!)

3. I wrote a few lines of poetry (have not felt the urge to do so in years)


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

Do they have to be today? I've had some pretty awesome luck this past week:

1) My brother & SIL forgot that they had gas points at Safeway and filled up elsewhere; their points were about to expire so they let me use them--I got $1.00 off a gallon of gas! Woo hoo!

2) My office is closing and they are throwing away the printers and other equipment, so I got a free printer and a free paper shredder! Woo hoo!

3) I was able to use frequent flyer points, so my ticket to NY in July only cost me $180.

I may be losing my job but life is good!


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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iamasurvivor
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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

1) Bought a house today!

2) Was able to empty my storage unit that I thought I would have to pay another month on.

3)Was told I am a great cook and I don't show it by how I look!


I will come out stronger!

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

Love this phmh! Love hearing the good stuff from you all!

1. Had dinner with a great friend and she paid She has been with me through thick and thin with this A stuff.
2. Had a good conversation with my usually non communicative son
3. See my thread "just have to share"


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3207 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

I LOVE gratitude lists! It was high time we had another thread of "good things". Thanks phmh!

1) BB made it back from his motorcycle trip to Texas today. He stopped by his house barely long enough to unload his bike, and came straight out to see me. Hmmm......I'm thinking he might have missed me.

2) I ran into one of the guys I dated for a while a few months ago. It kind of just "fizzled" between us, but no hard feelings or anything. We ended up having a nice visit, and it's obvious that we can be friends and not be uncomfortable around each other. That's a plus!

3) I got all the maintenance caught up on my jeep today. WooHoo! I've running really behind on getting my personal stuff done, so this was a huge relief to me. Slowly getting caught up around here......


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


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wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 10:50 PM, May 30th (Wednesday)

I love threads like this... I think it's important to share the good stuff, too.

1. I had several people compliment me on my recent weight loss (down 22 lbs so far!)

2. I went shopping with my oldest girl banana (16) and her BBF and they outfitted me for my boy banana's HS graduation on Friday. I love my new outfit - it's bright and happy

3. I'm just happy... in a really good place overall. It took a lot of years but I finally made it. That makes me smile every day.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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JessicaFL127
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Default  Posted: 7:00 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

1. My baby boys are cuddling each other while they are asleep on my bed (something the little one doesn't usually allow ). So adorable.

2. My nephew is 30 weeks and I am so excited to meet him. Babies= instant happy.

3. I am working hard on buying a new house and getting rid of a certain x from the credit report. It is hard, but I am making definite progress and it looks good!


BW,32
divorced for 6 years
mom to two awesome boys,10 and 9

"But you said your vows, and you closed the door
On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

"The most amazing things can come from some terrible lies"


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Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

I love this thread!

1. My class situation has resolved so now I am much less stressed out.

2. A fella is pursuing me and it feels nice. Date #3 coming up.

3. Bills are paid and not late.

Gave me tons of compliments (not in a creepy EA sort of way!)

This made me lol

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Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

1. I got to wake up in FL next to the man I love...and I so rarely get to wake up next to him, I would have been just as happy in Siberia.

2. It's raining, which made me slow down and relax this morning, rather than go full speed ahead trying to see and do everything before I go home.

3. I just found out, I will most likely be able to make it home in time to see the Monster Brothers soccer games this weekend.


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 9

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


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Adoringwife
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

1. I finished a job at 2 am this morning and now have 4 days off - yay!

2. Took a drive out in my cabriolet and the sun was shining!

3. Gonna have a snuggle film night with my DD!



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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

1. My son graduated from 5th grade today.
2. My daughter got accepted into the Pre-engineering program. She is 13.
3. ALL my SI friends. I could not do it without you guys!!!

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LS_Betrayed
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

1. I have some job leads, including a way to possibly keep my old one.

2. I've lost about 25 lbs, and look better than I have in a long long time

3. I am making new friends, and my home life is so much nicer


Me (BS) - 49
WS - 51
Daughters 18, 13 and 12
Married 24 years, currently divorcing-- not soon enough

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

1) I leave for a 5 day trip to Vegas tomorrow!

2) My bosses spoil me with fresh veggies from their garden, baked goods, and caffeinated beverages: grin:

3) I finally cleaned up my back yard so now I can gussy it up proper.


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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, May 31st (Thursday)

1 - I woke up.

2 - My kids woke up.

3 - We have household utilities that function and food in the house.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, May 31st (Thursday)

1. My follow-up STD panel (including HIV) came back clean.

2. The Dr. has an easy and quick-acting solution to two recent and frightening side effects DD has developed with her new Tourette's med. This med has been miraculous on her tics, and I was terrified we'd have to take her off of it, but with a simple OTC solution, she should be free from side effects and able to continue the med.

3. DD survived 7th grade. Let summer begin!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Amazonia
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Question  Posted: 7:47 PM, May 31st (Thursday)

Yay for a clean panel, NIK! I may have been so excited when I got that news back myself that I got a little inappropriate about which coworkers I told.

Can I post 3 more today? This is supposed to be a daily thing, right?

1. I was told I am a very powerful speaker at the public speaking training I was at for 6 hours today. I HATE speaking publicly, so this was an really touching compliment to me.

2. My run went better than expected. (Finally getting over the discouragement hump following my ankle sprain and 3 months of no running.)

3. G texted to say he misses me and he still gets to see me tomorrow, right? Silly boy, I had just emailed him to confirm.

ETA: I have no clue where that ? came from. Crazy phone gremlins.

[This message edited by Amazonia at 7:48 PM, May 31st (Thursday)]


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, May 31st (Thursday)

1) life affirming dream starring magical creatures

2) paid my mortgage and had money to do it including $12 towards the principle

3)just feel happy


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, May 31st (Thursday)

Yay! So much fun to read everyone's successes! And post every day or as often as you want!

For me, today:

1. Had a big meeting/party after work and I met 10 new people today -- always good to network!

2. There were lots of vegetarian options at the work dinner, and they were delicious (I had forgotten how much I love cornbread!)

3. The items I requested from the library last week came in; I didn't have time to pick them up tonight since work ran late, but now I have something to look forward to for tomorrow!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, May 31st (Thursday)

I'll play again! I love reading about everyone's 'three things'

1. Able to get out of the house for a cup of coffee with a friend.

2. New position came up in the school district that I'm qualified for...so completed and submitted another application.

3. Teslet and I are snuggling and watching an episode of "Curious George" before his bedtime.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, May 31st (Thursday)

3 things for me today:

1. got a great text this morning at just the right time from SO about..well, private stuff

2. had a package with 2 new books from amazon waiting for me when I got home from work

3. when I came on SI tonight I saw a great update post from someone I worry about


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

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Like you're less than, less than perfect


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, June 1st (Friday)

I had another fabulous day, so I'm going again! (Maybe I should just get a blog!)

1. Just as I was psyching myself up to go out for an after-work run, I got a text from a friend inviting me to meet her for a killer hill workout. So I got socializing in and a better workout than I would have done alone.

2. Now that I'm cooking for one, I frequently have leftovers, so I get a delicious meal tonight without having to do much work (since I already did the work!) Also, I will only get compliments on my cooking since it's just me :)

3. After I got a little too tipsy Good Friday, I gave up wine until June, which means there is a bottle with my name on it for tonight. Yay!

See you tomorrow -- with the day I have planned, it might be tough to narrow it down to three :) My NB is fantastic!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, June 1st (Friday)

Today's three:

1. Kicked ass with the management review I had to lead today at work. Complimented by my director and the group VP.

2. Got to share a big tub of popcorn (hold the "butter") with DD as we took in the matinee of "Snow White and the Huntsman." She loved the movie, I loved the special effects, and we got to spend the afternoon together.

3. Realtor set up two more showings for this weekend on top of tomorrow's open house. Fingers crossed!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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noone
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Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, June 2nd (Saturday)

1)After a long, hard week at work, as much as I love my kids I'm REALLY enjoying and thankful for some alone time tonight.

2)Even after what I said above I am thankful that this weekend I will have BOTH kids home.

3) I'm thankful that as it warms up this week that I have central AC here to sleep comfortably.

4)I'm thankful for my cheetos and green apple vodka that I am relaxing with tonight.

5)I'm thankful and proud of the kids I have especially when my DD and I went out to dinner tonight and she told me she is thinking that after she graduates (she's in college) she is thinking of working for the UN as a translator.

6)On nights like tonight, even though there are times I still miss my WexSO, I'm glad not to be dealing with his drama.

7)I'm thankful for SI and for all the support and laughs I have found here. I don't know what I would have done without you.

8) I'm thankful that I have this list and I know with a little more thought I could add to it.

[This message edited by noone at 12:32 AM, June 2nd (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 1:14 AM, June 2nd (Saturday)

1) came across this thread, makes me happy!

2) closed 2 large deals we've been working on and a third closed unexpectedly

3) it's a friday!


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

Here's my three for today:

1. Teslet and I went to the farmer's market and picked up some chocolate donuts (veggies too...but you know all Teslet cared about were the donuts )

2. Planted some raspberries and tomatoes in the garden.

3. Ran 5 miles at a great pace.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:30 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

1 finally got to see G
2 didn't cut any tendons or nerves
3 got to drink lots of fab sangria at the church potluck tonight


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

1. Saw my DS19 play baseball today. He's had a long, hard time since his dad left with his first whore. It was amazing bragging about his 3.65 GPA to other moms. Just felt great to be proud of my son again!

2. Had a good hair day today!

3. Have a second date with a very neat guy.


True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

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kernel
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

1) helped DD shop for work clothes (her college grad gift from me) we were very successful and had a grand time
2) shopped for niece's HS graduation gift - we got her a laundry basket full of useful and fun stuff for college - using SI member's ideas from Off-topic
3) did my exercising this morning before we shopped, so relaxed after all the shopping

All in all, a really good day


"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5243 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:58 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

What a GREAT thread!

Since I'm behind I'll start with big recent highlights:

1) Got a contract on my house, just got an offer accepted on a new house that I really like

2) My son graduated HS yesterday - YAY! We had a fabulous party afterward. First family event I've not thought about XWH not being there.

3) My daughter just heard from her BF who is just finishing basic,and hasn't had his phone for two weeks. She is on cloud nine right now.

Life is feeling pretty good right now...I'm very grateful.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4607 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

Three things for Saturday:

1. Got an offer on my house!

2. Got an unsolicited and unexpected apology from one of wasband's relatives who vaporized from my life after Dday. Although I know better than to let her back into my life (she is BP, NPD, and incredibly unstable), it was an apology I never thought I'd hear, and it set something free in me that I hadn't realized I'd been holding in.

3. My DS and his GF surprised me and DD with a bonfire - complete with sparklers - to celebrate the offer on the house.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, June 2nd (Saturday)

In the order in which they occurred today

*woke up to SO telling me 'I love you soooo, sooo much' (he still gives me the goosebumps)

*went and got 2 new tires for my car-much needed

*went yardsaling and for a grand toal of $11, I got 4 Harley-Davidson sweatshirts, a candle, a boogie board for SO, a new set of mini blinds, a solid onyx jewelry box and a Gucci knock off handbag for summer

*(sorry but cant leave this one out) the sun was shining and the sky was blue-a beautiful day on the Jersey Shore


me 45 BS (a 23 year M-down the tubes!)
him WS 51

H had 3 week EA Aug 03 with an 'old GF from high school' D'd 6/07

Failed recovery maybe it was the drug addiction that came up Sept 05? Final straw was the condoms 8/06


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 12:10 AM, June 3rd (Sunday)

I am actually posting Saturday's on Sunday morning because I just got in!

1. Spent the morning volunteering at an ultramarathon. My ex ran it and when I saw him, I was just indifferent. It was great.

2. Went to a fabulous party for my former employer and reconnected with old friends and coworkers.

3. I looked great at the party and received tons of compliments. Yay!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, June 7th (Thursday)

OK, been a few days. Who's up for another round?

1. I am reading a fabulous book. It makes me smile and chuckle at least every 2-3 pages. I am very fortunate to live so close to a branch of a first-class library system.

2. At the grocery store today, there were no dandelion greens (for my lizard.) I asked the produce guy (who was rather hot but probably too young for me!) and he found some in the back.

3. I wore my very favorite skirt to work today, which would have been enough of a happy thing on its own, but then a senior manager stopped by just to compliment me on it. I love my coworkers!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, June 7th (Thursday)

Today is a struggle, as the automotive gods continue to toy with me and my bank account mercilessly. However, I'm gonna give it a try.

1. The work day is over, and I have tomorrow off.

2. Tomorrow is payday.

3. Tomorrow is the start of g2g weekend. Can't wait to meet some SI folks in person. WOO HOO!!!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, June 7th (Thursday)

Today is a struggle

I think those are the days we need to do this the most!

I am sending you lots of good automotive vibes, and your three things are all very nice and wonderful!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, June 7th (Thursday)

1) Took my son to Indiana University for a Future Problem Solving Competition - thirty years after I graduated from there.
2) Had dinner with him at Nick's English Hut. Feasted on a Stromboli Sandwich which was a huge luxury back in my college days.
3) Toured the campus, bought some souvenirs and told a few stories from my deep dark past

A GREAT DAY!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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thebighurt
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Cool  Posted: 8:09 PM, June 7th (Thursday)

Empress NIK, good job of having a positive attitude. Enjoy your weekend and please post so we can enjoy the G2G weekend vicariously.

1. I had a good doctor visit today.
2. Finally have an appointment for my car before my VT trip.
3. 2 beautiful days in a row. Finally feels like June.
4. Finally got flowers for the yard. Now just need the time to do this!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, June 7th (Thursday)

1. Done with antibiotics = wine tonight!

2. A meeting that I expected to be a huge waste of time turned out to be really productive this afternoon.

3. G said he missed me while he was gone. (Okay, that happened yesterday, but I dwelled on it all day )


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, June 8th (Friday)

Today has been very good!

1. Reviewed and feel confident about the concepts I'm going to be tested on tomorrow. (Adding a content area to my teacher's license)

2. Found out I'm getting a job interview that I had put an app in for over a month ago!!!

3. Teslet had a therapy appt today and the therapist said that I'm doing an excellent job helping him to verbalize his emotions and help him work through his feelings of frustration. That just made me feel so, so good.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, June 8th (Friday)

You guys are just so fabulous and amazing. What wonderful new beginnings for all of us! Who would have thought that out of the hell of infidelity, so much happiness and so many good things could occur?

Here, for today:

1. Went out to the bar for drinks/dinner with a friend, and had a great time.

2. My sister is coming in to town tomorrow and we are heading out for a night on the town. I might even get to meet her girlfriend for the first time!

3. Had a wonderful, heartfelt lunch with my boss today, and I know I have made a friend for life.

Six months ago, soon after D-Day, I was in such a pit of despair. I never would have imagined how wonderful life could be once I realized my worth and that I wouldn't put up with being treated as less-than!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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jolene
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Default  Posted: 3:33 AM, June 9th (Saturday)

3 things:

1. I have my son back for my week!!!

2. My lovely sweet boyfriend is back from England, and coming round this afternoon.

3. I made a great impression on someone very important at my job.


Divorced 10/2013! Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya!

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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, June 9th (Saturday)

Yesterday:
1. Went to see a really fun improv show.
2. Had a coupon for lunch at my favorite work restaurant.
3. Finally found a maxi dress that looks amazing on me!


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, June 11th (Monday)

Resurrecting this again since there have been some pretty sad things in new beginnings lately!

1. Went for drinks with a friend. We had a great time, and plans to do this a few times a month.

2. Her boyfriend picked her up after, and offered to give me a ride home so I didn't have to take the bus.

3. Actually had a bit of motivation even though I got home late and went for a nice run, so I'm feeling great!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, June 11th (Monday)

1. I did not kill wasband, despite being justified in doing so, so I remain free from the threat of imprisonment.

2. I found three homemade caramels in my purse and shared them with DD.

3. It's almost bedtime, which means I survived a very trying day.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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deanab
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, June 11th (Monday)

1) My family who supports me. Just today I've talked to 1 of my sisters twice, the other one once, my mom once and cousin twice. <3

2) My health. I am active and look better than I did on my wedding day 12 years ago! (Still have 28lbs to go though...)

3)Friends. They know what to say, they remind me of my worth when I don't feel it. They make me feel like a hot sexy woman who's got it all... (and although I know this, it's good to be reminded when you got dumped.)


BS: 33 (me)
No kids.
D-day: August 2007
Divorced.

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TrainerCarrie
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, June 11th (Monday)

1. Im alive and healthy for the most part.
2. I have a healthy, happy toddler.
3. I have a family and friends who love and support me.

The rest is just gravy..


Sometimes giving up something you want is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.

Never, ever date your neighbor.


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 3:33 PM, July 4th (Wednesday)

It's been at least a week since we've done this (I can't find the other thread that was going) so thought it might be nice to resurrect this again!

1. After being very social and busy for a long period of time, I said no to all invites and am spending the day all alone today -- and having a ball!

2. Went to a music festival last night and saw a super hot singer performing -- great musician as well. YUM! Had some great dreams last night due to this Did I mention he's really hot? And youtube is bringing him right into my house!

3. Slept in this morning -- love doing that and it's probably been 3 months since I've been able to do it.

What a great day! What about you guys?


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, July 4th (Wednesday)

Thanks, phmh. I, too am enjoying my sole company today and appreciating my Independence. I was invited to a neighbor's for a clambake, but prefer to be home and get some things done and work on me. Besides, it's cooler in my house.

1. I received a number of emails and texts wishing me a Happy 4th of July. It makes me realize I have many friends who care about me.

2. Still reveling in the great birthday weekend I had with family that lasted 4 days. My bouquet from DD's surprise visit still looks very nice. Makes me smile to see them.

3. Doing things to get ready for next week when I will have more get-togethers with friends and have company staying with me. Also doing things to get ME ready for it - working out and eating smarter than during my b-day festivities.

Happy Independence Day everyone!!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, July 4th (Wednesday)

1. Up at 6:30 this morning and hit the outdoor antique fair they hold each year in a hay field. DD and I scored a couple of small treasures, and we were back in the AC at home before the heat index turned dangerous.

2. I took a nap this afternoon. Haven't had a nap in ages, and it was completely perfect and restorative.

3. There's a small container of my very favorite ice cream sitting in the freezer, just waiting for the fireworks tonight, which I can see from my bedroom. No crowds, no heat, no bugs, no traffic.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:08 PM, July 6th (Friday)

I'm doing this again because I like it!!!

1. Got a bouquet of flowers at work today, from work, for my upcoming birthday. I have only been there for almost 3 months, but these guys are so wonderful to me. I mean, work sending me flowers for my birthday??? Pinch me now!!!

2. I burned my finger pretty badly Wednesday night (pretty bad blistering) and I figured out what to do, even walking to the drugstore with my hand in a cup of cold water in order to buy tylenol, gauze, antibiotic cream, etc. Since my XWH is a doctor, I used to defer all medical decisions to him -- I did it by myself!

3. My parents and sister are coming into town to celebrate my birthday and then my sister and I are going to a music festival. It will be fabulous!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, July 6th (Friday)

1. Got to see one of my best college friends today, as she is in town for her brother's wedding; good to talk to someone who understands me well.

2. Got complimented 7 times (by 7 different people! ) on my dress.

3. Got a pedicure today.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, July 6th (Friday)

1. There's a cold front coming through - tomorrow's high is only going to be 98.

2. The mesquite chicken I MacGyvered tonight turned out beautifully.

3. My 3-day headache is starting to break.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:36 PM, July 6th (Friday)

Ama -- you might have the NB record of compliments in one day. Yay!

Hope things have been going better for you!

You are one of my NB heros since you were further along in your journey when I joined, so it's great to see things looking up for you!!!

(((Amazonia)))

And NIK, 3 days? You have got to be kidding me! Break soon, headache!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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capri
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, July 6th (Friday)

Well, my cyncical side wants to say there were only two good things today.

1. Chocolate to reduce the stress.
2. Wine to reduce the stress.

However, that would be overlooking many good things in between the stressors.

1. I got things put together for a night away in a cooler part of the state (HOORAY!!!)

2. My older kids came home from their half-week away with friends and it was nice to see them.

3. When I got very stressed out, my 11 year old made me tea, and gave me a kiss and hug.

4. I got a child's teddy bear sewn up. Not only am I only touched at their caring for their animals (it's sweet), but I felt good about myself that amidst a hectic, chaotic, difficult day, I just took a deep breath and sewed up the bear that mattered so much to him, and gave him some happiness.

If I get to keep chocolate and wine on the list, I have 5 good things today!


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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capri
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, July 6th (Friday)

It's a pleasure going back and reading everyone's three things! You've all given me many smiles.

I'm adding another one:

6. My youngest is on the couch giggling and laughing because the cat is licking him while he's supposed to be sleeping. There's nothing nicer than the sound of children laughing.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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Weatherly
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, July 6th (Friday)

Today was a big day in good things.

1. Aussie and I got engaged.

2. Aussie got a big promotion at work.

3. X informed me he was leaving OW, which I couldn't care less, but the kids hate her, so they were thrilled, and I'm happy they are happy.


Me-29,Two boys, 10 and 9

It will all be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end

Happily remarried to a wonderful man (Aussie). I think I found the right guy and the right finger this time.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, July 6th (Friday)

Weatherly wins the internets!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:13 PM, July 6th (Friday)

Congrats, Weatherly! Your two wise sayings in your sig have come to me many times when I was feeling weak!

And capri, I love how you struggled to come up with 3 and ended up with more than double that. Life is good!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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capri
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, July 6th (Friday)

Life is good!

Very much so!


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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roseguide
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Happy  Posted: 4:06 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

1. Three of my four kids happened to be at the house for dinner today.
2. I made shepherd's pie for dinner. (Kids and I LOVE this but STBXH hated this and I always avoided making it or had to make him something else.)
3. Hiked early this morning in the beautiful NJ forest with my SIL and DD.


In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you. – Buddhist saying

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

1. Spent time with my grandkids.

2. Feel content to be alone after arriving home (see my other thread).

3. I'm eating better and trying to work out, sore knee and all.

4. I sent a package with home-made brownies and lots of other nice things to my adopted soldier. (OK, that was yesterday, but I didn't post yesterday and this is #4 anyway!)


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:03 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

1. Iowa sweet corn. Nuff said.
2. Packed my bedroom, leaving just what I truly need for the next 3 weeks. (Just 3 weeks!!!)
3. Found almost $4 in the laundry today. That's a decent haul for just 2 loads.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Dawn4
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Default  Posted: 5:10 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

Oooo, I need to make a journal and start doing this every day.

1. I'm grateful that I can wake up to a flower garden outside my bedroom window, fresh air that smells like clover, and go for a run whenever I feel like it today.

2. I'm grateful that although I burnt my lunch, I can just cook more! Some people don't have that luxury.

3. I'm grateful for my health. My dad just passed from a brain tumor and my sister just had surgery for breast cancer. I don't intend to waste this gift of good health while I have it!


" You must always know how long to stay and when to go." - Let Him Fly, The Dixie Chicks

"This sucks more than anything has ever sucked before". - Beavis and Butthead

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

1. Watched Teslet try to figure out how to cross his eyes.

2. Ran 5K this morning...tough race. Last mile was on the beach and oh yeah, it was in the upper 80's by the time the race started. But I did well.

3. Made a pan of chocolate brownies to recover from the race


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 5:36 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

I love reading these inspiring posts.

For me:
1. Glad I have this vacation time at my summer shack enjoying beautiful weather, wonderful food and 2 out of my 3 DD's.

2. Sunsets and birds singing at Sunrise. (side note: naps in the afternoon...yeah)

3. Being accepted to college but more significant is the fact that I am moving forward.


Thank you for this topic.
It puts things in perspective!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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Snapdragon
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Default  Posted: 6:55 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

NIK is right. Weatherly wins the internets! Congrats, Weatherly!!

1. Despite having a broken foot and hobbling around on crutches I was finally able to do some cleaning around this house. Yes, you can vacuum on crutches.

2. #1 notwithstanding, I have a great excuse to lie in bed and not do jack shit in this ridiculous heat. Everyone keeps telling me to take it easy and put my foot up. Wish they would clean my kitchen floor. Maybe i can do that tomorrow.

3. Great contact w/ friends today. Home visits by two local friends. One brought her son and I sent him to my roof to unclog my downspouts. I've talked by skype or text to 5 friends in 3 different countries.


Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.

"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

Sorry about the broken foot, Snapdragon. I'm having a hard time vacuuming and keeping my floors clean, too, but mostly because my vac is broken. My excuse is not nearly as good as yours. Besides, the heat is not nearly as bad here as elsewhere in the country. Hope you get off those crutches soon.

Nice that you keep in touch by text and skype with friends. I do both with family and friends in other countries too. Just LOVE Skype!! The only way I get to see some of my family.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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I.will.survive
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

1. I sold my house today!!! OK, that one is bittersweet, but totally necessary to move on to my NB.

2. A friend brought over champagne and took me out to dinner to celebrate my birthday (last month )

3. Friends are offering any "help" that I might need, including a place to stay if I can't find another home in 5 weeks. I feel blessed!


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notsosunnyhere
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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

1. I feel stronger and more in control every day

2. I treated myself to new eyelashes this week :-)

3. I leave for a girls only beach vacay tomorrow


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heartbroken_kk
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Default  Posted: 9:58 AM, July 9th (Monday)

1. While the rest of the country swelters, I am enveloped in a misty moisty fog. I will do a few heavy projects before the sun burns it off.

2. I was rather productive around the grounds over the weekend and completed a few projects and cleaned up the messes from the tail ends of the ones I had going last week. This is an boost from the funk I was in.

3. My garden is spectacular! I have potted flowers that are stunning, tomatoes are starting to get some color, the rabbits haven't eaten everything, and I've had raspberries for breakfast for weeks. Can't wait for the peaches!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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capri
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Default  Posted: 10:21 AM, July 9th (Monday)

1. It's great to read all the good things in these posts! Tesla, I'm getting a kick out of the image of your son working hard at learning to cross his eyes!

2. I had a great weekend and a really good talk with a dear friend that has given me some new and deeper insights into life.

3. I came away from this weekend overwhelmed, touched, humbled, and feeling very blessed by the people and the outpouring of caring that God has brought into my life.

4. I have air conditioning!!!!!

5. I have a beautiful, big park right behind my house which allows me to take a nice one or two mile walk every morning.

6. While I watered my grass and took my walk, I ran into two neighbors and had pleasant chats with them. It's good to feel some connection.

7. I love the modern technology that allows me to connect with my friends far across the country online and listen to my favorite song over and over and over and....

8. The kids are all gone this morning to various places, so there's no one to finally fall to their knees screaming, "Will you please turn that stupid song off! I'm going to die if I have to hear it one more time!!!"


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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Bebba1171
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Cool  Posted: 10:48 AM, July 9th (Monday)

Excellent weekend

1) We finally got some rain here in Western Kentucky. We have been in a severe drought.
2) I beat my son in golf on Saturday for the first time in a couple years. Been biking and running a lot and my tee shots are going much farther than before.
3) Found out that a man I met at a local nursing home served in the Third Army under George Patton. I am a Patton fanatic and can't wait to go see him again. He loves my dogs and likes to talk so this is a match made in heaven!
4) Booked frequent flyer tickets to take my Daughter to Italy in early January.


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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roseguide
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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, July 9th (Monday)

phmh
This made me cry...

Six months ago, soon after D-Day, I was in such a pit of despair. I never would have imagined how wonderful life could be once I realized my worth and that I wouldn't put up with being treated as less-than!

but also gave me great hope!


In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of the things not meant for you. – Buddhist saying

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:03 PM, July 9th (Monday)

1. I have an extremely flexible job and an understanding boss and team who are unfazed by my needing to work from home at the last minute due to the nanny (the 3rd one this summer) flaking out and disappearing on me.

2. Homemade tacos and margaritas with extra salt. Mmm...

3. I can sit on my screened porch again without suffering heat exhaustion.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 10:09 PM, July 9th (Monday)

1. the headache from hell that I woke up with this morning went away after I crawled back into bed for another hour

2. finished a project at work that I've been trying to finish for over a week now

3. got the news that my mom's apartment will be ready for her to move into on the weekend, and she'll be out of my house. woohoo! (I'm a bad daughter and I'm going to hell for this one, aren't I? I don't care! )


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, July 9th (Monday)

Yay! So happy to see this thread revived and I really want to comment on so many of the awesome things that have been happening to my SI friends! Bebba -- Patton? That is just awesome! I have been doing a lot of reading on WWII lately and loved that movie. Also, capri, love that you can't ever stop at 3!!! You guys are such an inspiration for turning lemons into lemonade!

My three things, since the last time I posted:

1. Got hit on by a stranger Saturday night. He may have been a bit tipsy, but it was really sweet and funny. I think I may start a thread like this for funny being hit on stories, as I've read others in the past and it would be nice to have them all together.

2. Did a super tough hill workout today -- 10 sprints up a long, steep hill. On the 7th ascent, I passed a guy riding his bike. I always love doing that, but extra fabulous on a hill, and a guy!

3. Had another fabulous day at work. Was recognized and thanked by a couple of the heavy hitters on the team. Kind of exciting to think about what my future there might bring!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Dawnie
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, July 10th (Tuesday)

1) I wake up every day next to my new husband who adores me and is FAITHFUL

2) I have a healthy happy 17 year old son who is soon to be venturing into the real world as a police cadet (and hopefully paying his own bills soon?? )

3) I have a good stable job and am able to work from my home 3 days a week....


Life for me is dam good!


DIVORCED! Remarried to a real man!
BW (me) - 41 (now 46)
WH (him) - 43 (now 48)
OW - 23 yr old foreign gold digging whore looking for her American meal ticket
1 14 yr old son (now 19)
married 20 years/together 25 years
D day - 9/23/2009 5pm

Posts: 802 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Mid Atlantic coast
tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, July 10th (Tuesday)


1. stbx and I were supposed to try for our second child this summer. I would have liked a daughter. I have been a little sad about this...but today at practice (got a job as assistant coach to a high school team) I realized that I now have 18 daughters who look up to me and value what I have to say. I have a small part in helping them become independent, confident young women

2. The weather is considerably cooler and the breeze through the house is pleasant.

3. Found a cute sweater on clearance for $8!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, July 10th (Tuesday)

1. finally got the radio in my car set to tell me the artist and song. I've only had the car 8 months. Amazing what reading the instruction book can do for ya...

2. got the 2nd part of the looming over my head project at work done

3. had white chocolate raspberry truffle ice cream for dinner


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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better4me
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, July 10th (Tuesday)

1. Made a delightful dinner of sausage and peppers and whole wheat spaghetti
2. It was a beautiful day
3. Had a conversation with my best friend


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, July 10th (Tuesday)

1. Got an offer on our marital house that we accepted today. I'll still end up losing over $100K on the house, but I have to think of it as sunk costs, and at least I won't have to bring money to closing. Cash-wise, we'll just about break-even. And it's one less tie to XWH and one step closer to true NC.

2. Had another great run with my friend this evening. (He's married and much older, so this is just a true friendship with no weirdness.)

3. My parrots are finally getting acclimated to our new apartment and have been so unbelievably adorable this past week. I'm so glad I was able to keep them throughout the divorce and moving into an apartment.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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NeverHadAChance
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Default  Posted: 9:07 AM, July 11th (Wednesday)

I've been MIA for a bit, but I want to play too!

1. I'm having brunch with two of my oldest friends on Sunday and I can't wait.

2. I'm taking another friend to a yoga class on Thursday night. It's her first time, my second!

3. With my boss out on maternity leave and severely understaffed center, I'm managing to hold it all together this summer! Go me!


If you can't live without me, why aren't you dead yet?
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
BW, 32 - me
XWH, 32 - him
DDay 10/21/10
False R for 3 weeks
together 10 years, married 4 years
Divorced 8/30/2011


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:35 PM, July 15th (Sunday)

Feeling exceptionally grateful today for things that I sometimes take for granted.

1. On a daily basis, all my needs are met, and I usually have far more than I need.

2. I am surrounded by friends, family, children, and love. It is an embarrassment of riches.

3. I am breathing, healthy, and free from persecution. I am in control of my life every single day.

Life is beautiful.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 4:06 PM, July 15th (Sunday)

In NIK's vein, my first thing:

1. I have fresh, clean water available to me to drink. I don't have to worry about diseases from it or spend hours every day procuring it.

2. Last week at work, twice, I laughed so hard I cried. I'm not sure when the last time I laughed that hard was (used to do it a lot) and the fact that it happened at work was great.

3. My finger is almost healed from the bad steam burn I incurred last week. Although it was super painful at the time, it's been interesting watching the new skin grow. Science is pretty cool!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, July 17th (Tuesday)

1. Work has been going really, really well, and I just found out today that I get to move into an office from my communal workstation. I've only been there 3 months. This is fabulous!!!

2. It was in the high 90s - low 100s all day today and 5 minutes before I went out for a run, it dropped about 20 degrees. Beautiful night for a run -- great company, great scenery, etc. Perfect timing!

3. My work sent me flowers for my birthday, and they are on my table, so beautiful and fragrant. They make me happy every time I see or smell them!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, July 22nd (Sunday)

Had a bad day yesterday, so am reviving this:

1. I thought I might be in for some expensive car repairs, but it turned out not to be the case (so far!)

2. Finally got around to upgrading from my dumb, flip phone to an iphone. Work will pay for it and service. I was dragging my feet because I didn't want to be connected 24/7, but now I'm actually excited about it.

3. My parents were unexpectedly in town yesterday so we had an impromptu lunch. I have such amazing parents and it's always great to get to spend more time with them!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, July 22nd (Sunday)

1. My kid is a great little traveller (still got a week to go...so hope I didn't just jinx myself!)

2. I have incredibly supportive family.

3. I love running at dawn surrounded by mountains.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, July 22nd (Sunday)

thanks for reviving the thread pmh....I could use a reminder

1) helped a friend who was having a hard time--payback was good, she's supported me through my tough times.
2)there are tomatoes on my tomato plant on my deck(they're green but it was planted late and there is still time!)
3) got some work that I had been putting off completed tonight. Yea ME!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3207 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 12:05 AM, July 23rd (Monday)

1. I found a BN card in my closet with a balance on it and got a new book

2. I had a Jamoca Almond Fudge ice cream cone

3. I made tie-dye sheets with my oldest girl banana and one of her BFFs

It was a good day.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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Default  Posted: 12:25 AM, July 23rd (Monday)

3 things from the past week:

1) I spent a beautiful afternoon with some of my grandchildren and we all had a good time. Another day, we spent the evening together. Another great time! Xpos didn't want these kids around but I have fun with them. He calls them "brats".

2) Still reveling in my "win" Thursday against xpos. Sure felt good and it seemed proof that he is desperate for money.

3) Had a great talk with s-i-l. Very affirming.

4) Had several compliments from IC and commended me on some things I did.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, July 23rd (Monday)

Oh My...Good Idea !!!!

1. I finished painting 2 pictures. And I Like em

2. Was called a "MILF" and at first offended then DD told me to embrace it as a guys dumb way of saying you're pretty. Still don't like "MILF". I am BEAUTIFUL!

3. Had a great conversation with God and settled that I am good.

T/J? or ETA??

When talking to others or oursleves Say, "I am..... postive words. I am loved!! I am love. I am strong. I am healthy. ETC.


Me 52
He 49
DDay 11/06/11
Married 23 years
2 adult children.

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944man
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Default  Posted: 7:43 AM, July 23rd (Monday)

1. Only a few weeks til football season

2. My fav. time of year upcoming: fall, marzen style beer, cool breezes, fall colors.

3. Me, kids, and SO are all healthy


43 and loving it

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, July 23rd (Monday)

Thanks to everyone who is posting -- so fun to read all of these good things!!!

1. Went for a run, and was so, so sweaty. Felt cleansing, mentally and physically.

2. Moved into my office at work today. My view is even better than I realized!

3. Went to the library and they had the next Daniel Silva book in. Yay! If anyone is in to mindless spy novels, I'd recommend his books. They're great!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 5:39 AM, July 24th (Tuesday)

1. like many others...i got to wake up next to my SO this morning.

2. Even better -- i got to sleep next to him all night...

3. I am working toward a significant promotion at work with a significant pay raise...


DD - now 9 years old
Divorced 5 years; multiple affairs

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, July 25th (Wednesday)

Had another fabulous day!

1. We had a huge rainstorm last night, which we really needed, and it was great to be in that half-sleep state this morning listening to the rain fall.

2. I had dinner with a former coworker who moved away -- we've known each other over 10 years now. We're both low-maintenance friends (we can go months without talking but when we do it's just like old times) and I feel so lucky to have her in my life!

3. All 3 of my parrots are fabulous, but there is one in particular who always hated XWH and loved me. With XWH out of our lives, my parrot is so happy, and it's been so wonderful to see him come out of his shell more. He was abused quite severely in his old home, but he is just so happy and loving now. What a pure, gentle soul.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, July 25th (Wednesday)

1.Had a fabulous camping trip alone
2. Stopped by friends house for tea and showed them my favorite swimming hole
3.Stopped by my cabin and just enjoyed the view .

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Default  Posted: 12:07 AM, July 26th (Thursday)

1. The part is here to fix my dryer which means I'm a step closer to not having clothes for 7 hanging all over the house drying! Hooray!

2. Better yet, it's all covered by the warranty.

3. Had my writing group tonight which is the highlight of my week.

4. The end of my teaching quarter is quickly approaching and I'll have more free time.

5. All the kids went to xh's apartment tonight except one daughter. It's wonderfully peaceful here!


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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capri
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Default  Posted: 11:46 PM, July 27th (Friday)

1. I paid off a big bill today!

2. I was invited to expand my teaching to a local arts center and as a result have finally purchased a MIDI keyboard which I'll need for that. I've wanted to replace my broken one for years so I can once again 'write' music by playing it directly into the keyboard, and now I had the perfect excuse. It should be here by this time next week.

3. A friend who lives across town came to trade off kids for sleepovers tonight and the two of us had a really nice, long walk around the park. We always have so much to talk about and I enjoy her company because no matter what happens, she can tell it with a smile on her face and laughing at life and people's foibles.

4. I got a LOT accomplished today.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, July 28th (Saturday)

1. My students have got my back so hard there's no way I can fall down. College kids are awesome (and much stronger physically than my middle-aged ass will ever be )

2. My living room is the most relaxing haven ever, thanks to good friends who helped me paint and a landlord who said painting was OK.


3. I cut almost 2 feet off my hair and it looks pretty darned good.


Me: BS, 40
Him: Future XH, 41
Married 3 years, together 9
Dday: 4/26/12


Sometimes it's better to light a flamethrower than to curse the darkness. -- Terry Pratchett


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 12:08 AM, July 28th (Saturday)

So far on this trip I have driven 4,200 miles. Here are three things I'm grateful for on this drive:

1. Incredibly beautiful scenery that reminds me this world is a big, wonderful place with infinite possibilities. I will not let stbx and his crappy decisions hold me down.

2. My mom. She invited Teslet and I on this adventure to visit her cousin and aunt. There would have been no adventure without her and my dad's generosity.

3. Teslet's imagination. I was very worried that this long of a trip with a 3 year old was going to be hell. Turns out the little guy is a fantastic traveller and can keep himself entertained for hours. I see many more adventures in our future!

[This message edited by tesla at 12:43 AM, July 28th (Saturday)]


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

1. Went to a craft beer festival with my parents, sisters, and BIL last night. Had a wonderful day. I am lucky to have a great family.

2. Despite drinking too much last night, I ran a great 10 mile race this morning. Passed a few people at the end, made a new friend (woman in my age group will probably join the team I race for); I almost didn't go this morning as I wasn't feeling well, but now I'm so glad I did!

3. About to head out with my family again; trying to spend lots of time with them while my sisters are in town. There will be no alcohol today :)


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 9:50 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

1) Had a nice time with DS's family at an outing. Got ice cream after.

2) Attended a lovely community event at the invitation of xpos's sister who hates him too. She has a near-twin of him for an ex. Really enjoyed all of it. Absolutely beautiful day today!

3) Had a nice talk with DD, who wasn't feeling well but is doing better.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, July 29th (Sunday)

1) I received benign results this week.

2) I took a day trip with my parents to a lake. There was very little arguing. This is always a good thing with my parents.

3) I was able to spend some time with my nieces today.


When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.

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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, July 30th (Monday)

1)a very good friend was in town for the weekend. Spent time with her and our group of four friends. Got my bucket filled.
2)received hugs and kisses from my friend's 3 year old son yesterday.
3) it rained....ahhhh


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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mixedemotions
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Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, August 1st (Wednesday)

1. After hearing my story, my landlord's realtor convinced the landlord to let me out of the lease! That means I'm no longer stuck in a place too big and too expensive for my comfort level and can move on to a place that has no bad memories!

2. Within a day of posting an ad, I have many potential tenants including 1 woman who I felt instantly connected to and I think we're going to become friends! She's gone through divorce too and wants to be there for me if I need to talk. There are some really nice people in the world : )

3. Against major odds, 1 spot opened in a class I wanted and I happened to check at the right time so I could switch into it from a different class. The change in schedule means I'm now in a class with a dear friend AND that I'm able to join a group of young professionals on a Junior Board that meets the night I would have otherwise had class!

Life is very, very good to me!


Me: Former BW, 28
Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
"What did not demolish me simply polished me, now the clearer I can see" - India Arie

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mixedemotions
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Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, August 1st (Wednesday)

I'm adding another because it happened on Monday. I have been sad all week that I couldn't share this with STBX after realizing that he doesn't really care...I should have remembered I have this space to share it!

I went to my internship for the first time on Monday. I'll be working there about 30 hours a week for the next year and it's a big step in my career, so something I'm pretty anxious about.

One of the supervisors who interviewed me was there and said he was glad to get to tell me now what he was thinking in the interview and wasn't allowed to say. He said I'm very smart, I really know my stuff, and I'm ready for a job with them, not just an internship and they are lucky to have me. I've been beaming ever since! I respect their work so much and it feels amazing to be thought of like that. Take THAT STBX and all the mean things you used to say to bring me down!


Me: Former BW, 28
Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
"What did not demolish me simply polished me, now the clearer I can see" - India Arie

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Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, August 2nd (Thursday)

1.) There is a beautiful full moon tonight with really interesting clouds framing it
2.) Sat on my deck just now looking at the moon and listening to the tree frogs
3.) Looking forward to dinner with friends tomorrow night


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Default  Posted: 6:04 AM, August 3rd (Friday)

1) Good buddy is coming into town tonight to play golf tomorrow
2) Just booked a work related trip to San Diego for next week and will get to stay with my little sister.
3) Hada great customer meeting yesterday that should result in a big sale soon.


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

It's been a long time since this has been brought up here in NB!!!

1. We had our big client conference and it was a smashing success. I got a ton of compliments on my behavior, clients gave my bosses positive feedback, etc.

2. I was selected to be the handler for our guest speaker at the conference. He's a famous guy, and rather a personal hero of mine, so this was great. He gave me a huge hug when he met me and we chatted for a few minutes. Then I was joking around with his bodyguards and we just had a great time.

3. I am working hard on expanding my friend circle and being a true friend. This has been rewarded with many invitations, and right now I have 5 things scheduled in the next 2 weeks with different friends or groups of friends.

4. One of our biggest clients absolutely loves me! He's got the ear of my big boss, and he was telling her how fabulous I am. We laughed so much this weekend, and his wife gave me an open invitation to come to their house whenever (I will not do this, but the thought was nice!)

5. I was trying today to think of the last time someone was mean to me. It must have been my XWH, but he's so insignificant now, that I can't even think of a specific example. Life is so great!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Bebba1171
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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

Great Thread.

1) Just returned from a quick 9 holes on the golf course. So nice and peaceful. The only noises were a gander of geese flying over and my dogs hunting squirrels. Didn't crack any trees with errant shots which was nice.

2) Went for a nice run in the morning and met up with a lawyer friend who congratulated me on my recent divorce trial.

3)Got news that my new golf cart has arrived in town and being prepared for delivery to my house.

4) My son was over this afternoon. He has been offered a couple free tickets to an Indiana football game of his choice by the University and wants me to take him to my alma mater.

5) I just read a nice post by PHMH who I respect a lot. I am so happy for her new beginning.


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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Kajem
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, September 11th (Tuesday)

1. Finding this thread... I have neglected my gratitude journal and been feeling guilty about that.

2. I had a giggle fest with my 4 month old granddaughter today. Nothing like baby belly laughs to make you giggle.

3. I have the house to myself tonight.. a rarety. I plan on watching a movie no one else wants to watch.. and a bubble bath.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, September 12th (Wednesday)

1. my baby turned 3 yrs old yesterday and we had a good time celebrating

2. I got to spend the afternoon with a good friend last sunday

3. tonight I get a few hours of "me time" and I'm going to make the most of it


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 12:14 PM, September 13th (Thursday)

I need to do more gratitudes and less pity parties so here's another post

1. Awesome lunch at the office
2. Home visiting teacher tonight who the kids love
3. Friday Eve!!!!


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, September 13th (Thursday)

1. More compliments at work. The guy I respect most stopped by my office today to thank me for joining the team. I've been there nearly 5 months and they are still this!

2. Just got back from a great run in the rain, which always energizes me and makes me feel bad-ass since most people don't run outside in the rain.

3. I finally have my second date tonight with the guy from a few weeks ago. We had to postpone a couple of times due to my work, but he was understanding and I'm excited!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, September 13th (Thursday)

1. figured out why I have been having muscle pains - and its an easy fix

2. Every one of my senior classes today was on point and had insights. Always makes me happy when that happens

3. Had an incredible slice of quiche for lunch.

[This message edited by tlartclark at 8:32 PM, September 13th (Thursday)]


Me - BW - divorced, recovered and happy
Him - who cares
2 amazing sons
D-day 6/2008
Divorced 1/5/11
Sometimes the path of least resistance just makes the road longer.
Sometimes you have to head straight on into the pain to come out the other side

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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, September 13th (Thursday)

1. I am blessed with wonderful friends. Had a couple of beers with my friend Stephen tonight and didn't mention my ex -- a first.

2. Fantastic weather. Walked 30 blocks downtown, lovely.

3. Came home and rewatched my favorite ACI, life-affirming and highly recommended for all NB-ers. Watch till the very last sentence.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d8YpYosvHFU


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blinders_off
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, September 14th (Friday)


1) Awesome laser facial w my fav aesthetician. Thanks, Lifebooker!

2) Took a multivitamin this am, had fresh fruit juice (juice cart on the sidewalk, so convenient), and took a supplement called Calm-Plex, has something called "L-Theanine", anyhow I did feel calm.

3) Work projects falling into place. Thing we're trying for the first time got tweaked at 4pm and magically began working; could save megabucks and time.

4) Found free books on stoop. Thrillers etc. Am about to read Pet Semetary for the first time.

5) Low-hassle sandwich for dinner, with avocado.

6) Took the recycling down.

7) Smoked less today. I think partly due to the supplement.

8) Can read NY Times articles free if you click on links to them from google or google news.

9) Found Burt's Bees lip balm 3-pack at dollar store.

10) management company extended my month-to-month lease for 2 months with zero hassle

11) Working with some really nice people on one project I care about

12) Fresh sheets and duvet cover

: )


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, September 14th (Friday)

1. Got a couple of more projects completed at work today.

2. J, the guy I went on a date with last night, sent me a text first thing this morning to tell me what a great time he had :)

3. J and I are going to the Queen rockumentary that premieres next Thursday. I love Queen! None of my friends wanted to go with me, but he's super excited about it since he loves them, too. I was going to just go alone, but this will be more fun.

4. My new sheets and duvet cover that I ordered arrived a week earlier than expected (today!), so I get to sleep on them tonight, after they get out of the dryer.

5. I had to go to a work luncheon thing, and I won the centerpiece off of my table, so I have gorgeous, fragrant flowers on my dining room table right now.

6. Fall is arriving and, with that, sweater weather. Yum!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 4:38 AM, September 17th (Monday)

1. The puppy appears to finally be house trained (no accidents in the past 3 weeks!)

2. Discovered my local market now carries peppermint chocolate tea that actually tastes wonderful!! .. and has zero calories.

3. Had a great skype today with my eldest child who is loving grad school this semester!

4. Sky tonight is so clear and dark I saw the Milkyway (swoonable moment).

5. Sunday comics!

6. Fresh, local fruit for breakfast ... and there is still some for tomorrow.


Me: BS
Him: NPD WS
Married 24 years
incredible kids
D day: 2006 ... he left to live with OW.
Divorced: 2009
WS + OW: Married 2011

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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, September 17th (Monday)

1. Took my kids to the zoo and they had a blast
2. Went to the movies with my friend nad had a great time
3. Got to enjoy some reading with both kids so tired they went to bed early


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, September 17th (Monday)

1. You know how certain compliments sometimes mean more depending on who gives them? I received one from a friend that meant a lot.

2. One of my onerous volunteer responsibilities is about to end. Just 3 weeks to go and I'm done forever!

3. At least 7 of my new coworkers are planning to come out to cheer me on in the marathon! I'm not sure if they will actually come, but the thought is nice. Most of the ones who are coming live less than a block from the course, so I have to tell them what time I am likely to run past their house.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, September 19th (Wednesday)

1. Had both kids in bed by 9:00pm so I got to get to sleep early too

2. Got to play a game with my sister last night

3. Took a walk in the sunny fall awesomeness yesterday on lunch break


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

Posts: 535 | Registered: Aug 2012
phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, September 21st (Friday)

1. Had my third date with a guy last night and had a fabulous time, even if he is a bit of an enigma. Had this happened a few months ago, I would have been freaking out, but now I'm just taking things one day at a time :)

2. Massage tomorrow with my amazing massage therapist.

3. My favorite local brewery has special edition beers and you never know if they're going to make your favorite again. I was at the store this evening and they had my absolute favorite ever -- it had been probably three years since I had it!!! I may have to go tomorrow and buy more, but since I was walking, I could only get two four-packs.

4. My parents are coming into town Sunday and we're spending the day together doing a special even put on by my city.

5. I fixed my bike, so starting Monday, I am a bicycle commuter!

6. I am rocking out to Queen's Greatest Hits right now, and Freddie Mercury has the best voice ever. What talent!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

1. Today I went to the consignment shop and found a lot of really great bargains. (Work clothes.) I told the lady behind me in line to go ahead since she was buying one thing and I had something like 30 things. She was so nice that she gave me a 10% off coupon to the store, saving me quite a bit of money

2. My parents surprised me by taking me out to dinner. We're spending the day together tomorrow, so I didn't think they'd come up today, as well.

3. Got a massage today, and it was great, as always. I've been going to him since 07 or 08, and we've developed this really great friendship over the years, so it's always nice to see him, in addition to getting the massage!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

1. Last night Telset and I had a special little outing to an ice cream shop and the book store. We picked up a couple of books to add to the reading pile at bedtime.

2. Had a great coaching day! Love cheering the girls on and helping them plan race strategies.

3. I bought a book for myself and am actually reading it! Pre d-day I was an avid reader. This is the first book post d-day that I've been able to immerse myself in and not get distracted by divorce/infidelity bullshit.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Frustrated  Posted: 10:07 PM, September 22nd (Saturday)

1. Watched a classic about Ireland in prep for my trip.
2. Watched it with a good friend who has been there and who appreciated the beautiful scenery and music, and we also had a nice visit.
3. Made a veggie pizza, mostly from harvest veggies given to me and it is very good!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, September 24th (Monday)

1. Had a fantastic time with one of my good friends over the weekend.
2. Got my garage cleaned out with plenty of room to fit my car and still get at my freezer, yay.
3. Had an overall good weekend between accomplishing things, socializing, and relaxing.


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 11:29 PM, October 5th (Friday)

How did this get to page 7?

1. Was planning on just staying in tonight, but my friends convinced me to go to this reception where I met an Olympian and ended up having a great time. Plus...free dinner!

2. My coworkers are just so amazing. They decorated my office and bought me presents for an important event that is happening in my life. They just go above and beyond, and I still can't believe it most days.

3. I get to sleep in tomorrow -- this will be the first Saturday where I could do this since probably February. I am so excited!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, October 6th (Saturday)

1. I spent several hours today doing much needed yardwork with my sons. Then I took them out for a late breakfast. My yard looks so much better, and I got to spend quality time with 2 of my most favorite people.

2. I exercised 4 days last week.

3. The temperature is supposed to drop overnight, and tomorrow the high will be around 70 degrees, instead of the 90 it hit today.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, October 8th (Monday)

1. Got two nice financial surprises today! My old job is keeping me on as an on-call consultant for an additional 3 months, and I referred a friend to work at my new company, which came with a surprise referral fee since they hired her! Plus, I now get to work with my friend.

2. Went to the movies with a friend this evening; got to see a classic silent movie with a live orchestra playing in the background. It was so good, and I know that we'll be referencing this movie throughout our friendship. I love building shared history and memories like that!

3. Today marked the start of my 3rd week as a bicycle commuter. Door to door, it's faster than driving my car, and I get some sneaky exercise in. Score!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, October 8th (Monday)

1. Had a fantastic time over the weekend - girls night out, lots of dancing, and sleeping in!

2. Signed a lease last Friday! Excited to move in a month

3. Starting to get back into my groove at work


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, October 8th (Monday)

I love this thread! I just posted to a newbie that she needed to start a "Gratitude List" and a "Thinks I Like About Me List. I hope she sees this - Three Things List too.

1) I finally got everything squared away in my house after my annual biker bash celebrating the end of summer (and riding). It was a GREAT party saturday, and I've had several people call me to tell me how much fun they had. I finally got the last guest out the door about noon-ish on sunday. No drunk driving from my house!

2) I got the financial stuff done at the parent's today. It has become apparent that I need to take over paying the bills, and have online access to monitor stuff. Thankfully, things are in place so I can do this. Tomorrow. It was kind of scary today.

3) That damned Texan (my loving nickname for the best FWB on earth) will be here wednesday. I am soooo looking forward to seeing him again! Yeah, he'll be headed back to Texas, but he came through for me when I needed a good friend.

So....from Wednesday thru the weekend, I'm gonna be MIA. Enjoying some long-past due time with him....and just having fun. I'll talk to y'all after I recover.


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


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Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, October 9th (Tuesday)

Yay for everyone posting here. Phmh for biking and everything else, el for a long awaited weekend, GreenMom, Tesla, inconnu - thanks for sharing things that are great in your life. Things going on in my life now:

1. IRELAND!!
2. A GREAT financial planner!
3. My wonderful, supportive children and grandchildren that make me happy every day!

[This message edited by thebighurt at 12:23 AM, October 9th (Tuesday)]


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, October 9th (Tuesday)

1) DD1 had a fab birthday party last night, got all the kids to the restaurant and back to my house in one piece, and the kitchen is now CLEAN once again...

2) My volunteer 'job' these past 2 weeks with an organization I've been involved with for 10 years had a great event, even with the bad weather, and we finished on time...

3) Enjoying a quiet day (no school :) at home with my 2 kiddies, warm & cozy with my new wood stove fireplace insert.

Ahhhhh, Fall.


Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.

Nobody forgets what happens, the secret is learning to live with it.


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, October 9th (Tuesday)

tbh, I can't wait to hear all about your Ireland trip!

1. Went for a walk at lunch, breaking up my day with exercise and happiness.

2. Planning a bachelorette party for a good friend; it is going to be so much fun!

3. I got invited to the suite at a huge college basketball game later this year. True, it's for work so I'll have to entertain our clients, but exciting that I was chosen!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 8:19 AM, October 10th (Wednesday)

1. Dinner tonight with a friend!

2. Good night's sleep last night!

3. Kick ass work out plans for today!


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, October 10th (Wednesday)

1. My kids
2. God
3. SI

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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 2:19 AM, October 11th (Thursday)

1) Learning about Ireland. Such a beautiful country!
2) New friends.
3) Loving solo travels!! No one telling me what to do and how I'm doing it wrong.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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HappilyUnMarried
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Default  Posted: 2:42 AM, October 11th (Thursday)

Good things!

1. I managed to scrape together enough money to get my awesome pre-med DD21 a safe, reliable car for her 21st birthday. She's living at home, commuting to college 50 miles a day. XH (her sperm donor) hasn't had anything to do with her in 5 years. His loss!

2. After a shaky 6 month period with my late-stage start-up with missed paychecks and funding issues, looks like the company is back on track. I finally was caught up on my pay (hence the $$$ for #1)

3. Seeing a guy again "Opposite Guy" that I haven't seen in 18 months. It took a lot of dating in the meantime to realize that we do have amazing chemistry. It may not be a "forever" relationship, but when I am with him I am happy, peaceful and content. That's all I really need now.


True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

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Default  Posted: 2:56 AM, October 11th (Thursday)

1. Realising that although I may not have worked myself our completely, I have learnt a lot following my XWBF and have taken action to put changes in place

2. I got the opportunity to give out some awards at work yesterday. It was nice to make sure people feel appreciated and it was fun

3. Sources like SI, Baggage Reclaim and MarcandAngel to help me get perspective at a bad time


"True happiness does not come from experiencing pleasures of the body and ego—but from having experiences that stimulate your core self—your “soul”—challenging and inspiring you to grow into your highest potential as a person"

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, October 15th (Monday)

1. The washer in my apartment is working again, so I could wash my running clothes -- perfect timing as I was just about out of sports bras.

2. I was on my evening run, thinking how sad that I would no longer run into my friend S, as she moved a few miles away, and then she literally ran into me and we did a few miles together. What a wonderful surprise!

3. I may have mentioned this before, but it's making me happy again tonight. My favorite brewery puts out special edition beers that may or may not ever be brewed again. I've been thinking about one of their brews for years, and then they made it again and now I'm drinking one. It's so tasty!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, October 18th (Thursday)

1. I found a new preschool for my son and 4K for my daughter in the town we are moving to next month!

2. I had a fantastic first date and plans in the works for second date!

3. I have an awesome weekend of fun social plans coming up!


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, October 18th (Thursday)

1. I laughed out loud at something that seemed really ridiculous, then laughed at myself harder when I realised I'd been an idiot and completely misunderstood.

2. I'm trying to get buy in for a proposal at work that will make things a lot easier for a lot of people. I actually don't think it's going to fly but I like that I am the kind of person that cares enough, and is willing to fight for the things I really believe in.

3. This morning at work 2 women were gushing about my hair as if I wasn't actually there. "It reminds me of something out of a classic Titian painting" etc One of the women is a completely fake kiss ass so I don't really care, but the other one is someone I have a lot of respect for and doesn't say things she doesn't mean


"True happiness does not come from experiencing pleasures of the body and ego—but from having experiences that stimulate your core self—your “soul”—challenging and inspiring you to grow into your highest potential as a person"

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Default  Posted: 5:43 AM, October 19th (Friday)

1. spent time with a good friend who lives far away
2. Saw the Dali Lama
3. Had enough extra cash to go for frozen yogurt with my kids


Me - BW - divorced, recovered and happy
Him - who cares
2 amazing sons
D-day 6/2008
Divorced 1/5/11
Sometimes the path of least resistance just makes the road longer.
Sometimes you have to head straight on into the pain to come out the other side

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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, October 19th (Friday)

1. Great one on one time with my son yesterday

2. Good hugs from my daughter this morning

3. FRIDAY!!


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, October 19th (Friday)

1. People other than me posting to this thread :)

2. Went out dancing at the art museum with a friend. It was fabulous!

3. Wonderful dinner with friends. Missed out on so much being married to an anti-social weirdo. So happy now!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, October 23rd (Tuesday)

1. One of my friends started working at my company, in my small department. Now I get to see her so often! Yay!

2. I am going to a concert tomorrow night with friends. I have never heard of the band. Was told to dress "like a hipster." Not sure how I'm going to pull that off with my wardrobe :) But I'm going to have fun!

3. I have leftovers from Sunday night, so I can run a bit longer this evening since I don't have to cook and can still eat delicious food! Speaking of which -- I had better get outside, running!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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capri
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Default  Posted: 10:42 PM, October 23rd (Tuesday)

1. Bought myself a new clarinet today. I joke that I quit buying from music stores because I already own one of everything--but this has some extra keys beyond the standard clarinet. Can you tell I'm excited?

2. Got a lot of work done.

3. Had a nice quit meetup with a friend. He'd made cheesey bread for me because he knew I'd been teaching all evening and hadn't had a chance to have dinner.

4. Had a somewhat productive day.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, October 30th (Tuesday)

1. got the keys to my new apartment yesterday

2. have plans with a dear friend tomorrow that I will make happen come hell or high water

3. awesome girls night out coming up this next weekend


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 3:58 PM, October 30th (Tuesday)

1. Productive day at work
2. Friend's baby is due
3. One laser appointment closer to less shaving.

Posts: 3441 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
wildbananas
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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, October 30th (Tuesday)

1. Zumba tonight!
2. Accomplished a fair amount at work today
3. Dollar scoop night at the local Baskin-Robbins... which sort of negates item number one.


Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan

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million pieces
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, October 30th (Tuesday)

1. Electricity
2. No fallen trees in my yard
3. Halloween!


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, October 30th (Tuesday)

1. Today I got a new client scheduled for next week
2. I bought a new pair of super cute boots that make me squeeeee
3. Home Depot guy gave me a free transmitter for my ceiling fan/light fixture so hopefully I won't have to buy a new unit.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5856 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, October 31st (Wednesday)

1. Just recalculated where I am as of 10/31, and I am on track to hit my total miles running goal for the year (though it may be close.) My reading goal may be another story (ha!) unless I find some short books for the last two months!

2. Great week at work -- 2 senior people stopped by my office to tell me they don't know what they'd do without me!

3. I bicycle commuted every day in October except for one (day before my marathon -- I needed to rest my legs a bit.) I have been able to save a ton of money by not having to pay for parking or gas! Hoping to keep up my streak and commute every day in November.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Helen of Troy
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Content  Posted: 6:34 AM, November 1st (Thursday)

Great thread! it is so important to remember what we are grateful for.

Phmh your signature line really spoke to me today. Thank you.

1. I love what I am learning in school. As much as I complain about how hard this is, truly believe now it was what I was meant to do and meant to be. It is where I started out before getting sidetracked with marriage. Then, family. Don't regret the family part just the marriage part.

2. Got a SO now. Not sure how long it will last but for today it is good. He is polite, cooks for me, thinks I'm beautiful and attracted to my intelligence. Doesn't seem to have mental health issues or abusive tendencies, hasn't put inappropriate moves on me/sexual innuendo, etc., isn't scared that I have children, and he's age appropriate.

3. After my kids being severely messed up from the break up of our family and divorce, they are settling in now. I am so thankful and proud too. Won't go into details here because it is uncomfortable for me, but life was very bad for awhile. It was so painful for me to watch what they went through and how the damage manifested itself in areas of their lives; each one of them. The pain of that + pain of mourning the loss of a dream/my own detachment from a loser was overwhelming. What I am thankful for is that we are doing ok, well better than ok now. During the dark days it seemed like this would never happen.

Couldn't have done it without SI either. Thank you so much for help on board and by private message.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, November 1st (Thursday)

1. The Halloween candy is finally out of the office so I actually ate all the fruits and veggies I brought for a snack today.

2. I reviewed my new retirement account and it is fairing pretty well I think.

3. I finally made the 20 minute phone call to the bank to fix some issues with my online account access.


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, November 1st (Thursday)

1. I early voted today!

2. Just finished a fun training session with my parrot. She knows so many tricks; it's great!

3. I'm doing laundry tonight, so will have clean running clothes again! (Aside: once I finally move into a house again, it will be hard for me not to be grateful every day that I don't have to share a washer/dryer, go outside to use it, or pay 12 quarters to do a load of wash!!!)


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, November 1st (Thursday)

1. got an email with SO's flight information for Thanksgiving weekend.

2. tomorrow is Friday which means I can wear jeans to work, so I don't have to do laundry tonight.

3. I got the insurance sign-up packet at work (new job) today. When it kicks in, it'll be the first time since the divorce that I will have health insurance.


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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Default  Posted: 6:03 PM, November 1st (Thursday)

1. My six year old daughter who has been having some behavioral issues got good marks for behavior every day for the past two weeks.

2. I don't have to cook dinner tonight.

3. I've lost almost twenty pounds since coming home from the hospital with my newborn daughter (I still have about 100 to go to be on the high end of healthy weight for my height).


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HappilyUnMarried
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, November 1st (Thursday)

1. Took a day off from work and cleaned out my garage. Now I can fit at least one car in there!

2. I made a schedule and planned out my free 4 day weekend. Plan to have a great stay-cation

3. Started painting and mosaic work after a break. So much fun!


True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

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capri
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, November 1st (Thursday)

empresslingpha, I'm right there with you. I have twins with ADHD and we had a really bad week with them where they were both managing to spit out their medication behind our backs. It felt like victory when we finally got back on track and a whole week without getting calls to come and deal with them. I ended up going one day literally straight from a funeral to the school to talk with one of them.

My good things:

1. I got time to really play with my new clarinet today! It's wood, and I got a harder reed, so a much richer sound than my old instrument!

2. I had a good talk with an old friend via e-mail.

3. I had several other really good talks with a few people.

4. I had a great fish taco at a Mexican restaurant with a huge long island iced tea--first one I've ever had, and delicious!


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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Compartmented
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Default  Posted: 7:01 AM, November 2nd (Friday)

My three things:

1) I applied to college yesterday!

2) I joked with my friends about frat parties next year.

3) I talked with my son about seeing his tutor for SAT prep, if necessary.


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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, November 2nd (Friday)

1. I got paid last night. This is awesome because the refrigerator is really very bare.

2. Breakthrough in my running last night and I've finally got my yoga headstand down.

3. A weekend to study for exam two.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, November 2nd (Friday)

I finally signed up on some financial monitoring websites and found –

1 – A payoff date/calculator for my student loans! After all the deferments and forbearances, I honestly had no idea how many years were left, and while I could make extra payments, nothing on the student loan website would show me what that meant in terms of interest and life of the loan reductions.
2 – My credit is not only not horrible (refused to check it for a year following D), but it’s actually GOOD, and once I pay down my credit cards will be very good. Which means planning to buy a home again isn’t such a ridiculous fantasy after all!
3 – Stupid picture Friday had me in stitches. The zoo signs, I smile just thinking about them.


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, November 2nd (Friday)

1. Glad so many SIers affected by Sandy have checked in and so far all are safe.

2. Still on a high from my travels. I had such a good time on both trips!! And have new friends from my tour!

3. My "winter home" closed today, so I now have two homes!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, November 2nd (Friday)

1. it's Friday

2. I have a bottle of wine chilling in the fridge

3. did I mention, it's Friday


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, November 4th (Sunday)

1. Just got back from a fabulous ladies' weekend away. I could come up with dozens of things that made this weekend so wonderful! But the biggest one is being with friends and the stronger friendships we made together.

2. Ran a half marathon on this weekend away, and missed a PR by less than a minute on a really tough course. I was planning to take it easy, so I beat my goal time by 15 minutes. Yay!

3. We stopped at a winery on the way back, so now I have a case of great wine, replenishing my stock that I take when I visit someone's house. Also, my winery club membership had been in my XWH's name, but after I explained what happened, they just gave me a new membership and didn't make me pay to rejoin :)


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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msk99
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, November 5th (Monday)

1. I completed my bathroom reno yesterday, had the best shower ever...and I'm proud I did it myself.

2. My boys and I had a really great weekend together.

3. I've got my health and I'm thankful for that.


BS (Me): 40 STBXWW (Her): 40
M: 15 Years, 2 Awesome Boys
Divorced

Five simple rules of happiness:
1. Free your heart from hatred.
2. Free your mind from worries.
3. Live simply.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less.


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, November 5th (Monday)

1. I bought cute new shoes this weekend, and 8 hours into wearing them, they don't hurt!

2. I have tomorrow off and get to visit my friend and her new baby.

3. Just got the program for a work trip to Italy and it sounds a lot more fun than last months trade show.

ETA: Thank you for this thread btw. I keep coming up with a lot of good things every day since I decided to participate.

[This message edited by Crescita at 3:18 PM, November 5th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:04 PM, November 5th (Monday)

Yay! It always makes me so happy when people post here!

1. People continuing to post on this thread.

2. Going to an NCAA basketball game with my dad tonight.

3. Got a comment on my commute home today - "Can't believe you're biking in a skirt!" It's the first comment I've gotten from a stranger about my biking attire, and it made me smile. I responded that it only counts when other people in skirts pass me, so I wished him a nice ride home, and then he took off, leaving me in the dust.

(In case anyone is interested, I have never been passed by anyone on a skirt. I also have never seen anyone else bike commute in a skirt. I do wear pants or shorts under my skirt so I don't flash anyone!)


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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, November 5th (Monday)

It's been awhile...time to post again.

1. Teslet and I got all the winter bird feeding stations set up yesterday...we were treated to cardinals, woodpeckers, gold finches, chickadees and nuthatches this morning.

2. One of my hardest working students got 100% on his math test...you should have seen his little smile...I think it's the first perfect score he's ever gotten!

3. I have been indulging in a box of mint meltaways...yummy


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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, November 8th (Thursday)

I so love reading about everyone's positives!!! Thanks for keeping them coming!

1. I discovered a new artist last week -- have been playing his CD almost nonstop and it is so fantastic. I sing his songs in my head when I'm not listening to the CD. He has really enriched my life. And, I touched him when he brushed past me after his concert!!!

2. I lost my foam roller in the divorce, and was slow on getting another one, but it arrived in the mail today, so I am super excited!

3. One of my good friends is getting married this weekend. She is such a wonderful person, and her fiance is great. I am so happy for them!


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Default  Posted: 3:52 AM, November 9th (Friday)

1. Had a very fun first date on Wednesday.

2. Bought two super cute new dresses online.

3. Having a family night with my two boys tonight. It''s my 13-year old''s turn to plan which means Chinese food and a super hero movie, undoubtably.


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Default  Posted: 2:32 PM, November 9th (Friday)

1. Saving is fun
2. Saving is fun
3. Saving is fun

I'm really trying to cut back on spending this month. It's killing me. Absolute torture. It's only the 9th! Out of 30!? So I am keeping my debt free and savings goals at the forefront. That's something to celebrate, yes?


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Default  Posted: 4:56 PM, November 9th (Friday)

1. Three day weekend - w00t!

2. Tonight should be just WB and baby banana time... it should be fun.

3. I'm paid weekly and realized I get five paychecks this month! Of course, the extra will pay for my car registration and new tires but that's okay... "extra" just in the nick of time!

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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, November 9th (Friday)

Can I play? I need to spend more time on positive thoughts.

1. I had a great sunrise walk on the beach this morning with my pups, even if it was a little chilly.

2. I don't have to do anything tonight so I might just cuddle on the couch with my doggies and watch a movie.

3. My 7 year old niece is in her first school play tonight and I can't wait until she calls to tell me how it went!


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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, November 9th (Friday)

Gah!! Double post.

[This message edited by NoTriangles at 5:20 PM, November 9th (Friday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, November 9th (Friday)

1. I've got the bestest SO ever. Not only did he listen to me whine about a situation at work, first he specifically asked me about it, and afterwards he told me I wasn't whining. god, I love this man.

2. I just made lunch & shopping plans with my sister for tomorrow.

3. I bought a new pair of shoes.


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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, November 9th (Friday)

1. Just booked a couple of nights away...a special little Christmas trip for Teslet and me.

2. Been having a good time tonight with my siamese cat that loves to play fetch. (i think he's a dog disguised as a cat)

3. I don't know what it is, but I love waking up to the last couple of frosty mornings. Just makes me smile as I look out on my backyard with a warm cup of coffee in hand.


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Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, November 16th (Friday)

1. Was doing some organizing, and I found a box of winter running gear I thought XWH had stolen. Yay for warm running hats and gloves!

2. I have very few plans this weekend, which means a must-needed recharge break for me.

3. I finally went to the bike shop and had fenders put on, which means I can bicycle through rain and snow and get less wet. I am determined to ride all winter, and this gets me one step closer.


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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, November 17th (Saturday)

1. Had a parent meeting yesterday and it did not blow up in my face. Got a compliment from the administrator for my ability to handle a potentially agressive and bullying parent. (Thanks asshat for all the practice)

2. The last couple of days, I've pulled into MY driveway and walked into MY house. Took care of MY animals. I am so grateful that I'm not in limbo anymore.

3. Just got my marathon pics in the mail...can't wait to frame them with my finisher's medal.

3.


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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, November 17th (Saturday)

1. It's Saturday!

2. I am having brunch later with a good friend.

3. I have little else to do this afternoon so I might bake some cookies while I work on my Christmas cards.

3.


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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, November 17th (Saturday)

1) Getting things ready to travel to my winter home and Thanksgiving with two of my kids and their families.
2) Had a great lunch with three of my dearest friends today at a nice restaurant. So glad to have a chance to see them before I leave.
3) Lost my smart phone somewhere - found it after a search. It dropped from my purse when I stopped to get a lottery ticket. It felt like I had won the lottery when I got it back! My life is in it. I don't know phone #s or any of the other info in it.


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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, November 21st (Wednesday)

With it being Thanksgiving Eve, I thought it would be the perfect time to bump this one up!

1. I was able to get two loads of laundry done tonight! Lately whenever I've tried to do it, someone else has been using the machines, so this was great!

2. My sister and BIL are in from out of town, and I get to see them Saturday. My dad, BIL, and I are going to reenact a fabulous photo from this summer.

3. My work closed early, so I got a longer run in and was still showered by 6 pm. The evening is now all mine!


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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, November 21st (Wednesday)

1. I live in a really cool house with a fireplace and I own it. View of the vineyards and mountains.

2. I have a nice family to spend txgiving with.

3. My cat is furry and nice to cuddle.


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Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, November 22nd (Thursday)

1. Just had a wonderful Thanksgiving meal with my 3 favorite guys - my 2 sons and my SO.

2. ds20 brined the turkey, made one of the desserts, and made the gravy from scratch this year. SO helped with the food prep today. It is so wonderful having help in the kitchen preparing a holiday meal.

3. Work closed early yesterday (entirely unexpected) and even though some of us have to work tomorrow, we were told we're going to play it by ear, and if we can close early, we will.


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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, November 28th (Wednesday)

1. Forced myself to do a longer run today in order to meet my mileage goal for the year, and it felt great and now I am so happy I didn't allow myself to wimp out and cut it short.

2. I don't want to jinx myself with two days left in the month, but I have been able to ride my bike to work every day in November! It's not been as bad as I'd feared with the cold weather, and I am thinking I can do it all winter long.

3. While lizards are not the most interactive of pets, mine has been much more fun and active lately. Usually he's brumating (kind of hibernation-lite) this time of year. Now I joke that he brumated extra because he didn't want to deal with the bad vibes XWH emitted so now he's happier, too, and staying fully awake longer :)


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Default  Posted: 10:38 AM, November 29th (Thursday)

1) I signed up for my first half marathon. I have done 2 triathlons before but never done this. I've got time to train and I'm excited!

2) My SO was out of town on business this week and last night in my therapy session I realized I really didn't care. I had actually kind of forgotten to be anxious about it at all and he was actually already home. It used to be a big trigger for me to have him gone. We had done some EMDR on it and I didn't think it worked. I guess it did something after all!

3) I cleaned off my desk this week and reorganized everything into folders. My todo list is large but I'm feeling really good about where I am on it.


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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, November 29th (Thursday)

1) Had a nice, long, conversation filled evening with my SO last night
2) Might get to lead a small group to Ireland next year for work *fingers crossed*
3) I'm getting a new TV today so I can finally watch the "free" cable that comes with my apartment (seriously I've gone 13 months without watching cable that I'm technically paying for in rent!)

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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, November 29th (Thursday)

1. I bought an electric fireplace heater last weekend and teslet and I are basking in it's lovely fake fire glow

2. Was contacted for another job opportunity!

3. Excited to get away this weekend!


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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, November 29th (Thursday)

1. I try not to write too much about my dating in this thread, but I had a first date with a guy today (lunch) and it went really, really well. He's so nice, intelligent, cultured, tall, and deliciously hot. YUM! We met online, but found out we have a friend in common, and he is a really good guy.

2. Got out for a run this evening and it was great. I feel so energized!

3. About to take a bubble bath with candles, like in the movies, and wonder in amazement at how great life is now!


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Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, December 5th (Wednesday)

1. Yesterday was my one year antiversary (though I really want to call it an anniversary since it's ultimately made my life so much better) and one of my SI friends happened to be in town on business, so he took me out to dinner and we had a wonderful time. First time I'd met someone from here in real life.

2. I have plans with friends every night this week. This posed a problem for my running since I tend to sleep in, but I've actually been getting up and getting my runs in. It's such a great way to start the day, so I have to continue to not be lazy!

3. I get to see my dad tonight as we're going to a basketball game. I can't wait!


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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

Had to bump this to share my incredibly exciting news.

1) I just completed my very first ever crossword puzzle in 17 minutes 11 seconds without any cheating!

Also happy about

2) Finally started my new gym yesterday

3) Learning to make awesome smoothies and consume more produce with my Ninja


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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

Congrats, Crescita! And thanks for bumping up this thread!

1. Went to a movie alone last night again (part of a film series I signed up for) and I enjoyed it as much as I did the first one.

2. My first issue of Cook's Illustrated came in the mail today, and I can't wait to make the oatmeal muffins. (One of my NB goals is to become a much better cook -- I was pretty decent, but I want to be fantastic!)

3. This weekend, I am meeting a friend who I've known online since 2007. We've never met in person, but I know we're just going to love each other as we have so much in common. One of her posts was the reason I signed up for the forum where we met, and I've loved all of the other ladies from there I've met in person.


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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, January 31st (Thursday)

I love this thread! Thanks for bumping, Cresita.

1) I met with my builder today and he gave me a move in date of 2/16. I can't wait!
2) I played Super Mario Bros. with younger ds tonight. We had so much fun and beat the world 7 castle!
3) I watched 2 episodes of New Girl tonight with my mom and absolutely belly laughed. It felt great and it had been way too long since that had happened.

Next!


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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, February 1st (Friday)

1. I was telling a work friend that I'm planning on buying a house in the next few months, and one of the senior guys on the team overheard this. He asked if he could visit my potential house before I buy it to do an amateur home inspection since he's become a semi-expert and doesn't want to see me get into a bad deal. (Of course I am also having a professional home inspection.) I just love how much my new coworkers look out for me and have taken me in as one of their own.

2. My pets (three parrots and a lizard) thrive more and more every day. It's been over a year since they've had no exposure to XWH, and it really amazes me how much negativity they could pick up on and how fabulous they are now that there's only happiness in our house. They are so happy now (one began talking again after not talking for 7 years -- asking me to give him a kiss.)

3. January is complete, which means I am one month closer to spring. Yay!


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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, February 4th (Monday)

1) Have a wonderful new SO that is many times more suited to me than my X. She is smart, affectionate, outdoorsy, great conversationalist, attractive, and wakes up full of happiness rather than grumpy until after breakfast! I may be rebounding some, but don't care. Feel like I deserve some happiness and it is fun being on the wild side!
2) Work is going great.
3) So many friends around town and around country (including my mini SI harem) are so nice and fun to banter with.
4) Looking forward to Valentine's Day. got some roses on order!
5) Have made so many new friends at the local assisted living place where I take my dogs a couple times a week. Feel like I am really contributing to society in a positive way.

[This message edited by Bebba1171 at 12:54 PM, February 4th (Monday)]


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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, February 4th (Monday)

And one more. My beloved Indiana Hoosier basketball team is ranked number 1!


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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, February 4th (Monday)

And one more. My beloved Indiana Hoosier basketball team is ranked number 1!


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D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, February 15th (Friday)

I've been feeling "meh" and a little bit sorry for myself lately, so I think it's time to revive this.

1. I'm looking to buy a house, and several of my coworkers have offered to help me with various things (i.e. inspect it with me pre-purchase, help me fix things that XWH would have done if I can't figure it out, etc.) My new job and coworkers are definitely the best thing that came out of my NB!

2. It's staying light out later! After work, I was able to walk to the library, credit union, and grocery store, and return home before it was pitch black outside. Spring is definitely on its way.

3. My 11 year old car broke down mid-intersection last Sunday, and I was worried it would be really expensive and possibly not be worth it to fix it, leaving me to have to make a quick car purchase and do without for a few weeks. However, the fix was only around $700 and it's running better than it has in years.


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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, March 26th (Tuesday)

I needed to dig this thread back up...been sinking into shitty ass thoughts lately and need to reset my focus.

1. I am starting to get close to a couple of coworkers. That is huge for me. I've shared some things with them and they've been positive and unconditionally supportive.

2. My crocuses are coming up.

3. I enjoy the peace and the quiet of my house. It's messy but full of love and happiness these days!


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Default  Posted: 11:47 PM, March 26th (Tuesday)

Yay! I need positive, too....

1) Walked for an hour with a friend and talked the whole time

2) Watched DD catch her first pop fly in softball, then saw her catch 4 more... watching them build confidence is great!

3) I have a lead on a job... interview next week.... AAAAHHH


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Default  Posted: 1:31 AM, March 27th (Wednesday)

I'm going to chime in again. I had a pretty good day, and there are a lot of things I'm thankful for right now.

1) I am within an hours work of having my parents tax stuff ready for the accountant. (whew!)

2) My grandson hit a ball that bounced off the back wall of the park *almost* over the wall, and he's sooo uptight about batting. This was a huge boost to him. Yay!

3) My daughter and I found an awesome tiara while doing the nasty job of cleaning out the old barn at my parent's house today. I wore it for my daily hot tub excursion, and it made me grin....just because it's so random and soooo "not me".

And it's only Tuesday. This week is looking better than last week by a huge amount. I'll take that!


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God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
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Default  Posted: 6:45 AM, March 27th (Wednesday)

1. Ice is melting and conditions are improving, so I was able to bicycle commute for the first time yesterday in 2 months! I made good use of my fenders, going through puddles over 6" deep.

2. Ran by the lake this morning and got to see a gorgeous sunrise.

3. Last night, I went out to dinner with a friend to the fanciest restaurant in town (I had a gift certificate.) About 10 minutes into eating, our waitress stops by and says that the chef would like to talk with us. He comes out, thanks us for coming to his restaurant, and says he'd like to make us something special - do we have dietary restrictions? He sends out a fabulous cheese plate and another dish (meat, so I didn't eat it since I'm a vegetarian.) He stopped by to chat a bit later. We finish our meal -- drinks, dessert, etc. We were there for almost three hours eating. THEN, the waitress stops by and says that our meal was on the chef so we can't pay for it!!! We have no idea why, but what a nice surprise and now I still have the gift certificate, so we will be going back in the next few months.


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Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, March 27th (Wednesday)

1. I came home from work today to find my kids baking me a birthday cake.

2. Someone at work today, after finding out it was my birthday and how old I am, told me there was no way I could be that age, because I sure didn't look it.

3. I have young adult male children who know how to bake a chocolate cake, from scratch.


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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, March 27th (Wednesday)

phmh! That is just awesome about the chef and free meal!

And inconnu--happy birthday. That is so neat that your boys baked you a cake

I've got three more for today:
1. About to start spring break! I need to recoup!!

2. My students worked very hard and are making good progress. I was impressed with them today.

3. Teslet helped me make dinner...then he helped me 'fold' clothes.


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Default  Posted: 10:25 PM, March 27th (Wednesday)

1) I am happy to be friends with wonderful people like PHMH that bring up this topic of three things.
2) Happy I got through some blizzard conditions this morning in West Virginia without getting into a wreck.
3) Happy that I get to get back home tomorrow afternoon to my wonderful dogs who I miss all the time when I am on the road.

And I will be happy to buy PHMH's dinner any time I get up to her town.

[This message edited by Bebba1171 at 10:27 PM, March 27th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, April 6th (Saturday)

1. I came in first in my age group in this morning's marathon. Yay!

2. I am tied (with one other person) for second in my department's NCAA basketball pool. We're paying out to third place, and the remaining two games are meaningless to our pool, so I am guaranteed some money. And pride :)

3. To celebrate my marathon finish, I went to a liquor store and came upon a pineapple lambic beer. Pineapple! From Belgium! I had no idea such a fabulous thing existed. I am trying not to get my hopes raised too high in case it doesn't live up to the hype.


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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, April 6th (Saturday)

1. I have 3 wonderful sister who support me in all that I do. I have no close friends because these sisters are so supportive.

2. I am losing weight and becoming healthy again.

3. My son gave me a hug without me asking him; when I thought he hated me.


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, April 6th (Saturday)

That's awesome about your marathon finish phmh!

I had a really good day. My three things today:
1)my aunt came to visit me this morning and we spent time just talking and laughing. It was so much fun.
2) I went shopping this afternoon and found a new rug for my foyer and barstools for my kitchen. Yay!
3) my mom, sister, and I went to dinner and a movie. It was great and we had a blast.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, April 6th (Saturday)

Congratulations PHMH!!!! And I hope the celebratory beer was divine.

Here's my three for today:

1. Teslet and I had a scooby-doo marathon this afternoon...

2. Then we decided to extend it into the evening by hitting the movie store and picking up all the scooby doo's that daddy doesn't have at his house. Very cute watching him try to put the movies up on the tall counter.

3. This morning when Teslet saw that I wasn't feeling well (nasty head cold), he said to me, "Mom, I really think you need a hug to feel better." Best hug ever.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 8:55 AM, April 7th (Sunday)

I finished the jewelry I'm making for my kids and/or their prom dates. Just have to drop the bracelets off at the florist so she can attach their corsages.

I was asked to donate a piece to an auction (might bring in some more orders?)

I'm sitting here on my deck enjoying the most delicious cup of coffee ever with the best dog ever!


Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...

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Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, April 7th (Sunday)

I've had a fml weekend so I KNOW I need to focus on what I am grateful for.

Good friends who played dominoes with me last night

Saw someone walking their puppy on my street and I said "PUPPY" in my head

Bumper sticker I saw today; "Don't be a dick" just a good rule for how to live life


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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Survivor3512
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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, April 7th (Sunday)

Here are my three for today:

1) The weather has been gorgeous! Spring is here! Loving the sunshine.
2) I finally hung some pictures on the walls of my new house today. It's looking more and more like a home.
3) I am recovering from my surgery well. I got to go on a walk around my neighborhood today. I was slower, but it was still great just to be able to get out and clear my head.


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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, April 7th (Sunday)

Rough weekend for me, so this is a "purse from a sow's ear" kind of a list -

1. DD was able to communicate her frustrations today without blowing up.

2. I found duct tape in the garage that matches the bumper that's falling off my van. Now it's securely held in place, and you can't even tell.

3. My checking account balance is positive with 5 days left until payday.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:05 PM, April 7th (Sunday)

b4me - I believe "Don't be a dick" is a Wil Wheaton thing. Love it!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, April 7th (Sunday)

I feel like shit right now (head cold is morphing into something else and it just sucks).

So here's the good things...

1. grading and lesson plans for the week...done.

2. got out in the backyard (even though I really didn't feel like it) and ended up having a great afternoon with Teslet pulling down all the weeds in the overgrown garden (I swear on the goodness of guinness that I will not let the garden get overgrown this August!)

3. My Teslet is this wonderfully bossy, independent, know-it-all child. He comes up to me and says, "Mom, 'No' starts with O." I say, "It starts with N." He says, "No, silly, it starts with O, listen, 'nO.' " And he is very adament about it but here is what I LOVE about this kid. I tell him to listen and I repeat the word several times till he hears the N at the beginning. He looks at me with wonder on his face, "Mom! You were right. I was wrong!"
God, I wish I would have had a recording of that.

My three things are very long tonight...must be the guinness or the cold medicine or...yeah, probably the guinness and the cold medicine. Good night.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 8:48 PM, April 8th (Monday)

1. Gorgeous weather and I was out in it instead of at work!

2. Lawyers emailed to say the state tax auditors accepted my dad's estate return so settlement can proceed.

3. Bought my first piece of patio furniture for my new house. A chair. I have a patio chair!!


Me: BW (55)
Him: WH (62)
7/14/11 - Divorced

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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, April 9th (Tuesday)

Life is good! Not all from today but I'm general..

1. Have spent the last two days outside with the kids! So done being cooped up. :)

2. Had donuts for breakfast. Lol

3. Birthday is Sunday.


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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, April 9th (Tuesday)

Three more!

1) x is probably going to take a job in a new town- this is fantastic news!!!
2) surgery recovery is going very well. I have been able to get out and walk around my neighborhood two days in a row.
3) both my kiddos were in a good mood last night and this morning! Yay!


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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, April 9th (Tuesday)

1) It's stunningly beautiful outside. Grass is neon green, new leaves, birds everywhere, sky blue.

2) I have 3 paying clients today.

3) I have enough money for now and I am safe.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, April 9th (Tuesday)

1. It is a really nice day out. Warm and sunny her in PA.

2. Got my youngest into 2 weeks of summer camp even though I'm a month late getting registered.

3. I have a date tonight.


BH me 46
WW her 38
DDay 8-17-12
2 kids (12, 9)
Filed for D 9/14/12
Divorced 4/17/13
She - engaged 5/13 married 9/13

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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, April 9th (Tuesday)

1) Making good progress moving into SO's this month (no boxes required!)

2) Got new energy efficient tires for my car yesterday.

3) Work has been just the right amount of busy


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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)

1. my kids are at home, safe and sound
2. my son is uninjured
3. both my boys handled this situation like the mature young adults they have become
4. (because 3 wasn't enough today) none of my kids' friends were injured, either

(see my post http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=492722 for background info)


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)

inconnu, so glad your son and his friends are OK. How scary!

1. Had a great class at work today about mindset. Can't wait to read the recommended book. Sounds like it could be life-changing.

2. The thunderstorms and heavy rain stopped just long enough for me to bike home from work. I'll believe the weather forecast the rest of this week and most likely drive instead!

3. I'm about to do some yoga and then listen to a lecture on practicing mindfulness. Great way to end the day!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)

1) I had a lady at work today say I was "tiny" and she wished she was as "tiny" as me! This is the first time I have EVER been described as tiny!!! I have lost almost 70 pounds, but am no where near tiny- but I'll take it! :)
2) my oldest ds was voted king of his grade for the Spring Fling event at his school. He is so proud.
3) I realized in divorce care tonight what great progress I've made and that I'm really doing a pretty good job of putting my life back together! Love those epiphanies!!!


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Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)

1. Had a great visit with a friend who was back in town after working in Afghanistan for a year! Missed her so much.

2. My SO surprised me by packing a lunch for me this morning. Might be a minor thing... But no one has packed a lunch for me since I was a kid. He was so proud if it; wanted me to be healthy and stop skipping lunch. Doritos, a little Debbie snack and a sandwich with A LOT of meat. Not really "healthy" but sweet

3. Got tickets to see Pat Benatar on Saturday and John Cougar Mellencamp tomorrow. I get to relive the crazy 1980's!

[This message edited by HappilyUnMarried at 9:59 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:51 AM, April 12th (Friday)

1. Taxes are done and refund is coming!

2. My DD got her braces off.

3. Van is fixed and it only cost $39!


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All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, April 12th (Friday)

1) had a lot of fun at lunch with coworkers
2) I completed a project at work that I have been working on for months! Yay!
3) my boys and I went to the store to pick out supplies for the new puppy we're getting this weekend!


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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, April 12th (Friday)

1. this work week is over

2. I had leftovers from lunch so I didn't have to make dinner

3. I haz wine


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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Default  Posted: 6:26 PM, April 14th (Sunday)

1) my Sunday school teacher told me today that she could see such a difference in my face lately, that I was just shining and my eyes are sparkling again. That made me feel good.
2) my boys came home early today! :)
3) our new puppy slept good all night last night!


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

1. My offer was accepted, so as long as the inspection goes well, I will soon be the proud owner of my dream house. It's a fabulous Victorian, and it totally fits my personality and lifestyle. In my dream neighborhood. Pinch me!

2. Rain held off on my bike ride home, and I got to see so many birds (mergansers, heron, red-winged blackbirds, ring-billed gulls, herring gulls, mallards, coots [my favorite]) I love that I can bicycle commute now. Turns what used to be the most stressful part of my day into enjoyable exercise.

3. My parents were up this weekend, and we decided to homebrew together once I have my house! It's a hobby I shared with XWH, but he didn't let me do much. My dad is so excited and already trying to decide what to brew first. Yay!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 8:27 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Good luck on the inspection phmh!

1) we had a recognition lunch at work and I got to publicly thank my staff- it was great. They appreciated it, so it was worth it!
2) my boys and I had a good homemade dinner together tonight!
3) because the kiddos have statewide testing this week- no homework tonight!
4) I went for my evening walk tonight and the weather was just perfect! And the sunset was beautiful. :)


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Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

1. Tomorrow is my birthday. I'm riding my motorcycle to work. :)

2. I'm also going out for Bosnian food tomorrow. I really like Bosnian food.

3. This is the first birthday in 11 years where I have been single. I'm OK with that.

[This message edited by h0peless at 8:40 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Love this thread :-)

1. My kids are healthy and (mostly) happy

2. I had a hard day, but it's over now and tomorrow is a new one.

3. I'm in the midst of a serious True Blood marathon with a glass of my favorite wine.


Me- SAHM 30yo BS
Him- 32yo WS
Three kids, 9, 7, 10mo

Their baby was born in Sept and they are happily househunting. He finally left 4/03.


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Default  Posted: 9:14 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

t/j- Zamas- I love True Blood! Can't wait til it's back on this summer!! -end t/j


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Default  Posted: 9:15 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Eta- double post!! Sorry!!!

[This message edited by Survivor3512 at 9:16 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)]


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, April 23rd (Tuesday)

Hope all goes well with the house inspection, phmh!

And Zamas...love a True Blood marathon:)

Here are my three things today...

1. I've definetely made a friend at work! This is awesome for me because I haven't made a new friend in...oh...years and years. I'm learning that I can have my own life...I didn't need to depend on ex-shat for that.

2. Teslet and I baked an apple pie tonight...it wasn't cooled off by his bedtime...so I promised him we would have special apple pie for breakfast.

3. I don't need a third thing tonight, the two above have me feeling great about life.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 5:45 AM, April 24th (Wednesday)

1. Called the court house and found out my $500 earnest money dispute check is almost on it's way back to me after being tied up there for 7 months when my townhouse purchase fell through.

2. The man in my life continues to prove he is beyond mature, supportive and happens to be sexy.

3. My young son announced he was happy because he gets to see both of his parents often. YAY!!!!!!


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Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, April 29th (Monday)

I had a really good day today and busted out of my funk!!

1) the sun finally came out and I got to take a good long walk around the neighborhood

2) my kids and I got to play outside this afternoon

3) I got a call from one of my best friends who is going through a really hard time right now and I was just so happy to be able to help her.


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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:01 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)

1. Home inspection went really well and I love the house more than I did the first time. Still working out details, but it should be mine in about 6 weeks. Yay!

2. Only worked for two hours today (due to the home inspection) so had lunch with a friend, then walked with another friend and her dogs, went running, and was still home for dinner by 5:30. I could get used to working 2 hours per day :)

3. I'm going to a baseball game with my dad tomorrow night. We had season NCAA basketball tickets together with a friend of his this year (family friend; like an uncle) and he said he missed getting to see me so often so he invited me along. I love baseball!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)

1. It's been more than two weeks since I quit smoking cold turkey. My insomnia has faded over the past couple of nights and I'm feeling great about myself.

2. The bank finally scheduled an appraisal for the house tomorrow. FINALLY, some motion in the short sale. With any luck, I'll be out of my beautiful home in an affluent part of town and renting a small room from my brother in the next couple of weeks. It can't come soon enough for my bank account.

3. I'm taking next Thursday off for a dentist appointment. I've decided to ride my motorcycle and ride it up Mt. Lemmon (26 miles, almost 7,000 feet gain in elevation and the most beautiful, twisty road you can imagine) and get a slice of pie afterwards. I'm so excited!


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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)

1. It's May and it feels like it

2. Mowed the lawn and Teslet was a great little helper...doing watering jobs and moving rocks. (Ok, the rocks didn't need to be moved but a four year old boy needs something 'tough' to do )

3. At dinner on the deck this evening. Perfect evening.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)

3 things great today:

1) Did not get into fight with XH regarding summer visitation. I kept repeating, I need the dates you will have children. When he threatened to take them from me, I remembered this: He's not giving me any dates for the summer, probably not going to full custody! LOL

2) Had a great day at work!

3) Our home is so quiet w/o XH here!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, May 1st (Wednesday)

1) the landscaper finally started on my yard!!! It no longer looks like a dirt field!

2) I had a meeting with a customer at work that went very well!

3) I had a cutest flirt with me today. Nothing major, but it made me feel good and put a little spring in my step the rest of the day.


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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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Default  Posted: 10:45 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

1. I've knocked some of the major projects off my to-do list.

2. Piano is tuned and repaired!!! (No more legos making my keys clink...or whatever it was causing that sound.)

3. My kitchen counter is clean, my table has a table cloth on it.

4. Someone who looks like a really great guy on a dating site would very much like to meet me...even AFTER learning just how many kids I have!

5. I'm going to a play on Friday that I'm really looking forward to, with someone else whose company I really enjoy.

6. XWH took off out of town for, oh, 3-1/2 weeks or so, cause ya know, I'm fine dealing with 2 jobs and a houseful of kids on my own and...we're absolutely fine. The kids are doing great while I'm at work in the evenings, pulling together, doing their chores. In fact, I think in many ways, we actually do better with him out of town, because the kids have a SCHEDULE and are on the computer and TV less. My 18 year old daughter does better putting her little brothers to bed at BEDTIME than XWH, who lets them stay up till 9:30, 10, 10:30.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, May 2nd (Thursday)

1. I had a conflict with my inlaws and it helped me realize that they are not my problem anymore. It was sad but very freeing.

2. I love my kids. They help me through every dark moment. Not even on purpose, but I can't crawl into bed when they need dinner, homework help, have practice etc. they help me keep plodding forward.

3. I have money in the bank and my bills are paid. Today, at least.


Me- SAHM 30yo BS
Him- 32yo WS
Three kids, 9, 7, 10mo

Their baby was born in Sept and they are happily househunting. He finally left 4/03.


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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, May 3rd (Friday)

1) On may home to my Girlfriend and my doggies after being out west all week.
2) I got to see my little sister and her two kids while in San Diego. I took my 10YO niece some flowers since her birthday was today and she gave me the best hug.
3) One of my longtime friends at work retired at the beginning of this year and his jerk boss did not do anything for him in recognizing him. I held a dinner for him last night with his best work friends and we had awesome time. My friend was so appreciative.

Can't wait to get my Corgi's out of jail and start my Corgi Orgi!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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Default  Posted: 5:48 PM, May 10th (Friday)

Yikes -- this had almost gotten bumped to page 4! Nothing extraordinary has happened recently, but sometimes that is a really good thing!

1. Got some major compliments at work from a few of the top guys this week.

2. Bought a cookie at lunch today, and it was one of the best cookies I have ever eaten. So delicious!

3. After tomorrow, I am done with long runs for a few months, which means I'll have time to focus on yoga and lifting. I am starting to get too imbalanced with too much running!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, May 10th (Friday)

Phmh- good luck with your ultra marathon tomorrow!

My three:
1) I met a seemingly really nice guy and he asked me out to dinner for next Thursday. Excited!
2) I got to spend the evening with my kids at their school's spring fling. We had a great time.
3) Our whole group at work went to lunch today. It was so much fun. I work with an awesome team!


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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, May 10th (Friday)

1. I had lunch and a wonderful conversation with a dear friend.

2. I spent hours with my son today.

3. I was not run off the road by the crazy motorist that deliberately pulled into my lane trying to make me swerve off the road. He was doing about 90-100 in the 50 mph.


Divorced and beginning my new life.


2 Ddays and lots of TT
divorcing

Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)

I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:11 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

1. Beautiful evening. Soft breeze. Good beer. Fabulous family.

2. Love road tripping with my kid and my dog. Something simple and wonderful about it.

3. Hit a good run this evening.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 10:43 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

1. Beautiful night hanging out with DD15 and DD10 and her best friend. Awaiting the pizza delivery guy any minute.

2. Being able to tip pizza delivery guy well and not worry about it and not having to listen to XH complain about it.

3. Looking forward to 3 1/2 weeks in Europe with DD15 and DD 10.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, May 18th (Saturday)

1. The 20-ton "sell my dang house" monkey is finally off my back.

2. Just 2 weeks until DD gets into her treatment program.

3. Bedtime is here!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 7:03 AM, May 19th (Sunday)

Three things are hard to write because I have way more then three!!

1)My move home is down to 12 days! Yay!
2)My DD23 is so thoughtful: we got a new phone plan, phones were mailed to her place, she set mine up and mailed it to me: and when I turned it on there was a photo that read: “I'm so proud of you Mama. I love and miss you! I will see you in our new place in August!”
3)I am moving everything I have packed into the garage today (it will be easier to load the truck on the 30th).
4)I have been apply for jobs in CO from WI and have had six phone and online interviews … and scheduled face to face interviews for the first week of my arrival!
5)Spring has sprung the birds are singing and I am almost home!


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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

I love reading everyone's replies. :)

1. Spent time with my cousin who I rarely get to see.
2. Got to play with his super cute puppy.
3. Got a helluva deal on a new swing set for the kids.


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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, May 21st (Tuesday)

1. Out in Washington State this week. Beautiful area.
2. My son and I got second in a golf tourney last weekend and won over three hundred bucks
3. Looking forward to helping my son with his high school valedictorian speech tonight


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, May 21st (Tuesday)

1. Sitting at my dining room table with a view of the ocean and working at the same time.
2. Just got my start date for well paying contract job. That will knock off any residual debt from my marriage.
3. Looking forward to seeing a really good man on Thursday night.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 11:09 AM, May 21st (Tuesday)]


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Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 11:24 AM, May 21st (Tuesday)

1) Home remodel. My place with SO is starting to look so fantastic I actually want to invite people over!

2) Bowling. My bowling team placed first in the second half; we are battling the first half champs for league bragging rights and a free tournament on Friday. Next week we have our end of season tournament in Vegas, where we relax and win money no matter how we bowl.

3) The finish line. Home remodel and bowling season are almost over so I will finally have free time to rest, paint, and train for my Grand Canyon hike.


Posts: 3441 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
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Default  Posted: 8:52 PM, May 21st (Tuesday)

1. Today is the one year anniversary of my divorce being final. Last week should have been my 12th wedding anniversary. I feel amazing and can't believe how much difference one year makes (the day of my divorce I couldn't believe how much I cried.) Haven't even felt like crying in months -- I'm just way too happy!

2. I badly sprained my ankle during my 50K race Mother's Day weekend. Made things worse by running 22 more miles after the injury. Shockingly to me, this forced rest has not killed me (good thing it didn't happen right after D-Day!) and I get to run again Friday morning!!!

3. The new season of Arrested Development is released this weekend. I have been waiting and having my hopes dashed about this since the show went off the air. My parents and sister and I are having a marathon viewing party/fancy beer fest/sleepover and we are all so excited!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 10:37 PM, May 21st (Tuesday)

1. My furry kids are hilarious w/their goofy antics

2. Got my fab b-day outfit today

3. Made the most delicious quiche today (first time ever)


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 762 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

1


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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GreenMom
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Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

1. My son is finally potty trained!

2. I get to go out and have some me time tonight

3. I am excited about Memorial Day weekend and the 2 bbq parties I'm attending


DD#1 6/14/12
DD#2 7/29/12
Reconcilation attempt didn't last long...WH moved out 8/10/12
Divorcing... hoping to be done soon
Making a fantastic NB for myself and my family!

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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, May 22nd (Wednesday)

1. While I was on the computer this evening, Teslet sat down in a chair beside me and proceeded to unburden himself about something that happened at school that really bothered him. I am so lucky that his little 4 year old self feels safe enough to 'discuss' his troubles with me. I hope he always feels he can come to me

2. New Daft Punk album came out and I'm LOVING it. Been jamming to it all night long.

3. I managed to get the backyard mowed this evening...which means I can spend this weekend doing something else


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Beautiful
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, May 23rd (Thursday)

Greetings all-old timer here! Thanks for not deleting me for inactivity...

Tomorrow is my 1st wedding anniversary. If I was with ex, it would've been 25. Still and all, I am much better off. Current hubby lost his wife to acute myocardial infarction at he age of 47. not so much different than what I experienced as a kid, so I was able to connect with his kids. (my mom was 55).

I have so many things to be thankful for: My kids are so great, my new stepkids are really terrific kids. They all get along. I have a great hubby. And ex... I honestly don't even think about him anymore. He rarely sees his kids. His loss...

I think I listed 3 things...

[This message edited by Beautiful at 10:34 PM, May 23rd (Thursday)]





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Default  Posted: 8:38 AM, May 24th (Friday)

1. Saw Paul McCartney in concert the other night. Great show, lotsa old Beatles songs. Probably last opportunity I will have to see a live Beatle!

2. Gonna spend Memorial Day weekend with my SO and kids jetskiing on the lake. How fun is that?

3. Started lo-carb diet to lose some of the 10 pounds I gained since dating SO. Got on the scale today and I have lost 5 pounds so far!


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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, May 24th (Friday)

1. 20 year old ds moves out of my house today to start school in another state. Feels like another NB

2. Beautiful sunny day today

3. Weekend plans include a brunch for 3 good friends at my house on Monday.


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3207 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
phmh
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Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, May 24th (Friday)

1. It is so beautiful outside. The sky and lake were so blue, it's a good thing I didn't have a ton of work to do today as I spent way too much time gazing at the beauty of it all!

2. One of my coworkers decided to buy lunch for the office. Now I get to eat what I'd packed for lunch for dinner instead. Score!

3. I was able to run today for the first time in nearly two weeks. Pain free! Going to try again tomorrow.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:15 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

1. I close on my dream house two weeks from tomorrow. I can't wait! It's a fabulous old Victorian and I am going to have a giant, over-sized Christmas tree! And a guest room! And an umbrella stand! And all sorts of other things I couldn't have before!

2. Injury recovery is going well. I am actually easing back into running, as much as I want to go all-in. Going to try my first longer-run since injury on Saturday and I am optimistic it will go well.

3. Saw a great movie yesterday. I joined a film club as part of my NB, so once a month I go to a movie alone. It's great! If "20 Feet From Stardom" comes to your town, see it! It's a documentary about background singers, and it's amazing.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

1. Talked to XBF from high school for an hour :)

2. Marrying some friends tomorrow (yay Universal Life Church!!!!)

3. Going to shoot pool w/the guys later


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 762 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, May 30th (Thursday)

1. Realizing that everything is going to be OK.

2.Forgiving myself for whatever I blamed myself for

3.New wonderful, supportive friends that I can support also.


There is life on the other side of hell.

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

1. Had a really great power yoga class this evening. I've always wanted to be able to sit cross-legged and lift up my body, supported only by my arms. I made progress in that in class today, so I think I'll set the goal to be able to do that by the end of the year.

2. For the past two weeks, the weather forecast has indicated that it's going to rain in the afternoon. I've chanced it and ridden my bike to work anyway. And I've made it there and back, dry. Let's see if my luck can hold out the rest of the week!

3. A work friend gave me a bag of clothes that she'd grown out of. She has fabulous taste, and much of it fits me! One dress is this bright red, off the shoulder ball gown that is smashing. I just need to find some place to wear it :)


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

t/j phmh, even if you don't have an event to wear the dress to, you should get your picture taken in the dress, like in this blog post http://thebloggess.com/2010/05/the-traveling-red-dress/

one of these days, I'm so going to do this. end t/j


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I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

1. Having a quiet evening with my cat snuggling, candles lit, listening to a very motivational and educational speech.

2. Having received a voicemail from a wonderful man, just letting me know that he was thinking about me and looking forward to going to worship together on Sunday and then heading out to a fleemarket together after.

3. Looking forward to seeing this wonderful man on Sunday morning and spending the day with him.

And the more I do this exercise, I realize that three things are not sufficient. I could list so many more. Happy days.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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NWfleur
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, June 7th (Friday)

1. Son "graduated" from kindergarten today.

2. EXWH called the kids every night this week, and seems to want to be a better dad to them.

3. My kids didn't argue AT ALL this evening!!!


Me BS (39)
Him WS (36)
2 DS
M: 9 years (together 13)
DD: 4/10/2012
(Separated since 12/11...affair began ??!!)

Divorced!!!


Posts: 322 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: USA
Zamas
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Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, June 8th (Saturday)

1. Have a job interview next week for a job I really want. It's admin asst which is what I always do, but the hours are 7-330 m-f which is PERFECT and the money is more than I asked for.

2. My daughters softball team upset this other undefeated team with really nasty parents catcalling and heckling the players. It was a nice lesson in sportsmanship and karma.

3. Sangria and Netflix on a Saturday night.

4. Just because.....my WH took the kids for their first overnight last Saturday and I survived. I did it drunk and surrounded by friends, but I did it. I've been a mom since I was 20 and any overnight away (maybe like twice) from the kids was with WH so I was really scared about this, but I did it.


Me- SAHM 30yo BS
Him- 32yo WS
Three kids, 9, 7, 10mo

Their baby was born in Sept and they are happily househunting. He finally left 4/03.


Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: New Jersey
phmh
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Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

So I *might* just be a little tipsy after a wonderful baseball game and post-game bar crawl with friends, but I'm like -- three things? How can I choose?

1. I am friends with a few people who work for the running store that sponsors me. I was the only non-coworker that was invited to their company outing at the baseball game tonight. So much fun!!!

2. Going out to the bar after was great! The Hawks won the game! There was much celebration!

3.So many people have offered to help me move. It shouldn't anymore, but it still amazes me how fundamentally good most people are. I had a skewed vision of people after thinking that XWH was normal. Since he's a sociopath, he's not. I truly believe that most people are good, and I just got saddled with a bad apple.

Hope everyone else is doing fantastic! Life is great!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

1. Having received a call today from 'special friend' that I was on his mind. Made my day.

2. Gotting all my errands done, including fixing my ipad for travel, having my car detailed and picking up stuff for my deck that has turned into a little oasis for me and my girls.

3. My beloved cat 'Cooper' having recovered from being neutered yesterday and hanging out with me tonight and being able to jump up on his favorite hang out spot again.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Default  Posted: 12:32 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

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[This message edited by fraeuken at 12:32 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


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Default  Posted: 12:33 AM, June 9th (Sunday)

[This message edited by fraeuken at 12:33 AM, June 9th (Sunday)]


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

1. I passed my third (and hopefully final) securities exam today. It was tough, but I am done!

2. Just had the walk-through on the house I am buying tomorrow. All looks good. Super excited to get out of this apartment! The previous owner left some stained glass panels that must have been in the house at some time. I'm looking forward to figuring out where they were and seeing if I can reinstall them.

3. I don't have to study tonight! I do have to pack, or at least I should, but I don't have to worry about net capital requirements, or Regulation D, or tons of other boring things that don't impact my job.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:57 PM, June 13th (Thursday)

I'm staying positive tonight...so here are my three things.

1. First day of practice with my CC girls. I love being a coach.

2. I think I've got all this online master's class stuff sorted. It's going to be time consuming...but completely worth it.

3. My front yard landscaping project is 2/3 complete. As I was backing out of the driveway to treat myself to dinner, I had to stop and admire how cute my house is beginning to look.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, June 14th (Friday)

1) Looking forward to moving in with Tesla and/or PHMH. They are fixing up houses just for me!

A guy can dream can't he?? I think Tesla said something about a girl can dream some time ago.

2) Just booked a business trip to San Diego and Orange County next week. Going to stay with my little sister and my niece. I just love them!

3) Father's Day weekend is essentially here. Will watch the US Open Golf Tourney with my son Sunday afternoon. Will beat the golf ball around tomorrow before eating at my next door neighbors house with my girlfriend and my son. Don't tell PHMH, but he is cooking ribeye steaks for us.

4) And since number one is a pipe dream, I am just so happy for the love, loyalty and friendship I get from my three wonderful dogs - especially my two Welsh Corgis.


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 727 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, June 14th (Friday)

1. My house is finally sold. It is a relief to know that I won't have to go through a foreclosure and to know that the last reason I have to communicate with the ex will be gone in a month or so.

2. I have saved up almost enough to buy a plane ticket to visit my sister in Italy over winter break. I haven't done much international travel. I went to Mexico a lot as a kid but mostly stayed near the border and the ex and I went to the Dominican Republic. I'm looking forward to seeing Italy. Maybe I will rent a motorcycle while I am there.

3. My other sister got married this week. In spite of my current feelings about the institution, I am happy that she lives in a time and place where she can marry the person she loves.


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Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, June 14th (Friday)

1) Spending the night with my sisters tonight

2) Plotting to fix my car up a bit (new sunvisor en route)

3) Slow progress on getting back into shape, but giving myself points for effort


Posts: 3441 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, June 24th (Monday)

1)Finally no more in house separation ... All moved and finally home!

2)STBXWH got a ticket, a small ticket, for not wearing a seat belt but still a ticket!

3) OW was arrested for shop lifting ... I can't stop laughing!


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inconnu
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, June 29th (Saturday)

Today I am really thankful for:

1. air conditioning
2. that I forked out the big bucks at the beginning of the year to replace my ancient A/C system
3. and that I got my brother the electrician to install 3 ceiling fans in my house when he was here at the beginning of the month

not so much happy about the projected 106 degree temperature for today, though..


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, July 5th (Friday)

1. I have internet again! The previous owner of my house never had internet, and the wiring was old. Took about 3 weeks, but I'm back, baby!

2. I absolutely love my new house and my new neighborhood. I am just happier and happier every single day. I still have some unpacking, organizing, and home improvement projects to do, but I love it!

3. My neighborhood is so, so welcoming, and my next door neighbor, though a bit intrusive, is great. She asked me how old I was yesterday. I responded that I was 35, and she said she'd been telling all the neighbors I was 27 "You're preserved so well!" she said. Just made me laugh.

4. Had front row seats to a Boyz II Men, 98 Degrees, NKOTB concert this week. Went with some great friends. I never really liked the latter two bands, but they put on a great show, and I've been waiting to see B II M live since 7th grade!!! Now I just have to get a Phillies hat where the P is in rhinestones.

5. My parrots are loving this new house. They are happier than they've been in a year (they could also be picking up on my increased happiness.) It's been so fun to watch them enjoying themselves so much. I've taken a ton of videos of them singing and dancing -- something they did infrequently in our apartment.

6. XWH sent me another e-mail asking me to send naked pictures. I felt nothing but extreme pity. If you care about looks and have a hot, fit wife that you cheat on with a clone of your mom (who is neither hot nor fit), these are your consequences. Last time when he'd sent that e-mail, it made me cry and wonder why I wasn't enough. Now I'm just happy he showed he wasn't enough and I'm at indifference. YAY!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, July 8th (Monday)

So many fantastic things phmh!

1) My sister moving in took away the space I'd just set up for painting, but moving it into my bedroom gives me more motivation to paint. I have this 3 foot unfinished Batman painting staring at me the second I set foot in the room.

2) I'm finally starting to see progress in my running.

3) I found a new page turner. It has really been too long since I couldn't put a book down.


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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, July 13th (Saturday)

1. There is a designer consignment shop near me. I went today and bought a ton of really cute clothes. So cheap yet quality! And I got a fabulous purple dress for my company's big gala in the fall.

2. About to head to a friend's house and then a local festival. Will be a great evening!

3. Went back on OLD last week after a 6 month hiatus and have several first meetings planned. I seem to be getting higher quality hits this time around. Yay!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 12:42 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

1.Found a beautiful pair of shoes at my favorite second hand store.Glad to lose some weight, felt great today!

2. Took my twin boys out walking around the neighbors, fed the neighbors horses, watch the duckies and their cute babies. They were so happy. Awesome day!

3. Pick up some stuff where I have been storing at my girlfriend house, she was so nice and supportive!

[This message edited by Blackhair at 12:44 AM, July 14th (Sunday)]


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

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Default  Posted: 10:58 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

3) OW was arrested for shop lifting ... I can't stop laughing!

1) I'm still in staycation mode (another three whole days :)

2) I have a lovely peaceful light-filled antique apartment on a quiet leafy street. (Procrastinating on the unpacking/organizing, but hey, I'm on vacay!)

3) I sleep better than I have in years. All my x sends is money.

After everything that's happened in the last five years, I realize that all of this can disappear in a heartbeat, but I'm enjoying it for right now.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:59 AM, July 14th (Sunday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Default  Posted: 11:14 AM, July 14th (Sunday)

1. Camping with a dog and kid takes intestinal fortitude. But we made it and had a lot of great little moments interspersed between 4 year old meltdowns.

2. My house is very close to being a real, functional house again. I can actually use all of the rooms!!

3. A big pot of lovely homebrewed coffee. After having to drink the instant crap while camping, I really, really love kicking back and drinking a pot of coffee.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, July 14th (Sunday)

I like this idea. Apparently it's impossible to be scared and grateful at the same time.

1. The weather out has been absolutely beautiful, and now I have a nice little tan.

2. My flatmates, who I initially didn't want to move in (I'd practically been living on my own since my last flat,ate spent most the time at her boyfriend's) have been lovely and supportive through my horrible flu last week, and now this guy situation. I think they're becoming friends.

3. I like a guy. It's scaring the hell out of me, but it's also progress. I'd like to be in a relationship again one day, and this is the first step I've taken towards that.


I got out. I think I saved myself.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, July 15th (Monday)

I only got one, but it's all I need tonight...

Teslet has been a handful with his boundary testing and his tantrums lately...

but then this happens:
We are watching a pbs show where the topic is about how when grown-ups leave, they always come back (I know, right! Serious mixed emotions for me). At the end of the program as I pick Teslet up to get him ready for bed...he gives me a huge hug, buries his face in my neck and sobs, "I love you so much, mom."
Holy crap, I started crying too!!
God, I love that kid.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 10:06 PM, July 24th (Wednesday)

1. I finished cleaning my apartment (moved out mid-June but had the lease through the end of July) and the landlord promised me they'd return my entire security deposit if I let them in a week early to do some updating. I wasn't going to use it anyway, so it's a win-win.

2. It's cooled down a bit, so running and biking have been extra enjoyable.

3. I have a fun weekend planned that I have been anticipating for months. I can't wait!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 8:05 AM, July 25th (Thursday)

1. My son called last night to say he's coming to visit!!!

2. My crazed puppy is finally becoming a companion

3. I'm in a pretty good place financially for the first time since the divorce...


Me: BW (55)
Him: WH (62)
7/14/11 - Divorced

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, July 31st (Wednesday)

1. I got caught in a downpour on my way home from work tonight (I bike commute) and wound up having a memorable ride home. It's amazing how much a good attitude helps when things don't exactly go your way. I'm feeling pretty bad-ass right now.

2. My parrot figured out a particularly tough foraging toy. For years, I'd been making it easier for her to get her treat, but I forgot this morning and she did it anyway. I totally underestimated her!

3. I usually try to keep my three things dating-free, but not today as I have met a man who is kind, funny, similar interests, etc. It's still super early days, so I'm just living in the moment and enjoying the ride.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 1:31 PM, August 1st (Thursday)

1) yesterday was my 1st antiversary...and I didn't really care!
2) my girlfriends came over last night and we had so much fun just talking. It was great!
3) I'm rockin' a pretty hot dress today and work and have gotten several compliments. Yay!

[This message edited by Survivor3512 at 1:32 PM, August 1st (Thursday)]


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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, August 3rd (Saturday)

1. It's the weekend!!!!!!!

2. Did my first 20 mile run of the season, and I feel great! I got talked into doing a couple of 50Ks this fall (usually I just do one marathon) so I need to step up my mileage from where I usually am.

3. Life is good. I am just so happy and content.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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persevere
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, August 3rd (Saturday)

1) I have my house to myself this weekend - both adult kids are out of town!
2) A good friend dropped by and fixed my outdoor propane grill so I won't blow myself up!
3) I have some work for Monday to do at home today, but other than that I am just enjoying being home with just the dogs!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, August 14th (Wednesday)

1. My parrots and I are currently having a dance party. They've got some moves :)

2. I'm having dinner with one of my good friends tomorrow night. It got moved up from Friday, so I get to see her one day earlier.

3. Getting a haircut this weekend. I am quite past due for one, so I can't wait to have nice ends again!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, August 16th (Friday)

Blech. Had bad day today, so I particularly need to think about good things!

1. It is not winter. I can still ride my bike to/from work. I usually get home while there's still light out. I need to enjoy that while I can!

2. My dinner last night with my friend was fantastic. We are opposites in so many ways, but we are soul-mate friends. I feel so lucky to know her!

3. My sister is moving across country to grad school, which makes me very sad, but my parents brought over her old bed (for my guest room) and dresser (for my clothes) so I can delay purchasing those things a little longer and focus my money on fixing up the house. Yay!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 1:36 PM, September 8th (Sunday)

Needing to practice some gratitude today.

1. I got a full night's sleep and woke up at my leisure this morning.

2. I have friends who care about me and check on me when I go dark.

3. I have a large, diverse, and (mostly) loving family that pulls together when the clouds are forming.

Who else is feeling the need for gratitude today?


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Blackhair
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Content  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 9th (Monday)

-Did not had a good sleep last night but luckily my babysitter( full time) showed up and looking after the babies now, so I can catch up some sleep.

- My twin boys BD today, so many friends/ family called " Happy BD"!

-Beautiful sunny day as it rained for the past weekend!


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:57 PM, September 12th (Thursday)

NIK, I could use some strengthening of my gratitude muscles!

1. Tomorrow marks 3 months in my house, and I still LOVE it. Every morning I wake up, look around at the beauty that is my house, and feel so lucky to live here.

2. Even when my job is stressful (TODAY), I work with good people, do interesting work, and am well-compensated. And I can eat whatever I want for dinner when I get home, even if all I want is a big bowl of pretzels and some cheese. (Not every day, or I'd be malnourished, but definitely tonight!)

3. To burn off some of my work stress, I biked home like a demon and made it home in record time. Even ran into a friend at a stoplight (he was in his car.) It was cool enough that I could bike as fast as I want and not have to worry about turning into a sweat ball.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, September 13th (Friday)

All is good with no worries...

1) My oldest DS and his long term girlfriend just book their flight to come here (my home) for Thanksgiving! Yay So excited...
2) I have met someone that I am enjoying getting to know better.
3) All is good with no worries ...


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 11:56 AM, September 13th (Friday)

1) I found my kindle last night so now I can finish reading the Game of Thrones series!

2) Did a solo hike after work yesterday; got to try out some new gear and made great time.

3) It's Friday


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, September 13th (Friday)

1. I am managing this hectic fall and somehow still finding little bits of me time here and there.

2. Teslet got to see his very first rainbow yesterday. Priceless.

3. Think I made a new friend this week. I am so grateful to no longer be isolated and to have people in real life with whom I can share my joys and sorrows!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, September 24th (Tuesday)

1) Total Acceptance: from my three adult kids about me dating, from my youngest (whom I was worried about) "Mom I hear how much happier you are and I am so happy for you!"
2) Total Acceptance of just being who I am without any type of ridicule from a person I am getting to know
3) I am embracing the total acceptance of myself and being able to express the difference between my wants vs needs and it is all a great place to be ... no matter where it takes me!

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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)

I went for a fabulous walk with my two year old son

My new guy texted me and said this weekend can't come quick enough so he can kiss me and have me in his arms again.

I made my patient at work smile


D day Sept 2011
D Day # 2 March 15, 2013 (he never stopped the first affair, it went underground)
Me BW 36
Him WH 37
One little guy: 26 months
Status: Seperated, Divorcing

" Noone can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Ro


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Default  Posted: 5:42 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

1) Been getting in better shape for the fall running race season. Doing a lot of stomach exercises.
2)My kids are doing well. Daughter really enjoys her new job downtown Chicago and my son loves college in Louisville where he pledged Pike to be like his Dad.
3) On the road in North Carolina. Only one more night away from home and I will be back with my beloved dogs!

Thanks PHMH!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)

1. Ran 20 miles on Sunday. Fastest 20 I've ever done. It felt great to get in the finish area and it wasn't crowded!

2. Teslet is obsessed with chestnuts. He found one although it was not near a chestnut tree. He was so delighted when I told him that they come from trees that he wanted to go find more. Found a chestnut tree on my drive home last night and the look of pure delight on Teslet's face when I told him I had found a tree was so freaking cute. Just makes me so grateful to be a mom

3. I'm busy and overwhelmed but still treading water and not curled up in the fetal position yet...pretty grateful for that!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

1. Just treated myself to a massage over lunch. Very happy I can afford to do that.

2. Happy DD16 will go for her Seal of Biliteracy in my native language, German. Proud that she embraces her heritage fully.

3. Excited to go and see my favorite German singer in SF on Friday night. Going with a wonderful group of friends and colleagues and will sing my little heart out.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, September 25th (Wednesday)

I am so glad that I am in a place where I can post 3 things! That did not count for the first one

1. My new house is beginning to feel like a home.

2. Received my first paper back from my mediation class/internship with the comments "Spectacular" and "Excellent".

3. My 3 DD's are settling into school nicely. 2 in college and 1 in HS


There is life on the other side of hell.

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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, September 26th (Thursday)

1. I'm starting to seriously think about decorating my house, now that I've been here over three months (!!!) and have settled in. I found some fabulous light switch and outlet covers on etsy and can't wait for them to come. Also some amazing lights. My house will be so beautiful and all me!

2. I took tomorrow off of work as I hadn't used much (any) vacation so far. So my weekend starts tonight! (I am meeting a friend at 5:30 tomorrow morning to run, so I'll still go to bed early tonight.)

3. Our local film festival starts tonight! I have 12 vouchers, and free tickets for a couple of other movies. I am going to be watching movies like a madwoman!

4. My local favorite independent radio station is having a party this weekend as well. I'm friends with a couple of the DJs, and it's going to be so much fun!!!

5. I'd been feeling a bit down lately, but then my parents visited this past weekend and all was right with the world again. I am so lucky to have them.

6. I just finished an amazing book that, once again, made me so happy I was born in the time that I was and not several decades earlier. And I have to give my WWII vet friend a HUGE hug next time I see him. I can't imagine.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 6:20 PM, October 4th (Friday)

1. Finally getting my act together w/r/t fixing some things around the house. I called a landscaper today and someone to fix the stucco on the outside of my house. Let's hope some of this can get done before winter!

2. The rain held off for my bicycle commute to and from work today. I thought I'd get wet coming home, but I was lucky!

3. I've been doing a little too much socializing and going out lately, so I turned down all plans for tonight and I'm staying home with laundry, pizza, and a good book. Life is good.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

1. Ran my fall marathon this weekend and qualified for Boston by over 5 minutes, which means I'm essentially guaranteed entry into 2015 if I decide to do it (still unsure -- already did it once and the race was perfect, but XWH [aka "Dark Cloud of Doom and Gloom"] was there to ruin the rest of the experience.)

2. Saw a hilarious documentary today. It's called "Unhung Hero" and I highly recommend it -- everyone in the theater was laughing like crazy! It's about a guy who proposed to his girlfriend on the jumbotron at a UCLA basketball game -- she said no; it went viral. She declined in part because he had a small penis, so he made a documentary to explore if you can really make it bigger, does it matter, etc.? Very good!!!

3. A friend of a friend (who is also becoming my friend) finally decided to divorce her abusive husband (suspected infidelity as well) and she cited me as an inspiration for having a great life after divorce :)


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, October 6th (Sunday)

Congrats, phmh, for your success at the marathon.

Here are my latest threes:

- For years I dreamed about having abundant, overflowing flower boxes on my deck. A few months ago I finally spent the money and set it all up. All my plants have taken off, there is an abundance of flowers, beautiful smells and hummingbirds are coming to visit every day. I just love to sit very still on my deck and watch these amazing little birds stop by and get their nectar.

- DD11 is going on a week long trip with her school which gives me an opportunity to spend a lot of quality one-on-one time with DD16 this week. XH is not available to take her and I thank God for him being busy. DD16 and I will eat all our favorite foods, watch our favorite shows and go and see a Pink concert on Thursday night.

- A guy I met on OLD last year and talked to and texted with a lot but never met because I just was not ready to, checked in with me via text out of the blue. We spontaneously decided to meet last Friday for a drink and ended up spending 6 hours talking about our lives, our plans and dreams for the future... He asked me out again and I think I will go.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 11:19 PM, October 6th (Sunday)]


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, October 7th (Monday)

I love reading these. I want everyone to keep following up so I know where the stories go next!

1) I applied for a job last spring and although it came down to me and one other candidate, I didn't get it. Just got an email today from the boss asking if I would still consider the job! So happy to be thought of again, no matter what happens.

2) I saw so many great friends this weekend. I went to party where I only knew the host/hostess and I worked that room and met some really great people. I left feeling like people are good and nice!

3) Fall is beautiful. The changing season gives me hope.


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I adore this thread! It is so nice to read others accomplishment and nice things in life!

1. I am thankful for my three adult children and their support of my happiness.
2. I having a terrific weekend/past week with my SO.
3. I am happy for all that has happened in my life. All the learning stepping stones to get me to this point ... and for meeting someone that appreciates me for just being me.

Have a wonderful day everyone!


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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Please forgive this incredibly shallow and shopping oriented gratitude list:

1) Finally went to the new outlet mall in Phoenix with my sister last night, and oh, we were in heaven.

2) Found a new scent I adore, Bvlgari Omnia Coral. I've been looking for a new scent for years! It's summery, but I love summer so I will happily wear it year round

3) Also plunged in and got some baking things I've been eyeing, cupcake tower/carrier and dessert decorator. No more ziplock bags, saran wrap, and toothpicks for this girl.

And phmh, congrats on the qualification! Run it.


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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Love this thread! Mine are small today.

1) The heat finally broke here, and it's a gorgeous, crisp fall day.

2) Had my second session with a "parenting coach" and it showed me that my children are really and truly doing okay right now, despite the never-ending divorce! She gave me the strength to carry on a little longer!

3) Going out to celebrate my birthday on Thursday night with a great group of friends.


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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Three more things:

1. Made my boss really happy today (very difficult to do..) and got a big compliment on my work from him.

2. DD16 choose not to go her father's this week and not either for the coming weekend. Yeah, it gave me time for so many great conversations and dinners with DD16.

3. Heading to a late dinner now with my best friend. Chianti, Gnocchi and pizza are awaiting me. Who cares about the extra 10 pounds I carry around?

[This message edited by fraeuken at 11:54 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, October 12th (Saturday)

So much too post..

1. Friend gave DD11 a ride to her soccer game. That gave me 4 hours of my life back, spent on buying new incense and visiting the local farmer's market. Lovely.

2. Watching Tom Selleck in Blue Bloods with DD11 and DD16. All three of us love him, particularly his voice. Did I mention the freshly baked chocolate chip cookies and a glass of Chianti along with the sight of Mr. Selleck?

3. Once XH picks up kids tomorrow, I will head out for a pedi and then later for one of my friend's live music gigs.

Life is good.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

1. Got a compliment from a very hard to please guy today. My friend and I were the official scorers at an ultra marathon and he (the race director) told us that he didn't have any anxiety at all with us at the helm. It was a beautiful day and we had a great time!

2. Went to a fun brandy party last night. Met some new people and it didn't feel awkward that I was the only person not part of a couple at the party.

3. Having dinner tomorrow night with some old friends who have moved out of town. I haven't seen them in a year, so it will be great to catch up!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 7:35 AM, October 15th (Tuesday)

1. My adult kids got to visit together last night ... I love them!

2. Another perfect weekend with SO.

3. Helping my youngest planning his wedding with his SO. And DS has included oldest DS and DD so glad they are all coming together for each other ... Couldn't ask for anything better!


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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

1. Going back to college tomorrow, had my orientation today.
2. Got a good workout in this morning.
3. Was going to be tight money wise the next couple weeks but a small check I was waiting on came in.


Me- BW 31, WH- 29
M 11 yrs Together 13
2 kids (special needs)
Last Dday 9/26/13 EA w/ 19 yr old OW, too many prior EAs to list, one he kissed
Divorcing
My value hasn't decreased based on his inability to see my worth.

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, October 20th (Sunday)

1. Went to a fancy gala on Saturday with my good friend. Wore a fabulous dress, great boots, and helped to raise some money for an amazing charity (wildlife rehabilitation center.) Plus, I won a couple of great things in the silent auction (loon cookie jar, antique goose statue, nature paving stones for my garden.) And got to see a rehabbed owl released back into the wild. Yay!

2. Ran a race this morning, out of state. Ran into a good friend from that state that I hadn't seen in a year. Total shocker!!! Wound up taking 1st in my age group as a bonus.

3. My sweetest parrot has been even sweeter than usual lately. Sometimes he is so adorable that I can't even stand it, and tonight was one of those times. I am so lucky to have found him! He was very severely abused for the first nine years of his life, and it never ceases to amaze me how resilient he is and how loving and trusting he can became after that. I think he has a lesson for me.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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welcome14
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, October 20th (Sunday)

thankful that fall is here, and another hectic pool/pond/garden tending season is put to bed for number 1.
2. chili and wine party with 20 dear friends, with a bonfire and sitting outside in perfect temperate weather
3, home from there now on my couch with my feet up under a fuzzy throw and two sweet doggie babies cuddled up next to me. And a new book for when I have read SI front to back again. Life is good.


Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.


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cmego
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, October 21st (Monday)

I had a total, selfish ME day yesterday. I haven't taken a day off from school in almost a month.

I:

1. Pulled all of my tomatoes out of my garden and clipped my lavender back. Love to work in my garden.

2. Visited a cool chocolate shop

3. Made a fire in my fire pit, and when kids arrived home, we made s'mores.

Heavenly.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, October 21st (Monday)

1. I woke up to a text message this morning from my gf asking how full my "love tank" is and how she could make me feel more loved

2. Finished my 5th Step Sat and felt loved and supported in light of so many seemingly negative things

3. A good friend invited me over to watch the Broncos game last night-- I'm lucky to have friends that want to spend their time with me.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 7:04 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

My DD can't keep a secret/surprise in her pocket for two seconds ...

1) I have known for a month that oldest DS and his girlfriend are coming here for Thanksgiving ... DD is coming too!

2) Going to meet SO's young adult DD soon for lunch (nervous but all will be good). And his DS is coming home from the military soon.

3) Just very thankful for my NB, Fall and all the crispness in the air of this time of year!


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Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

1) I learned a quick cure for heartburn: heel drops You stand on tippy toes, swallow a mouthful of water and immediately drop your heels down hard. This came in handy after too much wine and tomato sauce last night!

2) A FB friend said, "I knew YOU would be the first to say that!" (in a good way) to something he had posted.

3) A woman I always liaised with at a national magazine left and I missed our regular repartee. I just found out that she has joined our Toronto United Way in a capacity that will have us liaising regularly again. Yay!

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 11:09 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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Default  Posted: 11:36 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

1. I have lost 8 lbs and have a great new shape thanks to an awesome personal trainer and a new diet from my doctor. (no more stomach problems)

2. I completed my new years resolutions - 5- 5K races this year. Already starting on next years resolution

3. Getting flirted with by some guys at work. That was nice. Nothing inappropriate, just nice :)


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 1:47 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

1. My boss being out of town for two weeks as of tomorrow, so I get to work from home that entire time. No commute, saving on gas and gaining about 2 hours back every day.

2. Going to a Rodeo with my best friends next Saturday.

3. Working at my leisure through my drawers and closets and tossing, donating and organizing as I want to.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Since work has me feeling stabby lately, I figured it was time to resurrect this thread. I am probably going to make myself write down 100 good things tonight on my blog to get me out of this work stress ick.

1. One of my closest friends, who was just an acquaintance before D-Day, asked me to do a 50K with her out of state next year. Of course I said yes. That's three out of state running girlfriend weekends for 2014. Yay!

2. XWH and I used to brew beer as one of our hobbies. It's something I gave up after D-Day as it's more fun to do with someone AND he took all of the equipment. I'll pick it up again (my dad is interested in learning how to do it with me.) About three years ago, we'd brewed a beer of my own concoction that just wasn't getting carbonated. I'd try one every few months, but end up dumping it down the drain. Apparently it just needed to bottle condition a bit, as I opened one up to have with dinner, and it was amazingly fabulous!

3. The season starts this week for the NCAA basketball team for which me dad and I hold season tickets. Super excited to get to spend a few evenings every month with him throughout the winter.

4. I refuse to work this weekend.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, October 31st (Thursday)

1) Everyday is one step closer to a stronger and happier me.

2) I love living alone and on my own terms.

3) I get to meet SO's young Adult kids this weekend and everyday brings me closer to my kids being home for the Holidays.


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

1. My parents were up today. We had a great time as they helped me to winterize my house and then played cards for several hours.

2. Ran this morning with a friend (ran into 3 other friends along our route) and am running tomorrow morning with another friend. Then, we're going to a winery after and watching the football game as her boyfriend makes us vegetarian chili!

3. I have pear trees in my backyard, and today I saw a squirrel on my deck who ate half of a pear!!! That is almost as big as the squirrel -- his appetite was just amazing. Perhaps he is bulking up for winter. So much fun!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

phmh - I used to brew beer too but also gave it up after D-day...this morning I happened across my brewing pot and thought maybe I could try it again...I was just starting to create my own recipes when D-day hit and I completely lost interest...maybe I should make beer brewing my reclamation project for next year.

Here are my three things...

1. Spent the afternoon at a friend's new house. Really enjoying creating my new social circle!

2. I rearranged and cleaned my room so that it doesn't look like a junk room with mattress thrown in it anymore. It still has a long way to go before it looks like a real grown up room...but just that small step has really helped to alleviate some of my stress.

3. Volunteered at a 5K for Girls on the Run. Had so much fun cheering all the elementary and middle school girls on. Their faces were so delighted when they heard someone cheering for them.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, November 14th (Thursday)

feeling whiny and I don't want to be that way, so I'm making myself remember how blessed I really am -

1. I have a new job that pays considerably more than my old one did

2. tomorrow's pay day

3. tomorrow is also Friday


Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:07 PM, November 15th (Friday)

I took the day off of work (due to use-it-or-lose-it vacation policy and I don't want to lose it!) and it was great!

1. Went to my favorite second hand store and updated my fall/winter wardrobe for a fraction of the price (many items still had original price tags!)

2. Went to my favorite orchard and bought a ton (not literally) of honeycrisp apples for eating and jonagolds for making cobbler.

3. Went to my favorite local winery and renewed my membership in their case club (I am bringing wine to Thanksgiving so it's not all for me )


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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gardenparty
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, November 16th (Saturday)

Love honeycrisp apples!! I haven't seen any out here yet this year but I keep looking.

1. Finished a big job at work...on time which is more rare than I like to admit.

2. Did a little bit of Christmas shopping this afternoon and wrapped some advent gifts for my girls.

3. Taking tomorrow off to catch up on laundry and housework and actually looking forward to some domestic activity.


divorced!

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KJac
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Default  Posted: 3:07 AM, November 18th (Monday)

1. I have 4 beautiful amazing kids that love and respect me and I get the privilege of being the solid in their lives.

2. My 3yr. old nephew walked into Grandma's house tonight, saw me, screamed Auntie! so loud and came running and flung himself on me so hard he knocked me over to get his hugs n's kisses. His twin sister was right behind him for hers!!!

3. I cannot sleep tonight but I can stay up with the t.v. on and as loud as I want it w/out anyone telling me what to do like I'm a child. I get to choose.


Me-BS38
Him-WS/STBX39
M 16yrs Together 18+
Cheated our whole relationship Multiple Ddays, Multiple OW, Multiple EAs and PAs
DS17, TwinDSs16, DD11

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movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 3:44 AM, November 18th (Monday)

1. Had to work all night, but now I have the next 7 days off!

2. Started my Christmas shopping (and got a lot of it done) on Friday night!

3. Went on an "apple date" with my sweetie (go to the orchard to get apples) and now he is going to make his wonderful apple and cranberry pies!! They are always so good


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

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movingforward777
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Default  Posted: 3:44 AM, November 18th (Monday)

1. Had to work all night, but now I have the next 7 days off!

2. Started my Christmas shopping (and got a lot of it done) on Friday night!

3. Went on an "apple date" with my sweetie (go to the orchard to get apples) and now he is going to make his wonderful apple and cranberry pies!! They are always so good


You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, November 18th (Monday)

1) Love my two kitties to pieces, so glad they are with me.

2) I've Finally paid down all my credit cards, and can start saving for a home!

3) Usually leave this one out of it, but I'm really starting to see a future with my SO and it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.


Posts: 3441 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, November 18th (Monday)

My list today:

1) I have almost all my Christmas shopping done.

2) Plans for my art show are coming along swimmingly. Latest piece to fall into place today was the going live of my web site.

3.) Tonight I am attending one of Toronto's events that puts the "fun' in fundraisers. It's for Company Theatre, a group that was started by actor friends Phil Riccio and Allan Hawco, the star of Republic of Doyle. Among the hilarious people entertaining us will be Colin Mochrie, Jayne Eastwood, Jonny Harris (Murdoch Mysteries, Barry Canning and Kim Stockwood. Newfoundlanders like me will be heavily represented in the talent and the audience because Allan Hawco is a Newfoundlander. Oh, we'll rant and we'll roar tonight!

[This message edited by lynnm1947 at 1:08 PM, November 18th (Monday)]


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, November 20th (Wednesday)

1. My son will be home from Kuwait mid December.

2. I am almost finished my second semester of online college classes.

3. Totally missed the anniversary of my divorce court event. Can even say I even thought about it.


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 5:41 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

1) It is finally snowing out ... Not one of those Midwest snows that won't melt until May ... but a very pretty snow.

2) Six days and the kids will be home!


3) SO and hockey this weekend, Chili cook off and a craft fair this weekend, should be fun!


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Default  Posted: 6:56 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

*Started planning how I am going to decorate my new home for the holidays. I am going to be able to make it look as beautiful as my former very different home!

*Finally taking the time to review my finances and put things in working order. I was practicing "can't pay the bills if you can't find them". This budgeting technique does not work for very long.

*I am learning not to be reactionary when my teen pushes my buttons. Deep breath then respond! It appears to be working...slowly.


There is life on the other side of hell.

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Default  Posted: 9:46 AM, November 21st (Thursday)

Wontdefineme,

1. My son will be home from Kuwait mid December.

That is so fantastic!

*Finally taking the time to review my finances and put things in working order. I was practicing "can't pay the bills if you can't find them". This budgeting technique does not work for very long.

Hope things get in order soon, the first step is the hardest but soooooo worth it!

My 3;

1) It's Friday Eve
2) Started running again and haven't hurt myself yet
3) 1 more week till Thanksgiving!


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 4:59 PM, November 27th (Wednesday)

1. I've removed my profile from OLD and am already feeling relief. Pretty sure that's the last time I'm trying it, but...famous last words, so who knows what 6-9 months will bring.

2. I took today off of work and it was fabulous. Ran with a friend this morning (even though it was 12 degrees -- yikes!) and am meeting more friends tomorrow to run, before the family dinner.

3. Catching up and rewatching the entire series of "It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia." Forgot how much this show makes ms laugh!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, December 7th (Saturday)

My work has been majorly stressing me out again since my boss is a huge bully and I'm her current target. Unfair! Anyway, I need to think about good things.

1. Went to a basketball game tonight with my dad, best friend, and her husband. Had a great time, team won, and it was a really fun game!

2. I'm currently boiling potatoes in the process of making a giant bowl of mashed potatoes with sour cream and Fox Point Seasoning from Penzey's. It will be delicious and I can't wait!

3. Meeting a friend to run tomorrow morning. I set a ridiculous goal of number of miles to run in 2013, and it looks like I may meet that goal due to the friends who get me out even when it's freezing. I am lucky to have so many great people in my life!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, December 15th (Sunday)

1.I got to walk around my favorite campus yesterday and heard the Straw Hat Band playing at a pep rally throughout most of the walk.

2.I got to spend yesterday afternoon and evening with my football buddy talking about his life as a Professor and research microbiologist, his work with the Bay Area Raptor Society, our mutual love of College Football, the season so far for our Men’s and Women’s basketball teams, the upcoming Rugby schedule, the fun of a Santa Pub Crawl and Wagner’s Der Ring des Nibelungen.(With a visit to The House of Prime Rib thrown in for good measure.)

3.I got to wake up this morning and have been given the gift of another day.


"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Need to bump this one

1) My sister is getting her own place for the first time ever. So happy for her finally deciding to stand on her own two feet. And so happy for me to quit carpooling and have more space at home

2) I think, dare I say, I've been doing so much better financially lately. It's a great feeling.

3) To round it out, sorry for those in cold climates, but the weather is a fantastic 79 degrees here today.


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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, February 27th (Thursday)

Thank you for the bump!

Here goes:
1. Realizing that I have moved into the next phase of healing.

2. My oldest daughter will be coming home tomorrow for spring break. I have really missed her!

3. My youngest daughter and I are finally reconnecting! She is 16 and is finally coming out of the hormonal fog. But better yet I have learned not to over-react.


There is life on the other side of hell.

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Default  Posted: 5:41 PM, February 28th (Friday)

1) I am a new grandma ... and adjusting to being so far away from my kids.

2) I am truly happy with "me" and I finally "love me" again.

3) I am truly content with my life ... and "It's all good!"


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, March 1st (Saturday)

Yes -- thanks for the bump. I had been doing a lot of complaining about my job, so #1 is:

1. My job is wonderful again! My old boss came back to the company, and has improved the environment so much (shielding me from the toxic head of the business) that I'm happy to be at work again!

2. I had a great long trail run this morning with a lady who is quickly becoming one of my closest friends.

3. The NCAA team for which my dad and I have season tickets somehow managed to pull off a home playoff game (conference tournament), so we're going to that next week.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, March 2nd (Sunday)

1. My brother is moving back to the area. It was fun driving around looking for apartments with him!

2. As I was going into the grocery store, I saw one of my cross country girls outside the store, raising money for her track packet. (I don't coach track...just cross country.) She ran up to me and gave me a big hug...said how much she missed me!

3. One of my students gave me special coffee for a Christmas gift...I thoroughly relished brewing and enjoying it this morning.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, March 2nd (Sunday)

1) I just got to spend a few days with my beautiful daughter who was home with me the last three nights. I love her so much.
2) All alone tonight while we get an ice storm, but my beloved herd of three dogs is at my feet keeping me company.
3) I am also happy for my harem of Surviving Infidelity gals that have been so nice to me the last couple years including PHMH, Tesla, Williesmom, Frauken, and Macakipa -all very wonderful women

And finally, my son comes home from college on Friday for spring break. Hoping the weather is better so we can play some golf..


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, March 2nd (Sunday)

1) I assembled shelving for my garage all by myself today (something I didn't think I could do)
2) I learned something important about myself this week, with the help of an SI friend, that is really helping me to finally do the right thing for me
3) I've had several great conversations with DD21 this week that prove to me that I am developing a close relationship with my adult child AND she will be home next weekend from school for a few days

[This message edited by persevere at 8:12 PM, March 2nd (Sunday)]


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, March 2nd (Sunday)

1. I am close to knowing where I will live once the marital house is sold.

2. My SO of 3+ months and I are planning to go away together for a few days in April.

3. My cute puppy is lying next to me as I type this.


Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
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"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

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Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, March 3rd (Monday)

1. I am being more productive at work. I'm starting to get the "old me" back - the powerhouse doer who amazed is doing again.

2. I have a job I love and I think I'm doing a damn good job. I stand up for myself and don't take crap (I work mostly with men) and I am getting better about asking for help as if it's something I should do and should get.

3. Firehouse Guy is turning out to be fun to have around in a FWB way. I live in a pretty remote spot so its sort of a LDR. He has entanglements with his past GF and XW and I'm not sure we are compatible long term but I feel desired and I enjoy what time we do get together. I'm learning not to be attached and to be unsure and let it be just like that and not have to do anything about it right now.

3. 3. Again because I'm just basically happy. I deal with stress. I've got court tomorrow. It's raining. I'm behind on work. I'm fat. yadda yadda. Whatever. I'm basically happy and that all by itself is a miracle.


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, March 3rd (Monday)

1. I have front row seats to concerts by Lady Gaga and Outkast this summer. I CANNOT wait!!!!! Also, yay (or maybe hey ya!) for connected NB friends!!!

2. About to head to yoga class. It's yin yoga, which I've only previously done via DVD (as opposed to class) so I am super excited!!!

3. Took down my dating profile -- and this time because I met someone and not because I got burned out by the process. Shocking! Bonus: he works 2nd shift so I still get plenty of time with friends and alone to do stuff.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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reallystruggling
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, March 4th (Tuesday)

1. My friends here at SI inspired me to give up resentment and whining for lent.
2. My tax return was deposited into my bank account
3. I had fun playing crazy eights with DD
Bonus 4. My puppy didn't poop in the house today :)


me- BS (40 something)
him- remarried and already a WS again
3 amazing kids
multiple D Days over 20 years
Divorced 2010

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Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, March 5th (Wednesday)

1. I started seeing a new IC yesterday who wants to work on getting me better to tools to identify someone who shares my values next time. I left feeling like I'm going to be able to grow and heal and come out better!

2. I'm going back to a Cards Against Humanity meet-up tonight...I really had fun the first time I went!

3. I had my review today at work and while I knew it was going to be positive it's still nice to hear that my boss is happy with me!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, March 5th (Wednesday)

Really need this right now!

1)I’m making beef enchiladas tonight. This is exciting and eventful, please don’t judge.

2)No cavities!

3)SO passed a physical test that has been worrying him.

ETA: Norabird I love Cards Against Humanity, fun game

[This message edited by Crescita at 1:53 PM, March 5th (Wednesday)]


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, March 9th (Sunday)

1. For the first time ever, I got flowers from a beau last night. They went in my kitchen, alongside my Valentine's flowers from my coworker's husband (gay and a great friend -- he didn't want me feeling left out on the holiday so no funny business going on) and the flowering potted plant I won at a fund raising event last week. It looks like I live in a greenhouse!

2. I love my new spontaneous life! Just got a call from a friend who has an extra (free) ticket to a sold-out arena concert for tonight. Of course I'm interested!

3. Weather is finally warming up so I was able to get some decent-length runs in this weekend. Come on spring!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 8:32 AM, March 10th (Monday)

1. Had a great Sunshine weekend!!

2. Possible move in with SO this coming summer...

3. DD is actually going to be moving home!

So excited and can't wait for her to get home and start her new beginning


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, March 19th (Wednesday)

1. I started organizing a happy hour last year where I made my worlds collide (a la George Costanza) -- it's gotten quite popular and I'm having another one on Friday. Super excited!

2. Three people at work have taken up running and told me it's because of my inspiration. Made me feel really good because running has changed my life, and I'm happy that others might experience the same thing because of my example.

3. I have amazing parents. My relationship with my dad in particular has really taken off in the past few years.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 5:23 AM, March 20th (Thursday)

1. It is Officially Spring!!! Happy Spring Everyone!

2. Spring Break Starts tomorrow and I will be spending it with my SO.

3. All three of my kids and my two grand babies are happy and healthy ...


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, April 9th (Wednesday)

This thread has been going on for almost two years!!!

1. My mom dropped cookies off for me last Saturday and they are so delicious. She is an amazing baker.

2. Had another decent marathon finish last Saturday. Running another one this Saturday -- trying a back-to-back for the first time. Fingers crossed!

3. Have been able to ride my bike to/from work for a month now. Everything is just so much better when I don't have to start/end my day with traffic.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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reallystruggling
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, April 10th (Thursday)

had the day off yesterday and
1. slept in - until 9! remarkable!
2. it was sunny and warm all day
3. took DD9 bike riding for a few miles
:)


me- BS (40 something)
him- remarried and already a WS again
3 amazing kids
multiple D Days over 20 years
Divorced 2010

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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, April 18th (Friday)

Today I feel full of thankfulness!

1. I am thankful to be going home and seeing my parents this weekend for Easter. Thankful we're so close to each other, and excited about the awesome lamb cake I'll get to eat!

2. I am thankful for my friends! Who are willing to play shuffleboard with me

3. I am thankful for new spring leaves on the trees, and flowers coming out, and warmer, lighter days!

And SI of course


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, April 18th (Friday)

1) It's a half day at work today so I get an early start to my weekend.

2) Looking forward to getting together with friends and family over the next few weeks for the holiday.

3) Next Friday, I am finally, finally, addressing a dental issue that was created 15 years ago when I had a baby tooth pulled.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:47 PM, April 18th (Friday)

Holy cow, phmh, back to back marathons!!! That's great! Hope they both went well.

1. Teslet and I have found this happy, giggly groove.

2. My dog is awesome.

3. My cat is the best snuggler.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:01 PM, May 13th (Tuesday)

1. Spent the afternoon volunteering with my coworkers at a food bank. Great reminder of how good my life really is.

2. Going out to dinner with one of my really good friends tonight.

3. Ran a 50K last weekend and finished in the top 10 ladies.

4. I still have a bit of muscle soreness from my race. I love it!!!

5. Haircut scheduled for tomorrow -- yay! I love my stylist so it will be great to catch up.

6. Yoga class tomorrow!!!

7. One of my favorite authors of WWII spy novels is coming to my town on Friday for a reading. I am going, and then to a bar where my friend's band is playing (he's the lead singer). Friday will be fabulous!

8. A random tulip is growing in the middle of my backyard.

9. I don't have anything scheduled for Sunday, so I can relax, read, and clean my house a bit.

10. Just found out I received a comp entry to the one 5K I do every year. Score!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, May 13th (Tuesday)

1) Tomorrow I'm finally getting braces. So stinking excited it's ridiculous

2) After a reading dry spell I have three captivating books queued up on my kindle.

3) Planning a whirlwind weekend with my SO; road-trip, camping, hiking, being a tourist, visiting a charming town, sampling a new brewery, watching my smarty pants nephew get an award. Should be fun!

ETA: phmh, w2g on all your running achievements, and everything else! I love reading about everything we all have to be grateful for

[This message edited by Crescita at 5:37 PM, May 13th (Tuesday)]


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

1. This thread has been going on for almost 2 years! (though I probably have half of the posts -- come on, guys. I know life is fabulous for you, too!!!)

2. Made some roasted broccoli tonight. It was so super easy and delicious. Will become part of my rotation. YUM!!!

3. Have an appointment with the window guys for my house on Thursday. I've been meaning to do this for a while but kept putting it off due to work. I finally took a half day and made the appointment.

4. One of my parrots got really sick and almost died earlier this month. Luckily I caught it soon enough and he spent some time in the ER, but he's doing really, really well. At the time of divorce, I really wanted WXH to take him, but now I'm glad he stayed with me.

5. Dinner with friends tomorrow!!!

6. Birthday party Saturday for one of my favorite people. This night will end with dancing. I will wear a sequin skirt. It will be fabulous!

7. In the middle of a personal challenge, I have not had a cookie in over two weeks. And, shockingly, I have survived!

8. I love all of this light with the days still getting longer. I get to see some beautiful sunrises in the morning when I'm running. Inspiring!

9. I just got a new GPS watch on super sale, and it's great! My old GPS watch was terrible, and I'd been irritated by it for almost two years. Makes running so much better.

10. Soon I'm going to see Tony Bennett in concert with my parents. So excited!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, May 29th (Thursday)

So many things in the past few weeks!

1) Watched my eldest daughter walk across a stage to accept her college diploma cum laude. I had filed for divorce her freshman year. She survived and thrived! Proud Mom here!

2) Completed finals. I received my lowest grade but the class was designed for PH.D. students. The B may have messed with my 3.7 GPA but I have 2 semesters to bring it back up. Look at me...The GPA snob! Still I am proud and grateful that I can still step out of my comfort zone at my age.

3) I took the divorce attorney who took advantage of me in my most vulnerable moments in front of the Board of Arbitration. She ripped me off big time. Charged me to appeal a contempt charge against her! I WON!!!!

Some major 3 things here I guess. So happy for this thread. I was feeling a little sad about other issues but now I feel empowered. Thank you


There is life on the other side of hell.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, May 30th (Friday)

1. The plants I put in last week are going nuts and look so beautiful. I just love the way my landscaping is coming along.

2. Last night teslet and I were out in the garden weeding and teslet got the thrill of seeing that the watermelon seeds he planted had sprouted.

3. The teacher that I share my classroom with and I have really gelled. We started moving the room around and making it make more sense. She has lots of elementary experience and elementary teachers are excellent classroom decorators!! Me...I have that secondary frame of mind and could not care less about decorating my room...but am just loving her ideas! Looking forward to having a neat teaching space and sharing a classroom with a person that is quickly becoming a good friend.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 9:02 PM, June 9th (Monday)

1. I went grocery shopping so my house is full of food.

2. Ran a 50K with a friend this weekend and we had the absolute best time ever.

3. My orchid, which I thought might be dead, is growing again!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 11:00 PM, June 9th (Monday)

1. A job that pays well and keeps me busy.
2. A BFF who is there for me no matter what.
3. 6 days until I get to hug my mom and dad in Germany.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, June 10th (Tuesday)

1. First morning of summer break for this teacher and I'm enjoying some Bailey's with my coffee!
2. Was allowed a one minute phone call with Teslet last night (what is this, prison?) but he is happy and bubbly and one minute of that is plenty to get me through.
3. During the last teacher day yesterday, I wore my hair down...I always wear it up because it is long and thick...I got so many compliments on it which really helped lift my mood.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, June 11th (Wednesday)

1) late start at work today for me (will help me with the working until 6pm thing )
2) Mornings in June are gorgeous
3) Made plans with a friend to run a 5K in a month--wrote down a training plan in a training journal. This is "me"?


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, June 24th (Tuesday)

1. I get to see Outkast perform in less than a week! And I'm in the pit! I can't stop trying to get the parrots to sing along with me, but they dance a little bit and then are party poopers :( I think they're just jealous!!!

2. Made a new friend last week and we're going to the movies together tomorrow. She's a documentary filmmaker and we're going to see a documentary together. Yay for new friends!

3. I figured out how to program my garage (the lady I bought the house from gave me the wrong code) so I no longer have to carry the opener with me when I'm on my bike. It was super easy - I should have tried it a year ago!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, June 26th (Thursday)

1. Sitting on the couch in Germany with my dad and watching the Germany : US game.

2. Looking forward to coming home to remodeled bathrooms in my rental house with no rent increase because my landlady is a wonderful woman!

3. Going to Dresden and Prague next week with me parents and DDs.


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

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phmh
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Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, July 8th (Tuesday)

1. Last month, I thought I ruined one of my new favorite dresses by biking in it -- it was longer than I usually wear, so several inches got caught in the tires and chain. But, the dry cleaner was able to get out the stain!!!

2. I slightly injured my hip almost three years ago in a race when I was passing some slower runners who'd incorrectly placed themselves close to the start. I'd just been living with it, since my doctor (and WXH, who was just my H at the time I did it) told me that nothing could be done. But, I went to the PT today, and he fixed it and gave me exercises to strengthen. First time I've been completely pain-free since August 2011!!!

3. My coworker bought us all lunch today - yum!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)

1. The weather today was fantastic and I feel happy whenever I experience it.

2. I did well on a phone screen.

3. (this wasn't today, but it's still novel...) my throat doesn't hurt here, probably because of higher humidity than where I came from.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, July 9th (Wednesday)

It has been awhile since I have posted...So here goes...

1.Fitted into some shorts that I had bought several years ago..Love to go shopping in my own closet...All some undies that have never fitted...

2.Had Birthday lunch early, with a Dear Friend who
is going to Fairbanks, Alaska for 3months..

3.She commented on how good I look with the weight I have lost and my tan this year...

4.Feeling good about what I have accomplished in the past several years...

5.Even have a small garden this year, if I can keep Bambi out of it...

6.Spending all the time I can in the pool this year too..It is so good on my joints and what a way to exercise....


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Default  Posted: 12:34 AM, July 10th (Thursday)

1. Enjoyed my kids all day in the house and out for dinner

2. Made some progress on work deliverables fir my part time job, accomplishment feeling.

3. My two neighbors reached out to me today to say they were thinking of me, made me feel good, going to have to keep them in my friend circle, gonna miss them across the street.


D-Day 1/24/14
D-Day2 04/08/14, false R
17yrs married, 23yrs together
Two kids 13, 11
Separated, divorcing 10/2014

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Default  Posted: 12:41 AM, July 10th (Thursday)

1. Took a pix of my backyard today, great playground for my kids, swing set, slide, a little kiddy pool, I have a nice house, nice location and big south yard with fruit trees.

2. Three young cute children

3.healthy and young looking for my age -:)


M: 10 years
DD:5 DS Twin: 2 yrs old
DDay: Earlier 2013, WS flew/met many times with a Philippine girl found online (20 yrs younger)
SA finalized 6 months after DD. divorcing...
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!

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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, July 10th (Thursday)

1) Unconditional Relationship

2) All three of my young adult children are "finding their own."

3) Moving in with SO in three weeks


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:05 PM, August 9th (Saturday)

1. This thread has been going on for over 2 years!

2. Made a great new group of friends in the past few months. Integrated some of my current friends in as well. Do things a couple of times a week with them. They are so much fun!

3. No plans tonight, so I'm relaxing and reading my book for my first book club on Tuesday night.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:55 PM, August 21st (Thursday)

I've been seeing a lot of gratitude posts on Facebook lately. Made me think of this thread, so I'm bringing it back to page 1.

1. Day three of school, and DD has been doing fantastic with the adjustment. So proud of how far she has come over the past year. Yay!

2. Found a new IC who is going to be helping me through the loss of my parents as well as some old crap (pre-marriage) that has recently resurfaced. Looking forward to working with her.

3. Booking my tickets today for a g2g later this fall. So. Dang. Excited.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, August 21st (Thursday)

1) I feel really cared for in my relationship. It surprises me that I’m still getting used to that.
2) A little mixed feelings on this because I will miss them, but my sister and her husband got new jobs and will be moving along to bigger and better things.
3) Things are just going well. No major complaints, needs are being met, have some wiggle room for wants.


NIK, those are all great updates


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, August 21st (Thursday)

I can't tell you how happy it makes me when someone else bumps this

1. Great day at work today -- I was super prepared for a meeting and saved my boss a couple of times. I have the best boss ever (the big boss is another story...) To celebrate, we are skipping out of work for a few hours for a "meeting" tomorrow but really going to the art museum :)

2. My lizard is peeling, and I love helping him take off his excess skin. It is so much fun! He is turning back into his gorgeous self and shedding his drab 2013 skin. Which will slowly turn drab, and then I get to do it again next year.

3. I did my first meetup -- a fantastic book club. I think a few of the ladies will become friends, and it's so much fun to talk about a book we've all read. Should help me to meet my goal of books read this year (I've been slacking a bit this summer because I've been going out instead of reading!)


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, August 21st (Thursday)

1) I survived my wisdom teeth surgery today

2) I'm leaving for Paris in 5 weeks

3) I have a second date with a guy on Saturday that I really like a lot


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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Crescita
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Default  Posted: 3:49 PM, September 5th (Friday)

I'm having one of those days where I just can't seem to keep my wits about me. On that note I'm grateful that:

1) my job isn't so important that I can mess up with little damage to the universe

2) there are only 3 more hours until the weekend

3) my big cozy bed and the latest season of the Good Wife await me at home


Posts: 3441 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: The Valley of the Sun
phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:34 PM, September 5th (Friday)

I'm on the same note as Crescita.

1. I have a well-paying job that many would envy and that allows me to have a great house and fun hobbies. (It's been stressful lately so I keep repeating this to myself...)

2. My parrots have been extra adorable lately. They frequently are, but I've been appreciating them instead of viewing them as flying irritants, so that helps. Also, I realized that one, the little guy, has been talking like crazy for the past several years but too garbled for me to understand. Now that I'm listening, I can hear him demanding kisses and telling me he loves me. So cute!

3. I am getting a massage and a pedicure paid for by my work tomorrow. Of course, I am working all weekend, but I am trying to be positive here!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3402 | Registered: Dec 2011
Sleepingbeauty
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Default  Posted: 6:05 AM, September 8th (Monday)

This is a great thread.

1. I have made two new female friends.
2. I am getting to choose where I will be moving to and when.
3. I actually downloaded/uploaded pictures from my SD car to the computer. Big accomplishment for the not so computer savvy.


Posts: 330 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: East coast
Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, September 8th (Monday)

- My youngest started school and went in smiling

- I managed to save up some cash and paid my solicitor, so I''m still in the black

- The chocolate milkshake was reduced in the store & I''m drinking some right now


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

Posts: 1047 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, September 9th (Tuesday)

1. I really, really like school.
2. My son is talking about college, after long-term disinterest.
3. I have a dog and 2 cats on my bed with me, nowhere to go, and nothing I have to do today, except things I want to do.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8829 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Artemisia
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Default  Posted: 10:53 AM, September 9th (Tuesday)

phmh, I LOVE the story about your lizard! And since when do you even have a lizard?

Isn't his bright new skin just a perfect metaphor/inspiration for all of us? Soooo:

1) I'm in the middle of my best crop of tomatoes ever - red and yellow big guys, orange and red cherries.

2) Started a new class this semester that is stretching my brain, and it feels good.

3) I have been salsa dancing lately and can't even tell you all how much I love it.

Here's to shiny new lizard skins!


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Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, September 9th (Tuesday)

I''m in lots of pain with an injury today,but I''m still grateful for:

1. Friends who took my children to school and collected them when I couldn''t get out of the house

2. Having got the shopping yesterday, so we''ve got enough in the house

3. The doctor on duty phoned my prescription through to the chemist and convinced them to deliver the tablets to my house! (not usual in the UK)....Which they did within 1/2 hour of her calling them. So amazing & lovely!


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

Posts: 1047 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, September 9th (Tuesday)

((((softcentre)))) Speedy healing mojo coming your way.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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Softcentre
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Default  Posted: 2:55 PM, September 9th (Tuesday)

Thanks NIK


Me: BW
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' likes strong but broken OW
OW - EA - 'Holy Chick'
COW - Suspected EA/PA 'The Ambassador'
COW - Susp EA 'The Baker'
COW - EA/PA 'Fat Bottomed Girl'
COW - Susp EA 'MiniMe'

Posts: 1047 | Registered: May 2013 | From: UK
self-rescuer
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Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, September 9th (Tuesday)

Oh PHMH how I love you and how I've missed the fantastic thread.

1) learned today that the first grant I've ever written was awarded!!

2) one of the first SI friends I made is blissfully just married and she has just moved near me.

3) the sun is setting over the mountain I live on and all seems well


BW 53 WXH 56 & still bewildered
D-Day 9-15-11
Divorce 3-13-13

Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live.
~ Goethe


Posts: 506 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: the south
phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:29 PM, September 9th (Tuesday)

1. I am heavily involved in planning my company's annual client event. It's at a super fancy place and most of our clients are multi-millionaires that are used to the best. Needless to say, this is super stressful and I'd been working 80 hour weeks for a few weeks. The conference was this past weekend, and was a smashing success!

2. At the conference, the last dinner is a super informal buffet as people return from their activities. Our guest speaker -- who is an incredibly intelligent and interesting person -- was sitting alone, so I went over to chat. We wound up talking for over 3 hours and I had one of the best discussions of my life. I told him he didn't have to stick around to talk, but he wanted to and we exchanged e-mail addresses as we both had some book recommendations for each other. This made me realize how much I missed living in a house with insightful, interesting, intellectually curious people -- since I left to go to college. (Why did I marry WXH again?)

3. Weather has just been perfect lately. Trying to enjoy this for as long as I can!


phmh, I LOVE the story about your lizard! And since when do you even have a lizard?

WXH bought two lizards from a pet store that was going out of business. In 2007. We were there to make sure they were still feeding the parrots (I'm quite involved in parrot rescue) and we overheard the clerk saying that if no one bought the lizards, they were going to release them outside (to their certain death.)

Without discussing it with me (I didn't want to support such a place), he bought the two remaining lizards (mali uromastyx). He just showed up at my work one day and we had to scramble to set up cages and do research on how to care for them. They were quite sick initially and the female never fully recovered -- dying 3 months before D-Day in 2011. The male is super healthy.

I wanted WXH to take him, but he refused, so I have him. He's super easy going and no trouble at all. But not really interactive or what anyone would consider a normal pet!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:26 PM, September 14th (Sunday)

1. Ran a 50k this weekend just for fun; no watch so I wouldn't obsess, and wound up coming in 2nd place in my age group!

2. Huge compliment paid to me by a really senior guy in my office who is in line to be the top guy. He stopped me as I was walking in and said that he was thinking about me on his commute and what a great fit I am for the team (I am a newbie at 2.5 years experience), what a great job I did at the conference, how he sees great things for me ahead, etc. I had a terrible Fall 2014 at work so this was huge.

3. Succumbed to peer pressure and signed up for the 2015 Boston Marathon AND a friend offered to let me stay with her aunt so I can save $ while going. Last time I did it was with WXH, so will be nice to have my last memories of that race be with someone pleasant!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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Default  Posted: 5:57 PM, September 14th (Sunday)

3 good things that happened to you today

1. Great workout - finally getting faster at running

2. EXSO asked if I remembered to buy hornet spray and I said no he brought some for me, last night rented a carpet shampooer and did rugs so that today I wouldn't be embarrassed when realtor came by as well as bought me a rosemary soy wax candle to help me study because he read it improves memory

3.My teens are healthy


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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 9:40 PM, September 14th (Sunday)

1. Schoolwork is really challenging this semester but I know I can do it!

2. I'm getting used to being treated with respect and kindness.

3. I feel like it will only continue to get better. This truly is my new beginning!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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self-rescuer
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Default  Posted: 6:12 AM, September 16th (Tuesday)

1) I was notified yesterday that a grant I'd written was awarded!! Yippee - will fund workshops that are really beneficial to women in my area.

2) Had a tough 5 mile hike that left my legs trembling but my heart so happy!

3) Yesterday was the 3 yr anniversary of d- day and my primary emotion was gratitude. So much better than soul crushing sorrow and the projectile vomiting of the past


BW 53 WXH 56 & still bewildered
D-Day 9-15-11
Divorce 3-13-13

Just trust yourself, then you will know how to live.
~ Goethe


Posts: 506 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: the south
Crescita
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Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, September 16th (Tuesday)

It's raining again, such a nice break from the heat.

Finally getting some more work done on my SO's condo. Goodbye nasty carpet! The downstairs flooring and trim is all finished;

And I've been refinishing the stairs;

Not the best pics, but I've redone the nose of the bottom step, about a 1 inch by 8 inch section with putty and paint, and just finished staining and coating. I still have to finish painting the risers white. Then maybe add some trim. I'd been delaying refinishing until my SO fixed the squeaks, but got tired of waiting and thought this might jump start him. Well, the paint is fixing the squeaks so thanks for nothing SO

[This message edited by Crescita at 11:03 AM, September 16th (Tuesday)]


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:59 PM, September 19th (Friday)

1. I have a great group of students.
2. a student's mom sent in a homemade chocolate-strawberry cake for me...holy cow!!!! This thing was amazing!!
3. I was asked to co-present a topic at our district-wide in-service next month! Nervous but excited for the opportunity.


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4683 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
phmh
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Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, September 21st (Sunday)

I love how so many great things are going on in our lives!

1. I have been feeling super unmotivated lately (work is sapping much of my energy) but actually went grocery shopping today so I have lots of food in the house.

2. Rec dept yoga starts tomorrow, which means I have three classes a week through the fall. Yoga always makes me feel so good but I tend to slack when I don't have classes to go to. This should help.

3. I canceled all of my plans for today since I need to recharge. I have the rest of the evening for a book, some painting, and a beer or two.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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phmh
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, October 12th (Sunday)

1. dmari is now posting in NB (bumping this for you! and so happy when people whose stories I've followed from the beginning make such huge personal growth accomplishments!)

2. Figuring out how to solve my clogged bathroom sink problem without (hopefully) having to call in professional help. Making good progress so far -- need to make sure it's a permanent fix.

3. My parrot, who flew into a candle earlier this month and therefore stained herself pink AND smelled like mulled cider, is about 95% back to normal. I knew I shouldn't light candles around her, but decided -- unwisely -- to risk it. So happy no serious damage was done!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


Posts: 3402 | Registered: Dec 2011
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, October 12th (Sunday)

Selfish 3 things, need to be a little selfish right now...

1. Playing music with my friend and getting better all the time.

2. Having a party at my house last night with homemade sausage, if anyone read my weekend post the other day, lol!

3. My son, my wonderful son, that teaches me normal cleaned my whole house while I was at work so I wouldn't have to before my party.

Just typing this makes me smile.


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divor


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