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Default  Posted: 2:48 PM, February 3rd (Wednesday)

This thread is for both BS/WS. This thread is not intended for religious debating.

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crushed again
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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, February 3rd (Wednesday)

Again I am asking for prayer about my 'family'. Please pray that my WH would choose truly RRing our M and not D. I also pray that God would put it in his heart to be sincerely remorseful over what he has done to our DS and myself. I feel I'll never be fully healed w/out that.
I also pray for wisdom and strength and to know that only the Lord is in control. I pray my WH will come to know this also.
My biggest prayer request is that God would wrap HIS healing arms around each and everyone here on S.I.


"Don't you worry your pretty little mind because people throw rocks at things that shine!"
~I guess living in limbo is my "new normal"- stinks!~

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Newtwood
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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, February 5th (Friday)

Asking for prayers for strength.

On Tue. night I was taken to the hospital for 72 hrs. I just got home-they let me out early due to the pending snowstorm here.

Just need a big, big, hug.


Faithful Wife of 24+ yrs: Me
WS: Him
OW(s): AFF Skanks/GRANDMOTHERS!!!

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Thriving
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, February 5th (Friday)

(((((newt))))) I hope you're feeling better. Please take it easy and rest.


"Trust is earned, respect is given, and loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any of one of those is to lose all three." - Anon.

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HPrynne
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, May 13th (Thursday)

A little background. My affair started during a deployment a few years ago. My husband and I have been both working really hard to keep our marriage together. I just deployed again and have started journaling as a way to learn how to see myself, express myself, just overall be a better person.
This morning after journaling, I felt it was something I needed to share with my husband. This is what I wrote and emailed to him and below that is his reply. Even though we are thousands of miles apart, I am so glad to see that we are able to keep the lines of communication open.
I wasn’t sure whether to post this in “Wayward” or “Reconciliation” but because of the religious aspect, I thought it best to post it in the “Support through Prayer” thread. I hope this helps other people as much as it has helped me!

>
> Dear BS,
> I was journaling this morning and one of the readings was about our how our family (parents and siblings) shapes and molds us. The journal question was along the lines (or so I thought) of being thankful for our family experiences and how they made us who we are today.
> I started reflecting on this and found myself getting angry. I should thank my serial adulterous father, my mother who didn't fight for custody of us and my brothers who molested me?
> But I reread the paragraph and saw that the question was more about how God shapes and molds us.
> So then I thought, God shaped and molded me to be like my father? And to not have stronger maternal instincts? That sucks!
> But then I realized something more and my head felt full and my fingers started tingling. Seriously, this happened.
> I realized that things in our life do not make us stronger -- WE make ourselves stronger! I know you've heard the statement, "Our affair made our marriage stronger." Bullshit! It's God and the husband and wife who can make it stronger. Improper actions don't do that!
> And I really feel like I found God ever since we started going to church. Now I can truly understand that now that I have a personal relationship with God, I am able to see how he continues to shape and mold me -- into my goal of being the best wife and mother you all deserve.
>
> That's what I wrote in my journal today. I know you and I have the power, with God in our lives, to make our marriage strong. I love you for being with me today and will keep pursuing a better life with God and you and the children.
>
> Love Always,
HPrynne

His reply?
HPrynne
I'm glad you feel this way. I told you you seemed different in a better way this past year.

Love,
BS


Me, FWW
Him, BH
Married: 17 years
DDay: Jan 2008
More TT: April 2008
Lie Detector test: July 2008
He said he forgives me: Feb 13, 2011
3 children (one of them during R -- what a blessing)

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heartbroken0903
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, May 16th (Sunday)

I'm glad this thread is here.

I have a couple of prayer requests, for anyone listening/willing to pray.

1.) Please pray for my STBX/BH:

- that God will lift him up and heal him and help him recover, and sustain him through this devastating crisis that I caused through my selfishness.
- that, if it's God's will, his heart will be turned toward forgiveness of my actions.
- that he may someday change his mind...and that even if he doesn't, that he finds peace in his life.

2.) Please pray for me:

- that I learn from this painful lesson and change for the better
- that I can make it on my own: financially & emotionally
- that through the closing of this door, God in His mercy sees fit to open a window

Thank you. Peace and healing through God's grace to you all.


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Reconciled and remarried.


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Littlegirllost
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Default  Posted: 8:06 AM, May 17th (Monday)

Heartbroken0903,

I have prayed with you and I send you my prayers.


Me: BS 48 yrs.
FWH 50
D'day: 5/22/08
2 EA's, 1 PA during 5 month period of time
A Midlife Crisis gone wild
In R

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: New Jersey
HPrynne
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, May 17th (Monday)

HB0903 -- you are both in my prayers. God bless you both!


Me, FWW
Him, BH
Married: 17 years
DDay: Jan 2008
More TT: April 2008
Lie Detector test: July 2008
He said he forgives me: Feb 13, 2011
3 children (one of them during R -- what a blessing)

Posts: 220 | Registered: Mar 2008
thegreatwife
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, May 30th (Sunday)

Please pray for me so that I may find the strength I need for this week ahead.
WH called to tell me he broke it off with OW and is a mess and of no help to me right now. DS graduates and I will be throwing a BBQ for 70 by myself without help from anyone at all. Usually my WH and I have done everyting together and by ourselves because we have been quite the team.
Please also pray that I find joy in all my DS senior events this week. It will be bittersweet for so many obvious reasons.
Please also pray for my health - I am suffering from gastritis from all the stress.
Peace


Me - Faithful Spouse 44
Him - WS 44
Married - 20 yrs
Together - 25 years
D Day 12/30/09
EA/PA - 18 mos

"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." But what truly matters is what *you* think." Dr. Seuss


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GeauxTigers
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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, May 30th (Sunday)

I am asking for prayers for my wife. She has suffered from chronic depression for decades, and the aftermath of her recent affair has her as lost as I've ever seen her. I'm scared.

Please pray that she finds her path to peace and joy.

Thank you.


Sigh... how did I end up here?

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JoyH
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, May 30th (Sunday)

A simple prayer that I had posted on my bathroom mirror for the early months after our dday. It came from a drug rehab program, but fit my needs at the time.

Recovery Prayer

Dear Lord,

Sometimes bitter memories paralyze me.

I get so focused on those unpleasant moments in my life that moving forward seems impossible.

Help me to leave behind these negative images.

Please give me your love and strength to change those memories from bitter and resented times to simply a moment from the past.

Please help me to focus forward.

Let me realize that the delightful memories of today and tomorrow will bless me with peace of mind.

............



Initial dday 11/00.
Me: BS
H: WS,
Difficult road, but Reconciling.

"Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past and instead inviting hope for a better future."

"The Truth Hurts, But It's Best That You Know."


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bellamomma
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Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, June 26th (Saturday)

My WH and I are S. He says he wants a D. I've been reading a lot of scripture, praying and seeking Godly counsel. I really believe God wants me to stand and believe for R.
DDay for me was just under 2 wks ago, June 14th. I found explicit emails between WH and OW.
Bit of Background: My husband was in full time ministry for about 5 years, and has been in church most of his life. Until the A, I was the only person he had ever been with. During our marriage we had 5 miscarriages and a lot of circumstances and financial issues that come with ministry.
The A has been going on for a year. He was let go from the church in January. The OW worked at the church. I notified the church leadership, the OW was fired and WH confronted. Aparently she was not very repentant, but her BH has really stepped up and set some boundaries for her. WH aparently broke down in tears and expressed extreme repentance.
I gave him space, to be sensitive to when he was ready to discuss things. He hadn't said anything to me, but didn't express anger. Then just yesturday, he called me and threatened me about our finances and future, and threatened to do things that I don't think he even legally do. He is all of a sudden so angry with me. Right after DDay, he had waivered on the D thing, and was expressing hope for our M. However, yesturday he was talking about D again. I know God has it in control. I know God can do miracles. Please pray that WH comes to true repentance, comes back to God, and returns to the marriage. Please pray that God give me wisdom to know what I need to do. I also need a financial miracle.
Also if anyone has any insight from a biblical perspective that would be great! Thank you!

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Beth
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, July 4th (Sunday)

Please pray for my family, especially my daughter and 20 month old granddaughter. My son in law was verbally and emotionally abuse and she kicked him out a few months ago. For a while it looked like their marriage might be able to be ended amicably but the last few weeks he has become increasingly hostile and manipulative.
He appears to be attempting to build a case to have custody of my granddaughter, which would be a tragedy as he is a narcissist, a sociopath, is a poor father and untreated ptsd. The whole situation is a nightmare and is tearing us up. My daughter was a faithful wife and is and excellent mom, but he has been lying and waging psychological warfare- he was trained for this in the military. I believe he is viewing this as a battle campaign, not as what is best for his child.
Please pray for their protection and for the courts to see through his manipulations and lies.
Thank you


"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter." Martin Luther King, Jr.

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lied2
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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, July 13th (Tuesday)

I am asking for prayer for my son. He is away at camp and having a really hard time.


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Default  Posted: 7:23 AM, August 27th (Friday)

Thought for the day (Day 1)

"You will keep in perfect peace him whose mind is steadfast, because he trusts in You"

~ Isaiah 26:3

Come, Holy Spirit, Come... Reside in my heart so that from the overflow of my heart I will speak Your truth.....


Me/BS/40~Him/fWH/42 Both in IC
MC put 'on hold' till my IC agrees
DD~07/19/10 R on hold till my IC agrees
BP1 DX 10/2011&Complex PTSD 7/1998
"There are no mistakes in tomorrow"

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let it be me
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Default  Posted: 7:06 AM, August 30th (Monday)

Thought for the Day (Day 2)

"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit."

~Romans 15:13

Today, again, Spirit I call to you and tear open my wounded heart to let you in. Help me to 'captivate my thought(s) until they serve Christ'......


Me/BS/40~Him/fWH/42 Both in IC
MC put 'on hold' till my IC agrees
DD~07/19/10 R on hold till my IC agrees
BP1 DX 10/2011&Complex PTSD 7/1998
"There are no mistakes in tomorrow"

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let it be me
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, September 1st (Wednesday)

Thought for the Day (Day 3)

"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."

Deuteronomy 31:6

I am NOT alone. I may not have what I want; however, I will always have what I need. True love, pure love, God's love. EVEN I DON'T DESERVE THIS LOVE for I have sinned against God and others, as well. Yet God gave grace through Christ that I may always reconcile myself back to God and continue my walk with Him as I transform more and more into an image of the Love that God has shown me through the sacrifices and love of Christ.

Today I will focus to captivate my thoughts until they serve Christ.

Asking for forgiveness from God and anyone I sin against, repenting and allowing God to take that and make it something beautiful!

*sighs*

I can do this and 'all things through Christ who strengthens me'.

Happy Wednesday!


Me/BS/40~Him/fWH/42 Both in IC
MC put 'on hold' till my IC agrees
DD~07/19/10 R on hold till my IC agrees
BP1 DX 10/2011&Complex PTSD 7/1998
"There are no mistakes in tomorrow"

Posts: 337 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Eastern NC
HPrynne
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Default  Posted: 1:17 PM, September 15th (Wednesday)

Something my BH passed on to me:
Commend your past to God's mercy;
Commend your future to God's providence;
Consecrate your prest to God's love.

I love what this means but I'm working on trying to figure out how to commend my past to God's mercy.


Me, FWW
Him, BH
Married: 17 years
DDay: Jan 2008
More TT: April 2008
Lie Detector test: July 2008
He said he forgives me: Feb 13, 2011
3 children (one of them during R -- what a blessing)

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crushed again
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, September 22nd (Wednesday)

Since I feel too ashamed to put this on the 'prayer list' at Church I'm posting it here.
Please pray for DS & I. DS is having awful depression due to the fact that WH is not home. He is also doing awful in school this year. He wants me to give WH another chance. I don't know if I can. Please pray that the Lord will show me what to do. I guess I'm asking for prayers of grace & strength. I am praying that God would really open Wh's eyes to all the devastation his selfishness has caused. Until then I don't believe I can give DS what he wants most.
I am starting to lose faith more & more each day. I need prayer on that also.
Thank-you all.


"Don't you worry your pretty little mind because people throw rocks at things that shine!"
~I guess living in limbo is my "new normal"- stinks!~

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HPrynne
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, September 27th (Monday)

Crushed Again,
I just saw your prayer request. I have started praying for you and your DS. I hope things are looking better for you this week.
HP


Me, FWW
Him, BH
Married: 17 years
DDay: Jan 2008
More TT: April 2008
Lie Detector test: July 2008
He said he forgives me: Feb 13, 2011
3 children (one of them during R -- what a blessing)

Posts: 220 | Registered: Mar 2008
Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 11:15 PM, September 27th (Monday)

Having some feelings like something isn't right here lately. Please pray for me and my family. If there is something going on I pray it will come to light now.

Oldest son is in a battle for his 3 y/o daughter. The xso is causing misery and stress with her lies. He has gone back to college and is struggling with all of this going on.

Your prayers and good thoughts are deeply needed and greatly appreciated.

I will remember each of you in my prayers.

Blessings all.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

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crushed again
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Default  Posted: 8:59 PM, September 28th (Tuesday)

HPrynne-

A big Thank-you! Your prayers are working. A much better week than last week.
Also I finally got up the strength to go to the DR.- I just started on AD's this week. DS is having a better week too- he just got off the phone w/WH. They were making plans for a snack/movie date! Seemed to cheer DS up

Again, I pray that the Lord would lovingly wrap his arms around everyone here on SI...

Almighty God our heavenly Father, graciously comfort & heal ALL hurting souls. It is in Your Son's precious name I pray- Amen.

Crushed1
Praying for you & your's.


"Don't you worry your pretty little mind because people throw rocks at things that shine!"
~I guess living in limbo is my "new normal"- stinks!~

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HPrynne
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, September 29th (Wednesday)

CA -- glad to hear things are looking better. Prayer is very powerful and amazing!

C1 -- I will keep you and your son and your granddaughter in my prayers too!
HP


Me, FWW
Him, BH
Married: 17 years
DDay: Jan 2008
More TT: April 2008
Lie Detector test: July 2008
He said he forgives me: Feb 13, 2011
3 children (one of them during R -- what a blessing)

Posts: 220 | Registered: Mar 2008
BoardPearl
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Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, October 2nd (Saturday)

I will be praying for you all.

I am amazed at what happened to me after asking for prayers here!

Thank you.

Prayers are powerful, and work.


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faithhopeandlove
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Default  Posted: 7:49 AM, October 9th (Saturday)

I know God can do all things. I am of the conviction my marriage its not over. The world calls it denial, I want to call it faith.

I am feeling very confused. I know what the word tells me what god wants for me, I know what I want for me... But ultimately if wh is not willing it doesn't matter what I or god wants.

Please pray for my understanding. I need a stepping stone for my faith today.


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urwyfe
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Wink  Posted: 11:30 AM, October 24th (Sunday)

@NEWT SEE INBOX
(HUGS FOR EVERONE)
PSALM 37
Never stop praying. Things may seem to go in slow motion, but God will deliver us.


BW 47/WH 47 Married 7+ years
together 16 1/2 years
DD#1 9/08, Reconciled 9/09
"There's a stranger in my house" the stranger no longer exists! Thank God!

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hitbyatruck
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Default  Posted: 7:30 PM, November 7th (Sunday)

just asking for some prayers to get past something.


Married 1998, 2 kids
D-day3/27/09,he left 5/23/09
WH wants to rebuild 3/21/10
He moved back in 9/25/10,
Dec, 2011-finally putting it all together, H had multiple affairs.
Possible porn addict for 15 yrs.
01/2014- in house separation

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notagainplease
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Default  Posted: 11:51 PM, November 11th (Thursday)

I have been separated from WH for 8 months now. After 45 years of marriage, I discovered H had been in LTA for years. Needless to say, I have gone through the various stages of grief.
So glad there is a prayer support forum here. I thought someone out there might benefit from a prayer my sister recently sent me. It made all the difference in the world for me!
Prayer of Release by Roy Lessin:
"I know the one in whom I trust, and I am sure that He is able to guard what I have entrusted to Him until the day of His return." II Tim. 1:12 "Heavenly Father,
I release to You the burdens that I have been carrying..burdens that You never intended for me to carry. I cast all my cares upon You, all my worries, all my fears.
Father, calm my restless spirit, quiet my anxious heart. Still my troubling thoughts with the assurance that You are in control. I let go of my grip upon the things I have been hanging onto. With open hands I come to You.
I thank You for Your promise to sustain me, preserve me, and guard all that I have entrusted to Your keeping. Protect my heart and mind with Your peace..the peace that passes all understanding. Father, may Your will be done in my life, in Your time and in Your way."
God bless all of you hurting hearts out there.

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looking forward
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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, November 26th (Friday)

I just found this thread!
I am so glad that we have this support through prayer.
I recently completed a three-part theological course called Living the Questions. One lesson was titled: Prayer: Intimacy With God. Its focus was the idea of prayer as the primary method of intereaction with God is best thought of as a way of life rather than an activity reserved for specific times, places, and formulas. Much of prayer's real power is in changing us. When we are changed, we may be able to see things in a new way or find the strength to live faithfully with what we cannot change.
This 21 part course contains many wonderful prayers, and if anyone reading would like to know more, please feel free to PM me.
So in parting,

O God,
thank you for people who nurture
childhood faith and teach,
in loving ways,
that your word is a light unto our path.
Thank you for all
the people who open our hearts and minds
to learn and grow.
Thank you for friends
in the faith,
people with whom
we can share
our struggles,
hunches, and joys.
Give us the courage
to not only study
the scriptures,
but also live your grace. In Christ's name.
Amen

(Cynthia Langston Kirk)

[This message edited by looking forward at 9:27 PM, November 26th (Friday)]


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

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looking forward
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, December 30th (Thursday)

A New Year’s Prayer
May God make your year a happy one!
Not by shielding you from all sorrows and pain,
But by strengthening you to bear it, as it comes;
Not by making your path easy,
But by making you sturdy to travel any path;
Not by taking hardships from you,
But by taking fear from your heart;
Not by granting you unbroken sunshine,
But by keeping your face bright, even in the shadows;
Not by making your life always pleasant,
But by showing you when people and their causes need you most, and by making you anxious to be there to help.
God’s love, peace, hope and joy to you for the year ahead.


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

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Lynn52
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, January 10th (Monday)

Asking for prayer for myself,WH and our children. 1st Dday was April 2009. It was a long road to R. It didn't really start until about Aug.2010. It's been up and down but getting better I thought, even a week vac. just the two of us over our wedding anniversary. Well big fight yesterday, worse than its been in a while. I said mean things to him like in the beginning. So today he tells me its just too much, he's done.Our youngest son is special needs he's going to have an extra hard time with a S.

Please pray that my family stays together and heals and grows. Prayers for my children that they end up with their parents together, happy and in love.

If anyone is willing to pray for my family I would appreciate it so much.


BW(me)-41
WH(him)-39
Married 19 years
3 Kids
DDay 4/06/09
Broken NC & TT until 6/01/10
Trying to R

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scamper10
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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, January 15th (Saturday)

praying Lynn.
Please Pray for my wh and I also. Beenn living seperately for 2 months, NC with him. I keep praying for him, I just don't know what God is doing with him, but I am NOt encouraged. He filed for D but I contested...and so I am letting it sit for its time right now...No quick decision...Praying Satan releases him and God brings him back to repentance and R so we can be a stronger and more effective ministry for HIM!..I love him, inspite od his "sins". Well, God loves me inspite of my imperfections, how can I bestow less than that on MY HUSBAND? I'm trying to be strong, courageous, and not lose Hope.
My family is also very angry. There are a lot of hearts that need mended and filled with love and forgiveness over this mess.
Oh and He is living with His ow, because he says he can't stay at our house...too many ghosts..NO DUH??!!

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Beat up
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Default  Posted: 1:10 PM, January 16th (Sunday)

Hi,

Can I request to be mentioned for strength for both me and my 2 boys?

I will mention all in my prayers also.

Thanks.

Mike


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Crushed1
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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, January 17th (Monday)

(((((everyone))))) Keeping you all in prayer...asking our Father to give strength, courage, and wisdom to each of us to face what comes our way each day.

God bless you all and please keep me and my family in your prayers. The Lord does hear us.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

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APRIL2008
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, January 19th (Wednesday)

Please pray for me and my family need all the strength I can get to continue on with my journey. I am confused and need direction. Need to free my head from conflict so that I can see what god has to show me and hear what he has to tell me. thank you in advance.


Me BGF28
XBF 29
DD 10
DS 7

“Was it hard?" I ask.
Letting go?"
Not as hard as holding on to something that wasn't real.”
― Lisa Schroeder


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jilteddad1
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, January 24th (Monday)

Beat up - I'm with you brother. I need prayer as well, we have 2 boys 17, 14 that my WW left along with me after 21 years of M in Oct saying she was in love with another man she met on face book 2 months prior. They hooked up for a weekend and I guess he got his because he seems to be out of the picture. After the holidays I thought she would be ready to come home. but not yet. I asked her is she has found someone new, she said no but it sure feels like it did before. Can anyone relate? I pray for everyone caught in this bear trap. I can't tell what my WW wants, I pray that she would hit bottom and realize what she's done.

[This message edited by jilteddad1 at 5:49 PM, January 24th (Monday)]


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crushed again
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Default  Posted: 12:00 AM, January 26th (Wednesday)

Hugs & prayers to EVERYONE on this thread and to everyone on SI as well. jilteddad1, APRIL2008, and everyone else with foggy spouses praying especially for you all. Asking the Lord to please open the eyes & hearts of those who still do not see pain and heartache they are causing with their sinful actions. May God bless &
Heal each & everyone one of us on this painful journey called infidelity. I ask this in Jesus' precious name. Amen.


"Don't you worry your pretty little mind because people throw rocks at things that shine!"
~I guess living in limbo is my "new normal"- stinks!~

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capri
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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, March 2nd (Wednesday)

I haven't posted in this thread in a long, long time, in part because I suspect wh knows my username and this site and I couldn't post what was really going on, for my own protection. But now he knows I've filed.

He acted very conciliatory last night, played the poor me, I know I've been a jerk routine, and I have no idea if it's true or not. He's seeing a laywer this morning. This is one of the little things that galls me. As a full time employee of a huge company, he has benefits like employee assistance to connect him up with a laywer in a heartbeat, something not quite so simple for a part time employee/ stay at home mom. But that's probably just a vent and frustration.

Please pray that he would genuinely move forward civilly with concern for the kids and be fair in alimony as I've given up 22 years of full time work which I can never recoup, please pray he wouldn't turn this into an ugly legal battle. Please pray for our children, who don't yet know. Please pray for me to have strength, as I not only have this to deal with, but an alcoholic, dysfunctional family and a mother who's already telling people I'm 'imagining' things regarding wh. It's likely their tongues will be wagging overtime about how stupid and awful I'm being and how I'm ruining all my children's lives.

Thank you.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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bumbed
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, March 6th (Sunday)

Please pray for me and my wayward. Pray that God opens our hearts and minds to each other so that we can see, feel and talk about his plan for us and our future.

Pray for strength, wisdom, comfort, peace and faith as we face this very difficult path for me and my SI family.


I rather suspect like all the worst things in life, making sense of it will not happen.


25 year relationship D day 1/28/11
The we door is closed but the ME doors are opening


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capri
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Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, March 19th (Saturday)

I met someone recently who very much needs prayer. She is living in a nightmare similar to many here, with an extremely emotionally abusive, controlling, and arrogant husband. She has been getting counseling and is slowly getting stronger, but sounds like she feels she has a long way to go. Please pray for her to overcome all his belittling and abuse, and to be able to take care of herself. He's threatening what he'll do if she divorces him, at the same time he insults her and tells her she's nothing and he doesn't like anything about her. My heart is breaking for her tonight.


Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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rcantbleveit
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, April 9th (Saturday)

It's so good to see that there are so many believers among us.

Our divorce was final last month. H is living with OW. They are out with friends of ours tonight. It just hurts so much to know that she has just stepped in and took over my life as if I didn't even exist.

Friends say they love my H and I both. They can't take sides & they have to support whatever decisions we've made.

That is great, however I'm the one that had to move and lost my community because of it, while OW enjoys my home, my friends, my husband, step sons & community.

I'm not angry about it. I'm just downright sad & lost. I love my H. He says he will always love me & he will be here if I need anything.

He won't talk about why he left or what he's doing. They have all the money they want & need. They travel and have fun constantly. I'm struggling to get through each day.

I pray for everyone of us going through the loss of their spouse/friend. I pray that God will completely fill us up with his love & comfort. I pray that we all get the necessary strength to make it through this trial and hold onto God the entire time.

God bless each and everyone of you.


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jdt1973
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Default  Posted: 9:45 PM, April 9th (Saturday)

Pray for me to stay NC. I have struggled the past two weeks pretty hard. And thus, it affects my wife when she senses my struggle. I know that God's best is with my wife and kids. I have believed the lies of Satan for so long, lies I took part in telling myself. I am having to "renew" my mind. Please pray that I will be faithful to see R through and that my very hurt wife will not give up.


After all is said and done, just shut the hell up.
WH(me) 38
BS 38
Togethher 21 years, married 19
5 kids - 17,15,12,10,2
DD#1 4/2001 - EA/PA
DD#2 10/2009 - EA/PA
DD#3 1/4/2011 - EA/PA same AP as DD#2
R - trying hard

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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, April 13th (Wednesday)

I, too, am asking for prayer for myself. I am still having major anxiety issues with all of this and the anxiety part of it is really starting to overwhelm me. I am personally struggling with my own faith through all this as well. Thank you.

And, I ask, too, that a prayer is said for my WH...."forgive him, for he knows not what he does".


BW - Me, 49 years old
WH - Him, 51 years old)
D-Day July 2010 (several D-days to follow)
Divorced February 7, 2012

Denial isn't the way to forgiveness. The Karma for screwing over a good girl is the Bitch you end up with.


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Default  Posted: 7:11 AM, April 17th (Sunday)

Our daughter is getting married in about a month.It has been difficult to plan the wedding while working on R in my marriage. Please pray that I am able to enjoy here day.



Me BS 41
WH 43
DS 12 DD 21
Married 23 years
DDay 6/26/10
Filed for divorce 11/23/11

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Rise_Above
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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, April 18th (Monday)


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

*****
God's hand was an avocado branch


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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, May 12th (Thursday)

I feel selfish asking for a prayer for myself but I'm hurting today. Thank you!


Me-BW (45)
Him-WS (42)
DS 19 (prior relationship)
DS-8
DDay #1- 10/22/2010 EA/PA with MOW coworker
Dday#2:11/17/2010 beginning secret emails with potential OW#2
DDay #3 11/22/2010 still seeing OW#1
Too many DD's to count: Now up to OW #6.

Posts: 696 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: the south
Rise_Above
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, May 12th (Thursday)

(((wifeno2))))


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

*****
God's hand was an avocado branch


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crushed again
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, May 17th (Tuesday)

Father God, I pray that you'll hear & answer every prayer on this board. If it be Your Will I pray that you will remove all ugliness & devastation to each and every hurting soul on here whether it be a BS or WS. Dear Lord please let the relationships (even those that seem broken beyond repair) be restored and healed by Your loving hands. Lord please let me remember that only You are the true vindicator & are a fair God of justice. I pray for the peace & wisdom I know only You can give me. I also pray that you will wrap your loving arms around my DS who is starting to doubt your existence in this ugly mess. Lord I pray for my home & life to be washed clean by Your healing blood. I know You don't like to see "your children" hurting. Please give me Your grace to move ahead in whatever direction YOU want me to go. Again Lord I ask that You wrap your loving arms around each and every SI member. Thank you for prayers answered in advance. In Jesus precious name I pray, Amen.


"Don't you worry your pretty little mind because people throw rocks at things that shine!"
~I guess living in limbo is my "new normal"- stinks!~

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Default  Posted: 10:47 PM, May 17th (Tuesday)

Just asking for prayer. Everyone is welcome to read my story. Thank you!


For better or for worse

Infidelity is a choice. There is no justification.


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diditagn
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, May 23rd (Monday)

This is a prayer that I found helpfull. It's a prayer for intercession from St. Jude, the Saint of the impossible causes.

I hope that this prayer can bring peace to someone.

“Saint Jude, we have problems in our relationship. Beg Almighty God to give us the light to see ourselves and each other as we really are. Help us to grow daily in self-knowledge and mutual love, while at the same time developing our potential to love and be loved. Help us, Saint Jude, to see and root out every manifestation of selfishness, vanity, and childish self-seeking—those hidden enemies of love and maturity. Show us that by learning to love and being filled with love, we may complement and nurture each other as we share our lives together.”


Happy people don't have the best things, they make the best with what they have.

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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, May 24th (Tuesday)

I wanted to share a miracle.

First, it is a miracle I am still married.

Sunday, May 22, 2011, I gave my W a chance to recommit her fidelity to me after we have worked for 31 months reconciling our relationship. This was the prayer.

Lord, Increase and consecrate the love which “D” and “T” have for one another. The wedding rings they once exchanged are the sign of their fidelity. May they continue to prosper in the grace of the sacrament. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Lord God and Creator, we bless and praise your name. In the beginning you made man and woman, so that they might enter a communion of life and love. You likewise blessed the union of “D” with “T”, so that they might reflect the union of Christ with his Church, look with kindness on them today. Amid the joys and struggles of their life, you have preserved the union between them, renew their marriage covenant, increase your love in them, and strengthen their bond of peace, so that “our children”, they may always rejoice in the gift of your blessing. We ask this through Christ our Lord. Amen.

Later that day Sunday, my friend of mine, who did not know about our renewal, sent me a picture. It was the back of our home. Look at that rainbow that happened the same day over my house.

Genesis 9:13: And God said, “I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth”

This was no coincidence on the day of our renewing our marriage covenant.

Peace be with you all.

[This message edited by trynhard at 2:49 PM, May 24th (Tuesday)]


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emotiona hell
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, May 26th (Thursday)

I gave WH the book, How to help your spouse heal from your Affair. Please pray that he reads it.He is not much of a reader. Also pray that he gets what God wants him to get from it.

[This message edited by emotiona hell at 11:24 AM, May 26th (Thursday)]



Me BS 41
WH 43
DS 12 DD 21
Married 23 years
DDay 6/26/10
Filed for divorce 11/23/11

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Rise_Above
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, June 21st (Tuesday)

trynhard~ that makes me

emotiona hell~ God, open Mr.eh's heart to hear the words You speak to heal another marriage covenant. Send comfort and love to emotiona and hold her close during this trial of life.


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

*****
God's hand was an avocado branch


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rcantbleveit
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Default  Posted: 9:27 AM, July 12th (Tuesday)

I spent some time with WH on the 4th. We cuddled up to talk and listen to some music. He didn't ask or want anything other than that.

I went to a cookout at friends and he suggested that I come back over afterwards.

After leaving his house, I realized that 3 prayers had been answered.

I've prayed so much over the last year that sometimes it just feels like God is not listening and I start to doubt, but then the proof that he's not only listening but making things happen shows up and that is amazing.

I'm still praying for a miracle. I want reconciliation & restoration. Everytime I start to give up, something comes along to give me hope. Our God is an awesome God! He can turn around any situation.

I know that H will eventually turn to God and will be saved. My biggest fear is that when he does, he will be with someone else or that he will come back to me but I will have moved on.

I'm so sick of Satan tearing apart marriages/families. Doesn't everyone just get tired of him winning so much? Why can't people see the devastation that happens from affairs and just walk away?

Pray that God will send armies of angels into every marriage/family for protection and give them the strength to make the right choices/decisions.

Thanks to those who have posted their miracles as well as answered prayers.


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painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, July 30th (Saturday)

Please pray for my entire family today. Has been a horrible week for myself, my H, and DS21.


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 33 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7056 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
Rise_Above
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Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, July 30th (Saturday)

May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. 1 Thessalonians 5:23

We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check. James 3:2

So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. James 1:4


You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli

*****
God's hand was an avocado branch


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heart_in_a_blend
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, July 30th (Saturday)

Even though I find myself physically single, I am never spiritually single as God is my husband, my provider, my Helper, my friend. I am never alone as He is my comforter even amongst my loneliness and tears, He will Always be faithful.


In life, much of what one grieves one never had.

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numb82010
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Default  Posted: 12:38 AM, August 15th (Monday)

I'm asking for prayers for my family and myself. My WH and I are in reconciliation, but extremely close to divorce. We both need wisdom and patience. We have 2 very young, precious girls who don't deserve to have a fractured family. Please pray that my WH and I have God's will as our own and that whatever the outcome, our daughters are happier, healthier, and stronger for it. Our family needs peace. Thank you!!


D-day #1: Aug. 20, 2010
D-day #2: June 21, 2011
2 Abandonments through-out 2011
Decision made to divorce Feb. 2012
Decision to reconcile March 2012
3 beautiful girls

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Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:48 AM, August 15th (Monday)

Praying for peace for you, numb.


It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb

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mrsdwp6
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Default  Posted: 8:44 AM, August 29th (Monday)

Prayers for my husband. That he find peace again. That God will show me new ways to love and cherish him. That the Lord continues to purify and refine me to be the wife and mother my husband and children deserve.


Me: WS
Him: BS
D-Day: 8/19/11
Working hard for R.

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emotiona hell
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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, September 28th (Wednesday)

I go for another pap test next week.
There was possible cancer cells on the first.I know you can have a false- positive.And there may be no need to worry.I believe I should start with prayer first, so please pray that everything is ok.



Me BS 41
WH 43
DS 12 DD 21
Married 23 years
DDay 6/26/10
Filed for divorce 11/23/11

Posts: 218 | Registered: Apr 2011
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:22 PM, September 28th (Wednesday)

My IC (a Christian, like me - or at least like I was six months ago...hard to say now) wants me to pray for the strength to pray for my STBXH. I'm not sure I even have that in me.

I need prayers for strength, healing, and faith.

I'm in a very broken/angry place and having trouble accepting that I still need the Lord in my life.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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shocked4
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, September 29th (Thursday)

I am so glad I found this post. It feels like faith is the only thing that will get me through this. My prayers are with you all.


D-Day August 17, 2011
M-23 years
4 children ages 10-23

Posts: 136 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Ohio
Laura28
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Default  Posted: 12:41 AM, October 13th (Thursday)

Hi

I'm bumping this thread for a devout friend who needs a lot of help. I have told him about SI and hope he joins the forum soon.

Hugs

Laura


Married 32yrs Me BW 57Yrs Him FWH 60yrs
OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted.
Dday May 28 2010.
OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years).
OW2 2002(8yrs PA).
OW3 2009(1Yr PA).
Others???? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck the goat"

Posts: 2748 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Australia
bellamaxjoy
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, October 20th (Thursday)

so glad to have found this thread! One of the things that has made it bearable for me is prayer. If I did not have the Lord to lean on, I would be so lost.
Amazonia, I am praying that you remember that God says He will NEVER leave you or forsake you.
Please pray for my husband to continue to be convicted of his wrong doing, and that he is open and honest during this reconciliation time. Please pray that I only respond to him in the way God wants me to. Pray for physical healing as well

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npain
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Default  Posted: 2:39 PM, October 20th (Thursday)

I pray daily with one of the ministers fom my church and it's really helping me to get through this rough time. My WH is totally remorseful/unrepentful and I'm parying for God to break him and take the scales off his eyes so he can see what he has done to me, his children and all those involved (he cheated for 4 yrs with another woman in our church so her family is badly affected too). He is still blameshifting and acting like he is the victim and everyone else needs to change. May God have mercy on his soul.


S,beginning D

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rcantbleveit
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Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, October 29th (Saturday)

I continue to pray for everyone that has been through this nightmare.

I pray that reconciliation and restoration happens for every marriage.

I pray for the WS to realize what they have done to their spouses and families.

I pray that the BS can forgive and continue loving.

I pray that if none of the above happens, that God will hold us closer & heal us in order that we may love and be loved again.

So far, God has answered so many of my prayers, it's been freaky. The one prayer he hasn't answered is bringing WS home.

I heard that God is not going to give you something that is not good for you so I pray that he change WS heart and shows him how to come home again.


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jjct
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Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, December 22nd (Thursday)

Praying for all of us today.
Lord grant us strength through these times.
Praying for woundedby2 and her little ones and dad.
Her mother passed away this morning.
Lord lift us, give us strength.

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, January 22nd (Sunday)

praying for you guys.

Please pray for me and family, that we get through a difficult time. Specifically if you could pray through psalm 91, aloud, on our behalf, that would be a great gift. I am being led to pray aloud through Scriptures, especially in intercession and I think it does make a difference in some way, even if it is just to strengthen our own faith.

__________________


Let us dwell in the secret place of the Most High and remain stable and fixed under the shadow of the Almighty [Whose power no foe can withstand].

Help us to say of You, "He is my Refuge and my Fortress, my God; on Him I lean and rely, and in Him I [confidently] trust!"

Deliver us from the snare of the fowler and from the deadly pestilence.

Cover us with Your pinions. Under Your wings let us trust and find refuge; Your truth and Your faithfulness are a shield and a buckler.

Let us not be afraid of the terror of the night, nor of the arrow (the evil plots and slanders of the wicked) that flies by day,

Nor of the pestilence that stalks in darkness, nor of the destruction and sudden death that surprise and lay waste at noonday.

Even though a thousand may fall at our side, and ten thousand at our right hand, let it not come near us.

You said "Only a spectator shall you be [yourself inaccessible in the secret place of the Most High] as you witness the reward of the wicked."

We believe that and choose to trust you, let us walk in that truth.

We make YOU our refuge, and the Most High our dwelling place,

Let no evil befall us, nor any plague or calamity come near our tent.

Give Your angels [especial] charge over us to accompany and defend and preserve us in all our ways [of obedience and service].

They shall bear us up on their hands, lest we dash our feet against a stone.

Let us tread upon the lion and adder; let us trample the young lion and the serpent underfoot.Guide us in paths of righteousness.

Christ set his love upon the Father, therefore you delivered him; We are in Christ, and now we need your deliverance. Deliver us Father. You have set us on high with Him, let us know and understand Your name [have a personal knowledge of Your mercy, love, and kindness--trust and rely on You, knowing You will never forsake us, no, never]

We call upon You now, answer us quickly for we are distressed; be with us in trouble, deliver us and honor us.

With long life satisfy us and show us Your salvation, your Yeshua. We ask all this in the name of Jesus.

thank you Father. Amen

[This message edited by Maia at 10:43 AM, January 22nd (Sunday)]


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 6:07 AM, January 23rd (Monday)

Praying psalm 91 for us today.

http://www.pray-the-scriptures.com/praypsalm91today/praypsalmtoday91html.html


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 6:18 AM, January 24th (Tuesday)

Praying for you all.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 9:29 AM, January 25th (Wednesday)

praying for the staff of SI and for our families.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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remindme11411
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Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, January 25th (Wednesday)

I need some prayers. Things have gotten really bad on my end.


BSO - Me (24)
WSO- Him (28)
13 month old DS
Status - not sure most days

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, January 26th (Thursday)

remind ...adding you to my list.

praying psalm 91 for us again today. If you have need of help, pray it aloud and then when doubt hits you, say aloud the promises of God that you know. or just say... "god is always working"

it is by these spoken acts of faith that we battle spiritually.

if you are struggling today, let this encourage you.


http://youtu.be/ntd18gxdSGk

[This message edited by Maia at 11:32 AM, January 26th (Thursday)]


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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BrokentoPieces10
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, January 30th (Monday)

May I please ask for prayers that I will have the courage to continue on the journey of self recovery, maintain NC, and that I will some day find peace within myself and be able to cope with the damage that I have done and feel like a human being again...

I also would like to ask for prayers for my BH...that he will also find peace within himself, and to not blame himself in any way for the pain that I have caused him. That he will regain his pride and feel like the man he was before he found out about my selfish choices.

My days are hard as hell to get through, but I can't even imagine how hard it is for him.

I just want him to be happy whether that means we will some day be reunited, or that our paths with continue to go separate ways.

Thank you.


WW: (Me) 20
BH: 20
Married: 10/11/2010
D-Day: 1/19/2012 :(
It was a dealbreaker--divorcing..

"After all this has passed, I still will remain. After I've cried my last, there'll be beauty from pain" -The Superchick


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Maia
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Default  Posted: 9:09 PM, January 31st (Tuesday)

Broken, am praying for you and your H. You must forgive yourself.

Praying for us all. Ps 91.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 4:57 PM, February 4th (Saturday)

praying


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, February 4th (Saturday)

Sending love and prayers to my SI friends. My heart has been heavy today for all the heartache here. May we heal and be well.


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"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


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Maia
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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, February 6th (Monday)

praying through my list for you guys.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, February 8th (Wednesday)

praying.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, February 9th (Thursday)

A new prayer!! Psalm 17 for us. I think I am going to do them both (91 and 17) for a while.

Hear me, LORD, my plea is just;
listen to my cry.
Hear my prayer—
it does not rise from deceitful lips.
Let my vindication come from you;
may your eyes see what is right.

Though you probe my heart,
though you examine me at night and test me,
you will find that I have planned no evil;
my mouth has not transgressed.
Though people tried to bribe me,
I have kept myself from the ways of the violent
through what your lips have commanded. My steps have held to your paths; my feet have not stumbled.

I call on you, my God, for you will answer me; turn your ear to me and hear my prayer. Show me the wonders of your great love, you who save by your right hand those who take refuge in you from their foes.

Keep me as the apple of your eye;
hide me in the shadow of your wings
from the wicked who are out to destroy me, from my mortal enemies who surround me.

They close up their callous hearts,
and their mouths speak with arrogance. They have tracked me down, they now surround me, with eyes alert, to throw me to the ground.

They are like a lion hungry for prey, like a fierce lion crouching in cover.

Rise up, LORD, confront them, bring them down; with your sword rescue me from the wicked. By your hand save me from such people, LORD, from those of this world whose reward is in this life.
May what you have stored up for the wicked fill their bellies; may their children gorge themselves on it, and may there be leftovers for their little ones.

As for me, I will be vindicated and will see your face; when I awake, I will be satisfied with seeing your likeness.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 8:56 AM, February 15th (Wednesday)

praying for us.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, February 17th (Friday)

praying for us.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, February 28th (Tuesday)

praying.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, March 12th (Monday)

Father,

I just lift up to you the hearts of those gathered here and ask for your spirit to fall and for hope and faith, for love and blessing. I ask for an outpouring of your grace and mercy to stand and for resolution, understanding, clarity and lie. I ask that we might walk in the truth and live in the truth and not be hindered or deceived by lies. I ask for that hedge of protection around us and for your angels to guard all our paths. I ask for joy.

in the name of Jesus

amen

[This message edited by Maia at 8:36 PM, March 12th (Monday)]


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, March 17th (Saturday)

St Patricks Breastplate - for the families here. Praying it now, I hope you will join me.

_______

I bind unto myself today
The strong Name of the Trinity,
By invocation of the same,
The Three in One and One in Three.

I bind this day to me for ever.
By power of faith, Christ's incarnation;
His baptism in the Jordan river;
His death on Cross for my salvation;
His bursting from the spicèd tomb;
His riding up the heavenly way;
His coming at the day of doom;*
I bind unto myself today.

I bind unto myself the power
Of the great love of the cherubim;
The sweet 'well done' in judgment hour,
The service of the seraphim,
Confessors' faith, Apostles' word,
The Patriarchs' prayers, the Prophets' scrolls,
All good deeds done unto the Lord,
And purity of virgin souls.

I bind unto myself today
The virtues of the starlit heaven,
The glorious sun's life-giving ray,
The whiteness of the moon at even,
The flashing of the lightning free,
The whirling wind's tempestuous shocks,
The stable earth, the deep salt sea,
Around the old eternal rocks.

I bind unto myself today
The power of God to hold and lead,
His eye to watch, His might to stay,
His ear to hearken to my need.
The wisdom of my God to teach,
His hand to guide, His shield to ward,
The word of God to give me speech,
His heavenly host to be my guard.

Against the demon snares of sin,
The vice that gives temptation force,
The natural lusts that war within,
The hostile men that mar my course;
Or few or many, far or nigh,
In every place and in all hours,
Against their fierce hostility,
I bind to me these holy powers.

Against all Satan's spells and wiles,
Against false words of heresy,
Against the knowledge that defiles,
Against the heart's idolatry,
Against the wizard's evil craft,
Against the death wound and the burning,
The choking wave and the poisoned shaft,
Protect me, Christ, till Thy returning.

Christ be with me, Christ within me,
Christ behind me, Christ before me,
Christ beside me, Christ to win me,
Christ to comfort and restore me.
Christ beneath me, Christ above me,
Christ in quiet, Christ in danger,
Christ in hearts of all that love me,
Christ in mouth of friend and stranger.

I bind unto myself the Name,
The strong Name of the Trinity;
By invocation of the same.
The Three in One, and One in Three,
Of Whom all nature hath creation,
Eternal Father, Spirit, Word:
Praise to the Lord of my salvation,
Salvation is of Christ the Lord.

_______________________________________


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, March 28th (Wednesday)

Prayers for all on SI.
Love you guys.

Here's a site of Christian/inspirational videos I found. Pretty much a cryfest for me. They're good tears.

http://www.godvine.com/Christian-Athlete-Takes-a-Fall-But-Still-Wins-the-Race-378.html


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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, March 30th (Friday)

I originally posted this in General forum, but here is a good home.

I came accross this prayer about a year ago. I keep a copy in my wallet. I've often found it helpful to relieve anger, depression, and stress.
But to be honest there's been quite a few times it didn't help - but I found it helped the more I persevered.

Needless to say, I've got it completely memorized by now and have modified it for my situation.

Here's the generic version.

Father I choose to forgive in obedience to you and your word. I forgive (_______) for (_________) and ask you to make that forgiveness real and complete in me as you lift off the layers of hurt. Father give me the strength and willingness to persevere in choosing forgiveness until it is accomplished in me by your Holy power.

Father, I let go of all anger, resentment, bitterness and judgements in my heart. Wash me clean with the blood of Jesus.

Help me to look with compassion on the sinner. Renew a right spirit within me.

Bless those who hurt me. I release them to your care.

I forgive as Jesus forgives me.

In His glorious name, Amen.


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FWW (CSA)44
3 Kids 17-23
DDay1 - 01/08/08 finaly found proof but still denied all.
DD2 31/08/2009 admited 4 cheats - one total stranger
DD3 20/01/2010 admitted 3 more

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Default  Posted: 8:04 PM, March 30th (Friday)

Now that's a beautiful prayer!

I knew right away that I couldn't forgive so I asked him to do it for me.

Pretty cool. He did it. not me.
Praise HIM! not me.


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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, April 3rd (Tuesday)

Prayer Changes Things!

It is so true!


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DDay: May 23,09 DDay #2: 9/09
R: Slowly...


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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, April 4th (Wednesday)

praying for you guys this morning.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 6:28 AM, April 8th (Sunday)

Happy Easter. Lifting you all up this morning.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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BoardPearl
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, April 8th (Sunday)

Dear Lord,

I pray for the people suffering now and you know their heart. You know their plea for help and their pain.

Take away their worries and sorrows and let it give space in their lives. Take it and make it into something good. Something they can deal with in the long run. Something that brings peace to their hearts.

Make them aware of their courage and strength, Lord. So that they can walk through this step by step.

Protect them and stand by them.

I pray for those who are suffering. Who are asking for prayers. Make it known that you protect and want the best for their loved ones.

Amen.


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Maia
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, April 9th (Monday)

Father this morning I pray for truth. I pray for truth in the inmost heart in the hearts of the couples represented on this board, I pray that the spirit of truth would come and rest upon them. I pray that they would not deceive themselves or each other in any minute way but that they would see the truth, accept the truth, live in light of the truth and reject deception in all its forms. I ask for truth.

I also ask for grace father. I ask for grace poured out in abundance on the lives and hearts and marriages and children presented here, that it could be both received and extended. That it would be perceived. That it could be accepted and that it would do its transforming work. I ask for grace and truth.
and you know that means I'm asking you to show up. Because you are grace and truth.

and I know that you will. thank you Lord.

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 7:25 AM, April 10th (Tuesday)

Help us to hear your voice and obey it, and to love this day.

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, April 10th (Tuesday)

“I WILL PILOT THREE”

“Sometimes, when my faith would falter
And no sun-light I can see;
I just lift mine eyes to Jesus
And I whisper, “Pilot me.”

Often, when my soul is weary
And the days seem, oh, so long.
I just look up to my Pilot
And I hear this blessed song;

Fear thou not, for I’ll be with thee
I will still thy pilot be;
Never mind the tossing billows,
Take my hand and trust in Me.”

When temptations’ round me gather
And I almost lost my way,
Somehow, in the raving tempest,
I can hear my Saviour say,

When I come to Jordan’s river
And its troubled waters see,
On the brink I’ll see my Saviour
And I know He’ll pilot me.

Fear thou not, for I’ll be with thee
I will still thy pilot be;
Never mind the tossing billows,
Take my hand trust in Me.”

Mrs. Emily D. Wilson


In life, much of what one grieves one never had.

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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, April 14th (Saturday)

Lord, with this exhale I release to you my sins. I release my hurt and my fear and my doubt. With my next breath, fill me please with the Holy Spirit. Teach me to be strong and to forgive as you have commanded. Hold my hand and guide me through it until I can do it myself.

Help the other families here. Fill them as well that they may breathe easier and walk more freely in your love and forgiveness. Teach all of us how.

Through you all things are possible, I know that Lord, but help me live it.
Amen


Me- BS 29
Him- WH 28
kids- 4.5 boy and 3 year old old girl.
D-Day August 2010.
TT 4/11/12
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Maia
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Default  Posted: 7:09 AM, April 16th (Monday)

Father,

I ask for your Life to shine forth today, Your Word and your Spirit, to pour out on each family here and grant mercy and peace, wisdom and hope. I ask this in Jesus name and for his glory,

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 7:13 AM, April 17th (Tuesday)

Father in heaven,

I ask for a renewal and a pouring forth of your healing on each family represented here today.

Amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 9:05 AM, April 24th (Tuesday)

Father, speak to the hearts of those here with the words that they need. Inspire conversations, with you and through you to those they love. Bring your healing.

Amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 12:33 PM, April 24th (Tuesday)

Thanks, Maia, for bringing this thread back to page 1.
I carry this little poem in my wallet. It's printed on a laminated card 2" x 3.5".

The Cross in my Pocket
I carry a cross in my pocket
A simple reminder to me
Of the fact that I am a Christian
No matter where I may be.

This little cross is not magic
Nor is it a good luck charm.
It isn't meant to protect me.
From every physical harm.

It's not for identification
For all the world to see.
It's simply an understanding
Between my Savior and me.

When I put my hand in my pocket
To bring out a coin or key.
The cross is there to remind me
Of the price He paid for me.

It reminds me, too, to be thankful
For my blessings day by day
And strive to serve Him better
In all that I do and say.

It's also a daily reminder
Of the peace and comfort I share
With all who know my Master
And give themselves to His care.

So, I carry a cross in my pocket
Reminding no one but me
That Jesus Christ is Lord of my life Him be.


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, May 12th (Saturday)

Thanks for the prayer support of this forum.

...bringing this thread back to page 1


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Maia
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, May 23rd (Wednesday)

Father,

thank you for the encouragement you have poured on me today and for speaking to me about hope.

LORD, speak to the hearts of those desperate wounded souls here who desperately need your mercy and love. And grant your favor and redemption on each family represented here. give provision where it is needed and healing for the wounds.

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, May 27th (Sunday)

Father, please bring healing to the BSs today.
especially to my husband.

let the wounds we have caused them become honor scars, memorials to love and strength and redemption and healing... Not shameful reminders of hate, touchy points of accusation and hidden anger. amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, May 29th (Tuesday)

Father,

I don't even know where to begin.

thank you for your mercy.

please help us. I know you see the pain. I claim the mercy and strength you have already provided, for the day. Grant us the grace to receive them.

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, May 31st (Thursday)

Father,

I claim the marriages and families here for your kingdom, your will be done.

Amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, June 1st (Friday)

Father, pour forth the Spirit of the Lord let us receive your good news. I proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, release for the oppressed in the mighty name of Jesus.

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Maia
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, June 3rd (Sunday)

Father, my prayer today is for DS and MH and all of the staff here, that you provide, protect, shelter and guide them in all their ways.

thank you

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, July 7th (Saturday)

First, I pray for willingness from my Higher Power (who I will call God).

God, grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change about myself-- my addiction, and the painful consequences of the terrible things I've done.

God, grant me the courage to change the things I can change about myself-- my addictive cycle, maintaining sobriety, focusing my daily decision on important values (empathy, integrity and family), and surrendering resentments to you before they fester.

God, grant me the wisdom to understand the difference between the things I can change and the things I cannot. I can't fix everything that is wrong.

God, help me to remember to talk to you today, tomorrow, the next day, and the day after.

God, help me to love myself.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


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nealos
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Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, July 15th (Sunday)

God, I pray for help.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, July 17th (Tuesday)

Our Father, who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.

Lord, make my life according to Your will. I have spent almost 31 years trying to make it by my will, thinking that I know better. Help me to give it over to You.

Give us this day our daily bread.

You bless me with so much, Lord. A good job that puts a roof over my head and food in my mouth. The health of my XH and my family. The rebuilding of past hurt relationships and the building of new ones.

And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.

Please forgive me, Lord, for my sins, both grievous and trivial. Forgive me for committing adultery and breaking the most sacred bond You created. Forgive me for all I have done and all I have failed to do. Help me to do better. And help me to forgive others for their negative acts against me. No one is perfect, Lord; no one is without sin. Help me to look on others with the same grace and mercy that You have shown me.

Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.

Lord, protect and defend me from all temptation that leads to sin, physically as well as in my mind. Help me to stay on the path to goodness, righteousness, willingness to work, patience and virtue.

For the Kingdom and the Power and the Glory are yours, now and forever. Amen.

Amen.


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Reconciled and remarried.


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nealos
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Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, July 21st (Saturday)

God-- help me to remember to talk to you. to soften me so I trust you. to help me to think to thank you or the good moments and not just ask for help in the challenging ones. to show me the right things to do. to give me to the courage to do what is right.

God-- help me to make the next best decision. help me to not get overwhelmed with what I cannot control. help me to accept life on life's terms

God-- I pray for J. protect her because I can't. allow her to know your will and to find contentment in it. I hope your will brings her joy and happiness.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


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Default  Posted: 10:36 AM, July 23rd (Monday)

Wow! The Recovery Prayer (May 2010) really speaks to me. I have been struggling with bitterness & resentment too long. Even though I am blessed with an adoring repentent spouse, I begrudged what little attention he gave to a would-be OW before he backed away from her. When he is complimenting me or stroking my face lovingly, I would find myself wishing SHE could see or hear it. I would dredge up old hurts from my S during the day and focus on bitterness. It doesn't help that I have an almost photographic memory, so I NEVER forget old hurts. But last night I asked God to help me to see things differently, to truly forgive and focus on what matters now. This morning I feel so at peace - still remember all this stuff, but dispassionately and without anger. Praise him! And please pray that this continues. (((Hugs to all)))


excerpt from an awesome quote "Forgiveness - the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."

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Default  Posted: 10:35 PM, August 1st (Wednesday)

God, it's hard for me not to tell you what your will is-- I want to. I want to pray to you for outcomes and to wish my wishes so that they may come true. I want what I want most of the time... and my wants are only going to materialize if what I want happens to coincide with your will.

I'm tired of being disappointed and wrong; I want YOUR will, God. I pray for willingness to have faith in you-- that your will is something I accept without knowing what it is or understanding it. I think that coincides with the serenity I've been taught to pray for-- to accept the things I cannot change. I cannot change your will, God. I know that.

I'm concerned about J, God. I want her to heal from my infidelity-- I want her to know peace and confidence and love... I want that to be your will, because that is what I want for her. God, please help calm me and soften me to your will. I can't control this. I want to contact her and try to control everything and make this all better. It's so scary, God... I want to trust you. I pray for willingness to surrender all of my shit, God-- to trust you. Please help me to trust you.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, August 20th (Monday)

I pray for strength in my marriage, Lord. Please help us both make you the center of our lives and marriage. I pray that you provide us resolve to move forward with the true healing that I know only comes from your love and unending grace. We are so unworthy, yet you love us still..... thank you. Thank you for who you are and for all that you do for us.

Amen.


me: heartbroken
him: the one who did it
in R

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nealos
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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, August 21st (Tuesday)

God, please help J. please please please please.... don't let me have ruined her, please. Please give her strength. Please give her peace. Please give her hope for her future relationships. Please, god-- I don't know how else to pray for this. I know you don't grant wishes, but I'm so scared, God. I'm so scared. Is it okay to ask for things for other people, God?... I don't want this for myself. I want her to be better-- if that means moving on from me, then I pray for your will, God. Please watch over her and protect her, because I cannot.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


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Maia
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Default  Posted: 7:02 AM, August 23rd (Thursday)

Father,

thank you for hearing us. Thank you for your promises. You said "if anyone lacks wisdom let him ask of God who gives bountifully and without reproach and it will be given."

Lord, give us wisdom. Show us how to love. Show us how to live. Show us how to overcome our own flesh and to live guided by You and Your heart.

Father provide your Spirit in an outpouring of grace for us this day and let us walk in the freedom you so dearly bought for us. Help us to live in that freedom, unfettered by shame and bitterness and resentment and anguish. Heal us Lord.

grant us your favor and blessing and life, your cunning and your motives, your desires, your truth.

in Jesus name

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, August 25th (Saturday)

Tonight, as I join this support site as a new member, I will say my prayers here.

Dear God,

My husband is my world, my strength, my hope, my joy, my everything. I pray for him so deeply, with intense love, gratitude, empathy, and hope. I pray for him to find peace, clarity, closure, and faith. I pray that he will open his arms and heart to me and allow me to be there for him, always. I pray for him to have the strength to be patient and to have faith that we can work through this, slowly and hand in hand. I pray that he sees the love and commitment in my heart, the passion and actions to show that he, and our beautiful children, are the commitment that I will always live for, love for, and dedicate all of myself to.

Dear God... I pray for our relationship and strength. I pray we can put faith in each other and make this journey together. I love him with all of my heart.

Thank you, I believe in you, I trust you, and I pray that you believe in me. Amen.


I hit rock bottom... I am determined that my rock bottom will be the solid foundation on which I build my life.

He means everything to me... always has, always will.


Posts: 3 | Registered: Aug 2012
nealos
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Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 11:12 PM, August 30th (Thursday)

God, thank you for helping to keep me focused on you these past few days. I feel stronger because I believe in you, and I believe you hear me when I speak to you... usually :) Letting you back into my life wasn't painful and it was only scary at first-- thank you for your grace and your willingness to let yourself be known by me.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
Crushed1
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Member # 6449
Default  Posted: 11:48 PM, August 30th (Thursday)

Praying for you (((nealos))) and everyone who is in need. May the Lord bless you all and keep you safe.


~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH

Posts: 9710 | Registered: Feb 2005 | From: Texas
Maia
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Member # 8268
Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, August 31st (Friday)

Father thank you, thank you for these dear souls who are seeking life and redemption and compassion and strength. Thank you for this place where You move in your love to help them. Thank you for each family and thank you for the work you are already doing to heal.

Lord I lift up each member right now and ask for your healing love and grace to pour out like a flood.

amen


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

Posts: 6152 | Registered: Sep 2005 | From: I am a Bluegrass-American
justjul
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Member # 36383
Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, September 2nd (Sunday)

Dear Lord. Please help.


DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: On the other side of the world (most likely)
nealos
Member
Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, September 3rd (Monday)

God-- relieve me of the bondage of self, so that I may better do thy will. Please guide me from this feeling of uselessness.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
lost2012
Member
Member # 35325
Default  Posted: 7:40 PM, September 9th (Sunday)

Sending prayers to all of you on here! I like to pray that your spouses "get struck by lightning" and they realize what they are losing. Can I ask for lots of prayers too? Dday for me was about 6 months ago. He has seen an IC for about a month. He moved out two months ago.He will not go to MC with me. He says he will work on himself. It's my fault he got validation from her, and if he's just a friend in his head, what is wrong with that? You can read my profile, but basically they took our kids out on weekends when I work 12 hours as a nurse, and he called her every day. I'm going out of town for a week and he wants to file for D when I get back. My only hope is that I went to a new counselor this week who suggested that I have him come in and talk to my counselor about how awful I am and how to fix me, and hopefully he can be convinced that it took two. Cuz I'm a crazy nag and I dont let things go and I certainly wont let this go.so it's all my fault.So I know anything can be accomplished through Christ, or Christ just has different plans for me and my children.


Dday- March 1, 2012
M 17 years
EA? 4 years
2 boys ages 10 and 12
Divorced- 12/17/2012

Posts: 96 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Illinois
justjul
Member
Member # 36383
Default  Posted: 12:49 PM, September 10th (Monday)

Father, allow nealos to feel Your presence, Your compassion and love. Fill nealos with Your wisdom and guidance.

Father, I pray for lost2012 that you lead her according to Your will, that you fill her with comfort and strength and wisdom. Watch over her children and keep them safe and protected. I also pray for her WH, that You open his heart to the truth of his actions and help him face them.

Amen.

--

Can I request prayers too. I'm sort of falling apart anew, worse perhaps than DDay. Long, horrendous panic attacks. Fear of everything that's paralyzingly me.. A WH who's so extremely foggy who's still seeing / talking to OW.. "just friends" but "just friends" don't have fantasies about being married! My heart hurts..figuratively AND literally. I'm lost

[This message edited by justjul at 12:51 PM, September 10th (Monday)]


DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: On the other side of the world (most likely)
justjul
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Member # 36383
Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, September 15th (Saturday)

I keep getting shattered over and over again. I feel so alone, so lost..


DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: On the other side of the world (most likely)
crushed again
Member
Member # 26138
Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, September 15th (Saturday)

Sending up immediate prayers to Father God for everyone on here. Our God is Soveriegn and YES, He cares.


"Don't you worry your pretty little mind because people throw rocks at things that shine!"
~I guess living in limbo is my "new normal"- stinks!~

Posts: 713 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: Dreaming of a far better place!
nealos
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Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 11:11 PM, September 18th (Tuesday)

God, thank you for the insights you've revealed to me these past few weeks. Thank you for the healthy relationships you've opened up in my life. Thank you for not giving up me when I gave up on you.

Please grant me courage to change the things about myself that I can change-- help to swiftly understand your will for me. Soften me to your love... help me find you within.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
ShellyBean2012
Member
Member # 36268
Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, September 19th (Wednesday)

Please pray that I will get a full-time job soon. If I don't find FT work soon, I don't know what I'll do.

I'm so scared.


Me: BW (44 yo then); Him: WH (46 yo); No kids
DDay: 6-15-12
M 13.5 yrs; T 14 yrs (at the time)

Onward!


Posts: 225 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: the South
justjul
Member
Member # 36383
Default  Posted: 1:59 PM, September 19th (Wednesday)

Thank you, Father, for sending me messengers to remind me that, yes, You are with me and I am not alone. I needed and continue to need that.

Continue, Lord, to guide nealos, to show him Your will. Let him know Your presence and ever powerful, constant love for him.

Comfort ShellyBean, Father, in this time of uncertainty, because even though we don't know what will happen, You do. You know our needs and You will always, always provide. Open doors of opportunity for her so that she may find a fulltime job, Lord. Bring her into a place where she will not only be a blessing, but receive blessings as well.

Amen.


DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: On the other side of the world (most likely)
ShellyBean2012
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Member # 36268
Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, September 19th (Wednesday)

Thank you, Justjul.

Father, I ask that you give us all what we need right when we need it most: your comfort, your forgiveness, your strength, and your protection.

Help me be a blessing to another.


Me: BW (44 yo then); Him: WH (46 yo); No kids
DDay: 6-15-12
M 13.5 yrs; T 14 yrs (at the time)

Onward!


Posts: 225 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: the South
ptsdrecon
Member
Member # 36031
Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, September 20th (Thursday)

I pray and pray for God to keep his hand on me. Please add me and my wife and family to your prayers.

I have been in IC since right before DD, and it is helping me to get out a lot of pain and my emotions are all over the map. (Crying, sobbing, laughing, laughing and sobbing at the same time...) I finally said it out loud... She broke my heart. As most of you know, the pain is excruciating. Lord, bless me indeed...

Please pray for my wife. She is struggling and just started IC. She is trying to focus on herself and is facing difficult things. When I broke down last night she said, "Would it be easier for you if I leave?" Not easy for me to hear, but her pain and fear hurt me and add uncertainty...

The OM was supposed to be our friend. That adds to both our hurts... We are not joining intimately either, so please pray for us to be bound together as God intends and when he intends it.

I pray for strength, compassion and Grace for us both... Please lift us up!


Me BH (48)
Her FWW (39 + 1/2)
Married 12+
2 Angels 8 10
D-Day Feb 1 2012
6 month EA PA

Posts: 159 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: USA
justjul
Member
Member # 36383
Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, September 23rd (Sunday)

Sending a prayer up for everyone here, for continued strength and comfort, for discernment and wisdom, for forgiveness and love.


Would like to add my prayer request for a job, too.


DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: On the other side of the world (most likely)
windows
Member
Member # 14054
Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, September 24th (Monday)

Dear God,
Please help me find our cat. And please tell him I am sorry I made him move....:(. Please keep him safe...Me

Posts: 398 | Registered: Mar 2007
justjul
Member
Member # 36383
Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, September 29th (Saturday)

Windows, did you find your cat? *hugs*


I'm lost again. I'm feeling numb...Had been hoping for some sign... And instead got the opposite. I know it is not to be my will... But I'm feeling lost...I don't know where to go from here.


DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: On the other side of the world (most likely)
justjul
Member
Member # 36383
Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, October 3rd (Wednesday)

The pain is too much, Lord. It's too much.


DDay: 6 August 2012
Me: BS (30s)
Him: WH (30s)
Together 2001; Married 2009
No children

Posts: 151 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: On the other side of the world (most likely)
ShellyBean2012
Member
Member # 36268
Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, October 7th (Sunday)

Dear Lord,

Please comfort justjul. Let her rest in the palm of your hand and feel your strength during this rough time.

Lord, please strengthen all of us suffering during our difficult situations. Let us know that you are with us and holding us up as we move forward in our lives.

And please please send me a job with healthcare soon so I can support myself.

I ask for all these things in Jesus' name. Amen.


Me: BW (44 yo then); Him: WH (46 yo); No kids
DDay: 6-15-12
M 13.5 yrs; T 14 yrs (at the time)

Onward!


Posts: 225 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: the South
DontTreadOnMe
Member
Member # 35240
Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, October 11th (Thursday)

I'm writing here to request prayer. My wife and I are madhatters. Her DDay was very recent. I'm praying that she is able to heal, and finds forgiveness some day. I'm also praying for help in my recovery from addiction. Thanks fellow SIers.


Me: WH/BH, 27 (addict in recovery)
Her: Lost333, BW/FWW, My DDay: 2/19/12, Hers: 9/29/12

Working on myself through IC, NA meetings, intensive outpatient program, and lots of digging. Praying for R.


Posts: 230 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Midwest
nealos
Member
Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 8:56 PM, November 13th (Tuesday)

god please help me to be patient-- please hep me to trust in your will


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
nealos
Member
Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 2:26 PM, November 17th (Saturday)

I'm scared, God. I want to surrender my will to you-- please grant me the strength and courage to do that. Please protect and care for J.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
nealos
Member
Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 9:06 AM, November 20th (Tuesday)

God please help me make it through today.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
Missymomma
Member
Member # 36988
Default  Posted: 9:12 AM, November 20th (Tuesday)

I do believe in the power of prayer. Don't know if anyone is reading this thread, it seems quite old. Please pray for a member whose SA husband raped and beat her. Please pray for her recovery and safety.


DDay - 6/15/11
R started - 7/1/11
False Discl- 9/27/12
Real Discl - 2/12/13
Poly - 3/1/13 Pass!
Me - BS (46)
WH - 52 (SA, NA, WA)
Kids: 2 littles and 1 grown
The road to recovery is long and hard. Some days I am up for it and others not!

Posts: 1084 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Texas
Ready_to_run
Member
Member # 20954
Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, November 20th (Tuesday)

A prayer going out here, Missy.

Lord please be with this woman in her time of need and let her know that she did nothing to deserve this. Watch over her and keep her safe. SA is such an insidious addiction and excruciatingly painful for the victims. Please help her husband to do whatever it takes to get the help that he needs. Let your will be done, lord, we trust you to make all wrongs right. Amen.


BH
Divorced


Posts: 750 | Registered: Sep 2008
heartbroken0903
Member
Member # 27879
Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, November 21st (Wednesday)

Prayers for all who need them...

Lord, we ask You for Your blessings and help for everyone who needs You. Please wrap all who cry for You in Your arms. Amen.

For Thanksgiving:

"Give thanks unto the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever." Psalm 107.1


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Reconciled and remarried.


Posts: 2128 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
putonahappyface
Member
Member # 30269
Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, November 27th (Tuesday)

Sending up a prayer for everyone who needs a boost today! And asking for prayers that God will send either a CSAT or a great IC to my WH. He is looking & trying so hard, & anyone remotely qualified is gone or fully booked. And I could use some IC too... Thanks, & Blessings to all!


BS (me) - 50; SAWH- 51 (hurtherbadly)
Married 26 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)


Posts: 720 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Bluegrass
nealos
Member
Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, December 12th (Wednesday)

Thank you for willingness. I know from my past that I do not have what it takes to do this alone. Thank you thank you thank you.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
nealos
Member
Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 9:30 AM, December 26th (Wednesday)

god, I feel disconnected. I know it's my fault. I pray that I recognize your will when you show it to me, and I pray that you remain present in my daily choices.

god, also be with J. If she's sad like I am, I pray that you comfort her. I pray for her happiness-- that has to be your will, right?


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
putonahappyface
Member
Member # 30269
Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, December 26th (Wednesday)

Nealos~ I just happened to read most of your story/posts in the Wayward forum started by Missing. I can't post there, but I just wanted to tell you that I admire your strength & courage. I'm rooting for you, & I do believe you'll beat this addiction & find peace, joy & happiness again.

My WH's story is so very similar to yours, with a few exceptions. He's on day 42 of his sobriety & 12 step program. He shares your determination to break the chains of his porn addiction, so I find myself cheering for you the same as I am for him. I'm sorry for your sadness. I would just encourage you to focus solely on your recovery & your happiness. Keep working the steps, reading & posting.

I wish my H would write things out the way you do, but it's just not his thing. Anyway, I just wanted you to know that your words have helped someone. Reading them in some way helped me to understand the struggle, the addiction. And when you described the good people at your 12 step mtg, I thought to myself that my H could be one of those people! He IS a good man; you both are. God's forgiveness & grace is available to both of you. Best of luck to you on your journey of healing & recovery. I'll keep you in my prayers. (((Nealos)))


BS (me) - 50; SAWH- 51 (hurtherbadly)
Married 26 yrs
2 DS - 21&17
Dday 6/4/2010. 2 EA/PA
11/15/12 update: discovered porn addiction
4 years out: M is strong; FWH is a new man :)


Posts: 720 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Bluegrass
nealos
Member
Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 12:50 PM, January 1st (Tuesday)

god,
please grant me the courage to stay sober another day.
please grant me the willingness and strength to reach out to when I don't want to.
please be with J and help her today.


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
AFrayedKnot
Member
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, January 1st (Tuesday)

God thank you for everything that has happened in my life. I would not be who I am if I had not been where I had been.

Please help others here find that acceptance, faith, and peace that you have given me.

Please help me not to forget that every minute is a miracle.


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2575 | Registered: Aug 2012
shocked4
Member
Member # 33447
Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, January 21st (Monday)

I have not been here for a while, but for the first few months I spent hours upon hours on here. It was exptremely helpful. To find out I was not alone was so comforting. I turned to God out of so much pain. The Lord has taken me on an incredible journey. I do not want to offend anyone. I will say I have been blogging about my experience. In no way do I benefit if anybody reads it. It is from a Christian perspective. I just want to offer it if anyone may find it helpful. The site is free and has an amazing community of believers.

http://www.prayerrequest.com/blog/255-chiltons-blog/

I continue to pray all your wounds be healed and the Lord gives You his strength and guidance.


D-Day August 17, 2011
M-23 years
4 children ages 10-23

Posts: 136 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: Ohio
Fidelia
Member
Member # 38345
Default  Posted: 9:31 AM, February 6th (Wednesday)

Please be praying for us. I'm scared that I want this more than WH. But most of all I'm scared because WH (former preacher) seems to have lost all faith in God as part of the discovery of the affairs.

I'm so lonely at church each Sunday, wanting him back sitting beside me. I just want him to know how much God loves him.


Me: BW 36
Him: WH 36 (randomusername)

"lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather be healed" Heb12v13

"Oh God give me


Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2013
AFrayedKnot
Member
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, February 6th (Wednesday)

Hugs and prayers sent


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2575 | Registered: Aug 2012
AFrayedKnot
Member
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, February 6th (Wednesday)

Hugs and prayers sent


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2575 | Registered: Aug 2012
Fidelia
Member
Member # 38345
Default  Posted: 12:31 AM, February 10th (Sunday)

Thank you.

I've had a rough week emotionally, feeling near the end of my tether. Please be praying for us.


Me: BW 36
Him: WH 36 (randomusername)

"lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees, and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint, but rather be healed" Heb12v13

"Oh God give me


Posts: 296 | Registered: Feb 2013
SweetheartVixen
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Member # 4956
Default  Posted: 4:01 AM, February 12th (Tuesday)

I will pray for you all and hope it is returned back to me also. Ive had an emotionally draining week with severe wmotional abuse which was done to me.


BS/60s WS/60s Divorcing and not soon enough~!
Its nice to be important, but its more important to be nice...

DD 6-14


Posts: 3097 | Registered: Jul 2004 | From: somewhere over the rainbow
phoenix_vs
Member
Member # 29193
Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, February 17th (Sunday)

Answered prayer: My alcoholic WBF hit bottom three weeks ago. He's been there many times, this time, I had hit bottom, too. He didn't know I have been praying for him for a long time, praying that God will help him become the person He wants him to be. We've been together for ten years, but I was starting to look for a place to move. I couldn't take it anymore.

Long story short, there was a crisis, following which he has stopped drinking, and kept saying "I feel released, like I'm out of prison, I've never felt like this the other times I stopped drinking." It was then I knew that God had delivered him and broken the chains that have bound him for so long. He isn't out of the woods yet, he went for so long without eating that he has lost the ability to walk. He has numerous health problems related to alcohol abuse.

Me, I am exhausted. I pray for God to protect his newly cleansed spirit, and to help him heal, and sometimes I say, "please help him, because I don't feel like it, and I know that You care way more than I do right now."

Even though emotionally, I need to heal as much as he does, I rejoice and thank God for His deliverance. Truly a miracle of answered prayer.

I hope this story of God's power and grace encourages you to keep praying boldly. Take care of yourself, and let God deal with him (or her).

Blessings to all.


I'm not sad that you lied to me. I'm sad that I can never believe you again.

Well, I'm sad that you lied to me, too.


Posts: 371 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: Great Falls Montana
nealos
Member
Member # 35284
Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, March 2nd (Saturday)

thank you, god


31yo WS-SA

“When we disclose the thought and intents of our hearts in surrender, we identify with one another at depth.”


Posts: 258 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: 5280'
sparklingwater
Member
Member # 38792
Default  Posted: 4:23 AM, April 10th (Wednesday)

I would like to thank god that my faith has been renewed through this tough time. I am truly humbled to be able to give all of my situation over to him, and allow him to have total control of my life. I have felt at breaking point but he has gently reminded me that he has never left me, but is instead holding me in his arms.

He has blessed me with unexpected finances and miracles. I have learnt that he works in totally unexpected ways, and that when I can't see a way out, he has it all in control.

Thanks be to god for his never ending love.

[This message edited by sparklingwater at 4:25 AM, April 10th (Wednesday)]


Newly single and trying to find my feet.

There's always light at the end of the tunnel, just pray it's not a train.


Posts: 104 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Australia
torn2bits
Member
Member # 28376
Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, April 13th (Saturday)

After watching the movie Fireproof, there is a parasite in my marriage.

Please pray that the blood of Jesus Christ can prevent satan from overcoming my marriage.

Oh heavenly Father, there are many here who want to do your Will, I pray that you may work in their lives to heal and show them your wisdom. We are waiting on you Lord. Reveal your path for their lives. In Jesus Christ's name. Amen.


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
girlsbird
Member
Member # 30877
Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, April 15th (Monday)

Amen


D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed

Posts: 1203 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: arizona
heartbroken0903
Member
Member # 27879
Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, May 19th (Sunday)

Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace to people of good will.

We praise You, we bless You, we adore You, we glorify You. We give you thanks for Your great glory.

Lord God, Heavenly King, O God, Almighty Father.

Lord Jesus Christ, Only Begotten Son. Lord God, Lamb of God, Son of the Father. You take away the sins of the world, have mercy on us. You take away the sins of the world, receive our prayer. You are seated at the right hand of the Father, have mercy on us.

For You alone are the Holy One, You alone are the Lord. You alone are the Most High, Jesus Christ. With the Holy Spirit, in the glory of God the Father.

Amen.

[This message edited by heartbroken0903 at 8:05 PM, May 19th (Sunday)]


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Reconciled and remarried.


Posts: 2128 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
Cyzygy
New Member
Member # 39437
Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)

I am asking for prayers that the Holy Spirit touch my WH's heart.

Thank you so much.


Me: 37, BS
Him: 39, WH
Married: 6 years, together for 9 years
2 boys, ages 3 & 4, he has a 15yo we never see
DDay: 5/21/13 (OW is a coworker at Walmart...he quit on Dday.)

Posts: 25 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Columbus, OH
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 4:02 AM, August 5th (Monday)

Hi, I'm new to this thread but not SI.
A little background.
Almost 4yrs ago confirmed DD. Suspected for 3yrs I knew ow. I'm pretty sure its PA but since I only found hundreds of texts between them on phone bill, he only admitted to that. 2yrs later I found he's still having daily contact, it never stopped.
Something.is wrong with me because I can't discuss this with him. I'm pretending I don't know. I'm not afraid of him, I just can't go it. I'm watching him spiral into a severe porn addiction now on top of the A. He's looking at hook up sites.I don't know if he's meeting ppl or just looking. I'm watching all this but can't confront him. I know he's going to be embarrassed and ashamed andits really hard for me to see that in anybody. We used to go to church, very involved. He stopped going before A started. I feel like he's going down in flames and I'm just standing there with nothing coming out.of my mouth.
Please pray for me to snap into reality and bring this into the light and out of the dark. I need to find my voice. Please pray for my family because I don't know what's going yo happen to.us. thank you


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5020 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Prayers sent.

I found my voice by having faith.


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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jk5366
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, August 5th (Monday)

Please pray formula mom, who has a biopsy on the 16th of August. There are crystals in her breast. Wtf. I also found out today that my cohort in crime, she plays bells with me in church, is with hospice now. Her cancer is winning. One more, and I don't want to sound selfish, But pray for my h and I. That We make it through this ea mess. Give me strength to push through.
Thank you.


This sucks.

Posts: 30 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: MI
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, August 6th (Tuesday)

Thank you Chico. It's weird because I do believe and have faith but I sometimes feel like maybe its not my turn yet..idk I've seen the power of prayer but this sich just isn't moving. Maybe Gods waiting for me to.make a move. The thought of bringing this subject up absolutely freezes me. No words will come out.of my mouth. Thanks again


BS..me
WS..him
Been with him over half my life
4kid
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Status..#$%@????

Posts: 5020 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
ifinallyfoundme
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Default  Posted: 4:54 AM, August 14th (Wednesday)

Just wanted to bump this thread and say GOD does hear our prayers. He has given me all that I needed.

Posts: 180 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: United States
HurtButHopeful?
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Default  Posted: 11:58 PM, August 23rd (Friday)

I think I am addicted to the adrenalin I get from reading the terrible stories at SI. It has been 4 years since H's A and 1 1/2 years since Dday2 over porn. He has quit porn, and is transparent about the A.

I think that reading SI is not helping me anymore, but hindering my progress...but I can't stop! Please pray I can quit, and get my endorphins back in order, so I can begin working on changing myself for the better.


Reconciliation means that we both are authentic and vulnerable. I still have my H, and he's a better man than ever!

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stillstruggle
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Default  Posted: 3:49 AM, August 24th (Saturday)

Needing prayer from many sources right now. Been struggling w/my H's recent OEA w/my long-time BFF. I am deeply hurt and betrayed. I no longer want to loathe and blame myself for what happened and pray for RR in our M and not D. I have been having terrible nightmares about being attacked by demons and growling @ myself in the mirror. Please pray that the Lord gives me peace as he fights these battles for me and patience for my H to turn himself around bcuz he is good and He is good and w/prayer my H can change to become the man I so desire him to be: strong, humble, kind and faithful.

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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 4:41 AM, August 24th (Saturday)

Prayers for all of us!!!


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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mixedintherut
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Default  Posted: 11:51 AM, August 24th (Saturday)

Prayers for all.

When I first found this point, it disappointed me, that it is so slow. Perhaps I was hoping for more of a religion based thread as opposed to just a prayer thread.

Though I truly believe in the power of prayer, and will be praying for everyone!

Please pray for R for our family. The thought of D and ripping our family apart, is the hardest part in all of this!


DD 1: PA 12/4/09 He spent 2.5 years with OW1
R: 8/31/2012
DD 2: EA 8/16/13
BS: 26
WH: 25
1 young daughter.
Terribly disgusted. He refuses to give up his "friend". Headed towards D.

Posts: 136 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: kentucky
AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, September 2nd (Monday)

Prayers sent mixedintherut. For you and for all of us.


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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LonelyBird461
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Default  Posted: 3:27 AM, September 6th (Friday)

I would like to ask for prayer as I know that only God can reach in to WS heart and melt the stone in there. Only He can covict her of the wrong she has done and open her eyes to truth because she is so wrapped up with the father of lies right now. I would truly appreciate prayer for:

1. My precious children that God would shield their hearts from this hurt and pain and thhat he would show them mercy by drawing near to them.

2. That He would give me strength to seek and follow His will in all that is to come from this day forward. That He would grant me wisdom in how to act and what to say and when.

3. That he would pierce my WW heart and break down her pride that she might be able to admit she was wrong, is wrong and that she is at least willing to try for R.

If you have time, please also pray that I would receive a positive response from the letter I sent her.

Thank you so much! I know there is incredible power in prayer and I intend to lift each of you up as well. May God strengthen each of us, BS and WS alike, to live a life worthy of the calling we have received. We are all sinners and are in need of His abundant grace and mercy.


Posts: 14 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: LonelyBird461
looking forward
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Member # 25238
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, September 15th (Sunday)

For those who have struggled with maintaining sobriety I pray for you.
I pray that this journey continues as long as you breathe life. You can do it
with God's Grace and Love.


Memory and hope; one looks backward, and the other forward; one is of today, the other of tomorrow.
"Find a place inside where there's joy, and the joy will burn out the pain." (Joseph Campbell)

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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 4:56 AM, September 16th (Monday)

Prayers sent (((lonelybird461)))

(((Looking forward))) I say that same prayer multiple times a day, everyday along with thousands of other people. Thank you!!!


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

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morethantrying
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Member # 40547
Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, September 18th (Wednesday)

I am 8 months out but could use prayers. He had two/three affairs and I understand all the "reasons" and I "forgive" him but I struggle with "loving' him again...he is doing everything right...why cant't I feel love for his efforts, why do I struggle still after 8 months..God, help me to see the good he is doing and love him afresh. Married 31 years.


Affairs - hard on us both - but love will win.
Me: BS 55
Him: WS 62
Married 32 yrs.
dday TT from 12/2012-2/2013)...

Posts: 283 | Registered: Sep 2013
SurelyNOT
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Member # 40617
Default  Posted: 4:17 AM, October 13th (Sunday)

Cannot sleep and I am struggling. This weekend is Thanksgiving (Canada) and my WH is coming by and gathering his stuff to officially move in with his ap. He works outta town a lot and will be leaving again on Tuesday morning for another out-of-town stint until mid December. So although he is moving in with her, he won't actually be living with her, because his job is some 4000 miles away. The majority of their relationship is done by text/telephone.
At any rate, I still love him and I want him back, and I am absolutely distraught, how can I pick up the pieces of my shattered life and be a good Mom to our two daughters?
He has discarded us and is not in touch, he has no photos, and has requested none. All is lost, I'm afraid.
I pray regularly myself, but at this moment in time, I really could use others' good intentions.
Please pray for my two daughters, that they can be strong and get through this somewhat unscathed, and be happy. If possible, can someone up above shine a beacon that will illuminate the way for me, I feel so lost and alone.
Prayers to all that need them, and strength to bear this terrible burden. May God Bless us All.

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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 4:27 AM, October 13th (Sunday)

(((SurelyNOT)))
Prayers sent for you and your family.

And for all of us!!!


BS 39
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
DD DS
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2575 | Registered: Aug 2012
strongerdaybyday
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Member # 40264
Default  Posted: 5:50 AM, October 24th (Thursday)

((surelynot)) I''m a little late! But I''ve included u in my prayers. Prayers, strength, guidance and wisdom to all here as well


Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 13+ years
D-Day Summer 2013
children-3
If it is what it is then what is it?

**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**


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SurelyNOT
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Member # 40617
Default  Posted: 10:56 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)

^^^^ Thank you so much for your prayers. Rest assured it is NEVER too late for any prayer, I'm afraid I need all the prayers I can get. Boy what a mess, and not of my making.
Your support is appreciated, good luck to you on your journey too.

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013
Lost15
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Member # 40898
Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, November 16th (Saturday)

Please pray for myself and DS. For I feel I am going backwards in this. I was in a better place but the last few days have been slipping back into depression. I miss my him so much, at least the man he was. I miss my family. I pray I can be brought out of this again and move forward. I pray that DS finds his way also and starts opening up a little more. I pray that stbxh opens his a heart a little and shows a little remorse, that he stops being so hateful.


me(BS)-34 him(WS)-32 DS-15
Married 15 years
Blindsided with divorce 07-12-13
DD-08-1-13 OW-40ish,married 20 yrs, with 4 kids she abandoned
Divorcing and trying to move one tiny step forward at a time.

Posts: 114 | Registered: Oct 2013
heartbroken0903
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Member # 27879
Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, November 20th (Wednesday)

Almighty God, please support each and every hurting soul on SI. Help the BS find peace and healing. Help the WS to live a life of integrity. Help those who find themselves single parents, and give them strength in their journey. Help those who are separated or divorced to find peace. Help those who are reconciling to find renewed hope and joy in their marriage or relationship. Help us all further strive for a life "on Earth as it is in heaven."

Amen.


Me: XWS, 30s, 5-month EA/PA in '09-'10
Husband: XBS, 40s
No kids

Married 2.5 years
D-day 3/6/10
Divorced 5/14/10

Reconciled and remarried.


Posts: 2128 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: the cat's meow
LostSamurai
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Member # 41347
Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, January 29th (Wednesday)

Please pray for WW, daughter and Me and our families who are suffering. Everyone is basically held hostage because of this... My WW and Daughter seem to be doing fine, but my daughter has been acting out more and more. Pray for me that I can heal and be strong and God's will...

I want to reconcile some days and some minutes I just want to move on...


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1036 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
NikkiD
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Member # 38173
Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, January 29th (Wednesday)

Father God, I pray for the spirit of confusion to be lifted from all familes that are affected by infidelity. For we know you operate on absolutes and are the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end. We pray that more of you shows up and less of ourselves. That we be able to act and react in a way that is pleasing to thy sight. Lord, we ask for a measure of patience. For you say that those that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. So I pray that we can WAIT on you (serve you) while we wait on you (remain patient).

All these things we ask in your son Jesus's name.. AMEN


"Spoil me with Loyalty; I can finance myself...."
ME: BS-33
HE: WS-32
Married 3 years, known 20
2 kids
D-Day #1 12/30/12
False Recovery
D-Day #2 1/21/14
LTA 5 years-ish
Riding the "Struggle Bus"
Living apart....

Posts: 668 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Midwest
jjct
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Default  Posted: 7:07 AM, February 25th (Tuesday)

Sending with love and thankfulness to MH &DS for creating this site. Thanks to the tools of 'Platinum' and 'Simplicity', this once was lost but now found:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCdZwitrNoY


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 2:35 PM, June 6th (Friday)

Bumping for help on General


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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2ofaKind
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Default  Posted: 8:04 AM, June 18th (Wednesday)

My first post. D-day was exactly 7 weeks ago (almost to the minute) and if it weren't for the overwhelming pain, I think I'd feel dead.

I'm seriously struggling with my belief/faith in God. Please pray that God will make himself known to me now, that I may begin to heal, for my WW, and especially for my DS--I'm not much good to him right now.

Thank you! I am praying for all here as well.


Me: BH,50, but a youthful 50 :)
Her: WW, 44
Dday: April 30,2014
Dday #2: June 18, 2014

Posts: 3 | Registered: May 2014 | From: California
LostSamurai
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Member # 41347
Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, June 25th (Wednesday)

I too have struggled with my relationship with God because of this. Not God's fault... at all.


I am now nothing by a mere Ronin.

Posts: 1036 | Registered: Nov 2013 | From: Maryland
2ofaKind
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Member # 43576
Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, June 30th (Monday)

Thanks, LS. It's comforting to know I'm not alone. I'll pray for you and your family.


Me: BH,50, but a youthful 50 :)
Her: WW, 44
Dday: April 30,2014
Dday #2: June 18, 2014

Posts: 3 | Registered: May 2014 | From: California
steppingup
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Member # 42650
Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, August 1st (Friday)

I too have struggled with my relationship with God because of this. Not God's fault... at all.

No, this has nothing to do with God, it has to do with sin and this fallen world we live in. God does not bring us pain, but when we get into the pain we can grow and heal and be risen from the dead into new life.

He can help us win and become stronger through the experience, God makes a way, God can take on our suffering and help us as we seek Him and cling to Him as we deal with the fallout.

Think about the refining of gold...think about how these trials can refine us into better vessels to do His work on Earth, teaching us to forgive and to be grateful for what we have despite how we are treated. God loved us while we were still sinners. Jesus showed us how to love and forgive, but that does not mean we have to stay in bad relationships which are emotional abusive and defile our agreements. NO! God hates divorse for the wrong reasons, but he allows us to escape bad marriages when we cannot take it.

10 commandments...that was all. One of them was clear about sexual sin within marraige and about keeping the marriage bed pure. When defiled we are not commanded to stay in the marriage, I'm sorry it is not bibilical to say you must stay in a marriage when the spouse is cheating. NOPE and I dont care what the Pope says. It is clear in the Gospels. God bless all that come here.

The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to proclaim good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to set the oppressed free Luke 4:18

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds - Psalm 147:3

[This message edited by steppingup at 5:17 PM, August 1st (Friday)]


Her (WW 40s) Me (BH, 40s) very young DS & DD

“Whatever follows after DD is much more crucial than the infidelity action itself” Quote by SI Member Melian40

"I'm a good man, not an option" - Steppingup


Posts: 406 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: CALI
hihn
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Member # 43986
Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, August 11th (Monday)

LostSamurai, In reading your statement of "I too have struggled with my relationship with God because of this. Not God's fault... at all." I have to include myself. I have said & felt things toward my WH that were definitely not of the loving your neighbor nature. Included was the words "I hate you" to my WS. This emotional rollercoaster that infidelity puts us on can Truly be a test of our faith in Christ. For this thing called adultery has been the worst pain I have ever experienced. Though I failed him as a representative of his, he has not failed me. He has promised that nothing can snatch us from his hand and he has kept his word. The fact that we recognize we have struggled with our relationship with God, is


Me BS 58yo
Him WS 55yo, porno & sex addict
DD#1 1/28/14 co-worker#1 1991
DD#2 2/8/14 co-worker#2 9/13 - 4/14,he moved in with OW 3/9/14, moved out from OW 4/8/14
DD#3 4/10/14 22+ anonymous sex OW
Full disclosure 7/30/14 30+ sex parteners
TT is

Posts: 83 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: colorado
hihn
Member
Member # 43986
Default  Posted: 6:07 PM, August 11th (Monday)

Oops, I accidentally touched submit on my tablet on the previous message. So to finish, the fact that we recognize were we are struggling with our relationship with God is testimony that we still desire a relationship with God. Perhaps our desire of a relationship with God is God's way of keeping us in his hand. I had asked the lord many times early on "how could you allow a child of yours that loves you to experience such horrible pain? What did I do to you or anyone to deserve this pain?" I know now the answer wasn't what I did to deserve the pain it was what God needed me to do to bring back one of his that was getting pulled farther into the darkness. The OW was well on her way of convincing my WH that god didn't exist. My WH did believe in Jesus prior to her. His faith wasn't big but it was there prior to OW. My WH has said it was my faith that brought him back to Christ. I realize now that even a struggling faith can help another's. I do not give the credit to myself, for I was a stumbler & bumbler, but I give it to God and what he has done to save this marriage. I could tell so much more of what God did to intervene in the dissolution of the marriage, but it would take the space of a small book to write down everything he did. Just want you to know that it wasn't me who wanted to reconcile, WH's adultery & divorce, for me, was a way out of an emotionally abusive relationship. But that wasn't what God wanted & I am glad God had a better plan than mine.


Me BS 58yo
Him WS 55yo, porno & sex addict
DD#1 1/28/14 co-worker#1 1991
DD#2 2/8/14 co-worker#2 9/13 - 4/14,he moved in with OW 3/9/14, moved out from OW 4/8/14
DD#3 4/10/14 22+ anonymous sex OW
Full disclosure 7/30/14 30+ sex parteners
TT is

Posts: 83 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: colorado
ruby44
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Member # 41135
Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, August 15th (Friday)

Prayers for me and my daughters please, I just do not know where I fit in anymore. I think my WH is out on a business trip which is really a vacation with OW. I have tried to be the wife God wants me to be. He left and I thought we were ok not great but ok and from the airport right before he gets on a plane he sends me a hateful angry text about how worthless I am as a wife. I replied with no anger and told him I would rather discuss this in person or at least not via text. No reply. He is coming back on Tuesday night and I just do not know what to do. Please pray for me that God will give me the wisdom to say and do the "right" thing. I feel like I am in a dark cavern and do not know which way to go.
Thank you. I pray for all of you too and that God will give us the strength to get through this.


Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
Lies!

Posts: 276 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
Lally
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Member # 43116
Default  Posted: 6:32 AM, August 17th (Sunday)

Ruby, I'm so sorry. It is probably easier for him to justify the vacation if you are a horrible person and a bad wife in his mind. You know the truth and so does God. Don't let the enemy use your husband to tear you down. He is in a state of confusion right now. You are a child of God and because of that have a place to turn that will provide protection and comfort.
I will be praying for you and every hurting heart on here, including mine! We didn't deserve all of this hurt. It will not define who we are! He is our rock and fortress. Do not forget that!

Posts: 23 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Georgia
ruby44
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Member # 41135
Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, August 17th (Sunday)

Thank you Lally, I need so many prayers, sometimes the rage I feel consumes me and it is hard to even pray. To know that there are others to pray for me when I can't is comforting. I hope that my prayers for all of us bring someone comfort and peace. May God have mercy on us all, way wards betrayed and affair partners alike.


Me BW 52, Him WH 48
Married 13 years,
2 DDs (12 and 10)
D-Day Confirmed 10/24/13 suspected before that but did not want to believe it.
WH filed for D 11/12/13
2/8/14 WH asked if he could come home.
Lies!

Posts: 276 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Midwest
healingjourney
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Member # 44277
Default  Posted: 2:05 PM, September 3rd (Wednesday)

I have been praying a novena to St Rita for the healing of my marriage. A novena is a prayer that is said for 9 days and is usually done as a request for a special grace in time of suffering. The philosophy is that a saint can "intercede" with God on your request and that one may feel more comfortable praying to a saint as they lived a human existence and can offer understanding to your particular situation.

St Rita endured a difficult marriage.

Link to the novena.

http://www.stritabrooklyn.com/NovenaStRita.htm

I already feel I am being helped by this! Hope it helps others!


Me: WW
Him: BH
In MC and IC, hoping for R

Posts: 81 | Registered: Jul 2014
Neznayou
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Member # 40654
Default  Posted: 6:20 AM, September 4th (Thursday)

By the time I found BlakeSteele's prayer list in the Reconciliation forum, it had been locked. But, I'd still like to respond to it, if I may.

I grew up going to church but didn't really feel a deep, abiding relationship to God, just a superficial connection to some of the people I met there (I thought it was deep and abiding, but not really). However, those people didn't have problems. Everything was fine. No problems. That community attitude contributed to the difficulties I had opening up to individuals and being able to say "I'm not okay."

I started veering away from church-going when I was in college. I spent many years weaving in and out of dedication. The last time I attend a service was Mother's Day 2012 (check my tagline; a connection?) I haven't really looked back.

However, part of what exacerbates the church/ God thing for me is the fact that when I broke down sobbing at my AP's house (before we had intercourse, but after we'd come too close to it), instead of sending me home to my BH, instead of sending me to a counselor, instead of recognizing that I was really messed up, he prayed for me! (And continued to be a willing participant) Even at the time, that prayer felt like a hypocritical farce on both our parts. Nothing about him or his lifestyle indicated a religious ideology. I was married; he was living with his girlfriend. And he thought God would listen?! I remember telling him that I was pretty sure God didn't even know who I was anymore.

That's the long walk off of a short pier. The funny thing is that, even considering all this, when I read the list of names on BlakeSteele's original post, I was looking for my name or my BH's name. I'm going to be left pondering why that is for a while.

Thanks for letting me butt in.

[This message edited by Neznayou at 6:40 AM, September 4th (Thursday)]


Me: WW
Caught at AP's house: 10 Aug 2012
Admitted PA: 12 Aug 2012
TT ended: Jan 2014

"Power, Lincoln, real power comes not from hate, but from truth."


Posts: 274 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: America to Europe
blakesteele
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Member # 38044
Default  Posted: 9:59 AM, September 4th (Thursday)

Hi,

This is the first time in the ICR forum...was pointed here through a mis-step of mine as I posted a prayer list in R forum. Didn't intentionally violate the rules of SI but I see that I have.

SI has been a benefit to me over the past 2 years...but the driving reason behind most of my change and continued efforts in restoring our marriage is.....God.

I did life and marriage my way for 30 years....which jived with how much of society does life and marriage.

Neznayou....I have added you both to my prayer list. I sooooo here you when you wrote "I'm not okay." and how you wanted to say that to folks around you....but was simply not done.

Wife and I have spent decades hiding from ourselves...specifically our feelings and the reality that real pain exists in our lives....some serious, traumatic level pain occured in our formative years.


Impossible to be authentic with others when you aren't first authentic with yourself. But to do so is VERY humbling and often PAINFUL!

Have learned that pain does NOT equal unhealthy.

Rejoice in all things.

Still working on that...but am growing towards that.


Having an AP pray is odd...but makes perfect sense in this spiritual battle. Satan loves confusion and uses temptation to keep you confused.

He didn't order Eve to bite the apple....he simply asked "Did God really tell you not to eat that fruit?" He brought doubt (confusion) into her mind and she did not rebuke it...did not fact seek. She gave into her feelings and used them to direct her actions.

I did this by choosing to use porn.....the many lies I believed, often in line with society's view on porn, helped me do what my selfish desire tempted me to do.

My wife choosing adultery.....the many lies she told and believed, tying into the "happiness is a goal" societal lie, helped her do what her selfish desires tempted her to do.


I have lived in fear since age 12. Didn't fully realize it but coping skills are often developed out of fear and ones need to protect themselves. They are useful for short periods of time...like the body going into shock after a physical injury...but are no way to live a healthy life.

God does not give us a spirit of fear. He gives us a spirit of love, power and self-discipline.

Love--agape love...not eros love (romantic, emotional love. Though certainly that should be a part of a healthy marriage)

Power--free will. We have the power to choose.

Self-discipline. God gave us feelings and emotions for a reason...but He also calls us to be obedient to him...and that takes self-discipline. We must not give into selfish desires.


This is some sort of battle.

But I now realize our M was under attack from the moment we got engaged. Satan hates M and family...he wants us to be isolated and alone so that he may pick us off one by one.

God hates D....He created M and family to do exactly what satan hates, for us to have a strong unit from which to make our way through this broken world. Refining and maturing as we do....eventually being redeemed and called home to Heaven. He does not expect us to be perfect before we are saved....Jesus did that work for us.

I pray Gods will be done. I pray I have the courage to be obedient to that prayer, realizing it requires me to mature past my selfish desires. I think this is what is meant, in part, when it is said we are to "die to self in order to live".

I am such a work in progress......


Peace.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 10:03 AM, September 4th (Thursday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
PinkJeepLady
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, September 4th (Thursday)

Blakesteele,

Thank you so much for your encouraging words! I still have chills that last night when I was so discouraged I opened up SI right to your thread. So, I personally am glad for the "mistake" on where it was posted or I wouldn't have seen it! Divine intervention? I think so!

I shared your thought with my FWH and he was touched. He isn't actually on SI, but I read things to him. I really admire people who overcome addictions/challenges/obstacles. I too believe it is through Him that we truly change and heal.

FWH is sorry today, taking responsibility and recommitting to doing the work. He does have the tools he needs and knows the key is USING them!

I so appreciate the prayers coming our way! God IS with us!
Take care


Me: BW-54. Him-FWH 54. DDay June 1st 2012 cheating with prostitutes overseas
R-ing
"Not everything that counts is counted. Not everything that is counted counts." Albert Einstein

Posts: 484 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, September 4th (Thursday)

Posting as a member

God hates D....He created M and family to do exactly what satan hates, for us to have a strong unit from which to make our way through this broken world.

I hate D too, but sometimes it is the only option. I had to have a talk with my pastor about this very idea. My pastor and I agree that God's idea of marriage is ideal, but what does one do when their spouse is an addict or an abuser. After 2 years my mental state could no longer take the abuse of my spouse and her continued cheating. It was preventing me from other decrees of God like to love His children. I needed to D for me and for my children. I do feel like a failure for having to do so but I know I work hard daily to love His children.

D shouldn't be a flippant choice but after continued trying and failure and searching your soul and discussing with your pastor you might find that the only choice left.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 10:48 PM, September 4th (Thursday)

I don't believe in coincidences. I honestly thought posting my prayer list in R was appropriate as was my offer to add folks to it and ask that they pray for the folks on it as they feel moved.

I messed up, I think, when I answered a fellow SI members question in too much detail and in "debate form".

My IC and I have discussed SI activity in length. The secular nature of it has been a concern for her....and has become one for me as well. Plus, believe it or not, I am turning towards gracerunner withore and more courage!

Regardless.....keep going Pinkjeeplady and mr Pinkjeeplady! It is so freeing to NOT habitually use it...to break the addiction. It was bondage....like all sin.

MovingUpward....did not mean to leave the impression that you stay M at all cost. God does NOT expect that of us. In fact, adultery is very specifically recognized as a sin that God takes note of and IS biblical grounds for D.

In addition....as I understand it....if any of the 4 deadly A's are present in your M you are called to take strong action to guard your heart. Addiction, Abuse, Adultery, Abandonment.

Could be a separation but could be D too.

I have clear guidance NOW. For those of you who don't know my journey....it took me 6 months to find righteous anger. So I am far from spiritually mature.

The 4 deadly A's.......that was some keystone turning points in my journey. It does NOT please or honor God when we remain in such relationships. We are called to action....not to be doormats that lay there....I don't think that is what iseany when He says "be still and know that I am God".

Abuse.......that has been a topic of late in IC. Both in my childhood and in my M. My CoD tendencies jack with the interpretation/ definition/ ability to recognize abuse.

Example: my self as a child involved in a hands on sex talk with my parents was "weird".....but I put any other kid in that sitch and it is clearly abuse. I still struggle with saying I experienced abuse that day....but my therapist is strongly calling it that.

A work in progress.....

God is with us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, September 5th (Friday)

The journey of infidelity is a journey I never thought I would know, let alone travel. My prayer life has always "been there" but more as a "request" line of praying. For example: keep my kids safe away at college, help my kids find their way, for my husbands business etc...
I have been blessed with people in my life, my own father and my father in law who were TRULY deeply spiritual people. Their faith was more than just praying and attending daily mass...they actually lived their faith, especially my father in law. He was more about living his faith not the BUISNESS of religion...he loved his family no matter what...he showed me time and time again what true forgiveness looked like.
During the time of the affair when I could not figure out what on earth was happening to my husband and using every excuse for his new changed behavior I started reading little daily retreats...they were sweet and a nice way to start my day...then post dday I discovered Richard Rohr...I did not want to like this priest...he used "big" words : ) and challenged my thinking CONSTANTLY....his daily devotions have made me look at things differently....and that has turned out to be a good thing.
This week has been more about living in the present... I would like to share the last paragraph of todays devotional.

"Non-dual consciousness is about being present to the Presence of God in yourself and beyond yourself too. Presence is an experience, not just an idea in the mind. In fact, the mind of itself cannot be present (take my word for that!). The mind can only reprocess the past, judge the present, and worry about the future. Only some form of meditation will teach you how to move from an egocentric, fear-based life to a love-based life. Instead of splitting and dividing up Reality according to your preferences, you are able to see and enjoy everything that is—and as it is."

on a side not...thank you blakesteele for your "misstep" and thank you SI for being here and giving us all a "safe place to land"

peace


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



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needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 9:48 AM, September 5th (Friday)

I didn't know this post existed until today. I have read through some of the ways God has answered prayers in here and am so encouraged. This is one of those days that SI has brought a smile to my face.

I have been praying for many of you since I first joined SI in May of this year. BlakeSteele, you have been such an inspiration to so many of us. I hope you know that. God has used you in mighty ways on SI. I loved that last post you started in the R section and am honored that I am among those you are praying for.

God has worked miraculously in my life and I covet prayer.

In 2006, 5 years after having gone through treatment for Stage 3 breast cancer, we found out that the cancer had metastasized to my liver. My doctor put my survival rate at 1%. The first thing my husband and I did was to call our Pastor and ask for prayer. Before we knew it, a series of miracles unfolded. A friend lit a candle in a bag with my name on it during a cancer walk. She said there were thousands of candles and in the morning, only one was still burning: mine. Another friend had some holy oil from Russia that she knew had dried out because she had tried to anoint her son with it. She didn't even know what we were going through when God told her to anoint me with the oil. She argued with Him, but when she checked the oil, it had not only regenerated, but it had an incredible myrhh-like fragrance. The miracles went on and on like this until and including the day of my full body PET scan, which was going to show us "where else the cancer had spread". Not only did the scan show no cancer anywhere "else", but the tumor on my liver was gone!

I don't know why God chose to spare my life. But He has given me a very special gift - the gift of undying faith in Him and in His power to heal.

I had been praying - hard - for 5 of the 6 years of my FWH's A - that God would heal our marriage. I had no clue that my H was being unfaithful, but our marriage had become miserable. On Dday, another miracle occurred. It was like blinders fell off of H's eyes (that's how he describes it). He became a new man and is growing closer to God and to me every day. He is the man I fell in love with all over again. He feels nothing but disgust for what he did to our family - once he ended it with her, there was no regret and no looking back.

Unfortunately, we live in a fallen world and it has not been all roses and sunshine. OW made my life miserable with her texts and reminders of how much my H once loved her. And we recently discovered she has a couple of serious STD's that she passed on to my H and now to me. So, yes, we can use prayer. I guess every one of us here can really use prayer - each and every day.

Please know that you are in my heart and in my prayers. God bless you all!!


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 10:01 AM, September 5th (Friday)

Thanks for the devotional hopefull77.

Have been spending some time on not being "double minded"...was a talking point at this weeks bible study, as was the real call to self-discipline.

Moving away from egocentric? I also have studied "pride" and how it affected my life. I thought sinc I was not a boastful man I was not prideful. I was wrong. I see, in my life anyway, a tie between pride and insecurity. Sucky to see....but its the truth.

Example: I fancy myself a good public speaker. Have addressed large crowds at national conferences....therefore I thought of myself as a very confident man. This journey has revealed to me that I am not as I thought nor as I projected. But its not that simple....because I DO have confidence, but also have insecurities.

What I am learning to accept is that God loves me as I am while knowing my potential. This trial has pushed me passed any preconcieved "limitations" I held fast to before. Weeks without sex? Done. Anger towards my wife? Done. 30 year habit\addiction broken? Done. Showing vulnerablity to others? Done. Pain and contentment co-existing? Done. Been hurt deeply and survived? Done.

My list is extensive...those are just some of the biggies. The fact I had 30 years to move past those limitiations and into new-to-me areas is my proof that God exists and loves me....because I have not done this on my own. Just. NO. Way.

I have shown what I alone am capable of...and it falls well short of what God has planned for me.

Alone. Isolated. A dreadful spot to exist in...but one that my own choices were keeping me in! Crazy, isn't it?

I find it interesting your WH comes from a home where true righteous living was demonstrated. Being able to observe a person who can view the world objectively and respond stabily (my preferred definition of "wisdom").

Was your father in law always living this way? Or did he have a "moment of faith" of his own?

Our FOO were noticeably lacking of healthy role models...and our fathers were pretty much no where to be found after our respective parents D.


This confirms what I have studied....regardless of your past you have free will and you can choose to do better. Your past need not define you....allow your choices of today to display how your past affects and influences you. And this is what God calls us to do....keep looking up, keep going. Satan loves to remind us of our past, make us question our own potential in hopes that we never reach more than what we have in our past.

Here is to living in the present, which includes plenty of hope for our future.

Peace.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 10:03 AM, September 5th (Friday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 10:10 AM, September 5th (Friday)

I didn't know this post existed until today.

I didn't know it existed either until the moderator let me know about it.

Truthfully....for the first year on SI I was only brave enough to go into the JFO and R forums. The others were just too scary! Then, once I was a little over a year into this I avoided the JFO because I saw posts that reminded me of how I reacted upon my first couple of DD's....dreadful choices were made by me back then, so niave and full of CoD choices that I believed were "loving".

So, see? it all works out as it is planned.

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 7:04 PM, September 5th (Friday)

Blakesteele
my father had a come to Jesus moment in the 40's when my oldest sister had polio....he promised daily mass and she came home unscathed by the disease....then I was born in 55 and both parents were 46 and 49....then in 61 my middle sister died at 25 of a brain tumor....
he loved his faith and told me one cant get through life without it...
My father in law was just SPECIAL.....he was a huge example for my kids on what spirituality really means...not just being a Catholic....
my mother in law though was a by the book Catholic...she reminded me of all those stern nuns I had in grammar school....But the 'pleaser' in me won her over just like I won a lot of those nuns from school days...
my husband was and IS a man of faith....yes he lost his way big time but like needsfriends said on dday he was open to healing and has said without God we wouldn't be where we are today.....
the return of the prodigal son was pivotal for my own healing. I made one request of my husband and that was to go to confession....he wasn't thrilled but he did and thanked me all over the place for encouraging him....
He even went again this past Easter season.....
anyway don't mean this to be rambling but I tried to give a bit of history....
peace!!!


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, September 6th (Saturday)

Thanks for sharing.

Reading The Return of the Prodigal Son was very enlightening. I believe you suggested that to me. I passed it on to my Mom....affected her deeply too.

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, September 7th (Sunday)

I am going to spend another day praying and fasting - tomorrow, the 8th. I will pray for everyone I prayed for last time and for anyone else who would like some prayer from SI.

I hope you are all doing well. I know that the cross we have had to bear seems very heavy at times. But I know there will be better days ahead.

Hugs to you all!


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

Posts: 395 | Registered: May 2014
Lally
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Default  Posted: 7:38 PM, September 7th (Sunday)

I just wanted to recommend a book that I believe has really been helpful for us. It's called The Power of a Praying Marriage by Stormie Omartian. I have been using it as a template to pray over some of the difficulties that we have been having. I am definitely seeing some changes in my marriage. Hope somebody else finds it as helpful as I have.
Peace and blessings to all.

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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, September 8th (Monday)

To help me spiritually grow my pastor recommends "flash fasting". When a song comes on the radio I like...turn it off and spend that 3 minutes visiting with God. That last bite of a granola bar? Pitch it and spend time with God.

I know this sounds simple...but it has helped me get into the God habit that is working in my life. Small things add up too.

A longer fast is very beneficial...done both food fasting and a 7 week sex fast.

Thanks for the book recommendation....looking into it.

God is with us all.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 2:16 PM, September 8th (Monday)

I like the idea of flash fasting - yes, the little prayer times add up. Just like the little times we spend with those we love add up. God wants to have a relationship with us and I think it brings Him much joy when you turn off a song to pray to Him or throw aside that granola bar to spend time with Him.

Today I spent my morning and much of the afternoon praying - for our church, my family and friends who are hurting or who need the Lord, and for many of you. I will do this once a month - at least. Today I prayed for the following people from SI several times:

Crushed15Feb13; Seethelight; Janus2014;
Skan; Befuddledhubbie; LumpyLola;
Devastated30; Brokenheartedwif; Fromthisdayforward; Blakesteele; LA44;
PeacebeMine; Yme; Soconfusednow; Swat70;
SoSorry17; Hurt2Deeply; Amazingatlast;
Hopeful77; Karmahappens; Ostrich80;
It'sAClimb; Bionicgal; Olwen; Trulysad;
Isthismynewlife; Heartbrokenlady;
Justinpaintoday; bigupz32; Lark; and
Tushnurse.

If you would like to be added to this prayer list, please let me know.

Hugs to you all!!


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

Posts: 395 | Registered: May 2014
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Please add my wife, gracerunner, to your list.

Peace.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 3:11 PM, September 8th (Monday)

I just did and said a prayer for her and for your marriage.

Your sister in Christ


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

Posts: 395 | Registered: May 2014
Brentwood
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Blake, now I know why your signature line says you don't PM female members. And I'm glad to know its because of the boundaries your religious faith has given you. I never realized how destructive even an innocent internet exchange could hurt in the wake of infidelity. So kudos to you for living your truth.

Please add me to your prayer list. What a wonderful thing that is. A few years ago I got baptized and accepted Jesus as my savior. A pretty big deal since I grew up catholic, but I truly was called to do it. Like you, I don't believe in coincidences. It's all Him. Thanks for the thread.


Me BW (59) What?!?!
Him BH (59)

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needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Brentwood, may I add you to my prayer list as well? It is always refreshing to meet another "sibling" in the Lord here.

P.S. I also respect Blakesteele for not PM'ing female members of SI. The way I feel about married people texting is, if your spouse wouldn't want you to be texting that person, don't.


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

Posts: 395 | Registered: May 2014
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 3:43 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Ooops! Duplicate post...

[This message edited by needfriendshere at 3:44 PM, September 8th (Monday)]


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

Posts: 395 | Registered: May 2014
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 5:19 PM, September 8th (Monday)

And I'm glad to know its because of the boundaries your religious faith has given you.

I had that boundary in place all of my marriage, predating my walking with God...only recently do I understand how it ties into how God designed marriage. Unfortunately, this was one of very few boundaries I had in place.

I have been aware of my temptations and have kept them in check....or so I firmly believed. My use of porn shows a considerable lack of boundaries (and lack of self-discipline). My choices hurt my relationship with God as well as deeply wounded my wife. Like my wife, I believed lies in order to make it "okay" for me to choose sin.

Fortunately, I have today to do better...choose differently. And I will stumble again...but even stumbles CAN result in forward growth.

Temptations are all around....this is part of living in a broken world. And some of those temptations are very very subtle in nature.

When I get a PM from a female member...it often starts with "I know you have boundaries BUT....". I don't think they mean any harm or realize the temptation they are presenting or entering into....but it is real and dangerous.

My wife NOW realizes just how committed she was to following through on adultery almost from the begining...but before the actual physical act took place she believed many lies and discounted any and all the flags that were waving. While her A took off and reached physical interactions quickly....I DO believe it started with the same "I know adultery is wrong BUT.....". (i'm not going to do that, we are just friends, see him just one more time, forget about him for a week and see if my husband can fullfill me, etc.)

Shocking...but once my wife chose adultery and I was able to process what just took place (6 months after DD), a RA was a REAL option in my mind. Yep. I know, its dreadful isnt it?

I read The Return of the Prodigal Son. In the part that detailed the son that stayed home and tended the fathers farm while the prodigal son lived a selfish life and squandered his share of the family inheritance, this quote resonated with me.

"And all of my life I have harbored a strange curiosity for the disobedient life that I myself didn't dare live, but which I saw being lived by many around me. It is strange to say this, but, deep in my heart, I have known the feeling of envy toward the wayward son."

Not great to admit, but this is a real truth within me. I have been the "responsible one"...the one to always prepare for the future and delay gratification in doing so. (porn = instant gratification...but I believed many lies to not even investigate what that was doing in my life, to my wife and marriage.)

Don't get me wrong....I am forever grateful I had that boundary with other women for as long as I have....but my motivation lacked the "fullness" it required to be healthy. KWIM?

And this is why I have to have that boundary....now more than ever.


Felt like I needed to clarify before others built me up to more than I am.


Humility....I need that to learn new things.

I do appreciate the kind words...just want to be authentic. Pretty new concept to me really.

God is with us all.

This is a serious trial. Satan WANTS me to be tempted and then choose to give into that temptation.


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
plainpain
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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, September 8th (Monday)

I would really, really appreciate prayer. I am stuck in my healing because of the OC. I am struggling with knowing that there is a life that came from my WHs adultery... a life that was never SUPPOSED to be, but now is. I feel betrayed by God. I feel that God blessed the OW with a child and I got herpes. I am struggling with being able to pray at all lately, and I am in a dark place I can't seem to get out of.


Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
OW:21
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.

Posts: 807 | Registered: Jul 2013
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 7:34 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Plainpain, I am praying and will continue to pray for you.

Please know that God did not bless OW with a child. Nor did he give you herpes. What God did give us - all - is free will. And with that, many of us make choices that have painful consequences - like a child conceived outside of wedlock and STD's. We live in a fallen world and the consequences of sin are death and all of its friends. God is the One who can comfort you in spite of the mess we make of this world. With God, there is freedom from the pain of this world. Don't turn away from Him - turn to Him. He is amazing. Please read my "story" - about 16 entries or so behind this one. God is unbelievably wonderful!

(((plainpain)))

[This message edited by needfriendshere at 7:36 PM, September 8th (Monday)]


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

Posts: 395 | Registered: May 2014
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Covering you In prayer Plainpain. May you feel Gods love in the gentle words of strangers.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 8:15 PM, September 8th (Monday)

My husband and I spent a lovely few hours yesterday at a local retreat house.....lots of quiet places....we packed a lunch and a half a bottle of wine!!!!! We read Richard Rohr ....he is all about CONTEMPLATIVE prayer.....being still.....its working.....
prayer works....
PRODIGAL SON.....a book that is profound for me...written by a broken man.....I have no doubt that Henri Nowen is in heaven....happy....because he knows forgiveness....
I would love to be on everyones prayer list....you are all on mine....
Peace


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, September 8th (Monday)

Keep the faith Plainpain....you are prayed for daily.

I know you are in a dark spot. I am really sorry to know that. If it helps sometimes my prayer is just "thank you" repeated over and over....it is a trial of trial and it is a serious struggle.

God knows this. His love is unconditional. He is not punishing us. He hurts when we hurt but He does not forsake us when we stumble.

Keep posting....do whatever you can to avoid being isolated. There is strength in numbers.

Peace, my friend.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 9:34 PM, September 8th (Monday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, September 9th (Tuesday)

Hopeful77, yes! Contemplative prayer does work. God has taught me to be still and listen and it has been wonderful.

And Blakesteele, you say you repeat "thank you" over and over. That is similar to what I do. I will repeat variations of "Lord have mercy" until I get to a still, quiet place where I wait on Him.

Because we are all united by the one Holy Spirit that is in each of us and that is part of the triune God, when we pray, that Spirit works through us individually and corporately. For that reason, group prayer is downright powerful.

I hope your week has been good so far. Mine has been pretty frustrating as OW keeps launching her attacks - now in very subtle yet hurtful ways. I haven't been able to sleep in a couple of days and am so tired. If she was only out to hurt me, I could handle that, but she has now cast a pretty wide net. Can REALLY use prayer!

Hugs and blessings to you all!


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

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Brentwood
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Default  Posted: 11:49 AM, September 9th (Tuesday)

I love this thread. I read through a lot of the forums and it's such a wonderful community of friendship and support. I am always sensitive to others beliefs and although I want to post sometimes about how I think prayer would serve them well, I don't because it's not the proper forum. That's why this one is so great.

I love the story of how I came to accept Him. It truly was as if Jesus had his arm around my shoulder on that morning. It was the experience of a lifetime. And none of it would have happened if my WH hadn't cheated and I wasn't in such a horrible place. God waited patiently for me to accept Him and once I did He showed me love like I've never felt before.

Thanks again for this forum where I can freely express just how much His power means to me.


Me BW (59) What?!?!
Him BH (59)

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BrokenheartedWif
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, September 9th (Tuesday)

Needfriends here thank you for the prayers.

(((Plainpain))
You are in my prayers. Below helped me tremendously. I will go through it again when I finish the devotional I'm currently doing. I have trouble journaling and there is room for that in the workbook.

I hope I'm not breaking any rules by including links where there is more information about these books.

Godly Whispers: A 90-Day Devotional to Help you Recover From Your Spouses Affair

Marsha Rozalski (Author)
http://www.amazon.com/Godly-Whispers-Devotional-Recover-Spouses/dp/0615306497

Godly Whispers The Work Book- Marsha Rozalsi (Author)
http://www.amazon.com/Godly-Whispers-Workbook-Marsha-Rozalski/dp/061536781X


NIV Real-Life Devotional Bible for Women: Insights for Everyday Life -Lisa Terkeurst

http://www.amazon.com/NIV-Real-Life-Devotional-Bible-Women/dp/0310439361


He claims he loved me the whole time of his LTA. I'm not sure I'll survive his kind of love.

Posts: 60 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Central IN
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 11:35 AM, September 10th (Wednesday)

I am about to read a book called Boundaries (the one for married couples). Has anyone here read it or heard of it?

What particularly attracted me to it was the fact that the only negative reviews the book got was that there were too many Biblical references. Not a bad thing, IMO...


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, September 10th (Wednesday)

I read it after it was recommended by a Christian IC before I knew of the affair. I recommend it a lot here.


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 9:11 PM, September 10th (Wednesday)

Duplicate oops

[This message edited by Pentup at 9:11 PM, September 10th (Wednesday)]


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

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Glassgirl13
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Default  Posted: 10:53 PM, September 10th (Wednesday)

Boundaries is great for anyone struggling with co-dependent behaviors. And honestly, who doesn't at times?


His DDay: 11/05 when I confessed my '02 affair
My DDays: 4/17/14, 4/21/14
Kiddos: 10 and 8

In limbo, he says he tried but no longer loves me.


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Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, September 10th (Wednesday)

I'd love for you all to pray for me, my husband and children. I haven't introduced myself here, still trying to figure out where I belong and how to get involved. I had an affair earlier in our marriage. Now 17 years out I found out he's been having an affair for the past two years, including a brief two-night stand? and sexting, which is what got him caught. He's been miserable apparently since I confessed my affair to him about nine years ago. He says he thought he could put it behind him but refused to discuss it or get counseling and the bitterness just grew. Initially he said he wanted a divorce but came back and said he was willing to say it wasn't over yet, but moved out immediately. Dday was April 17 for the sexting (I got a call from the woman's husband) and April 21 when I was looking up phone calls between him and the other woman to confirm for her husband and realized he was on the phone much more with another woman, a few actually but the others were "just" friends he could spend hours talking with instead of with me.

We've been in IC and did MC a few times but really just to deal with the details of the infidelity and make a separation agreement, not to discuss our marriage. I looked at the internet history on his computer today and saw that he'd looked up information on divorce in our state. Right after my son's birthday party last weekend. I'm losing hope, which is such a painful place to be. I'm afraid he's let the bitterness and hurt eat him alive and he won't be able to recover from it, at least not until years down the road when we've both moved on.

My heart is breaking for what I've done to him and ultimately our children although they weren't around yet, what he's done, what he didn't/wouldn't do and for the immense hurt this will cause our children.


His DDay: 11/05 when I confessed my '02 affair
My DDays: 4/17/14, 4/21/14
Kiddos: 10 and 8

In limbo, he says he tried but no longer loves me.


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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 8:31 AM, September 11th (Thursday)

And honestly, who doesn't at times?

Wise words.

Boundaries In Marriage....a must read for all married people. Start there first. The Boundaries book (original) is good, but the one for Marriage is awesome!

Peace.

[This message edited by blakesteele at 8:47 AM, September 11th (Thursday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, September 11th (Thursday)

Glassgirl13...you are on my prayer list now.

Thanks for posting....it is important to validate your feelings. My wife and I for too long invalidated our own feelings...holding many of them in, to ourselves, and thinking we were "dealing with them". When you do that your spouse has ZERO chance of validating them.

Couple of tidbits that have helped me out.

"Feelings are always buried alive...and require daily feedings."

"Feelings are like children. You don't want them driving the car but you can't lock them in the trunk either."

My wife had an EA while we were engaged. I caught it, she retracted, I did like your husband did....buried my feelings, ignored the pain, and figured I could get past it. Get past it by hardly looking at it, let alone any real work. Yeah, its immature and ignorant NOW...but at the time it was as good as I could do. My wife did what she could do to.

My wifes affair of 2 years ago was our chance to choose differently.

It sucks...its ingredibly painful....its scary....but it is the only way to process through this. Doing anything else is not an option.

I pray our M survives. Regardless, I know the changes I have made and will have to make are necessary. There is no question in my mind if I D upon my first DD, found a cute young adoring girl to date I would have most certainly repeated a destructive cycle.

"You must feel to heal."

It is only through this painful trial that I have met and comforted deeply wounded parts of myself. Wounds that were NOT a factor of my M to my wife, but wounds that I was led to by the pain of my wifes affair.

Our 17 year wedding anniversay is this week. This is also affair season for us.

We are tired but we are committed to moving forward.

You guys can too.....keep going. I know its tough but you guys, like us, have experienced first hand what happens when you try to avoid this pit instead of process through it.

"I may not be where I want to be, but thank God I am not where I was."

God is with us all.

That is a truth. He was with me as a hurt little boy, was with me as a shocked fiance, was with me upon my DD's over the past 2 years. I was blind to that truth most of my life...only embraced and owned it about 1.5 years ago. It is life changing, to accept this as the truth it is.

My heart is breaking for what I've done to him and ultimately our children although they weren't around yet, what he's done, what he didn't/wouldn't do and for the immense hurt this will cause our children.


I so get this. Once I started to face pain I have avoided for most of my life....I saw more and more how I hurt myself and my wife and how it was hurting our children.

Thats the thing about AVOIDING feelings....it bleeds over into how you do life in general. Its not as clean and tight as you tell yourself it is. I don't know if it is a gradual thing or what...but as I face and process pain it seems as if life appears to be in HD now, where it was black and white before. Its like I was becoming a shell of a person rather than a full person.

Better stop there.....I am getting into waters that I have not fully explored yet.

We are called to be authentic and intentional in our lives. Not passive and floating. For me...the challenge is to be active and intentional in a non-controlling (CoD) way! I also wrestle with how to "Be Still", but am learning every day. I have a solid christian therapists that is helping me a considerable amount....a blessing.

Keep the faith! Keep posting!

Peace

[This message edited by blakesteele at 9:15 AM, September 11th (Thursday)]


ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not

Posts: 3635 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Central Missouri
needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 9:10 AM, September 11th (Thursday)

Thanks Pentup, Glassgirl, and Blakesteele. I just started Boundaries last night and it is really a good book.

Glassgirl, I just said a prayer for you and added you to my daily prayer list. I am sorry for the pain you are feeling and pray for healing for you, for your husband, and for your marriage. You and your H are both in a lot of pain - that is evident. But I have learned that God truly is the Great Physician and, with Him, all things are possible.

(((Glassgirl)))


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

Posts: 395 | Registered: May 2014
Glassgirl13
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Default  Posted: 7:10 PM, September 12th (Friday)

Another excellent book I'm reading right now is, A Loving Life In a World of Broken Relationships by Paul E. Miller. It discusses hesed love which calls us to love in opposition to our feelings in a way that requires dying to self, something we all are called to as believers. I'm really struggling though with how to apply this to my marriage practically. What does this kind of love look like, to sacrifice and love regardless of response, living with authenticity while not being a doormat and possibly just prolonging his fog or lack of accountability.


His DDay: 11/05 when I confessed my '02 affair
My DDays: 4/17/14, 4/21/14
Kiddos: 10 and 8

In limbo, he says he tried but no longer loves me.


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foundoutlater
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Default  Posted: 9:30 PM, September 13th (Saturday)

Hi all – I’m coming here with a small request. I was raised in the Catholic faith and was a practicing Catholic on DDay three+ years ago. Prior to this I had never had any event in my life impact my faith or belief. I now feel disconnected from my faith and honestly don’t have the faith in belief. I’m asking anyone who is willing to include me and my family in prayer. Thank you.


Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.

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hihn
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Default  Posted: 1:03 PM, September 14th (Sunday)

foundoutlater,

[I now feel disconnected from my faith and honestly don’t have the faith in belief. I’m asking anyone who is willing to include me and my family in prayer. Thank you.]

Many of us have felt this way in regard to our faith or connection with God. In the realm of spiritual warfare, adultery is a immensely powerful weapon that Satan uses to destroy or diminish our faith in God. Remember that faith even the size of a mustard seed can move mountains. My faith from the time of discovery of the adultery to now has taken a serious beating, but even at it weakest level it was at the least the size of a mustard seed & so is yours and everyone else here in this thread. So go move a mountain!


Me BS 58yo
Him WS 55yo, porno & sex addict
DD#1 1/28/14 co-worker#1 1991
DD#2 2/8/14 co-worker#2 9/13 - 4/14,he moved in with OW 3/9/14, moved out from OW 4/8/14
DD#3 4/10/14 22+ anonymous sex OW
Full disclosure 7/30/14 30+ sex parteners
TT is

Posts: 83 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: colorado
Glassgirl13
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Default  Posted: 2:51 PM, September 14th (Sunday)

foundoutlater, I think that adultery and it's betrayal rock us to our spiritual core because marriage was designed to reflect the same oneness we are to have with God. Just as our earthly fathers influence our perspective of our Heavenly Father, so our experience with marriage can influence and affect our trust and intimacy with God.

As hihn said, distortion and perversion of what God intended is one of the ways Satan attacks.

I'll be praying for you, as so many have been for me, that God's peace that passes understanding will be upon you and you'll feel his hand holding you.

I was in bed weeping one day, questioning if God was really even real or as personal as the Bible says he is, and before I even finished the thought JJ Heller's "Your Hands" came on. It was a sweet gift to me. Here's the song if you're interested.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4l3CEMWCxSk


His DDay: 11/05 when I confessed my '02 affair
My DDays: 4/17/14, 4/21/14
Kiddos: 10 and 8

In limbo, he says he tried but no longer loves me.


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needfriendshere
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Default  Posted: 3:57 PM, September 14th (Sunday)

Foundoutlater, I have added you and your family to my ever-growing prayer list. I will pray for you every day.

It is easy to question one's faith in a benevolent God when something happens in this world that destroys us. But it is especially at times like these that we need to reach out to Him. He did not make your spouse cheat. Everyone has free will and your spouse chose to cheat. I believe that our spouse's cheating grieves God as much (if not more) than it grieves us.

God unites us through the sacrament of Holy Matrimony. We become one although we are still two people. It is a wonderful and beautiful thing in God's sight. Turn to Him and let Him carry this burden of rebuilding what "man has torn asunder" with you!

(((foundoutlater)))


Me: early 50's
WH: early 50's
Married: 23 years
DS: 21 years old
Other DS: 18 years old
D-day: 2/14/2014
H's AP lasted 6 years, but we are both trying hard to R.

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