Topic: Life in Lyrics
Member # 41915
| Posted: 10:41 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014|
OK, so anyone who knows me knows that I tend to live my life through the lyrics of songs. I've always been that way. I'm not a musician, but I birthed and raised one...and he'll tell you he couldn't have been anything else having grown up with me. My WSO is not really that way. He likes songs for the sound, but doesn't always listen to lyrics. This morning a song came on and I looked at him and said "I dedicate that line to you, 'I'm standing here until you make me move'" Which is one thing I had told him after DD and decision to R. I'm here until you tell me you don't want me here.
Well, he looked a little sad at that, but said "Who I Am With You... that's the song that makes me think of you and me." So I went and looked at the lyrics, because I hadn't heard the song, and it almost made me cry.
This may be silly to some of you that don't see their experiences in lyrics... but I have to tell you, that was the moment of the entire 7 months of work on R that made me understand that part of him. Completely spontaneous and unprompted it showed me he thinks about it sometimes. For the first time in a while... I feel really good about us. I thanked him for that little bit and we're going for a drive and a really good day.
Me BSO 62
Him WSO 62
Together 29 years, living together 17. He's been with her off and on for half of that.
OW - Available. Thinks 'love' is in the way he looks at her.
Status - R and hopeful
Posts: 106 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: CA
Member # 33338
| Posted: 10:51 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014|
I am a musician and I LOVE this. Song lyrics have become very important itch me and JM since our true R began. Next Saturday we are going to get to meet the artists (Casting Cowns) who have written and performed several of "our" songs. I'm beyond excited.
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.
Posts: 2879 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Member # 43221
| Posted: 11:08 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014|
Shortly after dday I told my H he had stolen music from me....I LOVE music....almost every genre....I turn it on and it plays all day and well into evening time....
The words are easier now but in the begining there were some very hard songs to listen too. I would have to turn it off...sometimes H would come in and he would hum along and I would say are hearing the lyrics??!
We go often to a restaraunt and listen to live music.....one guy did Sinatra songs....I've got you under my skin...
that stung...big time...
music is memories for me.....I think of my parents...or where I was at that point in time when the song first came out etc....you get my drift....
I have taken music BACK...
3 adult children 1D 2S
LTA 06-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr
Posts: 676 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
Member # 25560
| Posted: 11:27 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014|
I can very much relate to this. It is often hard to listen to my favorite artist in the presence of SAFWH without digging my fingers into his arm for emphasis.
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!
Posts: 3765 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
Member # 39803
| Posted: 12:48 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014|
Look up "Come To Me" by the Goo Goo Dolls - it is our summer song, this summer.
Video is great, too.
Get a hankie!
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
Posts: 2144 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
Member # 43496
| Posted: 5:20 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014|
I'm the same way with songs. Immediately after DDay all I could think of was the Joss Stone song Bruised but Not Broken.
Me: 31, BW Him: 38, WH
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email
Posts: 709 | Registered: May 2014
Member # 43196
| Posted: 9:25 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014|
Thanks, BionicGal. The tears are flowing. We just watched the video and had a sweet moment together.
Married 30 years
2 month PA/EA with COW
Trying to R
Posts: 112 | Registered: Apr 2014
Member # 44420
| Posted: 9:48 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014|
Wow, BionicGal, those lyrics really really fit!
Me: BS, 41
Him: WS, 47
DD: May 30, 2014 (2 month affair)
Married 13 years
Trying to reconcile
Posts: 298 | Registered: Aug 2014
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