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User Topic: You're so pretty
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Part of my anxiety in dating is that I don't like new situations, and I'm also a "bigger" girl. I am always worried whe I meet someone new that they will be ignorant about it. By bigger, I mean that I'm also tall- 6' in heels, plus I have those few extra pounds that just won't leave.

I met someone new today, and my anxiety level was high. When we met, he hugged me and said "you're so pretty".

Such a simple compliment, and it made me cry.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7768 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful!!


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
fireproof
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think the more you date or even around new people you will start to gain your confidence.

It is really hard to meet a stranger and that was a nice compliment but to me it would make me nervous in a good way.

As much as he views you as attractive how do you view your interaction with him? That is important.

[This message edited by fireproof at 5:12 AM, August 23rd (Saturday)]


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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:43 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I get it. I have Vitiligo over about 70% of my body and I've always been OK with it as I'm a fairly confident person but it was difficult and confronting for a few years when my face was half redhead white, half dark olive skin brown.

It took me a few years to love my skin and even then it had been so long since someone 'new' had seen me naked that I was a bit nervous about it. I still remember the first person after DD - he was a big touchy touchy guy and he loved it. Often said my skin was my best feature. I happen to agree with him but it was still nice to hear, y'know?


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5609 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:17 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The interaction with him was good.

On a good day, I would call myself attractive. Pretty? Probably not.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7768 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
traicionada
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Default  Posted: 9:20 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On a good day, I would call myself attractive. Pretty? Probably not

Why not?


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

Posts: 3329 | Registered: Apr 2006 | From: Dallas, Texas
better4me
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


(stand up, go look in the mirror right after you read this and say "I am pretty")

[This message edited by better4me at 12:38 PM, August 23rd (Saturday)]


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3209 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:41 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I understand how you feel. If anyone these days were to tell me I was pretty or any other kind of compliment - anyone but my children, that is - I'd immediately be suspicious that they were trying to scam me or otherwise do me some kind of harm. I don't know that I'll ever be able to accept any kind of compliment ever again.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. (((HUGS)))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9824 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 12:59 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Compliments have always made me feel a little weird, but I find that smiling and saying "thank you" makes it feel a little less weird.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think you're very pretty. It's so hard to say it to yourself, but please don't doubt his (or my ) sincerity.


I solemnly swear that I am up to no good.

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