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User Topic: WH birthday on Sunday
SoLostStillNumb
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH's birthday is on Sunday. I'm not sure what to do. Part of me doesn't want to do anything, but I'm also tempted to just call him and say hi, see if he has any plans for the day. We separated 6 weeks ago and we've barely talked. Our anniversary was last week and I didn't here anything from him. Not a phone call, text, email. Nothing.

Having a hard time with this. Any advice on how to deal?


Me: BS 26 Him: WH 27
Married: 5 years, together 7. No kids.
DDays: 6/3/14, 6/24/14, 7/2/14, 7/3/14, 9/5/14
Separated, headed for divorce
Trying to accept this nightmare is real every morning.
Hold on, this will hurt more than anything has before

Posts: 221 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: VA
confused615
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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

NC= no new hurts.

Don't do it. So what if it's his birthday? Telling him happy birthday will just be feeding him ego kibbles.

Don't do it.


BS(me)42
FWH 45
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Reconciling?

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


Posts: 7674 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana
Skan
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So what if it's his birthday? Why would you celebrate anything about someone who screwed you over and essentially walked out of your life? FTG.


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4915 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
jjsr
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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You didn't hear a peep out of him for your anniversary and you want to call him for his birthday? Don't.


Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1647 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
LifeIsBroken
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Default  Posted: 4:26 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Bad behavior that is rewarded only leads to more bad behavior. Please don't reward his bad behavior.


BW: 59
XH: 60
Married 34 yrs, LIBerated: 2/17/11
MOW: 50 (she said she wanted a sugar daddy; xh said, "I'M HIM!")
Actions ALWAYS have consequences. Too bad cheaters don't consider the consequences BEFORE they create so much damage.

Posts: 504 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Missouri & Massachusetts
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What do you want to hear, when you ask him if he has plans for the day?


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8830 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Margypan
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Default  Posted: 4:47 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he had called you on your anniversary, it might be worth it to acknowledge his birthday - but he didn't. Don't recognize his bday at all!


Me: 30 BW
Him: 34 WH (Trip3)

Posts: 65 | Registered: Aug 2014 | From: South Carolina
SoLostStillNumb
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Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks everything. I think I just needed to hear it out loud that I'm thinking crazy. I know it's not worth calling him, nor rewarding him with a birthday call. But it does get hard to just be in this situation some times and dealing with special occasions along the way.

Thanks again!


Me: BS 26 Him: WH 27
Married: 5 years, together 7. No kids.
DDays: 6/3/14, 6/24/14, 7/2/14, 7/3/14, 9/5/14
Separated, headed for divorce
Trying to accept this nightmare is real every morning.
Hold on, this will hurt more than anything has before

Posts: 221 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: VA
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