Topic: Having a really bad day.
Member # 44375
| Posted: 1:27 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
I had him leave Tuesday. I was ok until today. At work and can't stop crying. Ugh.
Posts: 70 | Registered: Aug 2014
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Member # 44229
| Posted: 1:29 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
I hear you.
Crying is Ok. it does stop, eventually.
Posts: 39 | Registered: Jul 2014
Member # 39694
| Posted: 1:42 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
Allow the tears to come. And when the anger falls upon you, allow that too. Feel ALL the emotions. I know it's hard to keep it together when you want to (at work, in public) but just do the best you can.
I'm so sorry. I understand.
Me: 40 yrs old BGF
Him: 37 yrs old WBF
Us: Together for 4 years and living together for 1
DDay: June 2013
PA with the mother of his child. Both of whom live in another country.
Status Jan 2014: Done. She's preggo again.
Posts: 220 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Virginia
Member # 44248
| Posted: 1:55 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
Its ok to cry. Let it out. Any way you can leave work early today? Take the rest of the day off?
Tears are pain leaving the body. When your body can't hold anymore pain inside it lets it out through tears.
Just let it out. Let someone hold you. Can you get a hug from someone? Hugs help.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. It was a devastating blow when I had WH leave as well. I came home and everything of his was gone. It hurt so much to feel that. I felt abandoned. Lonely. Used. Hurt.
Understand that you are strong. Telling him to leave was SO BOLD! Such a strong move on your part! You need to keep holding on to your strength. Let the tears out, take some deep breaths, and then try and go for a walk or something. You'll start to feel better if you keep your mind busy. Post here as much as you need to. We are all here for you.
Me: BS 26
Him: WH 27
Married: 5 years, together 7
DDay1: 6/3/14 and TT till 7/3/14
DDay 2: 9/5/14
Separated, headed for divorce
Trying to accept this nightmare is real every morning.
Posts: 137 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Currently all over
Member # 31349
| Posted: 1:58 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
We're here with you, sweetie.
I bow to those who keep their hearts open when it is most difficult, those who refuse to keep their armor on any longer than they have to, those who recognize the courage at the heart of vulnerability. - Jeff Brown
Posts: 17296 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 43954
| Posted: 2:00 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
Welcome to the club (((grneyes72))) - it was the same for me, weirdly the first couple days after I kicked him out I was doing ok, then everything started going downhill. Or better, the roller coaster started and still hasn't slowed down, after almost two months. People here are telling me that's normal, eventually it will get better. You need to focus on yourself. Surround yourself with support. I'm wishing you a lot of strength!!
PS one little tip for the work-setting: it's impossible to drink / swallow and cry at the same time, so if you have to get through a meeting, make sure you stock up on water bottles ...
Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: New York
Member # 31528
| Posted: 2:23 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
Posts: 35132 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 43645
| Posted: 2:38 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
At work, I try to keep as busy as possible. When I feel the tears about to flow, I head to the restroom and try to pull myself together. Take a few deep breaths and keep going. Remember...You are a SURVIVOR!
You only have a few more hours to go.
Posts: 73 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
Member # 35812
| Posted: 3:39 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
Hang in there. I vividly remember those days when "I had rather hellish allergy" attacks. And a big bottle of sinus medicine prominently displayed on my desk. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 4802 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 44375
| Posted: 5:07 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
Thanks. I am almost 3 months out and it is getting harder.
Posts: 70 | Registered: Aug 2014
Member # 43221
| Posted: 7:12 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
I am sorry for your pain...you must allow yourself to feel the pain...but each time look in the mirror and tell yourself I WILL BE OK....I AM STRONGER THAN I THINK....I WILL SURVIVE THIS!
You are grieving .....it is ok to grieve.....
3 adult children 1D 2S
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr
Posts: 509 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
Member # 30989
| Posted: 7:47 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014|
(((Grneyes))) I'm so sorry. It's such a difficult time, I know. I think you will soon find that, amid the sadness, there is also relief. I hope it brings you some peace.
You'll be in my thoughts.
WH (Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke
Posts: 8677 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
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