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User Topic: Having a really bad day.
grneyes72
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Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had him leave Tuesday. I was ok until today. At work and can't stop crying. Ugh.

Posts: 70 | Registered: Aug 2014
OkNotOk
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hear you.


Crying is Ok. it does stop, eventually.



Posts: 40 | Registered: Jul 2014
IrishGirlVA
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Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((grneyes72))

Allow the tears to come. And when the anger falls upon you, allow that too. Feel ALL the emotions. I know it's hard to keep it together when you want to (at work, in public) but just do the best you can.

I'm so sorry. I understand.


Me, the "B": 41yo
Him, the "W": 38yo
DDay: June 2013
Status: Over

Posts: 298 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Virginia
SoLostStillNumb
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((grneyes))))

Its ok to cry. Let it out. Any way you can leave work early today? Take the rest of the day off?

Tears are pain leaving the body. When your body can't hold anymore pain inside it lets it out through tears.

Just let it out. Let someone hold you. Can you get a hug from someone? Hugs help.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It was a devastating blow when I had WH leave as well. I came home and everything of his was gone. It hurt so much to feel that. I felt abandoned. Lonely. Used. Hurt.

Understand that you are strong. Telling him to leave was SO BOLD! Such a strong move on your part! You need to keep holding on to your strength. Let the tears out, take some deep breaths, and then try and go for a walk or something. You'll start to feel better if you keep your mind busy. Post here as much as you need to. We are all here for you.


Me: BS 26 Him: WH 27
Married: 5 years, together 7. No kids.
DDays: 6/3/14, 6/24/14, 7/2/14, 7/3/14, 9/5/14
Separated, headed for divorce
Trying to accept this nightmare is real every morning.
Hold on, this will hurt more than anything has before

Posts: 222 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: VA
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 1:58 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((grneyes72)))

We're here with you, sweetie.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17860 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Tigaress
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Default  Posted: 2:00 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome to the club (((grneyes72))) - it was the same for me, weirdly the first couple days after I kicked him out I was doing ok, then everything started going downhill. Or better, the roller coaster started and still hasn't slowed down, after almost two months. People here are telling me that's normal, eventually it will get better. You need to focus on yourself. Surround yourself with support. I'm wishing you a lot of strength!!

PS one little tip for the work-setting: it's impossible to drink / swallow and cry at the same time, so if you have to get through a meeting, make sure you stock up on water bottles ...


Posts: 183 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: New York
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((grneyes)))

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sunny58
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Default  Posted: 2:38 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((grneyes72))
At work, I try to keep as busy as possible. When I feel the tears about to flow, I head to the restroom and try to pull myself together. Take a few deep breaths and keep going. Remember...You are a SURVIVOR!
You only have a few more hours to go.


Divorce Final - 9/25/2014

"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies. It comes from friends and loved ones."


Posts: 92 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
Skan
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hang in there. I vividly remember those days when "I had rather hellish allergy" attacks. And a big bottle of sinus medicine prominently displayed on my desk. (((hugs)))


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4949 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
grneyes72
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks. I am almost 3 months out and it is getting harder.

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hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 7:12 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry for your pain...you must allow yourself to feel the pain...but each time look in the mirror and tell yourself I WILL BE OK....I AM STRONGER THAN I THINK....I WILL SURVIVE THIS!
You are grieving .....it is ok to grieve.....


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 628 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
solus sto
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Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Grneyes))) I'm so sorry. It's such a difficult time, I know. I think you will soon find that, amid the sadness, there is also relief. I hope it brings you some peace.

You'll be in my thoughts.


BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
DIVORCING
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

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