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User Topic: For one shining moment...we were 'That Couple'
nokidding
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Default  Posted: 12:03 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You know, 'That Couple' that have their shit together, talk through all their problems rationally, consult and problem solve together.

I didn't last.

In seriousness, a few of our couple friends are having a hard time right now. kellygirl426 is a new member, and my closest friend. Another FOM, stopped by last night and dumped all kinds of awfulness into our laps (not A related) but M related.

And FWH and I felt like a serious team. Not that we had all the answers, but that were on the same page with our insight. And I realized how much insight FWH now has. It was something he worked very hard on during IC. IC mentioned he was not 'reflective' and unable to learn from past mistakes.

Yesterday was FWH birthday and I make (ok, mostly pre-prepared as I dont' cook) a really romantic dinner party for two. I pulled out the stops. Flowers, good china, crystal, silver. I served a multi-course meal and we shared a bottle of wine. We are child free for the next week.

It was just no normal and nice, and it felt really good.


Fuck Barbie....and her shoes.

Posts: 2599 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: SE PA
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here's to more of THOSE MOMENTS!


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 620 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
isthismynewlife
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That is great!! Here's to many more moments!


Me 42 BS
Him 42 WS
DDay #1 11/28/13 - 7 months EA/a little PA
DDAy #2 8/25/14 - oops - did I forget to mention that it was a 15 month PA/EA? He thought the first version would hurt me less.
Everyday is a struggle.

Posts: 124 | Registered: Apr 2014
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 12:24 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!!! Those moments are the best. Hopefully they bolster you to have more.


Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17838 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
olwen
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Fabulous!


Together 19yrs
me BS 36
him WS 41 (silent lucidity)
ea 1 facebook flirting with an ex 2011
ea/pa - co worker 6wks feb to apr2013 pa for 1 wk with sex one time
too much tt to count = latest tt 30/7/14

Posts: 804 | Registered: Jul 2013
nokidding
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hopefully they bolster you to have more.

Agreed! We have been 'good' for some time now, but I have recently decided to really put forth some effort.

He is an 'acts of kindness' so I have been trying to do more of those types of things.

There are days when I literally have joy in my heart. Like actual joy.


Fuck Barbie....and her shoes.

Posts: 2599 | Registered: Sep 2007 | From: SE PA
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:30 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh good for the two of you! May you have many more moments that grow into days and weeks and months and years!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4926 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LIKE!


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6605 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
Skan
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh good for the two of you! May you have many more moments that grow into days and weeks and months and years!


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012



Posts: 4926 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!!! Thanks for sharing this .


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38013 | Registered: Sep 2007
SparrowSoul
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Default  Posted: 8:13 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good for you two, and thank you for sharing this!

Posts like this are excellent sources of hope for the future to relative newbies like me, but mostly I'm just happy for you that you got to have that moment!


Me: BGF, 29
Him: WBF, 35 (RMarred)
D-Day: 7/5/2014, seared into my memory like a brand.

"Dum spiro, spero." - "While I breathe, I hope."
The cure to all of life's problems is salt water; Sweat, tears, or the Sea.


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