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User Topic: Another new beginning
cmego
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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As many of you know, earning my master's degree was part of my NB. It has been a challenging road, but I've maintained a 4.0 at a prestigious school, all while raising 2 kids on my own, moving, dating, volunteering and creating a full life for myself. I'll be graduating in the spring.

I've just accepted an internship with the State Law Library and will be working in conjunction/ support with the Supreme Court for my state.

4 years ago I was a stay at home mom.

I'll be shouting from the rooftops soon, but I think I'm finally beginning to allow myself to feel all that I've accomplished in 3.5 years. Today has been...peaceful and letting it just wash over me. Maybe, for the first time, I'm looking back and thinking..."wow."

I've been emotional today, not really sure why yet. A combination of many emotions. I feel like my little safe world is about to explode open. I am both terrified and ecstatic.

I'm standing at the abyss and looking over and I'm going to fucking LEAP.

Dating took a serious back burner for the last several weeks. My OLD profile has been down for weeks. I've still accepted a few dates (first date tomorrow with someone new) but just "meh". Part of me is fearful that no guy will really ever be safe. They have all, in one way or another, let me down when it comes to a relationship.

At the same time, there are probably some damn cute Southern men where I'll be.

[This message edited by cmego at 11:31 AM, August 22nd (Friday)]


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4185 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 11:23 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!!

That is quite an accomplishment.

Part of me is fearful that no guy will really ever be safe. They have all, in one way or another, let me down when it comes to a relationship.

I hear ya, sister. I hear ya.


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved to Europe June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1420 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel like my little safe world is about to explode open. I am both terrified and ecstatic.

I'm standing at the abyss and looking over and I'm going to fucking LEAP.

This? Is amazing. And awesome. Congratulations on the internship, cmego. I have no doubt you will rock it.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cmego, you are amazing girl. Congratulations!!!


Walk away from anything or anyone who takes away your joy. Life is too short to put up with fools.

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It might be scary but so many wonderful doors are opening for you! You have reinvented your life. That is a major feat.
You rock!!!


There is life on the other side of hell.

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! Majorly impressive. Go you!


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4196 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 1:00 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! Those accomplishments feel great, don't they?


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1189 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 1:24 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!

I feel like my little safe world is about to explode open.
It's time to come out of the cocoon and spread your wings. Enjoy it!


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!!


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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Charity411
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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Outstanding!

Posts: 387 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Illinois
better4me
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(and many more!)


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
Divorced

Posts: 3209 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That's terrific Cmego!!!!

You rock!

I hope you celebrate in a fun way. Good luck with your new job.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5857 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
Forged1
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Default  Posted: 5:52 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A very awesome new beginning story, cmego.

Well done. Hard won, but well-earned and richly deserved.


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


Posts: 307 | Registered: May 2014 | From: USA
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How cool!!! I'm excited for you.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're paving the way for the rest of us.

I hope to be posting something similar in a couple of years when I finally finish the undergrad, kiss my old job goodbye and get into grad school with the co-op option.

And start collecting pension...


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17493 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats! You are totally kicking it.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7765 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are amazing. I am so glad I get to see it.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5859 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
PurpleRose
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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Rock on cmego!! You got this!


divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3612 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville
gahurts
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations!!! Yes it's scary but it's also exciting. Yay for you!!


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


Posts: 3432 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Red Sox Nation
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Default  Posted: 1:02 AM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations. And be careful about the South. They like SEC football out there.


When someone tells you who she is, listen; when someone shows you who she is, listen carefully.

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