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User Topic: Discernment Counseling?
PrtyInPink
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Default  Posted: 9:53 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Has anyone tried this? H and I started MC yesterday but the counselor told us she is going to start off with discernment counseling first because we are both on the fence about staying together or getting a D. I never knew this type of counseling excited and am pleased that we happened upon a counselor who is educated in this.


Me: 30ish Him: 30ish (99% sure he has NPD)
Together 14 yrs, Married 9 yrs
His #1 EA D-day 10/20/09
His #2 PA/EA d-day 7/11/14
My EA Dday 10/21/09
My brain says leave, my heart says stay

Posts: 247 | Registered: Jul 2014
deena04
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Default  Posted: 11:16 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't heard of it. Sorry no sound advice, but did want to wish you well with it.


Me BS mid-late 30s
Him WS knocking on 40 (lovemywife4ever)
blended family with lots of kiddos
together 5 years, married 8/13
D day 12/1/13
WH ONS had been 4/12
Getting ME back and moving to HAPPY - whatever that means
I want out!

Posts: 1000 | Registered: Dec 2013
megahertz
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Default  Posted: 12:32 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd never heard of it until our MC suggested in our session earlier this week. My understanding is it would be 5-6 sessions to come to a decision on the path forward, whether it be D, separation with IC/MC, just MC or some other treatment plan. Everything then derailed in our session, so the discussion was tabled. I think it gives the MC and H/W time to think over what they want to do and come up with a rational plan, rather than just making a snap decision based on raw emotions.


BH: 52
WW: 47 (four APs)
3 kids: DD14, DS12, DD10
D-days: Oct 2012, May 2013, Oct 2013 and July 2014

Posts: 66 | Registered: Jul 2014
PrtyInPink
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Member # 44148
Default  Posted: 1:57 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, that is how our MC described it. We both go in separately next week and then meet together. She said it would be about 4 meeting together and then we'd be given an opportunity to decide if we want to move forward together or more forward toward D. She said that if we decide to move forward together then she'd turn it into an actual MC session. If we choose to go for a D then she'd help us with counseling so we can effectively parent together. I really liked our first session. I feel like she wanted to focus on specific things instead of go off on a different subject. There were things that H said that she made him stop and explain what he meant. I am more worried about how my H will feel about her. Hopefully we can continue through with this and come to a resolution.


Me: 30ish Him: 30ish (99% sure he has NPD)
Together 14 yrs, Married 9 yrs
His #1 EA D-day 10/20/09
His #2 PA/EA d-day 7/11/14
My EA Dday 10/21/09
My brain says leave, my heart says stay

Posts: 247 | Registered: Jul 2014
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