Life is not measured by the breaths we take
but by the moments that take our breath away.
Wishing you the best of luck.
You are brave, you are amazing.
The changes are major, and even without dealing with A, put you at the top of the list for major life stressors. It's a lot to take in. It's a lot to deal with in everyday life.
I do understand the not forgiving him, but accepting what happened. Forgiving came much later. Don't rush it. Watch for the consistent everyday changes in him. You may not ever fully understand the why, but he needs to be the one to do the work to figure that out. He has made changes, but work has he done on himself? What are the real changes he made to deal with life and situations that led him to the choices he made?
There are many components to R and being successful at it, and even if you get all of them, there is still no guarantee life will stay good. So enjoy each day, and accept it as a gift. Be happy in who you are. The rest will come.
I call these types of date or events Fish-Slaps upside the head.
Right now, both of you have a great deal of stress. You've made some serious, life-changing choices. You have this anti-versary staring you in the face. And you're facing them together. You may not be a tightly bonded couple yet, but your both walking down the same path. That's some serious progress, sistah! It really is!
D-Day, June 10, 2012