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User Topic: The hero is in your mirror
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My god, I read here everyday and it breaks my heart. I can feel the pain in every word. I wish I had huge arms to hug everyone here. I'm not good at giving advice, it doesn't feel right to rush or push someone in pain into making a decision they're not ready for.

I just want to say, you're all amazing, you're all worthy of respect. Being cheated on is like rape of a soul. No one is perfect, remember that, also being perfect is not insurance against being cheated on.

All those who feel pain, have a soul. In the worst of time is when we need to be kind and patient with ourselves. Be fierce in self love, be focused on what is true to you. A cheater has no right to put a price on your worth.

Lawyer up....lean on your friends and family, swear like a sailor, cry and then wipe your tears and get on with fighting for you.

Listen to your gut. Listen to your heart.

Life is delicious, don't let a cheater rob you of the beauty and joy that makes you who you are.


Posts: 74 | Registered: Aug 2013
Amazingyetlost
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((((Karmita)))))

yeah Sister!!!!!!! Wonderful post!!!!


ME: 58 BW
HIM: 57 EA & PA, ten months (madboomer)
Married: December 24th, 2013; Together: 4 years
D/Day: June 3rd 2014 (karma allowed that it happened on OW birthday); NC June 4th 2014
"Once in a while you get shown the light..."

Posts: 160 | Registered: Jun 2014
deadroses
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you.


WH....him

BS....me

two month affair with a supposed friend....more like a filthy whore

R.....it's going well (so far)


Posts: 29 | Registered: Sep 2013
Hoosierbuckeye
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Default  Posted: 9:39 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

THANK YOU!

Posts: 35 | Registered: Aug 2014
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 10:12 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


(((((((Love )))))))

Posts: 74 | Registered: Aug 2013
hopefull77
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Default  Posted: 8:42 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you karmita!!!
you say you aren't good at giving advice? re-read your post!! it is positive and heartfelt!
peace...


me-BS
him-WS
3 adult children 1D 2S
married-1977
LTA 09-2010 - 11-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful
"Let Go of Control; Let God's Life Flow" ...Richard Rohr



Posts: 516 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
cancuncrushed
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

love this..


a trigger yesterday

Posts: 903 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: athome
JLyn1128
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Default  Posted: 9:21 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lovely thoughts, thank you. The book I'm reading now is "Fighting for your Marriage" and it is a fight. A years long battle. Those of us that choose to stay, for whatever reason, are warriors. Those who choose to leave, for whatever reason, fight their own battles, too. We all fight the battle to realize and believe... it's always about them, not us.


Me BSO 61
Him WSO 62
Together 29 years, living together 17. He's been with her off and on for half of that.
OW - Available. Thinks 'love' is in the way he looks at her.
Status - R and hopeful

Posts: 90 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: CA
scaredyKat
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Default  Posted: 1:08 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Karmita, knowing your story and reading this post, I hearby nominate you as FBS of the century!

Your Bitch Boots should be bronzed!


Me-BS-60
HIM-SAFWH-63
Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 3539 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
TS68
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Default  Posted: 1:18 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You rock... Thanks! I needed that.



Married 20 years

Posts: 200 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Midwest
Karmita
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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


The best friend anyone will ever have is yourself.

Does being your own best friend require wearing bitch boots when in crisis? 100% !!!

When Is think about it, why does anyone have to wear bitch boots in order to be respected.

I think bitch boots should be called " everyday boots" , and that everyday, it's your right to be respected.


Posts: 74 | Registered: Aug 2013
sunny58
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Karmita))))
Thank you! I can't express how much better your words have made me feel just now. Bless you.

Posts: 76 | Registered: Jun 2014 | From: United States
ReconcilingWife
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I needed this right now. Thank you.


Me: BS, 41
Him: WS, 47
DD: May 30, 2014 (2 month affair)

Married 13 years
2 children

Trying to reconcile


Posts: 158 | Registered: Aug 2014
isthismynewlife
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you!


Me 42 BS
Him 42 WS
DDay #1 11/28/13 - 7 months EA/a little PA
DDAy #2 8/25/14 - oops - did I forget to mention that it was a 15 month PA? With your friend?
Thought we had a chance. But now it's back to square one. I'm too tired to fight for us

Posts: 106 | Registered: Apr 2014
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