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User Topic: Wisdom teeth surgery tomorrow
Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 4:10 PM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been on the verge of a panic attack all day. I have my wisdom teeth surgery tomorrow at 8AM, and all I can think about is the million things that could go wrong.

I'm terrified of needles. I always have a panic attack for routine blood work. So I'm taking a Valium tonight and in the morning. I've never taken it before though. I know xanax hasn't worked at all in the past, so not sure this will.

I know it's fairly routine, but there are so many potential complications. The two big ones I worry about is permanent nerve damage and sinus injury. I've read some pretty horrible stories about it online.

I'm also really, really worried about the IV sedation. I have seen and read about cases where patients are not given enough sedation, and they are awake and in pain throughout the procedure. That terrifies me.

And although this shouldn't probably be a worry, I'm worried about what I'm going to say coming out of the sedation in front of my mom. I've read that you're pretty loopy and don't have the normal control over what you say, and I'm scared I'm going to blurt out something sad or horrible about my ex. I tend to get sad if I drink a lot, so I'm worried the sedation will have the same effect on me.

I'm also worried that I won't heal properly or something will go wrong, and it will screw up my Paris trip in 5 weeks that I've already paid for.

My chest has literally been hurting all day, and my eyes water up every time I think about it. I'm going to be such a mess tomorrow morning in the waiting room, and then I'm going to embarrass myself when I go back into the procedure room. I try to breathe deeply and reassure myself, but I just have very little control over the fear.


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everything is going to go fine! Stop reading online

As for after sedation...I did cry a lot coming out of it (only local anesthesia too), but she is your mom, why would you feel embarrassed if you let out some of your feelings in front of her? She will understand.

(((LG)))

Keep breathing and bringing yourself back to the present and away from your fears as much as you can.

Then it'll be straight on to Paris!


Sit. Feast on your life.

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Default  Posted: 4:40 PM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate dental stuff. Two days ago, I had the preliminary work done for a crown (gotta protect those remaining molars). It went fine. A full 45 minutes of drilling... not much fun, but they do it all the time.

I've had the wisdom teeth extraction. If you do it before they're impacted, it's not a huge deal. One of mine was becoming impacted, and that one even came out easily.

Afterwards, take their advice seriously. If you take it easy for the next 48 hours, a socket won't develop (drying of the hole where the tooth came from, which can be painful, but is easily treated). Even then, the chances of anything getting in the way of your trip are almost zero.

Ask about what signal you should give during the surgery if you feel the pain. The dentist should reassure you that he will respond immediately and will make necessary changes. In reality, you will not only not remember the surgery, but, if for some reason you aren't fully numbed when he starts, you'll be able to tell him without the trauma of remembering the pain. You certainly won't remember the numbing process.

Yes, you're a bit loopy coming out. But in most cases, that makes you very quiet. People who blurt stuff out generally want to blurt it out anyway. Just like drink doesn't make you do things you wouldn't ordinarily do, it just makes you less likely to talk yourself out of restraining yourself. To you, it will feel like you've woken up when the IV wears off, though you will be conscious the entire time.

While taking Valium is usually OK (I assume you've checked this with the dentist already), do not have any alcohol. That could cause harm.


When someone tells you who she is, listen; when someone shows you who she is, listen carefully.

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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

On my way home from work, the surgeon called me just to check how I was doing and see if I had any questions. I thought he was a little rude in my consultation, so that was a nice touch tonight. We discussed my x-rays, and he said I'm not at an increased risk for any of the complications. I told him I was feeling nervous, and stressed again that I want to be completely unaware. He said he would make sure I was unaware during the procedure.

If you do it before they're impacted, it's not a huge deal. One of mine was becoming impacted, and that one even came out easily.

One is completely in, one is impacted, and two are decayed and partially in. Oddly, the only one he said didn't need removed was the impacted one. I think I'm going to get them all out though so that I never have to do this again.

While taking Valium is usually OK (I assume you've checked this with the dentist already), do not have any alcohol. That could cause harm.

He prescribed the Valium for me when I told him about my fear of needles. I do not plan on drinking for the next week because I've heard it can affect healing and clotting.

but she is your mom, why would you feel embarrassed if you let out some of your feelings in front of her? She will understand.

I don't have a great relationship with my mom. FOO issues. She's critical of me most of the time. She doesn't know anything that happened with my ex, other than we broke up because he cheated. I asked her to come up for the surgery though because I have a hard time asking for help from friends. I don't like to have to depend on people, very independent.


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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Forged1
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Default  Posted: 5:12 PM, August 20th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You. Will. Be. Fine.

Much mojo moving your way, LG.


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


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InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 12:30 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((LG)))))

I am like this bef surgery too.
I read a lot of uplifting meditation, philosophy type books while I'm waiting and it really helps.

Soon it will be all over for those teeth.


BS, age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years and 20 together. Now I am living alone in the beautiful rural property that was once the dream retreat with X. It's taking a long time to create new dreams but despite some struggles I am mostly happy.

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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 5:49 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugggghhh... So nervous my chest hurts and my fingers are partway numb. I bit my moms head off last night when she said she may not be able to get my meds after because she can't parallel park in front of pharmacy. An hour to go. Ready for it to be over.


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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MelisssaZZZ
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Default  Posted: 6:06 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

good luck!!


Me BS - 37
WH 39
1 child - 5yrs
married 5 yrs, together 7
DD1 midmarch 09
DD2 early june 09
some more DD's of course - cannot bother to list
LTA (2 yrs) fully?? finished mid Aug 09
Status: Divorced Oct 2011

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JellyGirl84
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Default  Posted: 6:39 AM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You're gonna be just fine LG! I also have a terrible fear of needles and have panic attacks just as you describe. I know exactly, to a T, just what you're probably feeling right now. But listen, it'll be over before you know it.

I had to have a root canal and a wisdom tooth removal at the same exact time. I only had local anesthesia so I was able to nod and move around but my surgeon made absolutely certain I was numb before starting. I was in so much pain with my tooth that I actually welcomed the numbing shot, if you can believe that. It's really just a pinch and some pressure.


Me: BS 30
WH: 30
No kids
Divorced in June 2014
Together 10 yrs, Married for 3 of those yrs
OP: Ho worker
Divorced June 2014

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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought to myself the other day when I came home from the dentist and my tongue and one side was numb... if I went on the forums and typed any responses, would I type in a lisp, too?


When someone tells you who she is, listen; when someone shows you who she is, listen carefully.

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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 7:22 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I survived!

It was not nearly as bad as I was expecting. I went in, and had a panic attack. The Valium did not even touch my fear. The surgeon did the IV himself, and then he put something in it to relax me. He said that my blood pressure was too high. We waited around 15 minutes, and he talked to me the whole time. I got paranoid about the IV in my hand, and I told him that I did not want phenergan because I've had cases where IV phenergan caused amputations. He assured me he wouldn't. Then he put something else in, and I was in the middle of asking what it was. Next thing I remember, he's telling me that there were no complications. I have zero memory of the procedure.

Afterward, I was completely lucid. I gave my mom directions to the pharmacy, and I've been awake all day. I took a pain pill for the first time ever, and it hasn't made me loopy at all. I'm in pain, but it's nothing bad. The surgeon called me twice today to check on me. During the call he said that he usually explains what to do, but that "the list that your mom showed me covered everything." I gave my mom a 2 page list of instructions and things to ask him.

I apologized to my mom about an hour ago for yelling at her yesterday, and told her that I really appreciate her driving here for it.

My phone has been going off like crazy all day, and I feel lucky to have so many friends that care about me.

I'm really proud of myself. This is something I had been putting off for 10 years. I feel like I'm really starting to be more independent, and I really like this version of myself.

My Rick Steves' 2014 Paris book came in the mail today, so I'll read that during the next 3 days I have off work. Five weeks until Paris!


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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Forged1
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, August 21st (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Result!!


Me: BH - 30s
Her: WW - 30s

Married - 2008
PA with boss for at least 5 months in 2013, possibly longer.
DDay - Feb 2014
Separated, heading to D
==================================
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


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little turtle
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Default  Posted: 10:19 AM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay!!!! I figured everything was going to be okay, but I'm glad to hear for sure that it went well!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

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gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 12:17 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awesome! So proud of you!

Paris, get ready! lonelygirl is gonna take you by storm!


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage. ~ Anais Nin


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yay! I'm so happy it went well.

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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so restless from being in the house for two days! But I'm excited because I have a second date with an interesting guy tomorrow night. Dinner and bowling Hopefully I continue to heal overnight. Not nearly as much pain as I was expecting.


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Relationship ended: January 2014

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ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, August 22nd (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just don't get dry socket and then have your wife talk you into getting a dog because you're suggestible and on pain meds and then she goes and has an affair and ignores the dog... oh wait that was me. :)

Congrats!


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

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Default  Posted: 6:39 AM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just don't get dry socket and then have your wife talk you into getting a dog because you're suggestible and on pain meds and then she goes and has an affair and ignores the dog...
geez probable! That's horrible!


D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010

Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.


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Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 10:08 AM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had a really great second date last night. I don't even want to post about it because I don't want to jinx it. But I think I overdid it, and now I'm in a lot of pain


30 Bgf
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Relationship ended: January 2014

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((Lonelygirl)))) Take it easy today. Keep on top of the pain meds, and drink plenty of fluids (NO STRAWS!)


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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